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Kindly add me and advise details of this training.

Here they come again.

But seriously, if devaluing the naira a little will stimulate growth in the economy. Why not? Devaluing the naira against foreign exchange may not hurt us as much as it is now, if we place barriers to capital flight even for investors and monitor closely the expenditures.


God help Nigeria.

Please continue. Very interested.

Hhhmmm

In other words, pay the amount you are being indicted over and go.

Shame. Really disappointed opposition isn't harping on the glaring incompetence this administration continues to display.

Thank you all for your responses.

intbizoil:
The reason why the God factor is important in marriage. It is never as clear as white, looking at the reasons you gave they are very perfect in our eyes as humans but it is only God that makes the difference through revelation. You talked about she not praying with you, I want to ask was it like that before you married her?. Did you bring God into the equation during courtship or you felt that everything was in place already so let me jump in. For the yet to be married ones, you need to seek the face of God. Please marry God fearing spouses, somebody who you know loves the things of God not pretenders and you will never regret.

This is quite revealing. In retrospect, I believe I must have overlooked this aspect. The signs were there from the beginning.

Onegai:
I really am sorry you're going through all of this. Did this start immediately after marriage or was there a gradual build-up with a turning point?
I'm trying to understand this. I've seen something like this (with differences) in another couple's life and it makes no sense why someone will change so drastically. And that physical violence on her part, you should NOT take that from her or anyone.

It actually started when she got pregnant, just after marriage. She became very aggressive and lashes out, I thought it was some hormones hence I just let it slide. She just got worse after delivery.

Vikky014:
PRAY OVER IT
She need deliverance

Doing that already. God will take control. Thank you so much.

Thank you all so much for your comments. I really do appreciate them.

Coming from a polygamous home myself, I don't intend chasing any other woman. I don't even have the strength for the drama. I just wish this could be better. I guess her knowledge of my dedication to this union gives her the impetus to continuously disrespect me.

@Lexus,

You got details of some marriage therapist I could reach?

@TooNoisy,

Thanks for your comments. The business thing made sense at first since it had some benefits like she been around the house, providing the care required for a home etc. However, it hadn't turned out as planned; although we are hopeful that it will be better soon.

@Oktoberfest,

We have our alone times and I usually bring up this issues. Usually goes wrong....unfortunately!

@Mindfulness,

wow...you making me feel good about myself...lol

Okay, I married her for various reasons; she was educated, funny, beautiful, cooks well,dresses well, keeps the home clean, decent family. She fit the things i wanted in a wife and i had to take the step since i felt we were both ready.

eightsin:
Lalasticlala

No. I rather the mature people in this section advises me. I dont need the publicity and sometime skewed comments that go with frontpage.

drdrei09:
Go nd call her here, i need to hear her own side of the story before i pass my judgement.

Your judgement? lol...dont worry. Suggestions on how to handle this situation better will pass and not your unwanted judgement.

bigiyaro:
We all know leopards can't change their spots. Your cross, carry it.

Yeah right.

robedu:
I don't pity people like you, you probably left a good girl heart broken and devil decided to punish you with this, bear it till death man, she is not going to change, that's the real her. Didn't you notice all this before marriage?

I wasn't looking for your pity. Not sure i dated so many girls whilst single. Quite unlikely, I broke any girls heart without a good reason. Marriage has its own pleasant times...am not just having a good time. And No... I didnt notice this before marriage, would you have?

Lexusgs430:
Marriage is not by FORCE or by FIRE!!!! Would you rather be Single ALIVE or Married DEAD?
How short are you, actually? (Nah joke I dey play o).

I did rather be Married Alive. Am 5.8ft, we have same height.

Happy New Year People!

Four (4) years of marriage and I have been asking myself... I probably did wrong by marrying her. All I get now is insults like bastard, idiot, immature short man, etc...I have also been assaulted physically. Strangely, I have never raised my hands against her. Maybe am a weakling like she says...maybe!

My crime? Not sure...ranges from telling her things she does that are very wrong. Okay, a bit of our backgrounds....am 33, she's 29; we have a beautiful 3yr old girl. I work while she declined saying she would rather go into business. In summary, I got a loan to set her up, now she runs a fashion shop where she sells women beauty products(makeup, beads), wedding gowns etc.

Issues: She curses and hits the assistant (some refer to them as maids) at the slightest opportunity, now being from a very humble background; i show respect and love as much as i can to everyone. She will make them do the house chores from morning till night and you wonder how big a 3bedroom apartment is; most of the girls left after one or two months since they couldn't stand the constant torture and torment. I have had to step in on most occasions; especially when am back from work and someone is still cleaning some window and they haven't eaten all day. In her usual mannerisms, she says there must be more to my standing up for them...always insinuating that I probably am having an affair. She changes them also, for reasons that varies from not liking the way she looks to not answering her when she calls them. She recently got a cousin of hers from the village recently and while the move made sense to me since we can help her with better education and morally upright life; my wife's attitude wouldn't give it a rest. She hits this 10yr old constantly and makes her go through the same routine like the previous assistants. I had enrolled the 10 yr old girl in the same school with our child (to the chagrin of madam); even though the move set me back by almost 300k; I was just happy that she will be learning. To my horror, th school headmistress called me close to the end of last term about the constant absence of this child, I confronted my wife who denied it. On a work and school day, I decided to come home unannounced, only to see this 10yr old washing some clothes. I was very angry and confronted my wife who said the school had finished exams and were not doing anything meaningful, and my question was, why allow our baby there then?

She's very fat. Even though our baby is 3+, wifey still looks like she's 8months pregnant. Simple eating habits are not practiced, she eats late into the night daily and really does consume large doses. Even though am 4yrs older, she looks way older than I am. I reckon its due to her bad eating habits.

We are both graduates, while I have a masters degree and just rounded up an MBA with some other professional qualifications on the side; she isn't interested in furthering her education. The business that was setup with huge funds over 2yrs ago hasnt turned in a single dime. That is inspite of me solely bearing the loan repayments, salaries of the sales girls and the previous assistants at home...and am wondering what have i gotten myself into.

Lastly, she wouldn't go to church, wouldn't pray with me, wouldn't read or do anything meaningful but tell me how her friends are been taken care of by their hubbies. Constantly on FB, Instagram, 2go, Twitter and even Nairaland.I hope she sees this!

Am wondering, how exactly do i resolve this litany of issues. Divorce isnt an option, talking to her family to intervene isnt an option either as I don't want third parties in our home. It just breaks me...she is very different from the girl i married.

tosyne2much:
Another piece of bullcrap written by an attention seeking fellow called FFK

Really? Why not focus on the message and ignore the messenger.

fulanimafia:
My friend before arms are distributed at the 'tactical level', they have to have been made available by the authorities at the 'strategic level' (viz-a-viz Jonathan).

The clear point being made here is that Jonathan wickedly and selfishly diverted the funds meant to provide these arms and ammunition to defeat Boko Haram, which were diverted to his failed re-election campaign at the cost of thousands of innocent Nigerian lives, and thereby frustrating the soldiers into committing mutiny.

President Buhari is not just sharing petty blame, but is simply laying the foundation for the heavy corruption and human rights violation charges that will keep Jonathan behind bars for a very long time.

You seem smart. Let me just ask; has this government bought/purchased any ammunition since it came on board. If your answer to that is No....then my friend, someone bought this arms....and if the previous government purchased those arms but refused the soldiers usage...that will be an entirely different argument.

pleiades45:
Iweala that has corruption cases pending ? that thief . okonjo needs to be in a jail cell

Which corruption case? is it the one in dailies, na there dem dey charge person abi? Oga ade... go play jare

Good one

Banks hustling for deposits since time immemorial

@Obafunke, What's your email address or how do we send you a mail.

I dont understand. Is the land yours or you are only selling for some persons.

^^^Shame on you. Be waiting for IITA when reasonable people are taking advantage of this gap.

This is an opportunity for the discerning mind.

So wrong

Can APC stop the mindless comparisons and just get to work.

If Jonathan was a better leader, he will remain the President. Hence this reckless comparisons should end.

This party chieftains should realise that comments as this will only create further acrimony and division. When they are done labelling the former persident with every terrible adjective, they will realise the gravity of their actions today.

Demdem:
Jonah-daft is a curse to his people. Right from his being a governor to being the President, the fool fuccked his people up. He promised us floating cities. he lied to us big time.
Far more ND peeps now agree with demdem

You strike me as someone who lacks basic home training, who is irresponsible and totally subjective.

manie:
Some executive directors will go with Onasanya, we will see new faces on the board during the AGM in 2016 by His grace.

Onasanya is not going in 2016, he is going soon. Infact a new GMD will take over before the end of this year.

Just so you lot know, Bisi Onasanya the current GMD of FBNL will be leaving this december. So hopefully, some better manager may step in.

Truth be told, while FirstBank continues to post huge gross earnings year on year (case in point is the half year results recently published); the operating expenses continue to spiral outta control. There is also a feeling that most of the bad loans in the banks books must have direct input of some members of the board as there are insider dealings going on.

What title documents are available?

Hi World1

One sucker only yields one fruit right? Please confirm how many fruits one sucker yield upon maturity.

why are you selling?

Many thanks for the quick response
Since the land is only for plantain. can we intercrop with other crops.

Can you manage the farm by been part of the project i.e. the whole exercise of land clearing, weeding, planting etc? If yes, what are your Charges and what is the modus operandi

What documents do we receive upon purchase of the land?

RIP to the dead. We pray swift healing to the injured. I hope the owner insured the business.

Our disaster management in this parts ought to be improved, this incidents can be avoided or at least reduced.

I bet she is letting herself go and not doing much about it.

Kinda same boat with the OP... I understand where he is coming from.

Its so sad that after 3yrs of delivery, she still looks pregnant with fat everywhere. Basic exercise will not be tried at all at least for the hubby. Will eat so late in night and head to bed almost immediately. She knows what you like in your woman and will continue to do the opposite.

Talked about it severally...right now, I have given up.

I don't intend cheating on her though although she thinks I am.

True

This article is shocking and inconceivable.

How someone could sit down and concoct so much lies just to perpetuate power is shocking.

I don't think Jimi has any arrangement to elevate or treat a certain ethnic group above others. OP, if you have anything that alludes in this direction, it won't be out of place to avail same.

When they say APC is full of lies and propanganda, this tops the scale. The effects of this lie is far-reaching and has the capacity to set this country on fire.

Yoruba Ronu! Why will Jimi tow this line when he enjoys support from his kinsmen, the other yoruba race and various other non-indigenes.

Is it Jimi's fault that certain non-indigenes riding on the PDP platform won the ticket to represent Lagos in a free, fair and credible elections? If Nigerians born in other countries can aspire to levels of governance, why cant we put aside our tribal affiliations and vote the person of our choice.

This article is a shame and must be condemned by all progressive minded individuals.

Ire o!

GO,

We know you are the don...you read maths afterall