₦airaland Forum

tivta:
When will most Nigerian girls learn that rich men marry rich women.
No man wants a liability, if you are looking for ready made be prepared to be used and abused, if not by the guy then by his parents, I have friends who are suffering this but are to ashamed to speak about it.

HaneefahRN:
Abstinence remains the best! Don't av sex if u know u ain't ready to face any consequences tht comes out of it. If u think condom is 100% safe, think again

obiorathesubtle:
I've been on NL for almost 2 months.. Not one of your posts or threads have made me smile sef..

How do people find humor in whatever you post?? I want to know

MrCork:
[size=16pt].. and why do ladies all ways find them unromantic ,unatrative & unkalfrognistic..especially when they wear their farmer lookin traditional out fit lookin like starwsts Jedi.. I lie?....Please advise!!(No ofeeennse) [/size]


...I apologize...my mistake.not all of them accordin to the repost. ..its most of them.

oluwadartey:
How else should this be broken down for your dum* brains to understand?

Love should be unconditional, how hard is that abeg?

Medunah:
11. Guys like the Op

Trustworthiness:
Let me add to the op questions.

6. Ladies can you marry a married man.

I know most ladies will say he'll no to this question. But deep down in Thier heart, if a heavily rich guy that is married seek Thier hand in marriage, they would have said yes ten times before the guy complete the statements: would you marry me?

Looking at it statistically, the ratio of marriageable man to marriageable woman that are still single, the gab is wide. The ratio will be nothing less than 1 to 10. So, for every lady that got married 9 will not be married. So, if ladies decided not to practice polygamy but monogamy, they should not be surprised if at the end of the day some of them could get a man to marry them. Moreover, the ratio gap is increasing by the day.

HaneefahRN:
My sister there are many stories like this outside there, and there are some (or few I knw), who had luck, I know a SAN tht even after the wife's death appreciates her so much becos he realized the goodness she did for him, the support she gave to him when he had nothing, he found it hard to marry a 2nd time cos he was scared of his children being maltreated by another woman and made sure all his children had the best, such men are few tho, many wld forget tht woman in a twinkling of an eye and start chasing everything in skirt, claiming to be enjoying their lives when money comes, they wld rather spend on mistresses than the wife. But let's just pray for the best man for us whether ready made or surulere, and women also av to knw what they are doing cos many men ain't trustworthy

onyee25:
Lol,remedy: if the outing is by 4pm ,tell the lady its 2pm

onyee25:
Lol,remedy: if the outing is by 4pm ,tell the lady its 2pm

Gbaa:
I have dead die. Na so i nearly jam goat for road say i look side mirrow when i dey reverse not knowing that madam don adjust the mirrow for me make she for take confirm her foundation. Choi. and you dare not answer that question of "how do i look" in the negative to avoid bed time stories that touch the boxers. LOL

Nicepoker:
Even after using the mirror in the house. They will still end up adjusting the side mirror of the passenger's side to confirm the level of foundation and other paints on their face. The one wey de vex me pass. U scrap off ur eye brows. Then use crayon abi black paint to carve out nike logo. At the end they will still ask u baby how do I look?

Omotayor123:
Minus Me
No time for yeye make up

cycline404:
I will never forget my sister. Shai.
I would have finished taking my bath, dress up, she will spend another hour for comparing lipstick, 2 hours for perfect outfit another 30min to check the best shoe or slippers, another 40min check which bangles goes best.

But now I will wait for her to do all those things then I can have my bath, still she will still find one thing to delay with.


My dad always tell my mum... You will meet me there.

HaneefahRN:
U think it's easy coming from a home where u av plenty to come and be drinking garri, taking eba, not affording to buy new clothes, etc? Do u knw some women even establish their husbands or take up the financial burdens of the home cos the man is penniless or has little? But let the man get rich, or even averagely ok, the next thing wld be womanizing, some even maltreat their wives cos of mistresses outside. But I know this is normal for u, afterall the woman followed her heart, afterall he didn't force her to stay by and support him when the going was tough, what right does she av over him or anything he owns?

darlenese:
The Op has complex issues


Guy go hustle jor,

OK over to the guys...........
1. Can u marry a woman with flat chest?
2. Can u marry a woman with flat ass?
3. Can u marry a woman with V.mobile shape?

If. Ur answers to the above questions is no, then delete ur post!

francababy:
[size=14pt]All Men Out there. Including the OP Toks2008 hear this.

If you don't want to cause undue problem for yourself....

If you don't want to attract frustration....

If you don't want to turn to a perpetual beggar borrowing to pay school fees...

If you don't want to call your wife a witch in future...

If you don't want to die of hypertension...

DO NOT ATTEMPT POINT NO.2 BY THE OP

I showed this post to my male colleagues this evening before we left the office and they accepted all the points as okay except number 2. These are men earning upwards of 400k monthly. They know what it is to take care of a family in today's Nigeria[/size]

Toks2008:
Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their late twenties and thirties.

I have seen countless number of naija spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the "right man" fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age.

Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.

Considering the present global socio economy siituations expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to marry you.

1.Can you start a life with a man in one room ?: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can't marry into one room apartment.

Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.


2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?:Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but please let me ask you"why date a struggling guy or allow him srw you at will yet cant marry him?" strange and foolish i must say.

It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.

Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn around? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling phase.


3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.

Most times when you hear words like "my guy is not ready yet for marriage" what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.

Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?

Who says you can't have a marriage ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts coming in you two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you.

For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.


4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?:Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an "ideal man"

In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a shame.

Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.


5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.

Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.

So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.

I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.

MzDeeb:
I have gone through all the comments here, from what i can deduce- its true some people are frustrated not because they really want to be but because of envy [the truth is really hitting them on the wrong side.]

I tell people being a virgin doesn't equals to u having the best marriage or love story. Having said that, this should mean that virginity shouldn't be celebrated. It is a pride of a woman for crying out loud . Almost all guys pray their future wife is a virgin. Because there is a blessing n glory attached to it from God.

Nevertheless, non-virgins shouldn't be condemned also. Judge not, we are all sinners.

Also, non - virgins should not always take it personal when their counterparts are being praised. It ain't that fault na haba. Cos all i see is bitterness, Jealousy and envyness...

People should learn to relate with each other well even if they have different opinions n views. Virgin and non virgins - strive to develop yourself in all aspect n have a good character because in marriage only sex will not keep u there forever.

NB: It is not everybody that one gives reply to. Some people are not worth the stress cos of their low IQ n level of reasoning.

Peace...

Toks2008:
Ofcourse i have learned to laugh off any form of insults expecially from abusive nairalanders...

who i be wey i go dey vex? Even old people and leaders get yabbed on nairaland witth impunity so i should never let that bother me.

kennycanny:
I am almost sure that you are brought well as a good girl. I have not seen u used any abusive words since. unusual of babes this days!

Toks2008:
It is the abusive words that i really can't understand.

It seems this write up is touching somewhere in her life and rather than get clarifications, she would rather imagine meanings,conclude on them and starts cursing.

Honestly some people need serious mental and psychological evaluation.

blublahd:
how old are you?

kennycanny:
Toks2008 & vikks014. I will suggest you marry each other. You both will definitely live happy & blissful married life.

kennycanny:
Toks2008 & vikks014. I will suggest you marry each other. You both will definitely live happy & blissful married life.

chiefolododo:
Heaven straight

kennycanny:
You missing my point up. I am not praising you that you didnt open your legs for many men, what I am saying is that you must be pretty young not to know much about this life.

Virginity to me is not an added advantage. Some ladies are still virgin because guys cant find them good enough to be close enough to have relationship that ll might lead to sex with them because they are either dirty, ugly, rude, cursed , boring , childish , arrogant , spoilt brat , etc.

A lot of single mothers still they get husband while Virgins they go from one mountain to the other praying for husband.

MRBrownJ:
FIXED