₦airaland Forum

The invention of Religion....this one deep makes controlling of mass population easy

The invention of Condom... if not for that invention so many cheating men would have been dead....


Also Artificial Intelligence....

And yet dem never fit perform miracle wey go make Nigeria better

Religion thrives with Hope and Fear.

who has gotten access to the pre test... or i am the only one battling with "500 internal Server Error"

kcprince:
It is clear this country is beyond what they can govern. What surprises me is how everybody is keeping quiet and giving them the boldness to make such utterances . If this statement was made in a sane country people would take to the street

You made a very salient point.

The thing is Naija politicans don't actually rate Nigerians...and they know that the average Nigerian will believe any lie they sell to them.

Nigerians has been hungry since 1960..okay.

But now Nigerians are actually starving...


The starvation has made majority to be thinking like chickens

occfx:
Religion is the problem the world has today. From my own understanding, God hasn't spoken to anybody since the creation of the universe. Everything they say God said... Is manufactured.

Politicians and Powerful people uses it alots to manipulate the Masses.

This social media era of lies and fake lives, to believe things easily out of emotions is just so hard...

But if is this this story is real....its kind of scary...

Onegai:
I used to do the same thing, but AI is trained to identify patterns and give you answers based on it. Which is why it is always supportive and will change its answers if you press it: it's trying to figure out what you need to hear.

The longer you speak to it, the more you train it about your mental thinking and deductions, your patterns, the more the answers you get will mirror what's already in your mind.
So it will always seemingly give you helpful advice: it's telling you what you want to hear.

It's the same with browsing on social media: what you browse on and even what you say (your phone does listen to you) the algorithm will tailor itself to show you things that refer to it. When I was pregnant and talking about it in real life and not on the phone, I constantly got ads for baby stuff (all those permissions you grant different apps to use your mic, yeah).

I can be browsing on a kdrama or a topic, decide to open Google and that topic will be part of the suggestions I get.

Same with Instagram and Twitter.

It's why you have to be careful with AI. It's nice to have something always seemingly validating you. And I've seen people who AI, online forums and their Facebook algorithm convinced them of things in their personals lives and they proceeded to destroy even their marriages or get radicalized (I'm not making it up).

Bro birth a lots of us have programmed on what to think... And not how to think.

Just as people likely on certain myths...that's how they rely on this AI.
Without filtering.

This is sad...sighsss

this Al has its advantages and disadvantages.....i just hope people use it wisely...

I recently drafted out 20 football games and gave it to AI to predict...

Tickets burst anythow...everywhere red

Sporty pass AI power.

Oyinbo people and suicide....

RIP to the young man.

If not for the fear and Hope religion inspires...so many Nigerians would have been commiting suicide in droves...with this extreme hunger and hardship.

That word "E go better".... is therapeutic

Deepspirituals:
🤣🤣🤣🤣

You mean we came down from heaven just to fight to enter heaven again.
Very weird.

If you are talking to God, you are praying.

If God is talking to you, you are schizophrenic

Kushites:
This is NOT true.

This demented Christian philosophy basically confines all Muslims, African Traditional Religionists, Buddhists, Shintoists, Taoists, Krishnaists, etc etc to eternal damnation.

You actually think God will ANNIHILATE his own Creation simply for being of a different RELIGION or SPIRITUAL TRADITION than the one the British invaders who slaughtered your ancestors, burned down your cities and looted your land for a century, gave you?

It just so happened to be THEIR religion that is the “ONLY TRUTH”.

Really?

Really?

Really?

Religion thrives on hope and fear...

Its indeed the opium of the mind...

And powerful people uses it to easily manipulates the masses

ZeemsPropeties:
IT tools isn't same as social media use.

Dont mind them... they really do not know how addictive and destructive this tools can be and can be manipulated

Religion gives comfort , reduces anxiety, create social bonds....it thrives on hope and fear.


Is so unfortunate that politicians and influential people uses Religion to manipulate people for their ineptitude.

AngelSlay:
Not entirely true, my guy.
I’ve also seen the other side on the streets.

There are single guys who look “financially okay” on the outside, but when you sit with them, they confess the weight of loneliness is heavy. One even told me, “I have money, but every night I return to an empty house. No one to share it with, no one to build with. It’s depressing.”
I also spoke with a young lady working in tech. She earns well above average, yet she admitted how this regime has made her shoulder all family responsibilities alone. Her younger siblings look up to her for survival, her parents depend on her monthly, and she cried saying, “Sometimes I wish I had a partner to at least split these burdens with.”

And there are plenty of single men who are “financially okay” today, but terrified about tomorrow. Inflation, unstable forex, fuel costs — they confess that one wrong move could wipe away their savings. Some even envy married men who, though struggling, at least have a partner to encourage them and brainstorm survival strategies.

Truth is, happiness is not about single or married alone. Under this economy, both sides are agonizing in different ways. Some married men feel trapped by responsibilities, while some single men and women feel crushed by loneliness, pressure, and family expectations.

On the streets, it’s pain across board — just in different forms.

Let’s be real, what are the actual statistics on financially stable singles who say they’re lonely and wish they weren’t? Honestly, if loneliness was unbearable, most of these people would have jumped into marriage already. It’s not like finding a partner is impossible; it’s just that in this economy, marriage itself isn’t some magic fix.

Nigeria’s economy is strangling everyone’s purchasing power right now. Inflation is through the roof, prices of basic things like fuel and food are insane, and salaries barely cover rent, let alone family or personal dreams. I know two couples both married who recently got divorced purely because the financial pressure became unbearable. It’s not just about love or companionship; it’s survival.

So many Married people are suffering silently, putting on fake smiles while juggling multiple jobs, side hustles, and constant financial anxiety. Their salaries or small business incomes “can’t do shit” sometimes they’re barely enough to pay bills, let alone provide a comfortable life or raise a family without stress.

Single people might complain about loneliness, but married folks carry the weight of responsibilities that don’t disappear with love school fees, medical bills, family obligations, and the crushing fear of what happens if the breadwinner loses their job or business tanks.

At the end of the day, neither side has it easy. The pain is real everywhere, it just shows up differently. Marriage isn’t a cure, and being single isn’t a free pass. The economy is the common enemy here, and until that changes, everyone’s just trying to survive in a system that’s making life harder every day.

Bearfruit:
Speak for your self!!!!

Truth hurts. I can understand how you feel about hearing this harsh reality

Gerrard59:
There is nothing like love. Even if there is, love cannot exist in a poor society. People who lack basic needs cannot love. It's not in them to love. Love cannot thrive in hunger.

This is so apt...Love is deeply conditional.. .

yemmit90:
Lolz, I was once like you, until I got exposes to some certain things that changed my perspectives about those I usually called lazy or unserious fellows.

Sane countries takes care of their children and old people. They takes care of their unemployed youths till they get jobs. They provide quality education at avoidable rate and even provided comfortable loan service for students from poor homes. They ensure robust economy policies that can give room for jobs creations. They ensure access to quality health service even if you are poor. What am I even saying, food is next to nothing in saner climes that even if you don't earn much, you should be able to feed your family.

The lists are endless, and if at this level of your education, you don't know that there is limit to what an average citizen can do in the midst of unfortunate society, then you need to return that certificate. Like citizen like leaders, you all love and admire western countries but can't do what they are doing to attain such level of development.

Yes very right...

Politicians has dealt a lots of blow to the average Nigerians mental health...That they see themselves, being impoverished as a norm. Stockholm syndrome

Hhh4444:
1. Trust nobody
2. You are all you have got when the chips are down.
3. Humans wear mask, nobody is entirely genuine.
4. People worship money.
5. Be selfish,be ruthless,be firm.
6. It's a crime to care too much or love too much and you would be punished for it.
7. Betrayal comes from people close to you, people you call friends.
8. Do not keep friends,keep disposable pieces.
9. Every relationship or interaction is transactional.make sure you are benefitting or cut it lose.
10. A man is only valued by what he provides. So before you provide make sure it's truly worth it.
11. Your colleagues in the office are not your friends. Do your job,get paid and go home.
12. All Women are natural manipulators,be cautious when dealing with them.
13. Sometimes,the major breakthrough you need will come from a place you least expect it, possibly from strangers.

Words of wisdom

Roycemadeit:
People have been made to believe marriage is some divine decree, written in the stars or sealed by the heavens. It is not. Marriage is simply people deciding to live together under a shared agreement. That’s all. No cosmic stamp. No eternal law. Just an arrangement that humans created.

But over time, it was dressed in rules, rituals, and pressures—until refusing to marry became a mark of shame. Many now enter marriage without knowing themselves, without even asking whether they can coexist with anyone long-term. And yet, we keep pretending it’s the natural order of things.

[color=#9900ab]Marriage may help build pockets of society, but it does not, on its own, raise children. A community raises children. A society raises children. Marriage has merely been inflated into a badge of responsibility, so that avoiding it makes you “irresponsible.” That is a lie we have swallowed for generations.[/color]

[color=#6B3000]You must ask yourself—do I actually want to marry, or am I just ticking a box the culture handed me? Age, money, tradition—none of these are reasons. Marriage is not compulsory. It is not sacred. It is not divine. It is human—fragile, flawed, and entirely optional.[/color]

I agree

1.I am seeing my Period

2. I hate sex

3.I love you

franchasofficia:
If you are born into a poor family background, as in, your parents are not rich, please don't marry just because of love.

Love is a fallacy that led so many men into marrying ladies that ended up hampering their lives and keeping them poor or dragging them backward on daily basis.



If your parents are not rich as a guy, marry with purpose and future in mind.


Go for financial, career, business focused lady.


Marry a lady with the potential of helping you become better financially not one that will drain you and take you back to square one.


In summary, if your parents are not rich, when you want to marry as a young man, consider:


1.) The girls family background

2.) The girls career or job

3.) Her source of income

4.) Her academic background

5.) If she have a western country passport to help you Japa if push comes to shove

6.) Is she financially wise and smart


7.) Is she a money maker or a layback, lazy, unambitious girl that just want to eat, sleep, have sex, get pregnant and give birth and be monitoring you her husband to know how many girls you are chasing outside. If she is one run for your life

8.) Until you have secured a good job, career or established a thriving business, don't ever keep a girl in your house. Don't have a live in girlfriend. Let her come and go. She must not spend more than 2 days in your house until you re ready to settle down.


9.) Make use of condom a habit as a single guy until you marry to avoid marrying the wrong girl out of pressure of "I am pregnant"

Words of wisdom,words of wisdom....makes lots of sense

franchasofficia:
If you are born into a poor family background, as in, your parents are not rich, please don't marry just because of love.

Love is a fallacy that led so many men into marrying ladies that ended up hampering their lives and keeping them poor or dragging them backward on daily basis.



If your parents are not rich as a guy, marry with purpose and future in mind.


Go for financial, career, business focused lady.


Marry a lady with the potential of helping you become better financially not one that will drain you and take you back to square one.


In summary, if your parents are not rich, when you want to marry as a young man, consider:


1.) The girls family background

2.) The girls career or job

3.) Her source of income

4.) Her academic background

5.) If she have a western country passport to help you Japa if push comes to shove

6.) Is she financially wise and smart


7.) Is she a money maker or a layback, lazy, unambitious girl that just want to eat, sleep, have sex, get pregnant and give birth and be monitoring you her husband to know how many girls you are chasing outside. If she is one run for your life

8.) Until you have secured a good job, career or established a thriving business, don't ever keep a girl in your house. Don't have a live in girlfriend. Let her come and go. She must not spend more than 2 days in your house until you re ready to settle down.


9.) Make use of condom a habit as a single guy until you marry to avoid marrying the wrong girl out of pressure of "I am pregnant"

Words of wisdom

EmmyMaestro:
You will loose money chasing women but you will never loose women chasing money

This advice does not apply to gambling...sporty

Hit the gym, hit the gym!!! If you cant afford the gym...do it a home, push up, sit up, squatting, jogging, exercise exercise... get in good shape..be active. dont get get obese..
dress well, smell nice
Avoid the wrong circles, follow circles with vision, prospects, career, purpose... not circles that dwells on women, sex, alcohols..etc
learn 21st century skills
Dont be a nice man... be a good man..but ruthless.

"women and children can be careless, but not men. Always watch your back"...Its a cold world our there

hahahaha wedding is not for you its for your Wife. so many of them dont care if you run into debt..in their emotional mind "just give me a damn good wedding, what will my friends say, what will people say bla bla bla"..it depends on the kind of woman you want to marry...if not she will nag you to depression...

The onus is if your woman share the same simple wedding ideology with you.

Note: An average woman, especially many of this modern women...are obessed with having a memorable wedding day...

See that man with long Beards.... those kind face and violence are 5 and 6.... always serious and easily provoked... If that man catch that woman one on one ehnnnn......

emmaodet:
Well, it doesn't matter.
People will adjust and find a way to survive.
Some things seem constant in life.
In 1990 when dollars was 7.4 naira and 1999 cement was 500 per bag yet there are more houses now than then, there are more cars on the road than then, there are more Nigerians traveling internationally now than then.
I can bet you, even if dollars go to 3000 naira to a dollar today and bag of cement becomes 10000 naira, there will be more beautiful houses in the next 10/15 years than now and more cars on the road then than now and more flight travellers then than now.
There will be more richer Nigerians then than now because there are more richer Nigerians than Nigerians in 1990 etc
Humans have a way of adjusting to situations.

You don't need to believe me, statistics and figures don't lie

I agree that people will always find ways to adapt and survive after all, life is about survival of the fittest.

However, I’m a bit skeptical about the idea that Nigerians now are to some extent are richer than those in the ’90s. Back then, even a police constable could comfortably feed three children and send them to school. These days, that seems much harder.

So, I think when we talk about “riches,” it’s important to consider not just income or assets, but also the standard of living, cost of living, and overall quality of life. Sometimes, it might look like people have more materially, but the expenses and pressures are so much higher that it doesn’t necessarily translate to being better off.

pocohantas:
- Black tax, financial expectations from one's family and in-laws.
- Living above your means as a family.
- Non-working wife.

Sidechicks is the least of it as I do not consider MOST Nigerian married men attractive.

An average nja woman finds the money of the man attractive...

Hence settling for side chick status.

Hardship dey change taste.

LivingEarthMan:
There are many angles to look at this.

Some people rightly pointed out the issue of age difference. When the age gap between the couple is very wide (like a man being 10 years, 15 years, 20 years etc older) there is a possibility the younger couple (often the wife) will outlive the older. That is not necessarily a bad thing provided the man intentionally delayed marriage in order to develop himself and lay solid foundation for himself and enjoy his life small before getting married.

Someone also pointed out the issue lifestyle and she was right. Most men tend to live recklessly. Drinking alcohol more than they drink water, practically smoking their life away, no medical checkup etc. No one indulges in all these and live long.

The last thing I want to point out is the issue of men rushing into marriage when they never chop beleful. A wise man will not rush into marriage until he is sure he has more than enough to take care of himself and can comfortably take care of wife and children. But fools rush into marriage even while they are still struggling to survive as a bachelor. The rule is, if you bring children into this world you must be ready to cater for them even if you have to sacrifice your life to do so. Because nobody sent you

Words of wisdom..

Focusmind:
As a man, if you don't want to take care of yourself, na you sabi. The pressure and demands of the society are already stacked against us. Don't over do yourself all in the name of providing for your children and unborn kids. Be selfish and indulge yourself on things you like, that may likely prolong your life. Spend that money and get yourself quality fruits all the time, eat healthy, exercise, go out solely and enjoy yourself. Slow down and take it easy. If your body is not strong for any hustle, shelve it and regain your mojo and health before anything. Finally, if you don't have the means to cater for a family, don't marry yet, or better, postpone it till you are better prepared, financially. Financial stress and pressures have ruined many young men in their quest to meet up with the demands of the family.

Words of wisdom