₦airaland Forum

Hhh4444:
1. Trust nobody
2. You are all you have got when the chips are down.
3. Humans wear mask, nobody is entirely genuine.
4. People worship money.
5. Be selfish,be ruthless,be firm.
6. It's a crime to care too much or love too much and you would be punished for it.
7. Betrayal comes from people close to you, people you call friends.
8. Do not keep friends,keep disposable pieces.
9. Every relationship or interaction is transactional.make sure you are benefitting or cut it lose.
10. A man is only valued by what he provides. So before you provide make sure it's truly worth it.
11. Your colleagues in the office are not your friends. Do your job,get paid and go home.
12. All Women are natural manipulators,be cautious when dealing with them.
13. Sometimes,the major breakthrough you need will come from a place you least expect it, possibly from strangers.

Words of wisdom

Roycemadeit:
People have been made to believe marriage is some divine decree, written in the stars or sealed by the heavens. It is not. Marriage is simply people deciding to live together under a shared agreement. That’s all. No cosmic stamp. No eternal law. Just an arrangement that humans created.

But over time, it was dressed in rules, rituals, and pressures—until refusing to marry became a mark of shame. Many now enter marriage without knowing themselves, without even asking whether they can coexist with anyone long-term. And yet, we keep pretending it’s the natural order of things.

[color=#9900ab]Marriage may help build pockets of society, but it does not, on its own, raise children. A community raises children. A society raises children. Marriage has merely been inflated into a badge of responsibility, so that avoiding it makes you “irresponsible.” That is a lie we have swallowed for generations.[/color]

[color=#6B3000]You must ask yourself—do I actually want to marry, or am I just ticking a box the culture handed me? Age, money, tradition—none of these are reasons. Marriage is not compulsory. It is not sacred. It is not divine. It is human—fragile, flawed, and entirely optional.[/color]

I agree

1.I am seeing my Period

2. I hate sex

3.I love you

franchasofficia:
If you are born into a poor family background, as in, your parents are not rich, please don't marry just because of love.

Love is a fallacy that led so many men into marrying ladies that ended up hampering their lives and keeping them poor or dragging them backward on daily basis.



If your parents are not rich as a guy, marry with purpose and future in mind.


Go for financial, career, business focused lady.


Marry a lady with the potential of helping you become better financially not one that will drain you and take you back to square one.


In summary, if your parents are not rich, when you want to marry as a young man, consider:


1.) The girls family background

2.) The girls career or job

3.) Her source of income

4.) Her academic background

5.) If she have a western country passport to help you Japa if push comes to shove

6.) Is she financially wise and smart


7.) Is she a money maker or a layback, lazy, unambitious girl that just want to eat, sleep, have sex, get pregnant and give birth and be monitoring you her husband to know how many girls you are chasing outside. If she is one run for your life

8.) Until you have secured a good job, career or established a thriving business, don't ever keep a girl in your house. Don't have a live in girlfriend. Let her come and go. She must not spend more than 2 days in your house until you re ready to settle down.


9.) Make use of condom a habit as a single guy until you marry to avoid marrying the wrong girl out of pressure of "I am pregnant"

Words of wisdom,words of wisdom....makes lots of sense

franchasofficia:
If you are born into a poor family background, as in, your parents are not rich, please don't marry just because of love.

Love is a fallacy that led so many men into marrying ladies that ended up hampering their lives and keeping them poor or dragging them backward on daily basis.



If your parents are not rich as a guy, marry with purpose and future in mind.


Go for financial, career, business focused lady.


Marry a lady with the potential of helping you become better financially not one that will drain you and take you back to square one.


In summary, if your parents are not rich, when you want to marry as a young man, consider:


1.) The girls family background

2.) The girls career or job

3.) Her source of income

4.) Her academic background

5.) If she have a western country passport to help you Japa if push comes to shove

6.) Is she financially wise and smart


7.) Is she a money maker or a layback, lazy, unambitious girl that just want to eat, sleep, have sex, get pregnant and give birth and be monitoring you her husband to know how many girls you are chasing outside. If she is one run for your life

8.) Until you have secured a good job, career or established a thriving business, don't ever keep a girl in your house. Don't have a live in girlfriend. Let her come and go. She must not spend more than 2 days in your house until you re ready to settle down.


9.) Make use of condom a habit as a single guy until you marry to avoid marrying the wrong girl out of pressure of "I am pregnant"

Words of wisdom

EmmyMaestro:
You will loose money chasing women but you will never loose women chasing money

This advice does not apply to gambling...sporty

Hit the gym, hit the gym!!! If you cant afford the gym...do it a home, push up, sit up, squatting, jogging, exercise exercise... get in good shape..be active. dont get get obese..
dress well, smell nice
Avoid the wrong circles, follow circles with vision, prospects, career, purpose... not circles that dwells on women, sex, alcohols..etc
learn 21st century skills
Dont be a nice man... be a good man..but ruthless.

"women and children can be careless, but not men. Always watch your back"...Its a cold world our there

hahahaha wedding is not for you its for your Wife. so many of them dont care if you run into debt..in their emotional mind "just give me a damn good wedding, what will my friends say, what will people say bla bla bla"..it depends on the kind of woman you want to marry...if not she will nag you to depression...

The onus is if your woman share the same simple wedding ideology with you.

Note: An average woman, especially many of this modern women...are obessed with having a memorable wedding day...

See that man with long Beards.... those kind face and violence are 5 and 6.... always serious and easily provoked... If that man catch that woman one on one ehnnnn......

emmaodet:
Well, it doesn't matter.
People will adjust and find a way to survive.
Some things seem constant in life.
In 1990 when dollars was 7.4 naira and 1999 cement was 500 per bag yet there are more houses now than then, there are more cars on the road than then, there are more Nigerians traveling internationally now than then.
I can bet you, even if dollars go to 3000 naira to a dollar today and bag of cement becomes 10000 naira, there will be more beautiful houses in the next 10/15 years than now and more cars on the road then than now and more flight travellers then than now.
There will be more richer Nigerians then than now because there are more richer Nigerians than Nigerians in 1990 etc
Humans have a way of adjusting to situations.

You don't need to believe me, statistics and figures don't lie

I agree that people will always find ways to adapt and survive after all, life is about survival of the fittest.

However, I’m a bit skeptical about the idea that Nigerians now are to some extent are richer than those in the ’90s. Back then, even a police constable could comfortably feed three children and send them to school. These days, that seems much harder.

So, I think when we talk about “riches,” it’s important to consider not just income or assets, but also the standard of living, cost of living, and overall quality of life. Sometimes, it might look like people have more materially, but the expenses and pressures are so much higher that it doesn’t necessarily translate to being better off.

pocohantas:
- Black tax, financial expectations from one's family and in-laws.
- Living above your means as a family.
- Non-working wife.

Sidechicks is the least of it as I do not consider MOST Nigerian married men attractive.

An average nja woman finds the money of the man attractive...

Hence settling for side chick status.

Hardship dey change taste.

LivingEarthMan:
There are many angles to look at this.

Some people rightly pointed out the issue of age difference. When the age gap between the couple is very wide (like a man being 10 years, 15 years, 20 years etc older) there is a possibility the younger couple (often the wife) will outlive the older. That is not necessarily a bad thing provided the man intentionally delayed marriage in order to develop himself and lay solid foundation for himself and enjoy his life small before getting married.

Someone also pointed out the issue lifestyle and she was right. Most men tend to live recklessly. Drinking alcohol more than they drink water, practically smoking their life away, no medical checkup etc. No one indulges in all these and live long.

The last thing I want to point out is the issue of men rushing into marriage when they never chop beleful. A wise man will not rush into marriage until he is sure he has more than enough to take care of himself and can comfortably take care of wife and children. But fools rush into marriage even while they are still struggling to survive as a bachelor. The rule is, if you bring children into this world you must be ready to cater for them even if you have to sacrifice your life to do so. Because nobody sent you

Words of wisdom..

Focusmind:
As a man, if you don't want to take care of yourself, na you sabi. The pressure and demands of the society are already stacked against us. Don't over do yourself all in the name of providing for your children and unborn kids. Be selfish and indulge yourself on things you like, that may likely prolong your life. Spend that money and get yourself quality fruits all the time, eat healthy, exercise, go out solely and enjoy yourself. Slow down and take it easy. If your body is not strong for any hustle, shelve it and regain your mojo and health before anything. Finally, if you don't have the means to cater for a family, don't marry yet, or better, postpone it till you are better prepared, financially. Financial stress and pressures have ruined many young men in their quest to meet up with the demands of the family.

Words of wisdom

Creamypie:
Italian league they fix match even within last 10 minutes. Keeper might be paid 400 k dols to do wetin cause just one booking. You can bet that man united will get over 28 shots. A foward will be paid handsomely to keep trying shots from outside 18 at will. End of first half man united don get 19 shots already. Wetin come remain

I so much believe in this match fixing thing in this modern era...especially top tier leagues . But no empirical evidence yet.

Dogalmighty17:
My brother I tell you the truth. A broke girl is the worst thing any man can do to himself. The disturbing part of it is when only sex is what most women have to offer, they still aren't good in it. How can someone be fundamentally useless and still you are lying like a log of wood in bed?

The same school the man went, she went. Got the same degree and everything and yet she thinks she is a man's responsibility? Then why did her parents bother sending her to school? I begin to understand the point of view of the Taliban in Afghanistan. If a woman won't be a co-co tributor, why should she go to school?

A man can't be permitted to be broke. Society will call him lazy but a woman can be broke and every one is fine with it because?

The reason Nigerian men die early is our accepted culture of entering relationships with liabilities who can't pull their weight. They shout equality but when it comes to sharing bills they say it is the man's job alone. No wonder they go outside the country and find no one to date them. Because that typical Nigerian female mindset they have makes them struggle with dating dynamics in western societies.

This is so apt...this is where i have a problem with the average Nja Lady. When it comes to enjoyment or benefits we are equal according to them. But when it comes to billing and some kind of tough stuffs they suddenly realized its a mans reponsibility

1Alex:
he should have ZeroWorries as your moniker suggests.

Then on a serious note, Life is just like a football match.

In the first half, both teams come into the game with a game plan they’ve practice: formations, strategies, key players. They play with the strength of their preparation, trying to dominate, score goals, and control the match.

But at halftime, regardless of whether they are leading, trailing, or it's a draw, both teams return to the dressing room. That’s where reflection happens. Coaches analyze the first half; what worked, what didn’t, who underperformed, where the opponents exploited their weaknesses. They restrategize. Sometimes a losing team comes out in the second half with fresh fire and completely turns the game around.

That’s exactly how life is at 40.

Your first half (youth) may not have gone according to plan; mistakes, failures, missed opportunities. but halftime (age 40) is a gift to pause, reflect, and rework your strategy. It’s not the end of the game. In fact, many great goals are scored in the second half. Champions are often made after halftime adjustments.

At 40, a man should not sit back in regret. Instead, he should see it as the second half of his life’s game; time to replan, reinvent, and relaunch. The match is far from over. Many people didn’t even score in the first half but came out blazing in the second.

Hope is not lost. The final whistle is not yet blown. There’s still time to turn the game of life around.

Just like football, it’s the full 90 minutes (and sometimes extra time) that decides the winner, not just the first half.

Words of wisdom

Words of wisdom

Makes lots of sense

AlabiKILLER2023:
They are not


Virtual
na computer they generate the results not real life


Real life game
You dey watch am for TV
You can seen how it's been played

Even some of these real football games are manipulated.

Sport betting money is the new drug money

96ACE:
Scrolling endlessly on social media is a dangerous addiction.

I agree.

Social media addiction is destroying people codely...

Wow its going to be an interesting battle, especially battle of rigging.



Like for ADC share for APC

descarado:
That man reminds me of my late father in law.
There is a level uou will reach in life, you will do anything to have a better life. I blame the school system in nigeria so much.
They dont teach health living and meal plans.

When I moved to the UK with my family, in my second year, the school my kids attend send a letter to me that my kids bmi is very high compared to their age and thus about to be ranked obese. These are the so called healthy looking children in nigerian standard. Children wey dey enjoy. Nobody told me to do about turn.

When I was in medical school, I did a presentation that took me deep into knowing that foods like pizza, burger, chips are for the poorest of the poor in the society. You schooled abroad. It's the poor that eat these foods. When I was working with the community, I entered lots of home and a rich man's food is so diff from a poor man's food here.
But in my dear country, it's rich man and his family that eats pizza and chips every other day. If eating cooked food, orange drink and what have you will replace water.
Our food are the most unbalanced in the whole world. It pains me to see a rich man eating like a poor man.

As far as nutrition and what enters in our mouth is concerned,we score -5. All the sick politicians, celebrities and big man flying abroad for treatment is just cos of what they put in their mouth.


Check Japanese meals. There is a reason why they have one of the highest iq level, live the longest and are hardly fat.


We are what we eat. Period.

This is so insighful. Makes lots of sense

EXPRESSSMAN:
That's not true. That you don't know the road to a place does not mean that the place does not exist. The forex and crypto you suggested are disguised gambling. Bet9ja is even better than them.

The forex and crypto are Bet9ja that put on suits

efemena5050:
try Deepseek and thank me later.....better than Nigerian professors and chat gpt

I will definitely try it.
Does it have free version like chat gBt and Google co pilot?

Stephen0mozzy:
Well, it's not too much, but the fact is that if you're expecting that kind of profit, the business you'll want to start should be a buy-and-sell operation. Something where you can place orders and resell at a profit margin, you understand?

For example, you could order something from the village market during peak market days, bring it to the city, and sell it there. That way you're guaranteed to make profit from whatever you've spent that day.

But if you're hoping to start any business that involves renting a shop or buying shop items to set up the business, then by the time you handle the business setup, you're already eating deep into your capital.

So what I'd advise is to keep pushing whatever brought you that ₦500k and then start doing Local "dropshipping". You can reach out to people selling gadgets, phones, laptops, and stuff, then start advertising on your WhatsApp status. If you're already getting traction, you can also run ads and post on sites like Facebook Marketplace and Groups, jiji. Post the items you have available, then when people want to buy, the capital that would have gone into setting up a physical shop and premises can instead go directly into getting the goods you'll be selling.

Very intelligent advise. This makes a lot of sense.

Thanks alot.

HEAVEN4444:
no drugs are no longer a pandemic. Right now it's prescription pills that people are getting high on. Fentanyl etc. cocaine and heroine is not trending again. The things people get high on now they can buy from pharmacy

Well said

Gambling, sport betting is the new addictive.
The new drug

aviona:
Money talk everywhere you go.
If pesin no strong im mind wella, all these platforms focused on the desire for getting money and more money 💰, go make pesin put hand where im no suppose.
This world is moving too fast on autopilot.

I agree with you

Correct thread

gentlegenius:
HND or BSC... What difference does it make in today's Nigeria?
Except you are pursuing a career in Teaching/Lecturing, I tell you sincerely that You didn't make any mistake by going for HND, neither are you correcting any mistake by doing BSC.
The world has changed and even our country has got worse... There are many master degree holders with no meaningful job. There are PHD holders working for people that has no certificate.
I am a graduate with HND, after 13 years without a job, I had to go and learn a trade. Now I got a job through the trade I learned, not with my certificate.
Guess what...
The guy that trained me(crane operator), is an (academic) illiterate. But he has worked for two big companies... Presently, he earn close to 900k a month.

My greatest mistake in life is going to higher institution... Without learning a good trade earlier in life.

Insightful,

Please what kind of trade did you learn or will you advise one to learn.