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AlphaCentauri:
oh shyttttt DC ? yeah that would be a good spot cuz its really metropolitan and has huge populations of foreigners. do you ever run into the hebrew israelite group called ISUPK blasting their messages from speakers on the streets ?

Not at all. Never, I suppose.

Shym3xx:
Until you edit that shyte.

Every time I see you NL. I'll pee on ya dead father's grave.

That's enough shym.

AlphaCentauri:
truth be told it really depends on what state and what city you at. what state and city are you ?

I'm at the capital, DC

AlphaCentauri:
Good. it would get real ugly very soon though.

Pray not. Cause my fear is that if anything goes wrong. Other nations will follow. 2. I'll be stuck. 3. Like where can I run to? Black people are minority 4. Blacks don't unite. if anything goes wrong, history tells me it'll be akata against akata against Nigerian against Ghanaian against mulatos against akata....... Just blacks Against other blacks. 5. That will be like me running from whites + blacks.

AlphaCentauri:
hahahah yeah that will really be a trip. yeah so the USA is on fire now. racial unrest and riots and demonstrations everywhere. i hope its not reaching your side sha

Not for now.

Shym3xx:
Sukkot

You're a biitch arse nyggah that talks reckless but can't take it. You're a dummy when it comes to trolling and you can't troll me. If you're a troll, you shouldn't be running when they hit you back, dumb muthaphucka.

Your problem is that: you just don't know how to talk and you can't take what you say stupidly.

Makes me wonder if y'all are working class niggas or high school students

AlphaCentauri:
lol he is a goat. look how he acts irrationally all the time. dude is emotionally unhinged hence why he is the perfect person to troll on nairaland. you cant troll most nigerians who live in nigeria because they are all somewhat emotionally balanced but shymmexx is the perfect trolling victim. this why i holla at him all the time. nigga has emotional outbursts like a 3 year old lolzzzzz. kills my boredom all the time.

Lol. I hope you don't end up third, fourth or 5th cousins. That's be a 'win' situation.

AlphaCentauri:
yeah i hear ya but i dont get down like dat. you think cuz i chat to the nigga shymexx all the time that i am gay ? nahhh he the only nigga i know who can take a beating and keeps on ticking. he like a timex watch. very resilient. you whoop on him but he still keeps coming back for more. i use the nigga to kill my boredom and to catch fun on NL. cuz this is the only social / virtual media i use. i have no facebook or twitter or whatsapp or whatever it is people have. it strictly nairaland so if i aint here then i am working and if i aint workin i am here and sometimes i multitask and do both together

I'm sorry, but you just stylishly described him as a goat.

Shym3xx:
He's Gay, with "G" in uppercase.

I clocked his Afrika Bambaataa arse time ago, hence I always clown him.

I don't think he is. He's clear.

AlphaCentauri:
yeah am gay if gay means happy lol. oh you mean am i a gay ? nah. its against the LORDS laws and its disgusting

Hmmmm.... I mean homosexual. It's ok if you were. Like I'm cool with them. Im a lady and I once lived with lesbians. It was fun. I got to see a different perspective. I got hit on once, but I quickly told her I couldnt imagine a pussyy rubbing against me, or vise versa. Besides, i wasn't experienced in anyway. That was 2 years ago tho.

AlphaCentauri:
lol yeah how are ya ? whats good ?

Sukkot, wait! You gay for real!!!

Shym3xx:
The butt pirate has always been homoerotic. He's the only guy on this forum that has guys following him everywhere. Effing Afrika Bambaataa arse nyggah.

Im in tears...

Hahahahhahahahah

AlphaCentauri:
all man dem know my style bruv. am waiting on the mods to release me from that spambot which ate me up when i was in the middle of decapitating your reprobate ass. this my ID i use to get niggas to make me programmes in the software section for my work so I aint gone troll you on it. wait till mods release me and i will get back to slapping you the way a love-vendor like me do with my strong love-vendor hand

Ok.. This has 'gay' written all over it. Just saying

Shym3xx:
Phuck out of here.

https://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/omgwtf.gif


https://i.imgur.com/TtqauKn.gif

Hahahah. Don't you wanna Marry me anymore? You could be the top man. You know?? It's gonna workout jus fine.

Shym3xx:
Phuck out of here.

https://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/omgwtf.gif


https://i.imgur.com/TtqauKn.gif

Rotflmao.
Hahahahhahahahah

Shym3xx:
I'm lost. There's no hint there.

Victor is a guy's name. Or are you a transexual?

Yea...

Shym3xx:
You never know. What's wrong?

My name was victor...that's a hint

Shym3xx:
So, what are you interested in?

Bring me in.

You can't handle it.

Shym3xx:
vicchi12

Let's get it rolling with this


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WyX1hXTDv1Q

Hmm...nice song though. Not feeling it

Shym3xx:
Lol. I rinsed gucci when I was a teenager. I'm on versace, Ferragamo, and Hermes now.

So, I can afford you and more.

Just name ya price.

I'm not interested at the moment

Shym3xx:
Darn!! Can I pay ya bride price tonight?

I'm ready to go, hun.

Hmmmmm, no.. I'm Gucci. You can't afford it. No insult intended

Shym3xx:
Dying in love for me?

I like that.

Giving yourself too much credit, aren't you?

Shym3xx:
Lol. So you're a great cook? Now, that's why I'm about to put a big rock on it.

There's nothing better than a woman with great culinary skills. Good food cureth all things.

Yea daddy. Check out more dishes

I'm dying...

Shym3xx:
Looool.

Ignore that: this psycho and mentally unbalanced yokel was just taking the piss. He thinks everything is a joke and he likes to dish out idiocy but can't take it. I was just hitting him where it hurts the most.

I'm here for you, hun.

Blow me a kiss.

Shym3xx:
Lol, how much is ya bride price, my iyawo?

I guess I gotta hustle harder then. Anything for you.

Now, that's the best food on the planet and you know my favourite food. You're a good wife.

Good job daddy! I cooked it tho

Shym3xx:
Sukkot

If you're a man, come see me and defend ya biitch arse dead father. Be the man he never was, puzzy.

https://i.imgur.com/XXNOLV3.jpg

Like... Really?!!!
I fuckn cooked for ya and you here shitt ? No?

Shym3xx:
I'm good, Iyawo. Just hustling for ya bride price. Tryna buy you Mississippi bridge. What do you think?

Daddy's home - what are you cooking for me tonight? Lol

Hmmm...
Well, ókó my bride price is way pricier than that. I'm sure daddy won't mind some nice efo riro and pounded yam.

Hi ókó I'm here. Sup?

Shym3xx:
Easier said than done. This sounds like a pipe lol.

Did you see you all the killings that happened in America last week? The videos went viral out here and there is no way you can watch those videos and not feel irate as a black person, after seeing white men execute black men in cold blood lol. Shyte is crazy, yo.

Anyway, where my troublesome Iyawo, vicchi12, at? lol. I miss my baby lool.

I am super excited that you told your Pa, sir. Secondly, your wife is damn lucky. Maybe you are her angel. Third, you are a good man, and I'm happy you didn't let the devil have his way. Perhaps, you're smarter than some of us. I don't know. I was one of the people that screamed divorce, reason being that experience has taught me to run, forgiveness has left me burned! Still everyone's journey in life is different, so I definitely respect your wisdom and your decision. My mum taught me to forgive, but never forget. That is, never put your guards down. I still will never know what made your wife do what she did. Like at a calmer day or time, try to have her tell you her rationality. I'm a curious type, I studied psychology, so I'm always interested in understanding people. Please ask your wife how was she able to justify the whole brouhaha, what started it. Perhaps, you've wronged her unknowingly in the past. Please try to find these things out. Doesn't mean you don't forgive, at least just know it, and that way, history won't repeat itself. Another thing, please forgive what I'm about to say. However, I believe you should do a DNA test on your baby girl. Just to clarify things. Even if God forbid, you're not the biological father, I still consider you her father and she,your daughter. That should never stop you from loving the baby girl . Lastly, pray with your wife. Read the word of God together. Unlike how many Nigerians think, I'm not advising you to be following doctrines that are borne out of fanatism, but that of which is the love of God. I'm a Christian, but I pray in my own way. I don't go to church every Sunday because I believe I'm in a relationship with God. And it is my heart and its contents that matters to my maker. The bible says that by their fruit you shall know them. You sir, have proven that you are of God. You've have proven that your relationship with God is on a very different level, and I so much respect that. And, I'm sure God is pleased with you. Due to your actions. I believe God will continue to watch your back. The word of God says the woman should respect her husband, and the man should love his wife. You have truly done your part and I pray your wife realizes this. I pray that the Lord will open her eyes.

I believe men are nurturers and a woman is meant to be nurtured. You build a woman with love, out of love, for love. . Yup! That's my take. God himself is love, he represents love. I believe a man or a woman is not fully capable of loving the other, and each rely on their internal strength and that of God to be able to fully reach the capacity of loving one another. Therefore, there needs to be a strong relationship with God. May God help y'all. Overall, I'm excited everything is cool. I pray God continues to grant your wife wisdom and knowledge. And may his love for her never seize. Cause I believe that out of love for her, God used you her husband to expose the plot and works of the devil concerning her life. Yup! 'What God has put together, let no man put asunder ', so says the word of God. The devil manifests himself in so many ways. He was about to use what your wife loves most(her family) as a door way into your home, and indirectly into her life, your life, and the innocent baby girl. Let us be wiser and smarter.

People! With all that I've stated thus far, I still have ZERO tolerance for any form of ABUSE. Sometimes, God will try to remove us from situations. Everyone's case is different, so people, no not apply this case to yours! If you feel your life is in danger, please leave such an environment! I'm done...

DevGuru




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UPDATE!!!

I must confess that Nairaland is a wonderful online community. In these trying times of mine, the only thing that has kept my head intact is the company I have here reading all comments. I would have revealed much more information about us especially for the sake of those who have expressed their doubts about the veracity of my story, but I can't, because I wouldn't want to provide some pointers for anyone on this forum who might know any of my wife's relatives or mine. Although I got several diverse opinions, all comments still depicted the kindness in the the hearts of the commenters. Even those who called me stupid for not being too hard on my wife did so because they feared I could lose my life - a high level of kindness which I appreciate a lot. Even the opinions I did not follow on this thread still served a purpose of enlarging the pool of options from which I was able to make a choice. I expect much more expressions of disappointment towards my folly (if deciding not to go for a divorce for the sake of my child, the unborn and the fact that my faith forbids me from marrying another woman if I choose not to live with her anymore).

On the morning following my last update, my wife's depression continued but I tried to act like a loving husband towards her. I could read in her face that the more I tried to be kind towards her, the greater the emotional torment she passed through because she found it hard to believe that I could forgive her. Maybe she even thought I was planning a brutal revenge, but this time, not against her alone but against her sisters. She could not imagine the extent of my actions if I was to execute her thoughts. In the evening, as we were having dinner, she started talking softly to me while looking at the food on the table. I had to tell her to speak louder because it was like she was talking to the food. Then she voiced out as tears rolled down her cheeks saying "I've informed all my siblings about our conversations that got leaked to you and they are not talking to me again". I asked her why they were not talking to her and she said they all must have been confused and I understood that to be because they did not know what my next move would be. Married adults of ages between 35 - 45 were running helter-skelter because they had just ruined their sister's marriage. Their ONLY hope was in my forgiveness. The Lord had suddenly delivered my 'enemies' into my hands and if I chose to wield my sword, they might have to relocate away from their home town because the extended family would know the shameful story that threw their last born out of marriage. I told my wife that seeing her crying for the misery of her sisters was annoying to me as it meant she was further betraying our home. Then I picked her phone on the dinning table to check whether the records were still there... lo and behold... everything was gone. Even the app itself had been uninstalled. I smiled and asked her why she cleared the calls and the app, she replied (crying further) "I just can't listen to the evil voices of myself and my sisters". I smiled again and asked "What about the app? You don't want me to ever hear anything again? She replied "No, I just wished to clear everything that could bring bring back the memory". Then I opened my laptop and navigated to a folder where I had copied all the conversations. I played one and she was shocked to hear it even louder than it was on the the phone. Her fears had just been confirmed... "Why was he pretending that he had forgiven me..." - just my own thought anyways. But truly, I had forgiven her, I was just trying to follow some wise counsel from Nairaland. She couldn't wait till the end, she left me with the food and walked to the bedroom. I slept on the living room couch that night.

The following morning, I continued to read comments on this thread and remembered I was sitting on a time bomb by keeping the whole thing to myself. I went to have my bath and told her I was going out. She was surprised because it was a public holiday. I was already on the road when I called my father that I needed to see him urgently. Luckily for me, he was at home, so I went straight to him and explained all that had happened to him while I played some 'music'. He praised me for taking the matter to him first because he knows we are all closer to mum and revealing such an issue to mum would mean an end - or at most, the beginning of the end. My dad respects my wife's parents a lot and would not like me to take them to their knees on this issue. He spoke with me at length. He said my wife was a good lady but the reason she was so vulnerable was because of her position in the family and that the sisters weren't so lucky this time. He advised me to get closer to my wife so that a natural distance could evolve between her and her sisters. He then begged me never tell my wife that I had revealed the matter to any of my family members because that would be a strong way for me to prove my love to her which she would ever live to appreciate. After all talks, he asked me to call one of my wife's sisters' husbands right in his presence because he knew they (the husbands) must have been told a 'padded' story. I first used the FCMB Mobile App on my phone to load N3,000 before making the call. At the start, he was cold with me on the phone as if a rival was trying to ask for his girlfriend's best food. Later, he admitted that he was aware of all that happened and started all those Yoruba elders' talk... how he had never raised his hand to beat his wife, how he would always walk out, how he and his wife prayed together... bla bla bla. Then I told him I was going to terminate the call and forward some files to him on Whatsapp. I simply picked two of his own wife's conversation with my wife and forwarded to him, expecting him to call back. After about 30 minutes, my Dad told me to call back. I called twice before he answered. He became cold again and couldn't say anything but that his wife would call me soon. After about 1 hour and nothing happened, I had to leave, but my dad told me to carry him along. When I got home, I walked to the bedroom and met my wife on the phone but I did not know who she was speaking with. I returned to the living room and continued reading from my myriad of advisers on this thread.

Then the call came in. It was my wife's sister's voice (not the eldest one)... begging me to forgive and try to forget. She sounded like she was outdoors under the influence of some heavy downpour. I can't express the feeling at that moment but the only thing that I remembered was Proverbs 16:7. (apologies to the wonderful Muslims on this thread...). Even though she didn't believe me, I forgave her. Then the husband collected the phone from her and spoke with me at length... apologising on behalf of the entire family. The major point he kept re-iterating was that I should not let my people know...

All the while, several other simultaneous calls were on. My wife's family members were calling one another while some also called my wife to know the extent of what I got hold of. Interestingly, the first born (who advised my wife to keep a separate account) had also been hinted and had run to their parents to open up to them. She could imagine the level of shame that was coming to her - A PhD holder who is the family's Senior Adviser on every issue. Her parents called her husband to join them immediately as he was their only front soldier who could speak to me. Suddenly, the first born's husband's call came in. He pleaded that he would not like us to revisit the ugly situation but that I was the only one that could save the entire family from the mess by forgiving everyone. He stated that he had been told everything that was done to me and he would like me to honour him and reverse my war order - this was when I confirmed that they had been speaking to my wife. He showered prayers on me while I remained aggressive in my AMEN responses (as if to let them know I was neutralising their spells on me). He promised to call my wife and warn her never to discuss her family issues again with any of her sisters. He also begged me severally never to reveal it to my people as it would mean a reversal to the beginning. Although he didn't give me the impression that my wife's parents were with him - my wife told me this later...

At night, my wife came to kneel down by my side to make her own pleading. I was very glad because the whole ambience was like the clear sky devoid of any cloudy covering after a thunderous rain. I spoke softly to her and began to re-iterate my ideals to her - it was a good preaching time for me. Now everyone (including my wife) is praying that I do not decide to spill the whole thing out one day. My wife's eldest sister later called me that night to directly tender her own apology - at a time she had confirmed I wasn't going to be hostile anymore.

For me, I believe there's so much left for me to do on my wife. For anyone who has followed the recent events of my life which could have ended in a tragedy but for God's intervention and would love to give me some helpful ideas as I move forward, kindly drop your comments. I'll be very glad to read them.

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pharmagba:
The way you are mentioning divorce I doubt if you are married or a lady.
In this marriage, mind you we are listening to only one partner hence it is very wise to advice him on the path of reconcilation.
Don't be surprised if you hear from the lady, you'll think the husband is very bad.
As I said earlier this is just a sister to sister talk that gone awry and hence developed bad blood in the relationship. This happens to someone you share your innersmost secret and is giving a bad advice.
This is a minor issue that can be sorted out between the two.
Finally for you to come here and make your comment that one should divorce, it indicates you aare very myopic in accessment of thing
Poor relationship management and poor knowledge of marriage

The way you think amazes me. It's like to you, marriage is a do die issue. Like does marriage lead to heaven in your case? We're your parents divorced, and as a result, you ended up being traumatized? Yes God doesn't encourage divorce, but In my bible, God outrighly approves of it when the need be. You're the one with the myopic mentality here. Marriage is not a one sided thing, it takes two people to work it out. I can't imagine having someone like you as a relative If God forbid, we were relatives. You advised the OP I. Your last post to keep getting her pregnant. What sort of a mentality is that? Keep producing babies in an unhappy environment? Are you that selfish with life? My God! That advice is a primitve one! It says a lot about your person. You're the type that could kill a partner if they decided to leave the relationship. You seem to be so domineering, forceful, and quite manipulative.

sukkot:
lol yeah they always get you with that insurance. i got ideas to get to naija and get one of those volkswagen buses and then tear out all the seats and then refurbish it and make it look real sweet

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/1/16/Volkswagen_Kombi.jpg

https://s3.amazonaws.com/everystockphoto/fspid31/64/38/01/2/volkswagen-kombi-type2-6438012-o.jpg

You and your ideas.. Phew!

sukkot:
yeah although i gotta tell ya, most of the older cars were built to last. the cars they make today ? they are weak. you want to get an old car and then refurbish it. that baby will last forever. the metals are stronger. these days they use cheap alloys. made in china cars lolzzz. made to breakdown

Uhmm... Not sure about how I feel about that, considering that fact that my insurance may not cover the car since its been customized and stuff...