motymop:


You cant be in a menial job abroad and come to Nigeria and have economic power.

Define what you understand as economic power. Maybe we should start from that subject so we can be on the same page.

motymop:


Money and economic power how?

How many returnees do you know in Nigeria living like dangote or odetola or millionaires in Nigeria?

you can not work menial jobs all your life in the western world and build something tangible in Nigeria, it will takes you years just to raise 20M naira doing menial jobs in Europe

Are we all gonna be Dangote, Otedola and the elites? No!

Oga, stop deceiving yourself about the statement in bold alphabets, I know a lot of people that worked menial jobs abroad and returned to Nigeria to become highly powerful economically and loaded with resources. You just have to keep a focus and know what you are doing abroad.

You need to be schooled on earnings abroad even on menial job for you to comprehend what gap exists between the remuneration in Nigeria and USA Canada, UK and other countries.

motymop:


Work permit is not the reason, the reason is lack of skills and certificate and academic excellences to work in white collar jobs

there are many Nigerians abroad with work permit but they still do menial jobs because they dont have the certificate and skills.

They only get them when they start going back to school but sometimes, it becomes late for them because employers need young people for some certain roles.

Oga, you can have work permit abroad and still have a Nigerian passport. It means you are not a citizen of that country.

You have a first degree and perhaps a masters degree from Nigerian school and you expect them to employ you ahead of a citizen or person trained in their country?

Certification can be earned while there in the advanced country, skills are acquired through training and on the job. If you don't give them the job, how will they acquire the skills and training.

I agree with you on this "They only get them when they start going back to school but sometimes, it becomes late for them because employers need young people for some certain roles"

However in the light of our shared sentiments above, should such Nigerians be waiting for that white or blue collar job or simply do brown collar job that is available with the plan to save as much as possible and return to Nigeria after some years at such job.

motymop:


This mentality is what made black bottom of the food chain in the country where they now live.

You are not thinking about career growth or trying to be a better person professionally, you are thinking about currency exchange as if you will be spending the money in your home country when you immigrate

Money and economic power talks and every other thing, including career growth and profession is bull.shit.

At the end of that career in Nigeria , give or take 35yrs, you will end up in business, services and trading world. That business is something your mate that left Nigeria to work like jaki as per menial jobs or whatever legal job, in the USA, return to Nigeria loaded with extraordinary fund owing to exchange rate, acquire properties and luxuries of life and start business like 5 - 10 years before you.

Bro, open up your mind. I am not asking you to quit your job in Nigeria but don't discourage those young, able with opportunity people form travelling in search of a better life.

motymop:


There is no dignity in menial jobs everywhere in the world

Nobody will respect a door man or a garbage man, uber driver,window cleaner or security man anywhere in the world, most menial jobs are for people with no certificate and it is not a job of pride

There is a reason why jobs like pilot, engineer, lawyers and many other white collar jobs are respected and paid well abroad because you need your certificate, skills and experience to be in those profession.

The reason why majority of immigrants do menial jobs abroad is because they have no skills, experience or don't have the right certificate which makes them unemployable for white collar jobs

That is not the major reason. The majority of the migrants don't have work permit for such white and blue collar jobs.

Such countries will definitely prioritize white collar jobs for their citizens or migrants that are exceptional and schooled in their country or advanced countries.

There is no dignity in menial jobs but you are not in USA, Canada or advanced countries to demand respect. I don't need the respect, what I need is the dollar or pound - just pay me for the hours of work I have given abroad.

When I give 10years of my life to menial jobs and return to Nigeria and exchange the funds saved to naira over the years. We go no whatsup in terms economic power between you wey dey Nigeria as manager and person wey just return to Nigeria.

TimT:

If that's the case, then there wouldn't be any point going to university here in Nigeria...
After waec- just travel out...
Coz if they(you) are ready to travel out, then your educational certificate are moreorless useless...
If you don't join hand and develop your country, nobody will do it

Which hand? You for ask me to join leg ni. The same Nigeria that our politicians and elites have bastardized and are still holding hostage.

Stop deceiving others even if you wanna deceive yourself.

Miracle112:
Hello Nlanders..
please I need advice on whether to relocate abroad or stay and invest in Nigeria .
I just graduated from the university and I’ll turn 28 in a few months time.
I come from a very poor family, I sponsored myself through the university as matter of fact I am the first graduate in the family.
I am here to seek advice from experts and enlightened nairalanders.
I have over 50m in real estate and I intend to sell 50% of my properties to raise funds for an online marketplace i intend to launch in Nigeria but I’m having a double mind as there’s no 100% guarantee that the business will succeed…
Since I just graduated from the university, should I rather use 25m to relocate abroad and further my studies or stay in Nigeria and invest the 25m ?
I don’t want to regret selling my properties to relocate abroad for studies.. I don’t even know if 25m would be enough to further my studies in any first world countries since I’ll have no support from family.

So my people, should I japa for studies with 25m or stay an invest in my fatherland?

For those wondering how I made over 50m as a fresh graduate. I didn’t make the money in 1 day or 1 month. I do land banking, crypto trading and farming.

Sell the 50% of your property as planned and Japa. You are still young and unmarried, you have the ability and youthfulness to do jobs abroad.

Besides, online marketplace in Nigeria from now till the next 10 years is something you will regret. Profitability of such business in Nigeria is a big risk, over 70% risk.

Be careful, don't squander than money.

TimT:

We all keep shouting no job, unemployment, yet we have no entrepreneurial skills....
And worse, when we finally travel out to western world, we are ready to drop our certificate and do "Any job so long as it pays"...
But here, nobody wants to do anything without certificates... They aren't ready to drop their certificate...
It's just a matter of time, we'll get there...

We are ready to do any job abroad because of the economic power derived from the exchange rate upon conversion to naira.

I would rather be a caregiver, working 70hrs per week, in the USA than working as a manager earning 300 - 600k per month in Nigeria.

Can you see the picture.

marienl:

I have been keeping it in me since
but my recent intention to train unemployed people to become social media assistant is very frustrating and yet am doing it for free
You wont even imagine some are calling a free training that no one asked them money for here scam without following through at all.

What strategy and criteria did you use to select your potential social media assistants for training? As terrible as your selected candidates can be, you must have missed some things too in the process of selection.

marienl:
I have had many experience interacting with people who need work
They like to Show their CV and certification which at the end they cant even follow simple instructions right
I wonder how many of them get their qualification?
This nation has a very long way to go no wonder we will even prefer to hire white man to come do work here because of experience.
You people should go and change

Excuse me, please give more information about the the statement in bold.

Besides, are you a recruiter, HR officer or......

Maybe you should also review your recruitment strategies, process and plan. You have to keep looking because there are yet several suitable Nigerians for the jobs except for some highly technical jobs that requires expatriates.

You also have to think about training of new and existing staff. It has a way of closing the knowledge gap than to go for quick fix solution like employing expatriates at the expense of national growth and development, capacity building and improving the living standards of Nigerians.

Ask4bigneyo:

Is rice not contraband goods?

No it is not.

Gabrokpara001:
This is a contemporary 4bedroom apartment architectural design.

DESIGN FEATURES

*CAR PARK
*LIVING ROOM
*LIVING ROOM BALCONY
* VISITORS TOILET
* DINING
* KITCHEN
* 3 BEDROOMS ALL ENSUITE
* MASTERS BEDROOM WITH WALK-IN-CLOSET

Are you doing the engineering design? Are you a civil engineer? Or do you already have the house for sale.

cudolisa:
What can someone import from Thailand to Nigeria. Suggestions

Import Thailand rice. I am available wholesales in Abuja

FRANCISTOWN:

I'm talking about my wife, not your wife.
Your wife can say whatever she likes to you, or your relatives. That's your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with me.
What I know is, ain't no wife of mine gon' speak to my relative disrespectfully. That's not my world.

If all the "op" said is exactly what transpired. I did not notice any disrespectful utterance to her husband's relatives and mother.

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

Brother, this is rather petty issue. In fact, it is not an issue, forget about the dispute and move on.

Buy some Barbecue fish, Shawarma and Wine. Take it home, play some romantic music and create a lively mood with your wife.

Let it slide Abeg!

WithX:


Kano Shoprite branch got it wrong when they start selling their goods above market price (that is a red flag). No matter how posh your shop is many rational buyer talk more of the north will prefer buying where the good i even one naira less. With many supermarkets springing up everywhere in Kano now, its fight of the survivals
Some two years back the place is always overcrowded because customers get some of their goods cheaper than the market price (surprisingly, the difference in price may just be fie naira or a little below that).
I remembered taking the trouble to go to the store anytime i want to stock up on drinks because then their drinks are always around ten naira to fie naira lesser than the market price. Then you will see drink retailers storm there with pickups on daily basis. I can no longer take that trouble if i can get the drinks at a price cheaper close to me.

I believe their change in business strategy have a large part to play.

When the pioneer investors of Shoprite left Nigeria and sold/transferred it to another investor.

Shoprite started offering even more ridiculous prices for majority of their goods. Just a few (soft drinks and bottle water) that are still priced below general market prices.

We also see that at their outlets in Abuja and Lagos. Infact they should change their slogan (Why Pay More) to something else.

I strongly don't think the exit of shoprite from Kano implies that the Economy of Kano is terrible.

I would rather buy several items from the aboki shop near my house rather than shoprite because the aboki sells at cheaper prices.

nairalandkachy1:
There were similar reactions when the CJN's son was one of 23 sworn-in as Justices of the Federal High Court in Sept 2023

Again, reportedly his nephew, was sworn-in as a Justice of the Appeal Court in Sept 2023



https://gazettengr.com/cjn-ariwoola-appoints-younger-brother-adebayo-ariwoola-as-new-auditor-for-national-judicial-council/

So the Supreme Court, NJC; in fact the judiciary has been compromised now.

Lyrics269:

They know themselves.

So why are you generalizing about most Nigerian men.

onobire83:
I have 2 kids (boy and girl) with my wife in a marriage of 6 years , and I needed another child but my wife doesn’t (she went for family planning) what should I do?

Advice please

You don dey mad abi! Please get off this space. We are expecting people who have genuine challenges not greedy, ridiculous and mofos like you.

If you like, destroy your marriage, I only pity the unfortunate woman married to you.

Idiot.

Lyrics269:
Most men in Nigeria are coded bisexuals who always cry about women and deceive girls but end up pleasuring themselves with men.
Never trust a nigerian man, they have sex with anything under skirt and trouser.
Most of your boyfriends are gays and bisexuals in disguise using you
Bobrisky and co are being patronized by some of your fathers and boyfriends.

What do you mean by "most men"? How many Nigerian men alluded to this opinion of yours. What statistics informed it?

Darevofpeace:

It is common knowledge that many beautiful marriages in Nigeria, collapse few months or years after the families move to the western world. We equally read stories of men thrown out of their homes by their wives they brought over from Nigeria.

.........................

Allow her the freedom she desires, she will come back to make you her best friend. Control will never work...can work for a short time, but will boomerang later.

https://www.facebook.com/1525879707/posts/pfbid02gFRufqsFTQCF9GaXTb5CJfhiA4LszrHFwPzeJJvVPBCuS41MJnEaTiy6Hr2VYTel/

Your article is skewed towards becoming a SIMP for the woman in the western world.

This is completely against some men's culture, personality and orientation. You will find it difficult to change those orientation and culture in the African man.

Hence, it is better decision, though it has its own cost because someone could be sleeping in your bed while away in the western world hustling, for the man alone to travel to the Western world and hustle, leaving his wife and children behind.

If you go there with your family, just have a provision in your mind that you could loose your family and resources; you could live in regret afterwards when your wife change am for you.

gabbrri:
she was only looking very surprised on how I found out since she deleted the picture she has been sending series on massages apologizing

I assume that you have discussed with her parents on the matter since you said you are already asking for a refund of the bride price that you paid.

A separation is recommended by me, especially if you feel threatened or uncomfortable in the home with her. During the separation, you can decide on divorce or consolidation of your marriage. God bless the children.

Kindly accept my sympathy on the development, I completely understand your situation but you have to man up in anticipation of whatever possibility. Your safety, happiness and mental stability first and then care and love for your children and loved ones.

God bless you.

gabbrri:
I will be so brief in explaining the skocker I received last week.. I have been suspecting my wife for a while now because of her attachment to her phone but I kept my cool trying to track what she has been up to,,
men my discovery was shocking, I got to know her password through my 5 years old son that is always with her phone. I checked her phone thoroughly but did not find anything only for me to check her thrash pictures on Google photos fellow nairalanders I saw a male colleague that always communicate her putting on my wife's gown in a hotel looking arrangements I confronted her on and she was confused on what to explain ... I post this here for people that completely trust their spouse to do the trusting with sense.. officially I am ending the year wifeless as I have demanded a refund of the dowry paid on her no going back I consider my decision a gain and not a loss congratulations to me for finding out what she has become on time

You need to tell us what her defense was. What did she say when you confronted her?

10mobile:
I'm not happy with those who talk ill of our Nigerian girls because our girls are the most sexy and beautiful all over the world.

For example, look at this photo and tell me what else you want our girls to bring to the table. Be honest as a Nigerian man.

Ladies don't comment. Just watch.

Is that all she has to offer?

Fountainofyouth:



You do not know women more than we know ourselves, we do not talk about someone we're having a sexual relationship with to our significant other, we will never utter a word about it, not ever.

Madam, his wife's response was not verbal or in the presence of her husband such that we can assume that she was trying to make her husband feel jealous.

The response was on a chat that was supposed to be private, between her and her cheat. The husband only read it without her permission.

Now her response "you have too much in your hands" speaks volumes. It means a lot. So if the guy has less in his hands......... So if the guy has few or no babes in his hands........... So she would like to fu..ck the guy right.

Come on, stop making excuses. She want to fu..ck the guy or she is already fu..cking him - that is established.

Isolock:
As a married Man myself, I'd say "There's really no smoke without fire".. the situation is not strange but obvious to the fact that your wife and her colleague have something going or brewing. It is inappropriate for any married man or woman to chat or entertain such chat from a colleague. While she can't stop a colleague from sending whatever type of first time messages, it is her duty to address it right away and YOUR WIFE'S RESPONSE DID NOT ADDRESS THE ISSUE.. it was casual. You should have observed a little bit more, snap the evidence and check back another time if the messages are still there or deleted or if she'd bring such matters to you or if there more changes in her appearance, behaviour and communication. Whatever it is, you will find out..!!! Just don't be in a haste to end your marriage or point accusing fingers. You must be certain

His wife's response to the flirt is the major reason I believe that her commitment to her husband is compromised. She is either fvckn the colleague or other men already or she is open to it.

Any man can hit on your wife but her reaction or response to the flirts will determine if she is game.

Fountainofyouth:


I have friends I send my pictures to so nothing wrong with that

I work with fg, and there are so many married men that have tried and still trying to get me to no avail, the ones I've told off still won't listen so most times I ignore them when I'm tired of shouting

For Op, the wife obviously likes the man that's why she replied that way, that doesn't mean they've had sèx or something is going on, highest Op can do is warn her or get his number and warn the man off his wife, simple.

Read your post again and meditate on it, I don't think you are being logical.

Let's assume you are married and one of your toasters (married or unmarried) asked you to make babies with him.

What will be your response and why?

qtguru:


I won't need to meet HR, because that message tells me enough. Since OP is confused on what to do, I think it's only reasonable his wife knows of his act.

You also don't need to meet the boss about such matter. It is not supposed to be an official matter.

You can meet her parents, close/trusted friend or respected family friend or church leader.

Don't take such to the office.

qtguru:


reason being ?

If you are the man in the scenario, you should face your wife not the other man.

In fact, you have no business with the man except he comes into your house to fu.. ck your wife. Then you can take physical or logical action against him.

For now, you can only do "magun" jazz to deal with him or and her, if you want to get at him physically.

It is quite immature to go to the HR of their coy to report such matter

qtguru:


Visit the office and report to the Boss, blow the whole thing up, and let his wife know if you can.

This is not acceptable

tyinfinity:
Go and confront the man in the office .threaten him and report him to the management.if you know his name let us send spiritual missile to him

This is not, highly, neccessary.

mcdon024:
Mature advice only please.
I will keep this very short.
There is this her colleague she talks about almost all the time. He is also married. I became curious and decided to go through her WhatsApp chats with this guy. I saw in thier chats selfie pics she sends to him (normal selfie pics), and the one that really got to me is the part he invited my wife to come over and "lets make babies" according to him. But her reply was "No I can't, your hands are full"....Please who can decode this her reply to him?....I confronted her but she denied ever having anything to do with him beside been colleagues. But my worry is why chat flirty chats with a guy and what would give him the mind to ask her to come over and .......... Please I need mature advice only

I am almost certain that it is either she has been fu..ckn her colleague or she is open to fu..ckn other men.

I think she wants to be adulterous or she already into adultery.

The question is: what should you do about it? You are the only one that should answer the question with options then we can help you to critically analyze the possible options to help you make a good decision.