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Seun:
Hello,

Why is it that when someone's husband, wife, fiance, fiancee, boyfriend or girlfriend indulges in sex with someone else, the person becomes [color=#770000]very angry[/color]? Why is it such a big deal?

Here are some factors that came to my mind:
[list][li]Your wife/girlfriend/fiancee could get pregnant for the other person and give birth to a child that is not yours. Note: DNA analysis can be used to determine the paternity of a child.[/li]
[li]Your husband/boyfriend/fiance could father the other woman's child and consume resources that would have been used to take care of the your own children. Once again, we observe that such pregnancies can be prevented using various methods.[/li]
[li]Your partner could contact STDs or the HIV virus and pass them on to you.[/li]
[li]Your partner may spend a significant amount of money on the other person, therefore 'shortening your ration' (I guess this applies more to unfaithful men ...)[li][li]You feel bad because the infidelity implies that your partner is not satisfied with your 'performance'[/li][/list]

Ok, that's all I can think of. It sure seems as if the above 'disadvantages' of sexual infidelity are just too weak ccompared to the indignation that people display when they discover that their partner has been cheating on them ...

AnthonioAlsaid:
FIRST OFF,BIG SHOUT OUT TO THE MOD THAT BANNED MY MAIN FOR 3MONTHS,JUST

KNOW LIFE IS LIKE WATER IT FLOWS "WHO NOR BE MOD TODAY FIT BE MOD TOMORROW"

HMMM HMMM, I'VE BEING A COMMENT READER ON NL FOR YEARS ESPECIALLY

ON ROMANCELAND.

MY FAVORITE FEMALE NAIRALANDER GOES TO TRAPQUEEN77. I DEY DUFF MY HAT

FOR THIS BABE, I'VE NEVER SEEN HER PICK A FIGHT WITH ANYONE, SHE RESPECTS

HERSELF AND SHE'S ALWAYS LOVELY WITH HER COMMENTS ON THREADS..



MY FAVORITE MALE NAIRALANDER IS ILEGEND. THIS DUDE IS SO COMPOSED, HE


SEEMS LIKE A GUY WHO'S IN CHARGE OF HIS LIFE, I'VE NEVER SEEN A STUPID

THREAD COMING FROM HIM UNLIKE SOME GUY WHO CAME TO NL TO SHOW HIS 300NAIRA

WINE IN THE NAME OF 'MY GF BROKE MY HEART' AND STILL WAS SCARED OF

OPENING THE BOTTLE.


GUYS DROP YOURS-WHOSE YOUR FAV MALE AND FEMALE NL.

gudbadgyal:
Hello Nairalanders, I wouldn't wanna bore you, So I'll just go straight to the point. I've been dating this guy for sometime now (just date oo) but his mom knows about our relationship and his sisters too. He's such a mama's boy and doesn't wanna work. He says he doesn't like Nigeria and he's waiting for his visa to get ready. He's dad is actually a white. He's idle and depends on me to foot the bills saying he'll reward me when things go well for him. He isn't willing to work and this is really pissing me off. However some one is gradually stealing my heart because he has been doing things my bf doesn't do for me, I'm so confused right now... Dunno who to go for
Need your advice please

andergirl:
There is this guy,I know in mg neigbourhood,he recently asked me out,I really need candid opinions,I know if I agree,it would most likely need to marriage so I need to be sure,I told him to give me a week and I would get back to him,here is why need the advice,l.he is my landlords brother and though he has an apartment of his own which he chose not to rent out,u won't call him rich,he is just there,2.previously both of us were always at loggerhead before,we were bitter enemies and we dealt with each other 3.he just came out of a bitter relationship,the girl dumped him and he loved her dearly
The thing is,I won't say I love him,I don't,but I like him,he is the gentle responsible type of guy I like,who also racks sense,but the ish is that,we both are young,he is 28 and I younger by few years,so it isn't because am getting older that I am considering him,its just that with experiences around me,from my friends and relatives,I have come to realise happy marriage entails more than love,I want peace in my home,so I need a responsible guy,I am just afraid of being a second fiddle,he loved that girl,don't want to live an another girls shadow,I knew he was attracted to me even bbefore the relationship crumbled,but he was responsible enough to steer clear,so do I refuse or accept based on my reasons

uyiekpen26:
thank you my brother. Now I know better. No woman will ever see my #5 not to talk of my #20. I would have given her the beating of her life before but I chose not to.

universityfailu:
I dont have your time man, am not here to exchange words with a poverty stricken "musician" but i've been seeing u whining like a little biitch around here. what for? You menstruating? u are one hella stopid young nitwit.

philsworld:
I met this guy few months before my service year but I didn't date him because I discovered he was in a relationship but somehow wasn't sure he wanted to settle down with her. He proposed to me and I refused.


Down to service year, I started dating a fellow Corper. we were very much compatible. The only concern was he made me lose my virginity and made sex become irresistible to me. I felt bad and guilty every time I did it with him but I could not just control myself around him, haven kept myself all through school, I felt it was unusual.


After service, this first guy came knocking again, telling me he could not stop thinking about me even while I was away and after declining his proposal severally. He said he always saw his wife in me. So, I decided to give it a shot.


He is different from my Corper lover. Even though, when we kissed he was erect, yet he will control himself and not make love to me. He is a good Christian and we pray and share things alot. With him, I felt like a virgin again. I felt so good and I decided to end the relationship with the other guy. For me, this is my dream come true man!


Plans are on ground already for us to get married soon but, I feel terrible with the two things I just found out about him. Not that they are too serious, but bothered with why he didn't disclose it to me.

First, he didn't tell me his mom was late. But always referred to his elder sister as mom. Because I had not met them then, I thought the mum he was always talking about was his biological mum, until recently I found out his real mum was late. I kept my cool and even thought maybe he forgot.


After meeting with his elder sister that he refers to as mum, I looked forward to meeting the dad. which I did and discovered that he really married after his first wife died, thus having children from the second woman and he never told me about it. I was angry and told him that wasn't right. He then told me, he never saw it as important. On top of that, he disclosed to me that he had falsified his age all this while. That against the 33, I know, he is 36 years old. When I asked him why, he said he didn't want to change what he told me the first time we met. And I am like what the hell?

Now, we have planned out our wedding already and am only getting to know these things now. Do I still go ahead? How am I sure I won't have other shocking revelations later? Am confused. I really love him but marriage is a life time affair. I don't know what to do. [b]I met this guy few months before my service year but I didn't date him because I discovered he was in a relationship but somehow wasn't sure he wanted to settle down with her. He proposed to me and I refused.


Down to service year, I started dating a fellow Corper. we were very much compatible. The only concern was he made me lose my virginity and made sex become irresistible to me. I felt bad and guilty every time I did it with him but I could not just control myself around him, haven kept myself all through school, I felt it was unusual.


After service, this first guy came knocking again, telling me he could not stop thinking about me even while I was away and after declining his proposal severally. He said he always saw his wife in me. So, I decided to give it a shot.


He is different from my Corper lover. Even though, when we kissed he was erect, yet he will control himself and not make love to me. He is a good Christian and we pray and share things alot. With him, I felt like a virgin again. I felt so good and I decided to end the relationship with the other guy. For me, this is my dream come true man!


Plans are on ground already for us to get married soon but, I feel terrible with the two things I just found out about him. Not that they are too serious, but bothered with why he didn't disclose it to me.

First, he didn't tell me his mom was late. But always referred to his elder sister as mom. Because I had not met them then, I thought the mum he was always talking about was his biological mum, until recently I found out his real mum was late. I kept my cool and even thought maybe he forgot.


After meeting with his elder sister that he refers to as mum, I looked forward to meeting the dad. which I did and discovered that he really married after his first wife died, thus having children from the second woman and he never told me about it. I was angry and told him that wasn't right. He then told me, he never saw it as important. On top of that, he disclosed to me that he had falsified his age all this while. That against the 33, I know, he is 36 years old. When I asked him why, he said he didn't want to change what he told me the first time we met. And I am like what the hell?

Now, we have planned out our wedding already and am only getting to know these things now. Do I still go ahead? How am I sure I won't have other shocking revelations later? Am confused. I really love him but marriage is a life time affair. I don't know what to do. [/b]I met this guy few months before my service year but I didn't date him because I discovered he was in a relationship but somehow wasn't sure he wanted to settle down with her. He proposed to me and I refused.


Down to service year, I started dating a fellow Corper. we were very much compatible. The only concern was, he made me lose my virginity and made sex become irresistible to me. I felt bad and guilty every time I did it with him but I could not just control myself around him, haven kept myself all through school, I felt it was unusual.


After service, this first guy came knocking again, telling me he could not stop thinking about me even while I was away and after declining his proposal severally. He said he always saw his wife in me. So, I decided to give it a shot, because he already broke up with the other girl.


He is different from my Corper lover. Even though when we kissed he was erect, yet he will control himself and not make love to me. He is a good Christian and we pray and share things alot. With him, I felt like a virgin again. I felt so good and I decided to end the relationship with the other guy. For me, this is my dream come true man!


Plans are on ground already for us to get married soon but, I feel terrible with the two things I just found out about him. Not that they are too serious, but am bothered with why he didn't disclose it to me.

First, he didn't tell me his mom was late. But always referred to his elder sister as mom. Because I had not met them then, I thought the mum he was always talking about was his biological mum, until recently I found out his real mum was late. I kept my cool and even thought maybe he forgot.


After meeting with his elder sister that he refers to as mum, I looked forward to meeting the dad. which I did and discovered that he got married after his first wife died, thus having children from the second woman and he never told me about it. I was angry and told him that wasn't right. He then told me, he never saw it as important. On top of that, he disclosed to me that he had falsified his age all this while. That against the 33, I know, he is 36 years old. When I asked him why, he said he didn't want to change what he told me the first time we met. And I am like what the hell?

Now, we have planned out our wedding already and am only getting to know these things now. Do I still go ahead? How am I sure I won't have other shocking revelations later? Am confused. I really love him but marriage is a life time affair. I don't know what to do.

jeffp:
Help !!!! My girl has threaten to break up with me if i dont get her a TECNO CANON 8



I have promised my gf a phone..telling her to wait ..so i can raise the money to buy.. I have to her to wait till the end of the month, and she has bluntly refused ,saying if i dont buy her the phone this week thursday..i should nt call her again..

Pls help ..what do i do...i am confused....no were to get such amount of money this buhari RUBBISH! Shes just joking and if she is not she doesn't love you. or maybe you dey promise and fail before or u stingy

dearbunmi:
Dear Bunmi,

I have known this girl for over 3 years but we actually became romantically involved about one year now.

The problem I have with her is that she actually wants me to romance and kiss her for as long as possible but will never give in to sex. She might even be the one to initiate the act. She will want me to kiss and romance her, but when its come to the issue of sex she will tell me that she can't do it. It's gotten to the extent where she has to tell me that she would not mind me having sex with another girl.

I do love this girl and my people have come to know her as my girl friend, hence they (my people) regard her very much even to the extent that she can cook and bring to them an they will eat. I am confused indeed.

TK
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Click below to see my response
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uyiekpen26:
Myself and this particular girl have been dating for quite sometime (let's say like 2yrs) now. This is someone I do everything for. I pay for the house she's currently living in, send her money for her upkeep, paid some of her fees in school and once in awhile take her on some of my trips within and outside the country.

I've noticed that most times when I call her in the evenings she's never with her phone and she doesn't even pick when I call. I thought maybe she's reading or something. So I don't usually bother to ask her. At some point I noticed some strange behaviors in her. This was someone who was never a club person and all of a sudden she started clubbing and smoking shisha. I confronted her and she said it was just once but I kept quiet. So I decided to do a little investigation without her notice. So I called her one day and a guy picked up and asked who I was. I ended the call and decided to pay her a surprise visit. As soon as I entered, I saw a guy on boxers and singlet sitting on her bed and as soon as she saw me she almost developed high BP. But I pretended like nothing was happening and told her I just came to check up on her.

I left her house that in anger. I went straight to the bank the following week I opened an account for her and closed the account. I stopped with immediate effect the visa processing I was doing in her name. Burnt all the clothes I bought for her from dubai recently and gave all the jewelries I bought for her too to one of my neighbors. I told the landlord to issue a quit notice to her in the house she currently stays. I'm supposed to be renewing the rent by October 17. I'm equally thinking of coming to remove everything in that same house by the weekend with some mobile policemen. As for the school fees she can forget about it. She will have to source for that herself. Just yesterday she and some of those her useless friends and family members have been disturbing my phone begging. Saying I'm taking things too far.

Greyworld:
All the people claimin this is the true story created their their accounts today.

I think this another organised plan to save the reputation of the school or just one good, patrotic fellow controlin the monikers.


Bottom line is that I believe the First story, the second I DIDN'T read.