used to think, there is no such thing as a stupid question. After readin this topic, i change my mind. [b][/b],

, i tire for the women for this thread, what is marriage witout trust?, submission is the first quality woman must have, if she cant submit to the man, then he is not worth been her husband,

my wife certainly dos not hide her pay checks from me, and she most cases confides in me before spending it, she also is involved in my spending, as 90% of my spending is for her and my kids, so no big deal giving your HUSBAND your paycheck if he is your HUSBAND

the bros brain de connect, the guy de reason

, this is beautiful, makes sense

, i have been away for a while, i am in agreement with the post, and have thought of this before, is this telepathy!, you are a thinker, you now know why there are more divorces and unhappy marriages these days, women envy men, and forget their strengths, a man is actually a real womans puppet,if she knows how to use her feminnine stregth, theyactually are the stronger one, men are only stronger physically, and our creator made women stronger emotionally and spiritually. if a man gets a real woman by his side, the sky is too close for him to surpass, a woman stabilizes a man, but these days they dis-stabilize the man, because they want to take the mans role of outward authority and control, forgeting their feminine stregth, to control them from behind with feminine skills,

when i was in the Uni, there was this girl i was chasin, and she seemed hard to get, for 3 months when i was playing the cool, gentleman, i got angry one night and yelled at her to leave my car and get out, after a week i visited her in her room 9pm, in the night to apologise, that NIGHT was the night, love making at its peak, that was the end

is marriage bondage, man and wife must not go everywhere together, no man likes been caged, or feel he is caged, if he feels like clubbing with his nfriends, what is the big deal!, and if he chooses to have a mistress can the wife really stop him, clubbing or no clubbing,

this is good, DECEMBER 21, 07033017370, Birthday mates should call, we could organize something

my little advice is that life itself is a risk, so dont be scared of risks, check yourself, do you think he really still loves you?, what is he really scared of?, if the answer to the first question is yes, and he his scared of his future and the future of his unborn children and wants to make sure he is financially stable enough to be a responsible father.  The solution is to first apply the body language, your behaviour should speak for you, communication sometimes is better through body language and action, let him see through your behaviour that you are unhappy, if he loves you he must be curious on why you are unhappy, , then tell him your mind rough, and that if he wants you he has to do something at least an engagemnet or else you are quiting!!!, then watch his reaction, if he is not bothered then he was never worth it, , move on, if he is bothered, he will certainly act towards the direction you want him to , towards the engagement,

4 Play:

You can't advice the girl to just dump the man because of his reluctance to commit.Most Nigerian men in their 20s are reluctant to commit.So its not like as if their is a massive pool of men out there waiting to make commitments to her when she leaves him

i think i agree with this statement by 4play, how many men in their 20s want to commit themselves,?, certainly less than 5%

i think you are less intelligent than you wife.though i also think there is more to it, as all you said is not enough for a divorce,
do either of
1. throw away your pride and go to the extreme in action to prove you are sorry, like kneeling down begging her in a public park, or her office, or refuse to leave her presence, until she forgives you, apply some desperation in action and also masculine pcyc, prove to her you are completely crazy about her,

2. or just ignore her completely as if nothing is happening and watch her, not try to prove anything,, just ignore as if you dont care, as if you dont love her at all,

if she is a simple minded easy going girl pick alternative 1

if she is simple but might want to be a little bit difficult, then pick alternative 1, for sometime,if it does it work then go the the other extreme of alterrnative2

3. involve her friends and people she respects around to help

alternative 3 is the last option, most cases bringing in 3rd parties is not good on the long run,

so try alternative1,first then alternative 2, and lastly alternative3 ,

you will certainly succeed,

mikun:

I do take money from my husband's wallet or car when I need cash and I don't want to go to the cash point. He always has cash on him. I tell him sometimes and other times I forget.

In my home everyting is completely joint . So basically for those saying it is stealing that means I am stealing from myself.

yes so, you are honest, and have a good husband, haba, how can a man call his wife a thief?, God forbid, if your wife steals from you, as in intentional stealing, then there is a BIG BIG problem!!!She is certainly not your wife, maybe married you for your money, or maybe you de set blow take sleep(stingy),

you and your wife are one flesh, never you allow money or material things come inbetween you and your wife, everything you have is hers, your concern should be more of her been prudent, and maybe advise her that if it is not an urgent matter, it is best she informs you first, since she might not be sure of the plans you have for the money.

my best car for instance is driven by my wife,i am happy, i drive the older and smaller one, she is my wife, that is why i am her husband, every thing i have is for us, and she controls the better half of it, she does not neccessary need to take permission from me to use, or take anything that is mine, i also trust her sense of judgement, i have no fears in those issues at all,

,,,,,,,,,,,,;;;;;;;;;;;;;;i agree wit you bigb1

wetin de happen for this thread?,

jbabylove,

omo dudu,

wetin de happen, for here, ?

monalysa da lippy

i would not respect a full adult guy, that is a virgin, i would see him as a slacker, like man wen no fit chase woman,, i would actually see him as weak!!!! but for a girl i would see her as STRONG, for saying NO to all the wolfs that tried attacking,

i will respect expecially if she is an adult, that is not coaxed to be a virgin, it indicates high level discipline,

it is common and good to spend time, that could be a weekend, Friday to Sunday, with a Fiance, or a serious date, you dont start the relationship by spending nights, you grow to that level, as his committment increases, and the relationship gets stronger, you have to know yourselves, mariage is a life time matter, i de inside marriage, so i can advise.

Full cohabitation is bad, dont pack your things to live fully in a boy friends house,

term

tonsur

Mr. Donald Duke was my first Choice, but unfortunately he was forced to step down, based on Babas instructions, Baba everyday is revealing his "wayo" tendencies, common in Yorubas, it is very difficult to see a Yoruba that stands strong on his words, this man is skilled in deceit, and thinks he is smarter than everybody else,

His fight aginst Atiku, and the way he has been going about it, with high disregard for our constititution, is horrible,and a shame, it actually makes me to now want Atiku to be President, wetin sef?

Baba has been too personal with his fight to make sure Atiku does not become President, is Nigeria his personal property?, it is our collective decision to chose who governs us, and not his personal decision.

then why Yar adua?, he needs a puppet, he can control,

he actually thinks we are all fools,



ATIKU FOR PRESIDENT, HE IS MY NEW MAN[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font][color=#990000][/color]

nope,

ever, received a head,(Mouth Gig) while driving in the evening?

i am maried and do operate an account jointly with my wife, though i deposit most of the money there anyway, it is called our family domestic account to cater for all domestic matters, and also to save for any domestic project of mutual interest,

pusillanimous,
vapi