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the probabiliy that you are pregnant is very low, if your story is the whole truth, please since you are scared go do a pregnancy test, to erase your fears, if it comed out positive, tell your parents, theey are your best guardian,

why cant a woman fall in love with a married man?, the issue here is to avoid the temptation of dating him from the beginning if you are sure you would be hooked, or make sure you guide your heart selfishly so as not to love him, most cases it is not advisable to date married men, you might just hurt yourself, or hurt the man or his wife, certainly somebody could be hurt.

for a man,
when you start earning a living.
for a woman
after puberty,

na wa 4 you o!, good one ,

loriann:
been to alot of places and always changing schools too been to benin,sapele warri,lagos,ph,okija ,onitsha,jos,makurdi.jalingo,asaba,ilorin,zaria,minna,agbor,ughelli,ibadan,oshogbo.ife.ago-iwoye its really nice to go places but i prefer jos because of the life there and the weather thats just it.

what took to you to Zaria?
i live in Warri, i ve been to Benin, Sapele, Ughelli, Asaba, Onitsha, Enugu, port-harcoat, Aba, kaduna, Zaria, Makurdi, lagos, Abeokuta,Abuja, , ithats about all,

guys i can't believe that a man can be raped, how would he get a hard on if he is not interested?, unlike women she does not have to be wet, most men would want to be 'raped', it is one of my adolescent fantasies to be raped by like 4 women, that is heaven

i also paid bride price, though these days it is just tradition,the pride price cannot even buy a bottle of coke

@ windywendy
i thought that was my last post diected to you,
get my point, i agree times are changing, women now make money and can fend for themselves without the support of men today, this is why you can have these opinions, before the advent of modernity women had no good inheritace from their fathers to fend for themselves, and at the beginning of modernity, they were initially not allowed to work, and earn an independent living, this was what men took advantage of maybe?,

modernity also brought the use of contraceptives, abortion, and DNA test, a woman that cheats in days of old suffered more from their actions than the men, for reasons like
their children may be rejected by their husband, thus makig the children bastards, and without family and inheritance, this might have its disadvantage to women, but then there were more stable marriages, these days there are more broken marriages, divorces everyday, and single parenthood is increasing,

the knight in chess is equal to the bishop, but they function differently, this deal is not equal the way you reason it, in most traditions the men formally ask the parents of the bride for her hand in marriage, in my own case my whole family had to kneel down to ask for my wifes hand in marriage, her family did not kneel down to beg for my own hand in marriage, is that equal? or balanced,

@ bigsis
why do women discreetly cheat?, why do they cheat?

you stubborn sha, i have not said men should be polygamous, or sleep with their maids, i just dont see it right your putting a man and a woman on an equal scale, it is not right,, dont say if i do it, he must be able to do it, men and women are different, men have their challenges in life diffferent from a womans challenges, it is men that had a greater problem forgiving a wife that cheated on him because of his ego,, It has always been easier for women to forgive men on matters like this, Aman must treat his wife like a queen, for you are now one flesh, and body, any thing you do to your wife you do to yourself, and it is also good to guide your emotions, as a man, so no need to have mistresses that will pull you away from your home, thus destroying it, though men are more physical on issues of sex, than emotional, while most cases a woman is emotional involved first before enjoying sex,

any way a man should honour his wife with his body, though this means you are not compelled, you chose and agreed to honour her, while she swore complete fidelity to you,
good night i actually enjoyed chatting with you, you strike me as an intelligent, smart person, hope no be so yu de argue face to face, you no de greeeeee,

@ windywendy
i did not say women did not divorce their husbands in biblical times, i only said they did not divorce their husbands just for the excuse that  their husbands had mistresses.
that a man had a mistress was never a good excuse for a woman to divorce him. i completely support a woman divorcing a woman beater, or a man that just cannot provide for her and her children and is not trying to,
please read Mark 10 and Mathew 19 more carefully
i quote'Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife [/i]for just any reason?, , they said to him(Jesus) 'why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce and to put her [i][/i]away?, He said to them Moses because ot the hardness of your hearts permitted you to[b] divorce your wives[i],
there are some verses in the bible that are directed only to men, some to women,some to children and some to everybody.
i wonder why solomons first wife did not divorce him,or is there any account in the bible or in any other cultures or religions that a woman had 700husbands and 300 'nakkers', at the same time? please always careful read what i post, before replying,

windywendy:
@waffistyle:

Submission has absolutely NOTHING to do with infidelity. The bible does not command a woman to submit to a husband who commits adultery, infact that is the ONLY basis that Jesus Christ allows for divorce in the bible!! That fact alone should tell you that FAITHFULNESS IS A PRE-CONDITION FOR MARRIAGE!! .

Jesus Christ was talking to men, the message was directed to men, it was unheard of in those days even in biblical times of women divorcing men because they also had mistresses, it was men taking advantage of the slightest excuse to divorce their wifes in order to marry another that Christ was talking against, not women divorcing men, 

@ windywendy
i did not say men should cheat on their wifes, i only said it was not a pre-condition for marriage most times, yes you are right women that cheat on their husbands are increasing daily, and the gap is getting narrow, while divorce cases are increasing, the traditional family uinit is getting destroyed, more men are not getting married, now it is women that go after men, i agree modernity brought about women, wanting to be like men. have equal rights as men, while solving some problems it is creating other more serious problems, every good also has its disadvantages, today because women can earn just as high if not higher than their husbands some times, SUBMISSION becomes a problem,they tend to want to set the rules and be in charge, this then brings a crack, then divorce, Do you understand the word SUBMISSION?, Or did the bible say men should also submit to their wifes?,
my aim is to advice the woman who caught her husband with her housemaid not to pack out of her husbands house, which is not good for her, she should submit 100% to him, which would build a stronger love in the man for her,

it is today we hear of women leaving their husbands because he is unfaithful, that was unheard of 50years ago, today we also hear strongly of homosexuality and lesbianism, which was not common or the indulgers hid themselves in shame in the past, look the times we live in now anything goes, that is why Women are now the ones proposing to men for marriage,

@windywendy
i am happily married, and i would never by HIS GRACE sleep with my housemaid, my wife is a medical doctor, she is also not a village girl and might not completely agree with my views, but it remains the painful truth. please do a study the sex life of men that have been married for 3years, if they would be truthful at least 75% must have had extra-marital sex, and for the women, if they would be truthful, maybe less than 25%.
on my wedding day, i careful studied the vows, it was only the bride that was made to vow complete fidelity, which means complete loyalty, expecially as it concerns conjugal rights. in the case of the groom he vowed to wed, and honour his wife with his body and worldly goods. this means in exchange for financial security and social protection for the woman and her children the man demands complete fidelity.he would also be faithful, but not a condition for the union, that is why the word HONOUR was used. fidelity from the woman is the the no. 1 condition for most men to marry a woman, so they dont father bastards from other men,
the ability to provide for the home, is the no1 condition for most women to marry a man,
these are the basic agreements to most marriages.
the bible says a man that cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel, the holy book did not say women.
so what do you think the man expects in return when he provides for his family? complete fidelity and loyalty

i can continue on and on, you no de give up haba

, PRIDE.that is the the point, and that is why today there more divorce cases

my statement wasnt directed to Dblock, i was just stating my comment to the topic

look, i see anybody who lives outside Nigeria. maybe in Europe or America and sees himself better than those he left behind in Nigeria as stupid, very stupid,

Pain:
How Gullible.

As 4 Izo & Co. I wouldnt bother about U. The world must always have its share of people like U.
Imagine, Would Wonders ever End.? Talk about new definition and Standards of ''Courage''.

It goes to tell the kind of role models some of us adopt.
Hics . Fancy that?

For Your Info. Truth Bitter Info. GTB Has No Such ''Anuli'' On Its Payroll. Wonder Who That Maybe. Perhaps A Fired. Janitor.

Well. Fiction Sells.

Is your real name Pain?, nobody expects to see any name like Anuli on GTB bANK STAFF list, na wa for una thinking o!

stupidity,

Bolarge:
As with practically every occult(and the totality of satan's devices at that)they present a harmless, social,maybe even altruistic front but in reality are devilish and guarantee the perdition prescribed for the enemies of GOD,angelic and human.
Majority of the members end up hating themselves for ever joining and would do anything to rescind the decision to join and reverse the covenants made at the initiation rites but unfortunately have to cower under the threats,intimidations and sanctions such action would elicit from their master(the devil) and their"brothers".
Anyone with an iota of sense and morality will flee this satanic contraption.

writers for Ogboni Fraternity, writing with knowledge, writers against Ogboni fraternity not substantiating facts or reasons for their fears,



please who do you know in this fraternity that drinks blood? or that is evil?, we are tempted to always condemn what we dont know or understand, when the pharisees could not understand Jesus Christ, and his teachings and miracles, they said he was possesed by an evil spirit , before you begin to condemn do your research well, ignorance is the twin brother of fear, they always go together.

marry him so far, he is educated, and hardworking, , you dont know tommorrow

even in the animal kingdom, among mamals the males dominate their environment, and in some cases kill themselves, in order to control the females, the females dont fight to control the men?,

you want to trust a man with a woman??Is like trusting a Cat with Fish, i believe you live in Saudi, what is paradise to moslems? i was told that it is a place where man is married to 70 virgins, , if i am wrong please correct me, A man values power and authority, a woman values dignity and Pride, A typical man does not see himself loosing power or authirity by sleeping with another woman, in fact in those days the more women you have in your harem the more powerful you seem, and even nowadays sometimes depending on the women it is an ego trip, the society would not look down on him, a typical woman feels she wouls loose her self pride and dignity if she becomes an easy lay, i used the word typical because there are exceptions to this theory in the modern world of today, and this is one of the reasons there are a lot of divorce cases, and other marital problems in the world today

@ Mukina2
i dont know if you are married,marriage is not a bed of roses, there must be ups and downs, you dont rush into it, and rush out at the slightest excuse, the man is her HUSBAND, and they swore to be together for better and for worse, for richer and poorer, in good health and in sickness , dont you feel the man needs help!!!!!and the wife is the best person to help him, he is obviously not thinking well, or there is a problem with her, they have to check themselves
i still stand on my advice, Go report him to his parents, or elder ones, and hear them, or you could put your emotions to check and talk about it with him, he should be her best friend, he should be able to tell her almost everything about himself,
she then could understand the problem, there is no sense in been rash and pack out of the house, or begin to fight the maid, or do something more stupid
the problem could be her!!! if she is not the problem then maybe she did not know her man well enough before marriage,