PopQueenAgency:


If you love her, e go hard you.

It wouldn't be hard, even with love.

PopQueenAgency:


Oga, get ready for forgive and forget once e happen. You go hear "E get one guy wey im brother sell im company and e no vex or do am anything. E still buy car last Christmas for dat im brother,"

Then your wife go begin "harass" you again.

Then I have every right to resist the harassment and I will be justified.

PopQueenAgency:


The boy go chew the bar.

If the boy chop the money, the sister, my wife, can't come and harass me for a car anymore.

That's her problem, going forward.

forgiveness:


You said it's your position hence not in accordance with the law of the Federal republic of Nigeria.

Oga, tell us about the law that you refer now. Abi that one is difficult ni?

janejjjjj5000:
I hired a househelp in October. She is 34 years old. She tells me she wants to get married and that she is not getting any younger.

My mum is around now on a visit and when she heard her saying it, my mum told me to send her away so she will not snatch my husband.

My mum said that people like that when they get too desperate can come up with all kinds of ideas.

I trust my husband but my mum's words have been playing in my head.

I would appreciate your advice.

Thank you.

Disengage her and please pay her one month additional wage.

Freethought:
My wife loves the comfort that comes with a car(i mean, who wouldn't) , she talks about it everytime. Last year, i made some savings and decided to get a car buh unfortunately, with the help of a trusted mechanic, i made a bad buy which i sold at a loss shortly after i bought it.

This morning , my wife told me her younger brother wants to get her a car and she told him she has 1.5 million naira ready (she was asked dou). The guy promised to get the car for her this weekend as long as the 1.5 million is readily available.

Now my issue is, this 1.5 million she told her brother she has is the money i got from the sale of my bad purchased car. The boy did not know the source of the money and probably think his sister actually have 1.5m to add to what he has to get the car.

I really do not know what to do rn cos i know getting the car will make her very happy and i do not want to hinder that, but I'm not really comfortable with the whole arrangement. I really don't know what to do.

The car he wants to get, according to my wife is valued at 5m.

Don't worry brother, tell her to get her brother's account details for you and transfer the 1.5million naira to her brother, from your account, so he can get the 5 million naira car for your wife.

I understand your fears but it is fine. Never mind.

Iamjobless:
Pls pardon all errors.

I will try and keep this short, I have an aunty who works with one of the FG parastatals but she is contemplating on resigning. Reasons being:
1) the transport fare takes more than 50% of her monthly earnings as the distance between her house and workplace is far (ikorodu to CMS)
2) due to the distance she does not have the time to take care of her children as she has to leave very early and return late at night.

Ever since she told me, I tried to convince her to just hold on as i strongly believe that the minimum payment will be reviewed soon which will address the issue of salary but she stated that my solution does not address the other challenge of negligence of children.

Please i need advice on what she can do to get to work faster amd return home faster

Also, the husband is a business man that owns a business in the CMS area, I will be in the comments.

What is her husband's position on the matter. Let us know if her husband is open to relocate the family to CMS area.

forgiveness:


The bolded is clear. It's your position not that of the law of the federal republic of Nigeria.

Tell us about the law of the federal republic of Nigeria concerning this issue of conflict of interest.

Mind you, you must quote, copy/paste or reference the law your refer so we can check.

Thank you.

forgiveness:


Are interpreting what the said or you're following your own opinion?

Is my position confusing to you. Point out the part that you don't understand about my statement so that I can explain to you.

forgiveness:


Are you people devoid of understanding? Which conflict?

So, the wife has lost her right to do business because her husband is a minister?

The law says you must resign your job to take appointment as a Minister. Did he? Yes

Then 2what are you looking for?

I will be honest with you, the person that opined that it is conflict of interest is very correct.

The minister, husband, is on the federal executive council that approves such contracts. He was part of the executive council meeting where the contract was approved.

His wife being on the board of directors of that company implies a conflict of interest. The ideal thing is for him to prevent companies where he and his wife are directors from bidding for contracts with FGN pending his service to the nation as a minister. That is the ideal and proper thing to do.

The company can do private sector business and contracts while the wife is on the board as a director of the company.

DeLaRue:
Whichever way you look at the facts of this case, it is difficult to see how the Minister can continue in his present role.

It was reported that he was invited to Aso Rock yesterday.

If that is true, and we haven't heard anything from Aso Rock about the outcome of the meeting, it may well be that they're trying to find a soft landing for him.

But it is difficult to see how any soft landing would not damage this government's reputation.

The Minister got himself into this situation unfortunately and only has himself to blame.

The President should prioritise his government's standing over saving the ass of any Minister that misbehaves, however well the Minister may have performed.

At the very least, the Minister should refund all monies collected under the contract. He should then be demoted to a junior Minister in another Ministry. Even this will still damage the government's reputation immensely, but it would be worse if the government came out with a fudge that keeps him in place as a senior Minister.

If it can be established that Tunji Ojo and his wife resigned as director of the company when he became a house of representatives member and there has been a change of directors filed with CAC.

I can excuse him. Though I know that he is in that company in proxy and must have been manipulating things in favor of that company while in govt.

However, he needs to distance that company from government contracts going forward.

I opine that he should retain his job especially because I see corruption fighting back at him in his case. The monumental and unprecedented development of a seamless system to acquire and renew passport without having to bribe some touts and Nigerian Immigrantion staff is definitely annoying some people.

None of Nigerian politicians can be certified a saint; they all have skeletons in their cupboards.

kelvinakproko:
Thank You Nairalanders for the counsel offered on my previous thread (link below).
So yesterday I threatened to quit the relationship if she doesn't tell the truth about the movement I spoke about in detail in the previous thread. She confessed that there's been a sugar daddy (he already has a wife). She said she didn't know what came over her. She had spent a whole week before with him some months earlier unknowing to me before the last movement that made me suspect something wasn't fine.

Now I guess where the financial support was coming from then. They both discuss me and the sugar daddy even give her tips on how to cover up after meeting him. From the chats she showed me, the sugar daddy always ask after me. She said he's been asking her out before we even began the relationship and that it was difficult for her to stop. From the chats she showed me, she had severally told the man that she wants to stop and she ain't cool with the games anymore that she loves her boyfriend.

I also discovered that since the day I suspected her movement, she hasn't been seeing him anymore and evidences from their chat thereafter supports that. She told him her guy is already suspecting her and that she doesn't want to lose her relationship because of several support or help he has given her in the past.

It's been hard to swallow the revelation but she's been crying since yesterday that I should forgive her that she's stopped everything with the man. She called the man that she's already told me about everything that's been going on. And she told him he's disconnecting from him in anyway and she blocked him on all communication channels she has with him.

I couldn't sleep last night. I really want to end it all up despite the fact that there's evidence she stopped the whole thing with the man after I suspected her movement. What do you think I should do?

Link To Previous Thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7961986/forgive-when-she-hasnt-said

Forgive her this time and tag along with her in the relationship but be very observant and smart in dealing with her going forward.

cococandy:


You’re saying wanting a block button is anti male?

Never mind, I guess he didn't know you have changed your ways; no more into misandry.

Jackie999:
This is the best comment. I appreciate your input.

To answer your questions.
- I am not missing him physically but definitely thinking about him.
- I've always put myself first and thus built a good life for myself but this time I thought compromising would've served me well. Tbh, it's not with it.

He has 3 children. I cannot even imagine explaining that to my parents. I've been a perfect daughter and I guess this relationship is not worth tarnishing my reputation over. It's very shameful to me (privately) to love a man who I know I won't ever completely call my own. I love his kids, we support them etc but there's nothing I can do except leave and choose my future

Thanks

Babe, let that man go forever. Don't even maintain a friendship with him so you don't get tempted to go back to the relationship.

There are some other men for you out there. He is married and unwilling to let go of his marriage. If he tells you that he will divorce his wife, he must be trying to cajole or deceive you. He was your di..ck, definitely not your husband.

You haven't done anything wrong, you were only being a woman in love and following your heart but it is time to stop, think deeply, terminate the unfaithful relationship and move on. Keep being a loving, beautiful and great soul.

HardBishop:


you said our relationship progressed positively in that direction ✌️✌️
did he bleep you or not? I want to check something

Why ask the obvious?

mariahAngel:
Pic. 2 Efo riro soup

Most interesting, for me, amongst the soup that you displayed.

motymop:
Fake story.

One of the lies they always tell Nigerian men abroad is that your wife can just throw you out of the house.

Your wife can't throw you out of the house no unless she obtained an occupation order from the court

Another lie is that, if you are caught cheating, your wife can take half of your property.

Most of these lies is to make Nigerian men loyal abroad.

Oga, if the spouse are in heated argument and police is called in, police will throw the man out for the night and give the wife the opportunity to file an occupation order,
or whatever against the husband. Especially considering that children are involved.

motymop:


I am not against anyone going abroad.

I am actually replying you to counter your lies.

Nigeria is not a perfect place but people are also having a better life here.

Some workers are traveling abroad because they are misinformed, a bank manager leaves his job for abroad, only to come abroad and stay at the bottom of the food chain, he starts regretting and then wishes to come back to Nigeria but it is too late because he has resign from his or her job and have to start all over again.

With regards to pension schemes in Nigeria, you obviously don't know anything about it, how is it skewed in favour of the government, how?

The laws says, all employers must deduct some percentage from their employee salaries and remit to the employee PFA of their choice, then how is it in favour of the government, PFA are private firms not government entities.

Your pension isn't meant for business in your youthful days, it is meant for your retirement and you can actually withdraw some percentage of it if you lose your job.

In Nigeria, the law says a worker can access 25 per cent of the savings in his RSA, if he loses his job and does not get another after four months.

Health insurance are cheap in Nigeria, in the US, medical care is expensive, in Europe it is free but the waiting period is hell, in Nigeria,accessing healthcare is cheap and fast. During covid, lot of Nigerians abroad came back home for treatment, not only covid, many Nigerian living abroad do come back home to receive medical care, ivf is booming in Nigeria because it is expensive abroad.

On the issue of menial workers, the work rate are low and many menial workers can't afford a better life like their counterpart in Nigeria. Many menial workers living abroad have to work over time to make something tangible,also their salaries can't subtain them if they have a partner that is why they need their spouse to work and share the bills which most times bring conflict.

In the western world, if a man salary is enough to take care of the family, in many cases you don't see the wife working, she becomes a full time house wife, many Nigerians living abroad don't fall under that category,only a few do, infact for menial job workers abroad, it is hard. That is why they need a 2 income home.

In Nigeria, it is possible, a man can take care of his family with his income and the wife don't need to work.

And once again, I am not discouraging anyone from going abroad.

I have no time to further waste with you on this topic.

My position about NHF and pension is too complicated for you to understand and I get it. There is no point informing you any further.

But note that life is influenced strongly by the value we add to life and wealth we are able to create for ourselves and the society.

The opportunities to create wealth for ourselves are abound and readily available for smart and or hard workers in Europe, USA, Canada, Australia etc than in Nigeria where there is no equal opportunity and the politicians, elites and wealthy prefer to improve their wealth and power at the expense of the average and poor.

Less I forget, the average income earning family or persons in Nigeria are gone with the 1990s. It is either you are rich or poor now in Nigeria.

FreeStuffsNG:
He trusted him to do the job. This is one of the downside reported about President Buhari. When he gives you job, he trusts you to do the job. He respects you so much that he will never intervene personally in your job. I am sure there's a reason why he withheld his approval from Emefiele, he must have gotten this security report but firing Emefiele at that time was not a good optics to his govt, Nigeria and an economy just getting out of Covid-19.

If you read the Obazee report very well you will see that some of those information used to indict Emefiele would have been obtained with the cooperation and assistance of President Buhari, he is a very upright and incorruptible Patriot. Even when Emefiele was in diapers, Gen. Buhari had built that reputation as an incorruptible Nigerian.

I expect the government to quickly get to work by setting up a body to implement the recommendations.

Mr Emefiele must face the justice system and those 2 banks and the funds ferried outside CBN without statutorily required approvals must be recovered from the indicted PDP-appointed CBN Governor PMB inherited and entrusted with the CBN. May God bless Nigeria for ever! Check my signature for free stuffs!

Did you say this: "President Buhari, he is a very upright and incorruptible Patriot"?

Do you understand the grammar - upright and incorruptible?

You are joking right.

Buhari M. is a very corrupt man. He is extremely deceptive with his corruption. For you to come out here to defend him; that is ridiculous and tells a lot about your own character too.

Define a patriot for us? Who are the patriots in Nigeria?

motymop:


You are the one trying to fool everyone.

Government workers and many workers in private organizations all have pension schemes, mortgage and car loans and health insurance with an approved Nhs service providers.

Infact some organizations and government institutions still provide nhs services to their retirees.

You just wrote that abroad, you dont need to work in good places and you are made for life, that is not true. You have to work in a good private firm in the western world to get a good pension.

State pension in the uk is 134 pounds per week, so how is this person going to have a better life in nigeria after retirement.

Retirees in the white collar jobs in the US, when they return to Nigeria can have a better life in Nigeria, those from europe are worst off in Nigeria, that is fact. Most blacks in Europe are working menial jobs and earnig maybe 800 euros per month. I know someone who sent 50 euros as contribution for his mother burial and you are here painting europe as heaven on earth.

If this is true then explain why the workers are still quiting their jobs and leaving the country for better life, - "Government workers and many workers in private organizations all have pension schemes, mortgage and car loans and health insurance with an approved Nhs service providers". I have seen several managers of banks quit their jobs to Japa. I have seen oil company staff quit their jobs and japa.

Car loan is still payable from your salary, in Nigeria and abroad. Health Insurance is standard practice in many countries, especially in the advanced countries (where your fellow Nigerians dey japa to reside and work) provided you have work permit in that country.

Pension Schemes in Nigeria is a topic for another day. I strongly feel it is skewed in favor of government, pension fund administrators, owners of the PFAs and banks. How do you explain someone having a lot of money in pension account that he can't access in his youthful days to do business or investment considering the time value of money but can only access it after 55 years of age upon retirement. Even if the person is out of job for long(minimum of 6 months), he or she can only collect 25% of his accumulated savings once in the period before he or she becomes 55 years. Leaving government and PFA owners a pool of funds to touch anytime they wish with some justification that they are paying a cheap and ridiculous interest to the employee on the fund. Come-on.

Do you wanna compare health insurance in Nigeria with health insurance in USA, Europe and Canada, for instance, don't just go there.

About the earnings of Nigerians in brown collar jobs in Europe, you can't compare it with earnings in Nigeria. You should check the hour rate for employment in European countries to understand the potentials in working in the Europe, USA, Canada, Australia etc.

I don't care what you think about those working and hoping to Japa. They have so many reasons to Japa; those reasons are results of the Nigerian government poor policies, management, selfishness, carelessness and failure.

Guess what? The Nigerian government is perpetually in the business of failing, frustrating, punishing, eroding the value of life of the masses.

I will no longer respond to you because you have a choice to stay back in Nigeria and live that life you so desire to live. Just don't discourage people that really want to Japa with your deceptive concept designed to keep them impoverished and unwealthy. They also have a choice to improve the standard of their lives and be equal or better than you and lots keeping this Nigeria down.

motymop:

It seems you don't understand what you wrote down.

The discussion was about the individual.

The individual can have economic power if he or she improves on himself.

When you improve on yourself, you get promotion and salaries to have a better life, that is how it works all over the world

Your last statement is a big lie. Most Nigerians that work in a good place all retired well. There are pension schemes for them.

Also when they were working, they had access to mortgages and car loans which made them live the type of lifestyle they want, many are also covered by health insurance for themselves and their family.. so stop writing about something you don't know of, Nigeria is not a perfect place but it works

Nigeria is not working for majority.

How many Nigerians have that opportunity that you described in bold alphabets?

Which ones are the good places; give examples?

Abroad, you don't have to work in good places, you only need to work diligently and you are good for life when you return to Nigeria several years later with a reasonable savings.

Stop trying to fool us.

CilicMarin:


So you believed this? Which Nigerian bank can warehouse 9Billion dollars? Have you worked in a bank before?

So you think she doesn't know what she is saying. Do you even know what is going on in the country?

Do you know the kind of money in the Petroleum industry.

kkins25:
Freedom?

Are you male or female?

Are you a feminist?

What is your understanding of submission with respect to husband and wife?

motymop:


the ability to improve your standard of living in your home country.

A menial worker in Europe can hardly do it when you consider tax and living expenses.

even the girls doing prostitution in europe, do you know how many year it takes them to complete their houses in Nigeria, at the end of the day, they live a normal life when they come home.

Economic power is the ability of countries, businesses, or individuals to improve their standard of living - simply putting it.

It doesn't necessarily mean I have to improve my standard of living in my country.

Maybe you should have some Nigerians in the advanced countries doing brown collar jobs honestly do the maths for you. They can tell you that it is not easy over there however, life is easier, valuable and improving at faster rate than in Nigeria.

There is nothing greater about remuneration than to see the money you work hard to get translate to improved living standards for anyone.

In Nigeria, you can work so hard for 35yrs in reputable job and end up with little or nothing significant in asset and or properties.

motymop:


You cant be in a menial job abroad and come to Nigeria and have economic power.

Define what you understand as economic power. Maybe we should start from that subject so we can be on the same page.

motymop:


Money and economic power how?

How many returnees do you know in Nigeria living like dangote or odetola or millionaires in Nigeria?

you can not work menial jobs all your life in the western world and build something tangible in Nigeria, it will takes you years just to raise 20M naira doing menial jobs in Europe

Are we all gonna be Dangote, Otedola and the elites? No!

Oga, stop deceiving yourself about the statement in bold alphabets, I know a lot of people that worked menial jobs abroad and returned to Nigeria to become highly powerful economically and loaded with resources. You just have to keep a focus and know what you are doing abroad.

You need to be schooled on earnings abroad even on menial job for you to comprehend what gap exists between the remuneration in Nigeria and USA Canada, UK and other countries.

motymop:


Work permit is not the reason, the reason is lack of skills and certificate and academic excellences to work in white collar jobs

there are many Nigerians abroad with work permit but they still do menial jobs because they dont have the certificate and skills.

They only get them when they start going back to school but sometimes, it becomes late for them because employers need young people for some certain roles.

Oga, you can have work permit abroad and still have a Nigerian passport. It means you are not a citizen of that country.

You have a first degree and perhaps a masters degree from Nigerian school and you expect them to employ you ahead of a citizen or person trained in their country?

Certification can be earned while there in the advanced country, skills are acquired through training and on the job. If you don't give them the job, how will they acquire the skills and training.

I agree with you on this "They only get them when they start going back to school but sometimes, it becomes late for them because employers need young people for some certain roles"

However in the light of our shared sentiments above, should such Nigerians be waiting for that white or blue collar job or simply do brown collar job that is available with the plan to save as much as possible and return to Nigeria after some years at such job.

motymop:


This mentality is what made black bottom of the food chain in the country where they now live.

You are not thinking about career growth or trying to be a better person professionally, you are thinking about currency exchange as if you will be spending the money in your home country when you immigrate

Money and economic power talks and every other thing, including career growth and profession is bull.shit.

At the end of that career in Nigeria , give or take 35yrs, you will end up in business, services and trading world. That business is something your mate that left Nigeria to work like jaki as per menial jobs or whatever legal job, in the USA, return to Nigeria loaded with extraordinary fund owing to exchange rate, acquire properties and luxuries of life and start business like 5 - 10 years before you.

Bro, open up your mind. I am not asking you to quit your job in Nigeria but don't discourage those young, able with opportunity people form travelling in search of a better life.

motymop:


There is no dignity in menial jobs everywhere in the world

Nobody will respect a door man or a garbage man, uber driver,window cleaner or security man anywhere in the world, most menial jobs are for people with no certificate and it is not a job of pride

There is a reason why jobs like pilot, engineer, lawyers and many other white collar jobs are respected and paid well abroad because you need your certificate, skills and experience to be in those profession.

The reason why majority of immigrants do menial jobs abroad is because they have no skills, experience or don't have the right certificate which makes them unemployable for white collar jobs

That is not the major reason. The majority of the migrants don't have work permit for such white and blue collar jobs.

Such countries will definitely prioritize white collar jobs for their citizens or migrants that are exceptional and schooled in their country or advanced countries.

There is no dignity in menial jobs but you are not in USA, Canada or advanced countries to demand respect. I don't need the respect, what I need is the dollar or pound - just pay me for the hours of work I have given abroad.

When I give 10years of my life to menial jobs and return to Nigeria and exchange the funds saved to naira over the years. We go no whatsup in terms economic power between you wey dey Nigeria as manager and person wey just return to Nigeria.

TimT:

If that's the case, then there wouldn't be any point going to university here in Nigeria...
After waec- just travel out...
Coz if they(you) are ready to travel out, then your educational certificate are moreorless useless...
If you don't join hand and develop your country, nobody will do it

Which hand? You for ask me to join leg ni. The same Nigeria that our politicians and elites have bastardized and are still holding hostage.

Stop deceiving others even if you wanna deceive yourself.

Miracle112:
Hello Nlanders..
please I need advice on whether to relocate abroad or stay and invest in Nigeria .
I just graduated from the university and I’ll turn 28 in a few months time.
I come from a very poor family, I sponsored myself through the university as matter of fact I am the first graduate in the family.
I am here to seek advice from experts and enlightened nairalanders.
I have over 50m in real estate and I intend to sell 50% of my properties to raise funds for an online marketplace i intend to launch in Nigeria but I’m having a double mind as there’s no 100% guarantee that the business will succeed…
Since I just graduated from the university, should I rather use 25m to relocate abroad and further my studies or stay in Nigeria and invest the 25m ?
I don’t want to regret selling my properties to relocate abroad for studies.. I don’t even know if 25m would be enough to further my studies in any first world countries since I’ll have no support from family.

So my people, should I japa for studies with 25m or stay an invest in my fatherland?

For those wondering how I made over 50m as a fresh graduate. I didn’t make the money in 1 day or 1 month. I do land banking, crypto trading and farming.

Sell the 50% of your property as planned and Japa. You are still young and unmarried, you have the ability and youthfulness to do jobs abroad.

Besides, online marketplace in Nigeria from now till the next 10 years is something you will regret. Profitability of such business in Nigeria is a big risk, over 70% risk.

Be careful, don't squander than money.