Chiminemine:
Hello guys. I just received one of the biggest insults of my life today in church.

So I went to church today and along the line, I decided to scroll through NAIRALAND a little bit because the sermon was a little boring. So as I was pressing my phone in peace ohhh, one usher just came to where I sat and taped me. as I looked at her, she stretched her hand out signaling she wanted to sieze my phone. At first I was confused because where I was a lot of people where operating their phones but she didn't approach them. I didn't want to insult her or create a scene so I just lied that I was sending someone an important text. Then she said I should be quick and put out the phone, That if I were in a lecture hall would I use my phone in the presence of the lecturer? So I obliged. I experience similar scenarios a lot in my life and it makes me sad sometimes. Sometimes, teenage boys would be interacting with me as if I am in their age grade. My peers wouldn't want to be around me because they would feel I am just a kid. I can't get a girlfriend because girls look at me like their younger brothers. this has turned me into a full time introvert . I am really hurt. Even my own father uses my statur to insult me at times . It's only by my thick voice that people can tell that I am grown up and thats not enough.

Guys please help me, I need advice. I am 20 years old and 5 foot 8 inches tall.

You are just 20 jeez. I thought you would say 28. I have a friend like you, exactly as you described but he is an alpha male. Go on YouTube and Quora and read up about self esteem or how to become (I don’t know, tough). Calm down jo. My brother is quite young but 50 year old people in the church would not speak him to him anyhow or even have the guts to move close to him. They can’t even ask him anything because they somehow fear him. A 22 year old guy. It’s how you carry yourself. My brother is literally an Alpha male. Go on YouTube and listen to Alpha males videos and you could also read books like the 48 laws of power. I’m 25 and a 23 year old man has made me feel intimidated and I have never seen him before. It’s how you carry yourself. I’m an introvert as well but I tell you that people hate to talk to me in real life. I don’t like disrespect. My face already is not smiling. If you cross the line, I don’t care how old you are. I’ll reduce you to nothing there.
If the usher had come to me like that, I would ask “Am I the only one using my phone” and if she says yes, or you can talk to me like that in the church, i would tell her to tell everyone to drop theirs or is that her power limited to people she can intimidate?
I can be that rude as well. Do what I said, it will work

illicit:



Mogbe.... !


After firing me, he will lock me up, he is a politician lol

Look for a way to discipline the kids without physical and emotional abuse

illicit:


Sometimes he may want me to flog them now....


Can I refuse?

Use cane to flog him

illicit:
As a teacher I don't support corporal punishment but sometimes it is handy as we are Nigerians and we know who we are....


I resort to cane as the very last option but I still wont flog bare skin....

You have to be diplomatic when it comes to girls especially the ones in senior classes.
They can knowingly infuriate u.

The boys are mostly predictable.


I don't support child labour as well, making students to cut the grass and sweep floors.... But it's the norm here

If I told my proprietor, I will probably get sacked

You don’t need to tell your proprietor anything. Just don’t flog your own students. Simple. What has flogging done to Nigeria education

cchub:
1.I know some people are happy seeing this.
2.Fucck y'all

Damn niggar.
Black and He's also a nigerian.
White men who were involved in multi million dollar ponzi scheme were given less jail term.
some were even sentenced to house arrest.

But shaa, my gee did the crime, he'll definitely do the time.

And when he comes out, the remaining millions stashed would give him a new life and the people he didn't Snitch on, also owe him.

mompha got a tip, he quickly ran to nigeria. He knows he'll be protected here. however, unlucky was the fate of invictus.

See you in ten years niggar.

If your source of income is not legal, how dare you stand as a motivation to people with legal jobs? He should have remained a theif in private and rejected the Forbes achievement. Because “white Men” commit the same crime and are giving less sentences, it justifies Obi’s? Nah. These white Men probably steal from their country men. Do you know what it is for a foreigner to scam your country’s citizens? It hits differently. Obi actually deserves a longer sentence. Until you have been scammed of your last hope, you won’t know how the thee side feels. Imagine your mother comes home when you were younger and says she has been scammed of you and your sibling’s tuition fee or health insurance, how would you feel?
It’s so easy for you fraudsters to bring the crap about white Men colonizing us or scamming people too to justify your criminality.



The day you get a legal job and you are not accepted because of your country, then you will understand legitimate work cries.
The day you go to sites like upwork to sell a service and no one contacts you because you are Nigerian, then you will understand.
The day your white friends with covert racism, mention the Nigerian prince, then you will understand
Big Bang theory
How I met your mother
Suits
Blackish
Family matters
And many others have made mockery of Nigerians in their tv shows with the Nigerian prince hashtag.
If you get to be in the other side of legitimate income earners, you will understand what I’m talking about. Nothing last forever

Emyzoloye5:
Can you snap their plate number and send to my Email , with your location too

We will take care of it

What are you? Just asking

ojiamu:
E pain u? Idiot, u called ur father paedophile

We shall see. You confidently boasted on nairaland that you sleep with kids and you are a potential rapist or you are, so yeah. We shall see.

ojiamu:
If I meet u there I will widen that ur puna that alway crys once fingered the more.

This your comment and Moniker will never be forgotten. I hope you are a soldier. Nigeria is too small

ojiamu:
Leave what other people are saying, say ur own

Paedophile

philip0906:

That is NOT "Patriarchy". That is just an ediot talking. He is obviously mentally unstable if you read through his follow up comments.

Oh I did, believe me. He said there are some places women can enter. I’m Yoruba. We do not see women as less. I have a female king in my village. So yeah, that screams of patriarchy. Not only is he arrogant for noting, he is “ I don’t even know the adjective to describe him”.

Humanoid01:


You play a lot of chess, but it doesn't seem to tell on you. You're just a sentimental person trying so hard to seem woke. Jog on, bitter soul.

You are actually looking forward to my mentions. Low self esteem boy. Last reply you will ever get. Let me show you real games not waiting for Manchester to beat Spain so you can win 10000.


Modified; not worth it

Humanoid01:

Isn't it written all over her comments that she can falsely accuse someone of the act without a clear evidence? She even calls me a rapist and a paedophile because I called her out for castigating him without rendering an advice. Her attitude pretty much sums up the traits of an average African lady.

lol, you had to quote someone mentioning me to prove a point. How low can you get? You are probably going to be buried on this thread waiting for all mentions to me. Pathetic loser.

Springboot:


Yes the guy needs serious help but I don't understand the problem you with Nigerian girls and using the word rape for just anythjng, that's why there are so many false rape accusation everywhere, do you even know the meaning of rape?

Did you see where he grabbed her ass? I used to be a child so I know what I’m talking about. That would have been really uncomfortable for that girl. Trust me. The pidgin says, na like this e dey start

Humanoid01:

Chess is a game that stimulates its players mentally. I don't know how my previous comment suggested a downplay. It seems you only play the game just to "feel among" and not for its core purpose 'cause I don't see its effects in you from the way you type.

You keep calling me a rape apologist, now a paedophile. It's interesting because you don't even know me. You misunderstand my comments because you choose to believe what you believe without reasoning things out. People should not be around you because you have the potentials to stir up trouble where there shouldn't be. You have a black heart, it reeks all over your comments.

Summarize next time. Can’t tead this crap

Humanoid01:

You play a lot of chess, but it doesn't seem to tell on you. You're just a sentimental person trying so hard to seem woke. Jog on, bitter soul.

Finally, not an epistle. You have been mentioning woke since your initial mention . I was right. You do have self esteem problem. Eyah

And don’t downplay chess. It’s strategy and analysis and tactics and fast thinking. You clearly don’t have any if you could not deduce my jusfication of the call out. Well you are a paedophiles , so I understand. Little children should run from you when they see you

Humanoid01:

So you took your time to go through my profile just to think of what to say to me? LMAO. You read all my comments, checked the sections in which I'm most active, etc. Typical of a troublesome person. You just gave me a good laugh lol.

I don't have to highlight every detail to show that I condemn his actions. My point is that he regrets them and wishes to change, he's not proud of it. I have done bad things, not necessarily of the same nature with is, but the essence is that I'm not perfect. Anyone could be guilty of this, including those close to you. It's okay to feel disgusted about it, but it's a little too far to make them feel worse when they're willing to turn from their ways.

No one is justifying anything with demons. I used that as a word play but you're too sentimental and unreasonable to see that. You even had the nerve to call yourself an adult. It even makes it more shameful, seeing the kind of comments you've been making here.

Keep acting like a saint who thinks she can criticize anyone for being imperfect and unable to overcome temptations. At the end of the day, you may end up on the wrong lane compared to those you talk down on.

You had to view my profile, and yet you couldn't come up with an accurate description about me. I didn't have to look at yours, other than your gender and taking a guess at your age range, yet I could tell that you're a terrible person. Remove the log from your eyes before you put your hands in someone else's. Hypocrite!

I didn’t bother reading because I know it will be full of crap. Don’t flatter yourself.. you are not important in your society, definitely not nairaland. Nairaland displays everyone’s most visited section. You can see it on anyone’s profile. Asshole. It probably took a lot to come up with this essay/crap. Asshole

Humanoid01:

One can tell from your comments that you're filled with bile. It's not difficult to see. Who knows if you've even done worse things than the OP? and of course, I said that without taking away the fact that you're a lady.

This forum is not meant for people like you with immature minds. You think that the best way to talk to someone who's going through struggles and has done bad things as a result, is to hurl insults at them just to make them feel that they're the worst humans.

The OP's post clearly depicts regrets and a desperate need for deliverance from his demons, but you thought it wise to drag him further to his demons by demeaning him. I pity your friends and other people close to you. They may not tell you but your toxicity can be perceived from afar. No matter how you try so hard to be disgusted by his acts, you're no different from him.

And the dummy thinks I'm the OP simply because I exposed her hypocrisy. You better work on yourself. Why would I regret quoting you when you're clearly the one with a bigger problem here?

Young boy with low self esteem, I’ll say this again. You didn’t read where he said he grabbed her ass. Talking to you seems like I’m trying to use a basket to hold water. You are void of logical reasoning. From your write up, you definelty are not analytical. When the temptation to hug her and grab a child’s ass came, he could have gone down the street or take a walk or do anything. He crossed the line by touching a little girl’s ass. I’m an adult and I felt some type of way reading that. What stupid demon? People like you are the ones who keep praying to God for miracles without putting in any work. You sound like a rapist. Maybe you are. I see no reason why you chose to ignore the part he grabbed her ass. And now you justify it with a demon. I don’t blame you. One of your most visited section is sport which could mean two things. You are a gambler which makes your life pathetic already or you are addicted to sport which do not make your life less pathetic. I mean I have been playing chess for a long time. You won’t see games in my most visited. Another thing, you are still in school.
Guy your life seems pathetic. Too bad you added rape apologist to it. Omo ale



At the end of the day, you offered no advice to the op. Jumping from mention to mentions saying crap. You have been on nairaland 1 month and 16 days. Face your life, please

RisenPhoenix1:
If all you valentine dick people cannot be helpful, then at least please keep quiet. Or if you must be funny, at least try to be original. This mentioning of dick anytime a teenage girl goes missing is insensitive and uncivilized, and is no longer witty. Do you know what the family is going through? Is that the kind of thing you want to hear people say if your own daughter goes missing? Poverty is no excuse for losing our humanity.

@op. I hope she's found. Don't lose hope. If she went on an errand, check the neighbours and shopkeepers along the route, maybe someone saw something. Normally, this is a job for the police, but in Nigeria, they neglect the most obvious things.

How about the ones who want the girl to be found, so they can’t marry her? There are sick people here

I actually went through this thread and some others. There are rapists, perverts and paedophiles on nairaland. I literally don’t trust anyone now. This thread is disgusting. I pity girls who answer emails unnecessarily. This set of nairaland men are weird

richmond500:
what about the ones weh miss and later end up dead in suckaway pit.

the girl is beautiful, if I find her, I don't care what condition she is, I'll wife her as payment, let me sha hope she's in a mans house

You are sick. Staturatory rapist

greymiles:
Cute girl, hope she’s found cuz I will like to know her better once she’s found

You should try to hide your predator feelings in a public forum. You want a child to be found so that you may get to know her. Do you hear yourself or you just comment and post without reading. Well too many perverts here on nairaland

COdeGenesis:


You are a big mofo. I am done with you. Reading your reply irritates me. I wonder the kind of MEN parents put forward these days. Tufiakwa

He is rude spoilt child with a sense Of entitlement and he has nothing. That’s why it’s funny.

Gang90:

I'm an adult Male, and woman of menstrual age do not even enter all places in my culture talk more of sex in my room and not remove the signs, if it angers my faith you will understand, you will see my uplift and you will realise that someone is deeply hurt

I knew I wasn’t wrong about you from the first post. You have a patriarchy mentality. You are a freaking rude human. This is more personal. It was too obvious. Rude child. Pack out of that house or go stay with your uncles. Nonsense sense of entitlement.

light099:
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You complain too much lad.
You live in another man's property, yet you wanna run things on your own terms. You already made your point, the wife should have washed the bedspread, except that you're starting to overestimate and overemphasize the whole shiit.
You sound so much like a spoilt brat. At 26 years old, you should know how to handle this maturely instead of coming here to wail all day like a cry baby. Some people younger than you sleep in traffic over night 24/7.

Remove the soiled sheet, replace it with your blanket just for tonight or sleep on the mattress without the bedspread or sleep on the floor. The options are many. Then, get your own apartment and your own wife so that you can run things on your own terms, instead of castigating a grown up man in his own house, who was nice enough to give you a whole room.
Do those and stop being a cry baby.

Thank you for this. Finally someone sees the rudeness that I observed. I literally thought the only thing I got from the first post is a rude spoilt child with an unnecessary sense of entitlement

Wolfeye:


!!!! The guy is just a compound phool for picking on the woman as the culprit.

. A big “compound” fool. He is actually rude from his first post. He said he doesn’t accept the woman. So this is more personal. Nonsense boy

Romanoff:


See this one.

You're insulting me about values or respect. If you respect your brother, you would not bring his business to social media.

What happened to a heart to heart?

Small children go get android phone and small data come dey run mouth for social media.


Omase o.

You bothered to answer him. He is Rude as hell. Why I didn’t take him serious was because in his first post, he said his family doesn’t accept her. This is more personal. He can move out or borrow maturity because he lacks it

uncleck:
At 26, you're grown. Stop complaining about little things like this. Pick the sheet and wash or buy another one and fold the old one inside an abandoned case.

Or he could tell his brother to wash it if he is that disgusted at the woman

Gang90:

I won't judge much on that one, it is their house and no one knew I will be coming back today, but why in heavens name won't she at least wash the bedsheet, I'm disgusted honestly,

And also tell your brother to wash the sheet. It’s a two way thing. His fluids are there as well. Omo ale

Gang90:
So guys it valentine's day, I'm really disgusted, okay I stay in my brothers house, I travelled, I came back around 2:30 I wanted to enter my room but my brother told me wait a while, with my adult mind, I realised they having some couple time, I dropped my bag in the living room and head out.

But I came back to find out the room is scattered and the bedsheet there, a responsible woman should at least wash the bed sheet noting that a grown up Male stays there.

I will be 26 this year, I had not really had sex so all these things imagining a strange woman's bodily fluids in my bedsheet is disgusting. I can take it from the side of my brother but not the wife, she disgusts me honestly, she is not my girlfriend, not my sister, not my wife, not my mother why should she expect I wash her after sex sheets for her or why can't she just pick the sheet immediately and wash it, it could have dried by now. And it really feel awful for me if I try to wash it, honestly.

This is about to be the worst valentine's day for me, I'm planning to head out and rent a room in hotel but who knows most hotel rooms will be disgusting today, what do I do please advice.

I'm hating knowing already, cause if I didn't know it could all not be so dirty to me, now my bed looks so dirty to me and I can't attempt to wash it until at least 24 hours and I will wash it soaked in hot water, I hate nonses just cause my brothers accepts you does not mean everyone in the family sees you as one flesh.

People like you should actually be feared. Sad that your brother has someone like you living in his house. Pathetic human

Humanoid01:

After all the crap you posted, you ended up giving him no advice. There are strange spirits operating in the world today, and anyone can be a victim. It's not usually a thing of choice or pride, people just find themselves doing things they never imagined they could do. Here's someone who has been victimized and summoned the courage to share his ordeal, and all you could do was rain insults on him, like you're some kind of saint. Don't try to sound woke if you've got nothing to offer, it makes you look stupid.

First things first and I don’t mean this in a bad way; You are actually a stupid person. You talked about not giving an advice and insulting him but at the end of the day, you didn’t offer one to him. I won’t even bother justifying why I went all the way like that. It was written in another comment below.
I guess the only reason why you are pressed is probably because you have the same problem. Maybe yours is children. If you are going to reply, please use your brain. Anyone can smell your low self esteem life from your comment. Nonsense. Rape apologists. Mention me with your sense or you would regret quoting me.


I just realized. You are the guy. This is your real moniker. I stand by earlier comments. Do you know how sick you have to be to touch a child’s ass? I cringed when I read that. Pervert