Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,150,939 members, 7,810,610 topics. Date: Saturday, 27 April 2024 at 12:02 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Vivalavida99's Profile / Vivalavida99's Posts
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) (of 23 pages)
Travel / Re: My Horrible Experience At Murtala Mohammed Airport::::::(see pictures):::::::::: by Vivalavida99(f): 8:01am On Jan 07, 2016 |
1 Like
|
Celebrities / Re: Flavour Pose For The Camera With Juju Music Icon, King Sunny Ade by Vivalavida99(f): 12:14am On Jan 07, 2016 |
Lmao pay attention to the "detail "price of Goat
|
Nairaland / General / Re: Graphic Photo: Pretty Lady Murdered By Desperate Guys For Rituals In PH by Vivalavida99(f): 7:18pm On Dec 30, 2015 |
Evil evil everywhere, what is the world coming to? |
Education / Re: OAU-Ife Lecturer, Foluke Ogunleye Is Dead by Vivalavida99(f): 10:18am On Dec 29, 2015 |
Rip ma |
Romance / Re: Awww…see Love: How Many Women Can Take This? (Photo) by Vivalavida99(f): 2:25pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Nice ans sweet |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Official Chelsea Fan Thread: Champions Of Europe 2021 by Vivalavida99(f): 1:16pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
[b]Cesc Fabregas is reportedly pushing for a move away from Chelsea following an awful start to the 2015-16 campaign. Corriere dello Sport (h/t Jamie Sanderson of Metro) claimed Inter Milan and Juventus are willing to move for the Spain international as early as January but that a summer departure is looking more likely. As Sanderson wrote, there have been reports surfacing suggesting new Blues boss Guus Hiddink will drop Fabregas. Here’s a look at the story, via 101 Great Goals, which was on the front page of the Italian newspaper: The 2015-16 campaign has seen the Chelsea midfielder suffer a major fall from grace, culminating in his withdrawal at half-time during the recent 2-2 draw with Watford. As reported by Matt Law of the Daily Telegraph, after being hauled off by Hiddink against the Hornets, the former Barcelona man has not been included in the squad for Monday’s showdown with Manchester United at Old Trafford. It’s noted in the piece that “Chelsea sources” suggest Fabregas is ill.[/b]
|
Politics / Re: Femi Adesina Wishes 'Wailing Wailers' Merry Christmas, Gets Blasted For It by Vivalavida99(f): 11:15am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Childish, inconsiderate and unprofessional. |
Celebrities / Re: Florence Esu Is Engaged To Her Friend’s Widower Four Months After Death by Vivalavida99(f): 2:17pm On Dec 24, 2015 |
This is a serious matter, a lot of folks are really angry with this guy for engaging the late wife's friend just 4 months after she passed away. Below are more Facebook post on the matter.
|
Politics / Re: BBC Refers To Kenyan Minister As A Nigerian by Vivalavida99(f): 10:16am On Dec 24, 2015 |
allthingsgood: He went to school, i think we should be asking you, if you have a comprehension problem. |
Politics / Re: BBC Refers To Kenyan Minister As A Nigerian by Vivalavida99(f): 10:15am On Dec 24, 2015 |
bonechamberlain: Nice one, that poster is suffering from Delusional psychoses. 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: Army Has Met December Deadline Of Defeating Boko Haram – Lai Mohammed by Vivalavida99(f): 10:17pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
With stuffs like this i wouldn't be wrong if i say APC are bunch of jokers playing with our sentiments. 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Cleavage Baring Outfits At Music Meets Runway 2015 [PICS] by Vivalavida99(f): 7:51pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Hmmm...enough cleavage really, especially the lady on the right in the first photo. 1 Like 1 Share |
Events / Re: Woman Rejects Boyfriend's Proposal Because The Diamond On The Ring Was Too Small by Vivalavida99(f): 5:27pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
Just when you thought you've heard and seen it all and then a more sillier one pops up. Oh my world!!! |
Crime / Re: Immigration Arrests Man With 870 ATM Cards In Kano (photo) by Vivalavida99(f): 7:47am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Jeeezzzz!!! What on earth is he gonna do with those cards? It's much gosh!!! 1 Like |
Family / Nigerian Men And Their Foreign Wives. A Must Read. by Vivalavida99(f): 6:04pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Saw this on a friends wall and i feel i should share. Increasingly, and in greater numbers, Nigerian men are marrying non-Nigerian women. In droves, they are marrying Caribbean nationals, White-Americans and African-Americans. They are marrying, not for the primarily purpose of acquiring “greencard,” but for other noble reasons. They marry, not for the curiosity, but because they are bonded and are determined to make a success of the marriage institution; they are bonded by love and faith and a commitment to one another to live their lives as one in a happy matrimony. The more I notice this phenomenon, the more I wonder about some Nigerian men. I wonder. Culturally, Nigerian men are overbearing, controlling, and paternalistic. They relate to their fathers and mothers differently. They believe it is “a man’s world” and so they have the tendency to relegate women to subservient roles. True, things are changing. True globalization and modernity and westernization are impacting the Nigerian culture. In cities across Nigeria, these changes are noticeable; but over all, the effects of these changes are minimal. A Nigerian may be well read, well educated and well traveled, in the end though, he will succumb to the weight and influence of the Nigerian culture. We have a society where anthropological and sociological behaviors are still paramount. For instance, a great many Nigerians still practice levirate and sororate marriage, and they also engage in polygyny, bridewealth, and matrilocal and patrilocal living arrangements. And in spite of westernization, Nigerians are still not comfortable with public display of affection, i.e. kissing and verbal declaration of love; and neither are they comfortable with open and public discussions of abortion, sex and exotic sex acts. That Nigerians are not comfortable with such public declarations and have not completely embraced westernization is due, to a large extent, on the hold the traditional African culture has on the vast majority of the populace. At the core of every Nigerian, and indeed every African, is the thumbprint, the umbilical cord of their ancestors. This non-public declaration and display of love and affection is not unique to Nigerians living in Nigeria. No! The vast majority of Nigerians living in the United States are loath to engage in such practices, too. Furthermore, most Nigerians do not engage in endearing practices like candlelight dinners, flower giving, romantic walk by the lake or park, or even running the bath for their wives or lovers. It would surprise most westerners to know that a typical Nigerian father or mother would rarely, if ever, utter affectionate or confidence-building words like “I love you…” to their children; yet, the children have no doubt that their parents love them. Children are the crowing glory of any respectable Nigerian family. Haven digressed a bit, I return to the issue of Nigerian men and their foreign wives. I am stunned, perplexed, taken aback by the transformation Nigerian men, married to non-Nigerian women, have gone through in the United States (and perhaps all over the Western world). My goodness, here are a group of macho men, fiercely independent, with a burgeoning sense of entitlement who thinks the world belongs to them; and that women are made to be at their beck-and-call. Here they are; they have suddenly or gradually gone soft and sensitive and romantic and wide-eyed. How did these groups of men become “oh baby, oh baby” kind of guys? How did they become “yes honey, yes sweetheart, yes darling” kind of fellas? What has happened to them? What got to their hearts and soul? How were they able to adjust to living under a different set of rules and matrimonial conventions? How is it that a breed of men married to their fellow countrywomen would behave in a given and predictable manner; but then adjust to a different matrimonial lifestyle when married to foreigners? When they are with the Nigerian women, these men are all about control and power and they expect their wives to cook and clean and raise babies and provide sex on demand; but with the foreign wives, their balls shrink! Such men live by schedule. They have daily and weekly schedule of when to do the laundry and the dishes; of whose turn it is to empty the thrash; and of whose turn it is to sweep and mop the floor; and of when to eat out and cook at home. These men — especially if married to White women — feel lucky and grateful and mightily blessed. These men meet and exceed all matrimonial expectations; but would rubbish and dominate their Nigerian women. What is it about a White woman that makes the Nigerian male lose his senses? Could it be because of their skin color and their supposed sensuality and submissive attitude in bed? Could it be because they engage in all kinds of mind-altering sexual acts that, understandably, the Nigerian woman would NOT engage in? Or perhaps it has to do with the warped mentality of some Nigerian men who thinks everything white is good and desirable and so must be had! Why are Nigerian men afraid to turn control over to their Nigerian wives? Why are they averse to showing their sensitive side? Why the need to control and dominate? Why are Nigerian men reluctant to take their wives on a romantic walk to the parks and beaches, buy roses and cards? Why the need to bottle up their romantic side? Why have they refused to do for their Nigerian wives what they would heartily do for non-Nigerian women? After all, Nigerian women, unlike their foreign counterparts usually do not demand to be co-captains of the house. They usually do not demand for more than is earthly possible. And way more than their foreign counterparts they understand what it means to be a wife and a partner; they understand what it means to be part of the extended family. When it comes to matters of life, love and death, Nigerian women have stood by their husbands. They are there during the passing of their in-laws; they give succor in times of crisis. These women understand what the African family is all about. But not much can be said about non-Nigerian wives who may not even find it necessary to visit or attend marriage or burial ceremonies in their husbands’ ancestral homes. For non-Nigerian wives, life begins and ends in American. For these women, marriage is not about marrying into another family; it is about “us and us alone.” And in fact, they would rather you not bother them with stories about your extended families and the need for the monthly or quarterly remittances. Yes, some of us can’t help with whom we fall in love; but to the extent that one can, I would rather a Nigerian. A Nigerian woman is not likely to throw you out of your home; she is not likely to call the cops on you based on flimsy reasons; she is not likely to drag you through the judicial system; she is not likely to throw the divorce papers at you at the slightest provocation; she is not likely to turn her backs at you in times of financial difficulties and other crises. In order words: Nigerian women are likely to stay and be loving and generous and supportive for the long haul! Again and again and again, they have proven that of all God’s creations, they are the very best. And indeed, they are! 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Celebrities / Re: Munachi Abii Admits She Loves The Attention She Receives From Nairaland.com by Vivalavida99(f): 7:17pm On Dec 21, 2015 |
Muna, muna epitome of beauty #hatersStayOff |
Crime / Re: SHOCKING PHOTOS: UNIPORT Student Allegedly Killed By Police Van Driving One-way by Vivalavida99(f): 3:03pm On Dec 21, 2015 |
Lawless society, police vans and all drives one way. May God help that nation. |
Fashion / Re: Miss Nigeria-Universe National Costume Causes Outrage On Twitter by Vivalavida99(f): 12:36pm On Dec 21, 2015 |
Politics / Re: Patience And Goodluck Jonathan After Church Service In Bayelsa (pic) by Vivalavida99(f): 12:08pm On Dec 21, 2015 |
Okaka27: Abhorrent scum |
Politics / Re: Patience And Goodluck Jonathan After Church Service In Bayelsa (pic) by Vivalavida99(f): 6:24pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
Unsad: Nope you wrong, I'm from Tahiti 37 Likes 2 Shares |
Politics / Re: Patience And Goodluck Jonathan After Church Service In Bayelsa (pic) by Vivalavida99(f): 6:12pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
Unsad: Have you finished? Tell your president to attend to pressing national issues bedeviling the country. His silence is alarming. 213 Likes 16 Shares |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Official Chelsea Fan Thread: Champions Of Europe 2021 by Vivalavida99(f): 11:04pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
hensben: I concur. 1 Like |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Official Chelsea Fan Thread: Champions Of Europe 2021 by Vivalavida99(f): 7:00pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
Haven't seen Chelsea played with such attacking flair for some time, one may think Mourinho's defensive philosophy has held them back. Now is the time to move on and give Guus all the support we can give. Remember NO ONE IS BIGGER THAN THE CLUB 2 Likes |
Crime / Re: Headless Body Found At A Prayer Centre In Akure. Graphics Photo. by Vivalavida99(f): 10:45pm On Dec 18, 2015 |
The world is going to hell in a hand basket. |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Official Chelsea Fan Thread: Champions Of Europe 2021 by Vivalavida99(f): 4:42pm On Dec 17, 2015 |
The only loser in the long term are Chelsea FC. There are a lot of players in that dressing room that need to take a long hard look in the mirror. 1 Like 1 Share |
Politics / Re: Pic, See What Femi Adesina Tweet(carelessness Or What?) by Vivalavida99(f): 8:20pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Lol |
Celebrities / Re: Very H0t Bathroom Selfie Naija Twitter User Shares N Aked Photos In Bath Tub by Vivalavida99(f): 8:14pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Humm... |
Politics / Re: Victims Of Shitte & Army Clash Robbed (Pics) by Vivalavida99(f): 9:15am On Dec 14, 2015 |
Shameless lot stealing from the dead. Despicable!!! 1 Like |
Autos / Re: As Seen Along Badagry Expressway (photos) by Vivalavida99(f): 9:02am On Dec 14, 2015 |
Politics / Re: Photos Of Raymond Dokpesi Leaving EFCC Detention After Securing Bail by Vivalavida99(f): 10:55am On Dec 03, 2015 |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) (of 23 pages)
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 45 |