dopeJemi:


We are retaining the title this season, I know what mourinho is capable of, thank God we signed pedro


You are welcome dear

Blues for life

Are you a Chelsea fan? From you previous post i think NOT.

Meanwhile it looks like Pogba is coming to the bridge....

Exclusive: Chelsea to make stunning £100m double swoop for Paul Pogba and John Stones

CHELSEA are set to make a stunning £100m double swoop to get their title defence back on track.

The Blues will sign midfield superstar Paul Pogba from Juventus if the Italians are prepared to let him go for £60m.

And Jose Mourinho's champions are also set to splash out £40m in a third attempt to land Everton centre-back John Stones.

With the arrival this week of £21m Pedro from Barcelona and Baba Rahman, from Augsburg, on a similar fee, plus £8m keeper Asmir Begovic and striker Radamel Falcao, Roman Abramovich's spending could hit a massive £150m in this window.

Source- Dailystar

Keky:
Welcome to the family dear, you are gonna love it here.

Thanks!

Chestar5:


Woah, welcome .......

Make yourself comfortable.....
Dont mind trolls, its a frequent occurence

Thanks darling.

I wouldn't even mind the trolls, not to worry.

pamcode:
Welcome! We are delighted to have another Female here. I would like you to steer clear of our rival fans if you dont have stomach for rubbish, trust me except you have that stomach and can return fire for fire, dont try to engage anyone in argument.Stay blessed


*clears throat* this is a warning to all our rivals abeg stay off this o, the one Dopejemi stole from us we have to let go off that but from now on no Rival fan should be caught trying to woo a blue sister to avoid stories that touch the heart o.

Thanks Pamcode, I'm thrilled to be joining you guys on the Chelsea discussion board, I'm looking forward to returning fire for fire with equal measure

Chelseafan1:

Same here, hope we wud get to see u drop more comments here

U myt wanna meet Chester75, d only regular female fan we have here

Yeah i will come in here whenever i have the time...

Oh good to know we have a female blue fan in da house.

hensben:
*checks her PP* you're beautiful.
Queen B(lues).

Thanks for the compliment dear.

hensben:
well, let's wait n see.

Ya!!!

hensben:
but it affect the team at the long run, fatigue and all like against PSG last season.

Off course fatigue sets in, it's a long season and these guys ain't no machine, agreed! Let's hope he'll change this philosophy of using same players throughout the season. But knowing Mou for who he is, he might still stick to it if Chelsea returns to winning ways.

hensben:
rotation? That's mou's weakest point as a coach. He doesn't rotate his squad.

I have to agree with this, but i think Mou does this cuz he believes in the philosophy of "never change a winning team".

Chelseafan1:

Chai!!!....Pedro signs, we have a new angel in our midst.....
Welcome here Vivalavida99

Thanks dear! I'm a diehard Chelsea Fan and I'm delighted we signed Pedro.

KTBFFH !!!!!

Lol, the look on the baby's face is priceless.

Lemme hell you out

Wow! Way to go. Nigerian entrepreneur should spread their tentacles and diversify their business and investments to different sectors and to different countries, instead of the usual oil block business.

I think it should be the other way round, the elders should apologize to Nigerians for creating, aiding, sponsoring the hydra devilish organization that has destroyed the lives of innocent Nigerians and displaced thousands of it's citizens.

Bunch of fools!

Now my question is, does feminism has anything to do with open marriage? Not at all feminism has nothing to do with open marriages. It's about equality in a marriage, work, social environments, and parenting. Marriage is for the purpose of bearing children, which means having sex, which means she's out getting f'd! She's in a position to bear another man's child. How is that equality? It's not! It's her taking advantage of a dipsheet husband who's been brow-beaten into compliance so that she can get her way. She's getting free dinner and sex while you're bearing the cost and responsibility of her maintenance! Your relationship isn't based on any sense of feminism. There's no equality there. She's having her cake and eating it, too! And you're endorsing her lifestyle while she's out playing the field! Either end your sham marriage for the sake of the children, or demand devotion for the same reason because this relationship isn't a relationship. It's roommates with children.

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How does it work? We take turns going out. Because we have small children (ages 6 and 3), one of us stays home. (We don’t like to use babysitters because it gives us a curfew; we’d rather go out unfettered than worry about turning into a pumpkin at midnight.) Going out alone to hooking up with others was an easy transition. It does work both ways and, yes, I too enjoy sexual carte blanche. I just don’t use mine as much as my wife uses hers. What’s important is equality of opportunity, not outcome.

How does it feel? It feels great … mostly. Most of the time, it feels like a mature, responsible way to address our needs and desires within our loving, mutually supportive marriage. It feels very adult, especially because it depends on open, honest communication. We take great pride in all the talking we do. I meet a lot of people who say they’ll never get married because they don’t want to get divorced, and hearing it always makes me sad, because they are cutting themselves off from the possibility of the magic that happens when two people share their lives. People don’t divorce because they can’t stand sharing anymore; they divorce because they feel like they can’t share enough. I never forget that my wife is a whole person unto herself, a complete and dynamic individual, and though we are together, we’re not one. Too often people get trapped in the roles of husband and wife, and a gulf opens between what they think they should be and who they really are. Opening our marriage has allowed us to close that gap so that the person I call “wife” is the same person my wife sees in the mirror. Lying to each other begins with lying to yourself, and now we don’t have to lie to anyone.



There are of course moments of jealousy, resentment, and insecurity. Recently, my wife went on a date and fell asleep at his apartment. I hadn’t heard from her since 10 p.m., she still wasn’t home at 6 a.m. My texts went unanswered and my calls went to voicemail. A tight knot of dread lodged in my stomach as I imagined all kinds of dire scenarios and realized that I not only didn’t know where she was, I had no idea whom she was with. I pictured myself going to the police saying, “I think she’s in Red Hook with a guy named Ryan. I don’t know his last name, but I think he’s a graphic designer?” I’m not sure there’s actually a word for the unique blend of acute terror and unforgivable shame I felt that morning imagining that I’d lost my wife to Ryan, the maybe graphic designer. When she finally texted me at 7:30 a.m., relief coursed through me like morphine. She wrote, “fuckfuckfuckfuck Im soooooo sorry. Fell asleep.” I replied, “Just glad you’re ok, but next time, no radio silence. Remember: you’re not alone.”

What surprises most people is when I tell them it’s not the sex-with-other-men that bothers me. The sex is the easy part, the fun part. It’s what the sex connects to, stands for, reveals that can be difficult. I don’t want her to fall in love with anyone else, and every time she goes on a date, I confront the possibility that she might. It happened at the beginning: The first person she dated after we opened up fell hard in love with her, and my wife, overwhelmed by his ardor, tried to love him back. Watching it happen, I was confused, angry, and terrified that she wanted to leave me. She assured me she didn’t, and whatever feelings she had for him didn’t lessen what she felt for me. Believing her then was the ultimate trust exercise. We survived because eventually I did believe her, and also because I learned to trust myself.


This has been the great challenge of my open marriage: to draw strength from vulnerability. Doing so requires supreme self-confidence. You must first really, truly love yourself; it is the foundation upon which all the other love is built. From everywhere comes the message that what I’m doing is for weaklings, losers, failures, pussies; that if I had money and status, I could keep my wife “in line”; that her self-discovery comes at the expense of my self-esteem. My open marriage has made heavy demands on my ability to silence the voice of doubt in my head, that gnawing feeling of worthlessness. But I find I can meet those demands, and that I am able to build my self-confidence out of nothing more than the basic dignity we all possess. I’m grateful to my wife for pushing us to take this leap, and whatever happens to us in the future I would do it all again. And when she comes home tonight and crawls into bed beside me with a hot story about her date with Paulo, she’ll do it all again, too.

http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/07/what-open-marriage-taught-one-man-about-feminism.html

As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It’s her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she’ll come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won’t explode with anger or seethe with resentment. I’ll tell her it’s a hot story and I’m glad she had fun. It’s hot because she’s excited, and I’m glad because I’m a feminist.


Before my wife started sleeping with other men, I certainly considered myself a feminist, but I really only understood it in the abstract. When I quit working to stay at home with the kids, I began to understand it on a whole new level. I am an economically dependent househusband coping with the withering drudgery of child-rearing. Now that I understand the reality of that situation, I don’t blame women for demanding more for themselves than the life of the housewife.


Still, as a man, I could, if I wanted to, portray what I’m doing as “work,” and thus claim for myself the prestige men traditionally derive from “work.” Whenever I tell someone I stay home with the kids, they invariably say, “Hardest work in the world.” They say this because the only way to account for a man at home with the kids is to say what he’s doing is hard work. But there’s a subtext in the compliment that makes it backhanded: We both know no one ever says it to a woman. Mothers care; fathers provide care. The difference is crucial. Despite my total withdrawal from the economy and the traditional sources of masculine identity, I can still argue I am a provider. I provide care.


In this way, my masculine self-image was stretched but not broken. Diaper bag notwithstanding, I was still a Man. It wasn’t until my wife mentioned one evening that she’d kissed another man and liked it and wanted to do more than kiss next time that I realized how my status as a Man depended on a single fact: that my wife fûcked only me.


That was two years ago, and today we’ve never been happier, more in tune, closer, tighter, stronger. Whatever power I surrendered, I don’t miss. I wouldn’t recommend it for everyone, but I tell everyone it works for us.

Confused and despotic !

Skydiving makes people look like some kind of animals...i don't i want find out which animal i d' look like. - basketmouth.

I doubt if Buhari can probe the aforementioned people. These are the core narcissistic corrupt entities we have in this country. They have a text book narcissistic personality disorder which is define by a pervasive disorder characterized by self-centeredness, greed, lack of empathy, diabolic and exaggerated sense of self importance.

Proudly African


Haters can go do the needful