shadrach77: Never listen to anyone who tells you to go and marry. Marry only because you feel a genuine need to do so and you feel it will add benefits to your life.
85% of people who advice others to marry use that as a subtle way of mocking single people. Then some people are jealous of you because you don't have the kind of financial responsibilities they have so they want you to marry so that you can be like them.
Then you'll hear some people say unmarried people are irresponsible. Another foolish talk. When did marriage become an achievement? There are many married people who are irresponsible. Some of of the richest people in the world are unmarried - Bill Gates, Dangote, Elon Musk, Anthony Joshua etc.
Those telling you.. 'go and marry' are not doing it from the place of love for you. If they really cared, how come they don't trouble you about having multiple streams of income as much as they trouble you with marriage
You will be addicted deeply and you won't even know.
You keep giving excuses for your loses and your mind keep playing tricks on why losing ain't your fault and why you need to stake more to win that illusioned 125 million.
Betting companies are really taking advantage of Betting addicts
Gambling addiction often leads to other addiction like porn, drugs, alcohol,social media etc... As a coping mechanism.
A Gambling addict needs total brain overhauling and healing.
Watch the movie "owning Mahowny."
It's depicts how gambling addiction..
A true life story of a banker that ..commited a very big fraud just to feed his gambling addiction
Talismann: no woman, I repeat no woman will ever love you unconditionally. It has never and will never work that way. Even your own biological mother will dance to the tune of that child who provides the more for her. Don't allow anyone deceive you. As a man, it's better you live with that truth or die in self denial. Even God will despise you if you can't solve issues in his house or useful to him.
Now that being said, there a few real, trustworthy ladies.but the paragraph above is still engrained in their DNA regardless.
As a man what to do. You need to make money, you need to keep working hard. A man paying his bills earns serious respect from everyone.
Once you can't pay the bills, even your dog will whine and grind it's teeth at you when you can't buy it's food.
Avoid gold diggers btw, you should get a woman who is purposeful and going in the same direction with you obviously. But live with the fact that the moment you can't provide anymore, things will likely go wrong.
pansophist: Your parents should adopt kids, thats the natural cure to this dilemma.
Children needs guidance, provisions and protection, and your parents needs their presence, and to see life through the eyes of children once again.
Also, the power dynamic between you and your parents have changed, unlike when you were a child. Right now, your parents have authority over you but without responsibilities, which is unfair to you.
For example, if they want to bath with hot water, prefer their eba extra soft, and maybe you have to clean their apartment, these are responsibilities on you, but you cant tell them what to do, or even scold them. You have no authority.
With children, your parents will have authorities and responsibilities, which is a balance. E.g, they kids do domestic work, and your parents wont feel lonely. But the trade off is that your parents have responsibilities towards the children.
I see that you have a good family that is united, and you care for your parents, this is very good, but consider what I said. Its an old practice that is solved by adopting kids, or men going into polygamy to birth more children.
Gerrard59: OP should use his education to go into trading, especially if your head cannot carry tech. Yes, you have been unemployed for almost a decade. So what are you doing about it?
Go into trading. Even diasporan returnees with foreign education, foreign work experience and strong passport are into trading.
emmaodet: This is the bitter truth. Guys doing blue collar jobs - keke drivers, danfo drivers, cow butchers and goat butchers in local market all make reasonable money everyday but graduates are doing shitty jobs. you have to be shameless in 3rd world countries to make a living. Only few will get good paying jobs sitting in AC, drinking tea while pressing computer. And guess what? those blue collar jobs adjust to inflation easily compared to white collar salary jobs that are always stagnant for years. Reason why you always see civil servants/salary earners always going on strike for salary increment, holding rallies and blocking roads while the so called illiterates and semi-illiterates will look down on adjust their price to inflation - drivers will adjust lagos to ibadan transport fare tomorrow if price of fuel goes up unlike salary earners. Tomatoes sellers, ogufe sellers etc will all adjust price. it is up to you to drop your ego and hit the street.
Uchenna10: I always loose money to virtual, there's this betkiing shop opposite my street, they do other businesses like POS transactions, anytime I go there to withdraw money, I'd end up playing virtual bets.
Lost 30k today, lost 22k on Wednesday...I've been loosing my hard earned money for 2yrs nw in that same betshop.
I'll be rounding up with NYSC next month, no single savings.... I'm tired, dunno how to stop.😩😩
Bro, I can really imagine the pain you're going through. Gambling addiction, like other addictions. Be it drugs, porn, or even excessive masturbation, is not something easy to overcome. But the fact that you’ve opened up about it here, despite knowing how toxic this forums can get sometimes, shows one thing clearly: you truly want to change. And that's the first major step.
First, understand this: gambling addiction is not just a habit. It’s a form of mental struggle, and it often needs more than just willpower. One of the most important things is to let go of the belief that you’ll strike it big one day. That mindset keeps many people trapped.
Avoiding the environment that triggers you is also crucial. If that bet shop is always pulling you in, consider switching to another POS location—even if it’s further away. It might seem small, but removing the temptation helps a lot.
You might also want to consider joining a support group—there are a few Nigerian-based communities online that focus on quitting gambling. A good place to start is following someone like @lobistars on Twitter. He organizes sessions where people share their strategies for quitting and staying clean.
Also, try to stay active—mentally and physically. Idle time is dangerous. Even something as simple as regular exercise or learning a skill online can help shift your focus.
You’re not alone in this. And you’re definitely not beyond help. Keep pushing, stay honest with yourself, and don’t be ashamed to seek help ,even professional help if you can afford it. You still have time to rebuild, especially now that NYSC is ending.
Wishing you strength and healing, bro. You can overcome this.
1. Putting others before my life...while others actually put their lives first.
2. If you live in a public yard, you must understand that your neighbours aren't your emergency family members.
3. Avoid taking things on credit from shops close to where you live.
4. You really do not owe anyone an explanation when you say NO to their requests.
5. Learn to speak not talk.
6. You are the most important person to you in this world. Remember that.
7. Don't let them kill you!
8. Learn when it's apt to walk away.
9. Set boundaries. Whether they call it pride or whatever, they will respect you.
10. Overthinking will only get you sick. Start doing whatever you can.
11. You really do not need to recruit others to hate someone you hate with you.
12. Some relationships should be valued by you than always trying to be right always.
13. Drink clean water always. Eat good food. Sleep when needed. It's your health. If you can ensure your car gets sealed engine oil and better fuel for efficiency, how much more your body?
14. You don't need to lie to refuse lending money to someone; a simple "I don't have" is accurate. You don't need to attach a reason..damn it's your money!!
And it is also very necessary to collect collateral or they put it in paper. If they refuse, it's ok to let them fck off. A lot of borrowers have no conscience.
15. Avoid too many friends. If possible, avoid it completely. When your are becoming more successful, too many friends and you are closer to your grave.
16. It's not everyone you should bring to your house. This is very important.
17. Refuse binge drinking or eating outside. It's a one-way ticket to hell.
18. Ensure you know how to respond to peer pressure bullies.
19. Buy what you can afford...everything depreciates..
As many got burnt in this Cbex thing...there are few people that cashed out...
From 2015.There has been a strong wave of a societal malware in the country...Almost every one want to make money either legitimately or illegitimately. The goal is to make it any how any how. since the society kind of worships and respects those with money, Irrespective of how you make it....
Create a thread on how to make money...you see bulk of the comments replica to ventures that are related to Cbex.
JustAndy: Wow Nigerians will never stop surprising me, can you imagine someone said " he didn't plan is life well" awon master planner 🤨. Let me ask you this question; what was your childhood dream and are you living that dream ? Life in Nigeria no get plan because you go surprise weti you go turn to in the next five years from now. If you tell that girl wey dey do ashawo when she dey small say she go become ashawo, I bet you she no go believe. That's life, so no laugh anybody wey no dey do well or dey complain. after all he went to school. 🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨
That's average Nigerians for you
They are quick to judge others,but find it difficult to judge themselves.
blacksam01: When you approach the age 40, if you are observant, u will notice alot of changes in your life , both physically, mentality, health wise, and people's approach to u...
Some of this changes are listed below through person experience
People's approach to you
1. You will begin to notice the addition of "sir" when younger ones greet you.. this is not to say people don't greet you when you turned 30. But this time around alot of sir will accompany the greetings
2. Alot of aged ladies will b attracted to you if u are still single...
3. Almost everyone that doesn't know you will assume u are married if u are not by that age
3. Any kid playing around you will b assume to b your child by strangers
4. You will b gossiped about alot by everyone in your neighborhood if you are not married yet at that age 5. If u are single ,you will no longer b able to date young girls for two reasons:
1. Is the unmatched appearance together as society will speak about it too much 2. The girls will stylishly say no, cuz to them you are old.. remember u now have white beards and monstach
Physical changes
1. You will begin to grow grey hair from 35 up
2. Your face will naturally begin to drop from 38.. there will b this obvious daily deep lines running down from your nose sideways down to your side mouth... It will get deeper and more glaring with time
3. You mind will mostly be about finance and good life rather than women
4. You will not b able to jump wide gutters as easily as you previously can..not cuz you can't do it anymore, but your guts will fail u
5. If you are a fast worker, your speed will reduce
6. You may not easily get tired after long work, but your time for body restoration of your energy will now take longer
7. You will begin to wake late unless u maintained the alarm culture...to beat this u need to sleep early unlike the youths..
8. If you embark on a long road travel and you belong in the group of never sleeping in the bus, you will begin experience sleeping in the bus often..
9. From 35 up, u will lower your hair cuts and before or around 40 if u are not an obviously hairy person, u will move to barbing skin hair cut..this is because u will lose very visible part of your hair (baldness) and to measure it up will lead to u barbing skin...
Health changes
1. Family history health concerns will begin to show up..e.g bad eyesight. Etc
2. New set of age prone health issues will also become your concern as BP, low sugar, high sugar breathing problem will all b your concern...
3. Your prowess in the other room will reduce, urge is not affected, but efectiveness will..
Don’t let modern people with their hypocrisy wannabe deceive you
That’s the way it is…
Men and women are different and never the same.. that’s why a man has penis with uncountable sperms
For any specie to survive, the females must outnumber the males…. The males must be strong enough to defend the clan while the females must be numerous enough to repopulate.
Imagine an ecosystem with 10 males and 100 females and compare to one with 100 males and 10 females, the later is prone to be wiped out faster due to lower rate of reproduction.
If you want to run an animal farm, you will get more females and very few males to make sure there’s faster reproduction and growth
As a man, your ultimate goal is to make money and populate as much as you can..
emmaodet: While there has been a lot of discussion about the word "Love", the back and forths, honestly i have my reservation about it. Simply because LOVE will fail you when you need it MOST. The best time when we need love most is when we are at our lowest point in life - jobless, hopeless, futureless, everything LESS when we need a shoulder to lean on, someone to give us a reassurance and encouragement to keep moving on in life despite all the odds against us. Moments when we don't even believe in ourselves anymore but someone is there giving us hope and encouragement. It is at this wit-end, unfortunately that LOVE will fail you most. So i actually don't really believe in that Love ideology. This is my personal view and not imposed on anyone. It is at this lowest point that your woman will start misbehaving, flirting with other men, even cheating, giving cold attitudes, insultive, confrontational and bold with it.
Mcslize: Life is not hard everywhere. That's the wrong narrative most of you that have it going easy for you always push.
Moreso, noone says that people should leave Nigeria illegally. Please, be realistic in your judgement. We have always talked about only those that have the means, skills and qualifications to leave Nigeria legally if they feel the need to do so. Those that do not feel safe living in this country. Those that want a working society.
We have never said anything about illegal immigrants or encourage people to travel through illegal means. We don't encourage that. You people always jump on every thread to discourage people that have genuine reasons to travel and run for their dear lives.
If you're in Nigeria, I will really implore you to take time to go out by yourself to the street. I mean simply by yourself and see things and the amount of sufferings out there. If you are not in Nigeria, please find time to come back and head out all by yourself.
You don't understand how bad Nigeria is cuz you had it so easy and was possibly spoonfed by your family. I can bet, you can never survive Nigeria by yourself without receiving help from your family as an individual, cuz you grew up not facing any life's challenges and had always been held by the hand in everything. So, it's easy for you not to understand the plights of those struggling out there.
I can bet as well that, you have also not experienced any life threatening situations in your life since you were born as a mummy's boy, that's why it's easy for your likes to always be hypocritical about the situation of things in Nigeria.
Besides, you have never had a taste of sufferings as a person. So, why will you even understand what's going on in Nigeria? We that went through the torns of life and came out victorious are always the only ones that understand the plights of the masses. Nothing was handed to us on the platter of gold. Unlike you, that had it so easy by family.
Our experiences in life speak for us. That's why I can beat my chest boldly that I have seen it all in life. We were not spoonfed. That's why it's only people like us that can understand and feel the sufferings of others. But you can't say same for yourself.
You got all the supports from your parents. It was all rosy for you, that's why you don't still seem to understand the terrible situation of things in the country Nigeria.
You have the notion that it's everybody that get supportive families. That has always been your mindset. But I can tell you that many struggled without any support.
If you don't go out to see things for yourself, you won't truly understand and feel the pains of the common Nigerians. Go out and see how people are running up and down trying to sell items to travelling passengers on the road in the scorching sun☀️ from morning till night. Have you ever sat down to think about those people?
Go to the market and watch how market women are struggling to sell their little items just to raise money to feed their children. Have you ever thought of all those people? It's because Nigeria is not a working country. There are no jobs for the masses and to survive, majority of young people take to robbery and kidnapping; taking innocent people's lives.
Not only is the country not safe, Nigeria is not a place where you can live with peace of mind and freedom of movement. All you guys mentality has always been based on money.
You will hear something like: if you have 10-15 million naira, you have no reason to think of leaving Nigeria, rather start a business and live like a big man in Nigeria. That's the only primitive narrative some of you guys always push on this platform and that's why you people will always receive backlash from me. Everybody wants to act the big man way to oppress others.
I want you people to stop that backward reasoning. People are talking of their safety, freedom and a society that works, you people are always pushing monetary narratives. It will not do you guys any good pushing wrong narrative about legal migration.
Don't always be fixated on pushing deceitful narrations about the western world without also talking about the many benefits that come with traveling out, e.g a working system, peace of mind and full security where you can go out even at the middle of the night without fear of being kidnapped or robbed.
Say no to big man mentality. Live in Nigeria to form big man cuz nobody get your time abroad whether you are a big man or poor man. Everyone can afford the basic necessities of life.
Insecurities in this country is nothing to write home about. You dare not move any how in Nigeria or in the middle of the night.
You and pansophist should put yourself in the shoes of those that are languishing and suffering out there to understand the plights of the common people.
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givedemwotowoto: Marrying the wrong woman can wreck your finances, family, career, and future. Choosing a wife is one of the most important decisions of your life. Be very careful who you choose as your wife.
2cribz: Drugs like black mamba.will fuc k u up Drugs like loud. Will cause fidgeting and anxiety,memory loss, Drugs like ice,malnutrition and lack of appetite Drugs like colos,long term madness,mood swings,puffy eyes,uncontrolled anger,theft, hunger,zombie pause,Weight loss
Skush...drowsy,slow,lack of coordination, puffy eyes,red eyes,blurry eyes,damage to kidneys,
Trams...codeine, refnol..not different from colos,over active,hyper active,restlessness,lack of sleep...tripple heart beat,cardiac arrest.....death
Coke........insanity at any time,lack of appetite, pale look and weight loss,face bone,fidge,itches,dementia.....cardiac arrest on overdose.....death....
Pills and the rest. Dementia,kidney problem,liver problem,chest pain,rapid breathing, lack of breadth,self Choke and death...
Ogogoro/wines undiluted.
80 to 95% chance u r consuming iodine and methylated spirit disguised as wine and ogogoro. ....cough, rapid breathing,seizure,diarrhea, kidney and liver damage,when undiluted and consumed in large quantities,intoxication,anger,lack of coordination,over kakul,if u have car or bike,u might have an accident which will lead to death.......
Cigarette. Not 1 or 3 sticks.im talking of 2 3 packs a day. Damage to lungs in the long run. Oxygen support, breathing support Cancer of the lungs and then death.
This should serve as a lesson to every man out there, the worst mistake any man will make is to shortchange himself and waste his youthful years being a monogamous man. That is a pure waste of youth, and akin to the ungrateful servant in the bible who buried his talent.
The same woman whom you're sitting back at home watching Telemundo with now rather than hanging out with the boys, will not think twice when she spends 8months away from you for omugwo in your old age.
It amazes me how the same man who gave them sleepless nights and whom they could never allow to be alone with the housemaid when he was in his prime becomes dispensable as a pensioner; they'd even get women to run errands for him when she's away on omugwo.
Simply because he is used-up and just as useful as a used tissue paper.
A woman is the second most calculating creature created by God just after the serpent. Every single thing they do is calculated.
Otherwise, why will a woman who was a gym member while single and only had eyes for six-packed chiseled studs feed her husband overload of late night carbohydrate if not to ensure he is deformed with pot belly and unattractive to other women.
A foolish man thinks the reason his wife calls to keep tab whenever he is away is out of concern, but the wise know it is a subtle manipulation to prevent straying and then lure him back home. She is after her own safety, not yours.
The same woman who hates to imagine you with someone else, will still not give it to you every time you ask for it. Research has proven that no one is as undersexed as a monogamous married man.
I learnt this early enough from my granddad, and that's why since my prime till now, I have never allowed a drop of sperm to lay fallow in my scrotal sack
If Rukayat passes, I shag, if Sekinat visits, I shag, if Maimunat invites me over, I shag, if Kafiyat gives me green light, I shag. If there's no one to shag, I jack myself off lest they start till think they're doing me a favour.
Because God forbid that when I'm completely grey and the preek can't stand anymore, I'd lay awake in regret for wasted years and pain from balls full of accumulated undispensed sperm.
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