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Nchenches:
But killing to access or retain political power has become like a norm in Nigeria. The ruling party has taken the phenomenon to higher level. El-Rufai is only a part of the system.

Isn’t it sad that one particular rudderless region and people have decided to make this same El Rufia their messiah? 😂 We are not rather yet as a country because we complain about bad situations only when we aren’t benefiting from them. The same El Rufai we all used to call all sorts of name. I can remember calling him “short man devil” and Christian-killer” but today, he’s now a baptized saint

tunjijones:
C Ronaldo is richer than all the musicians in America except Kanye West and jay z.

Also, a lot of people fail to realize that these ultra rich musicians don’t make their fortunes from music; most of them made their money from fashion and beauty like Rihanna’s fenty, Kanye West yezzy. Jay Z, the richest musician in the world makes his fortune from an array of business ventures (notable one being his Cognac drinks)
Most of them are even into shady ventures like drug

jaxxy:
Are u denying the facts that yorubas were turn to refugees, killed and rape? tinubu was quiet because of political ambition it took igboho to step in to fight for his people and he was arrested by order from buharis Government. His house was raided and guns found.

So what are u preaching about??

No sir, I’m not denying any of those facts. The point is, any legal resident of a country can legally seek secession and especially when he thinks his region is being marginalized and in fact, it’s your fundamental right but while at it, don’t be an Igbo man, be reasonable in your utterances and actions; don’t instigate people to start attacking security men and destroying public properties.
Igboho, as the wise Yoruba man that he is, was careful and knew very well what the implications would have been if he had killed any of those officers Buhari sent to his resident as a bait to get him nailed and that was because he’s not an Igbo man. Yes, he could be arrested for illegal possession of firearms but not for murder or the more serious felony of killing government agents. You are being ignored now since you are not teachable and no, I’m not judging you because I’m a psychiatrist and showing tolerance toward our patients is not something we joke with.

jaxxy:
I think u are still hallucinating. u said he didn't kill anyone but his house was raided and guns and amo where found? Even if he didn't kill anyone as u assume weren't people killed and thousands displaced in Yoruba lands or u think its only secession he was fight for??

like I said this more about tribal bigotry than justice for some people.

I said he didn’t kill anyone and didn’t foolishly come online to instigate violence or ask that his followers be attacking security officers and innocent civilians but since I’m lying and hallucinating (according to you) and since you know something we don’t know, omo w e r e y, can you share with us news sources that link him to any violent confrontations that led to the deaths of security personnel? Also, was he foolishly broadcasting on live TV that his followers should be killing people and destroying properties like your kinsmen? This is just common sense and it’s something Kanu and that other one are lacking, they talk and brag too much. Intelligent ppl don’t argue with emotions, they argue with facts and logic.

zero8zero:
Three weeks to recharge abroad because they renamed a bus stop 🤣🤣🤣. And you guys would abuse Tinubu from morning till night every day of the week. Even if he wanted to travel abroad, you would still abuse him that he's going to recharge his battery. But you can't even take one-tenth of what you dish to others.

You just aptly described hypocritical humans. They can’t take even the smallest fraction of what they dish out to others. They would insult and harass anyone who dares to have a contrary view but can’t stomach little criticism😂
Mr Obi don rush go threaten Deji with lawsuits, now Imagine Obi was the insult-ridden Tinubu of 2023😂

jaxxy:
So why did FG under buhari demand his arrest and extradition?

Keep speaking grammar and deceiving urself..

The answer: According to common sense, the FG under Buhari demanded his arrest because he carried out secessionist activities that no government would tolerate but what saved/saves him is the fact that he (Igboho), as the Yoruba man that he is, didn’t trade off his senses while at it; he didn’t kill anyone nor called for the killings of any persons in the cause of his struggle. This simple fact and differences shouldn’t be hard for those who use their brains but it’s fine my friend, I perfectly understand as the psychologist and psychiatrist that I am and no, I’m not judging😎🤝

jaxxy:
When igboho was arrested in Benin Republic did gbenga Daniel hail it?

I'm not saying Simon Ekpa's conviction is not a good development for justice which is seriously lacking in Nigeria and more importantly peace in the south east.

But I'm worried and concerned that these haller are biased or motivated by tribal bigotry than justice.

Make una dey use una s e n s e once in a blue moon at least na🙏
Why should any sane person be comparing igboho’s struggles and case with that of Ekpa? Obviously, Igboho was more intelligent and civil, he never called for anyone’s death. This is what we’ve been teaching the Igbos, no be every fight pesin dey fight and if you must fight, do so with your head and don’t make hasty decisions. As the Yoruba that he is, Igboho was wise enough to know the implications and what could have happened to him if he had carelessly called for the killings of other people or if someone had died as a result of his utterances.

Eraddray:
Any country that is negotiating with terrorist or giving terrorists amnesty, rehabilitating terrorist, and integrating terrorists into its military forces will face the kind of problems we're facing ....my own be say make bandits...boko boys and their brothers remain in the north...make Niger delta militant remain in South South and make Biafra forces remain in South East...

Abi o. The Yoruba land will forever remain the only region that could be called the cradle of civilization and humanity in the whole of Nigeria. It will be almost impossible for a group of extremists to spring up in the SW and start killing their own people in the name of freedom-fighting and banditry because love and humanity reside here and such an abomination won’t even see the light of the day. I laugh when I hear things like the northerners/igbos love themselves because if this is true, they wouldn’t be killing themselves in the name of religion extremism, banditry and freedom-fighting. Some were even kpaing their own people to spite a Fulani kanuri man when he was in Power
Make una continue to dey k p a i k p a i unaself, as long as the m a d n e s s is not spreading outside these two regions, we are good and please don’t stop, it’s all good riddance since Nigeria is somewhat overpopulated😎

PHIPEX:
South Africa, Egypt and Morroco are on that list and heavily populated. Stop excusing the failure and ineptitude of Nigeria. This mindset should then mean that China and India being the most populated countries in the world would also be the worst governed? Of the top 4 Economies in Africa, Nigerian is the only country missing on the list and you want to excuse it on the alter of heavy population.

Stop excusing an Olodo who failed an exam, others are passing it fair and square. Tribalism and religious bigotry is killing us.

Maybe if you had read the comments with an open mind and not with hate and tribalism b a l d e r d a s h , you would have seen where I clearly said it’s sad that Nigeria is like this. My emphasis was on how he had to pick Botswana (of all the countries there) and even stated it clearly that they’re just 2 million people. Out of all the countries there, why Botswana, a country that’s less than Oyo state in Nigeria?
Secondly, nobody is making an excuse for anyone failure due to tribalism because I already know where you are driving at. The rot in our government and governing system didn’t start with Tinubu and I’m sure they didn’t come up with this list using only him and his performance as the metric. Every region had ruled this country at one point or the other and in fact, the first ever president of the country was from the SE, so I don’t understand where your “tribalism” accusation is coming from if the ranking was based on the overall exploits of all the people who had ruled the country before and up to this very day (I.e, they’ve all been abysmally bad, from Azikiwe/Tafawa Balewa to Tinubu) so what’s your point exactly mister?
Every region has had the opportunity to turn the country around for better, were they able to? Why are you now pretending like the past were any better than the present?
Again, none of those countries is as complex as Nigeria and none of them has the unfair population to available resources ratio that Nigeria has. Most of you don’t even know that we aren’t as rich as we think we are. Take Kuwait for instance, this country produces 3 million barrels of oil everyday and this fortune is to be shared among just 4.9 million people while Nigeria, another “oil giant” produces 1.9 million per day and these are expected to cater for 235 million people😂 Nigeria is definitely not as rich as you all think.
Again, this is not me making excuses for anyone (they are all failures including your own tribesmen) but please, Nigeria’s governance woes didn’t today or with Tinubu.

RandDigital:
SA has the biggest population in that top5 and twice the size of Morocco. So, basically it's the best governed country in Africa if you use Nigerian logic of size 😏🇿🇦😎

Well, I’ll agree with you on this. When talking about governance, population sizes need to be considered. If you have a population of less than, let’s say 10 million people, you have no excuse whatsoever to not govern yourselves well especially when you are blessed with natural resources. This is the simple reason why Nigeria will never measure up to countries like Saudi Arabia, Qatar, the UAE and Kuwait despite being an oil-rich nation like them. The population size to wealth ratio puts Nigeria in a very bad spot. So yes, South Africa is the best governed State in this regard.

PHIPEX:
Botswana, a landlocked country with a population of merely 2million people doing wonderfully well

1 Botswana Pula equals 110naira today, that's how useless the naira has become.

Nigerians are busy doing tribalism on an empty stomach and poverty stricken environment

As much as nobody is happy about how Nigeria is being governed, Botswana shouldn’t be your best reference country. In your first paragraph, you admitted the whole country is 2 million yet you later went ahead to compare it with a country of over 200 million people 😂 Like FR, Wetin dey do una sef?😂
Most of the countries listed on that list have one thing in common and that’s low population sizes and common sense should tell an average sane person that the lower the population, the easier it is to be governed. Countries like the US, China, Russia, Pakistan, Indonesia, Brazil and India can not easily top a list like this because despite the fact the are wealthy, they are too populous to be easily governed.

completeskills:
Carefully watch the replay again and decide for yourself where the shirt pulling started.

If it has to be a foul then it should have been a free kick just before entering the box.

I understand your point my bro but blame that on the naive defender, as a professional in the art, he should have stopped pulling the shirt immediately Amad entered the box because he wasn’t even going to win the ball in the first place. A scenario like that one happened in the la liga between Endrick and one Espanyol’s defender last season when Madrid trashed them 4-1. The shirt-pulling started in the wing part of the pitch and the sharp dude (Endrick) endured and dragged on and fell when he got to the 18 box. The naive defender should have known better to stop pulling him before getting into the box. Blame that on the silly defender, VAR made the right call and off anybody should be crying about robbery, then it should be Man United. They deserved the win.

Jman06:
I'm not saying people don't commit paternity frauds, but the reason for that is not always "love" like that guy claimed. Some women are born who,,ores and no matter how much they claim to love a man, they'll still be lashing other men outside. Others do it for financial gains when their men are not meeting up financially.

Just dey there dey play okay? E Dey be like meme for eye till it gets to you. Were we not telling you on that other thread? The most dangerous and silly thing you could ever do to yourself as a man is marrying a woman who still has emotional attachment to someone else—a woman that you love more than she loves you. Make her your best friend and lover before ever proposing marriage to her you say no, that once you love her to the moon and back, everything is fine and she wouldn’t even think of cheating on you once she starts birthing kids for you I pity una life. I pity this coming generation of men. Someone had a child with someone else and without making enough research on what separated them, without even knowing the said man and not as if he was dead when you met her o, you hastily decided to marry her and expected that her love for the “broke” boyfriend who abandoned her would fade off just like that and just because you dey “knack” her and because she don born for you. Just keep enough money for DNA sha, remember I was saying this repeatedly on that other thread? Keep enough money.
Your friend even said a woman would start loving you the moment you start “knacking” her and she starts birthing for you when in actual reality, the reverse is the case as the love women show to their husbands wane with childbirth and that was when I knew you both weren’t married. I pity una😂
Men have no business with being emotional when it comes to marriage as marriage is a very serious matter that shouldn’t be handled with love alone on the part of the man. When you are marrying a woman, your love for her should be the last thing to consider rather, is she appealing to you? Can she be the best mother for your children? Can she multiply you in every way possible? Does this woman have baggage that you can handle as a man? And many other considerations. After all that is done, make her love you first and always scared of losing you. Make her the emotionally weaker party. Make her feel insecure and feel that you are the prize and could leave her if she misbehaves. But please, I’m not saying you shouldn’t love them but it should be visible even to the blind that they love you more. A woman who loves you more would be scared of doing things that could cost her the marriage and love. You don’t buy a woman’s love because it’s expensive and can’t even be bought with money. You will keep paying and renewing the subscription till your last breath. Pesin wey use money buy love no dey pay finish. Showing them they are all you’ve got and that you love them more than they do love you back is a recipe for disaster.
Again, men who marry the women who love them tend to live longer and in pure bliss (good examples are Jay Z, Asap Rocky, Pa Olu Jacob and many other lucky men out there.
Again, most Nigerian girls marry who is available and not who they really love and what happens after this? They go back to cheat on these available men with the ones who have their m u m u buttons at hand no matter how hard you try to love and care for them. This explains why you can be richer than Dangote and a girl would still cheat on you with her poor ex boyfriend.
It’s a circle and you have only yourself to blame for getting married to a singlemother. I have nothing against them because every deserves love but often time, the bonds between them and their babydaddies is not a mess you should put yourself through. Often time, their babydaddies will always occupy the most parts of their hearts. If I must marry a single mother, then she must be a widow.
Stories like this would look fabricated to you until it happens to you, your eye go clear.

completeskills:
Premier league has been ruined by VAR. Football is now like Tele modo. Everyone waiting for what the referee next call will be.
IMO...that's a soft penalty. Probably because it is man u. Reverse that circumstance and Burnley will not be getting that review.

Bro obviously didn’t watch the match because if you did, you wouldn’t be saying this. That Burney defender was too naive to pull his shirt in the first place because he wasn’t even going to win the ball if left alone. Blame that on lack of experience on the part of the defender. Same thing happened to Hojlund against Sociedad last season in the Europa, if Zulbedia had left him alone, I’m sure he wouldn’t score the goal. Again, do you know how many penalties they could have awarded Man United if Var was truly on their side? Una must always talk for talking sake. Either light or not, don’t do the foul, that’s what the law says

Jman06:
The paternity fraud thing is actually exaggerated to start with. Our foremothers like I mentioned in the post you quoted were not known with paternity frauds but learnt to live with men who showed genuine interest and love for them.

Many women did and still do adjust to loving the men who married them in the course of the marriage and that's how nature made it. Let me inform you that what fuels paternity fraud most is LACK OF FUNDS on the man's part, and not every lady would choose that path when her husband fails to meet up financially. Those who are cut out to cheat would cheat regardless of their husbands' financial status or how much they claim to love their husbands. However, lack of funds has proven to be the most cited reason why women cheat.

You are just a university kid who just started learning about life and with time, you will understand better and no, our mothers didn’t start loving their husbands with time. Most of them are in their respective marriages for the sake of their children and because the society during their time frowned upon divorcing. Most of them are enduring years of manipulations, suffering, abuse and lack of care and not because they magically started loving their husbands the moment they started birthing kids.
Unlike in their own time, the societal pressures on women has significantly reduced and things like divorce and “single-motherism” is relatively attracting lesser condemnation unlike it was during our mothers’ era.
My brother, in this generation, your woman will not magically start loving you just because she bear kids for you especially when she didn’t really love you while still courting.
What actually gave you out as a kid is the fact that you didn’t even know that childbirth kills women attachment and love feelings towards men and not the opposite Immediately I saw that comment from that other guy, I knew who I was wasting my precious time on. Contrary to your belief and in reality, once they start birthing kids, their love for you would be waning down but in your erroneous belief, you think the love would be growing more😂 It’s actually not their fault, science has a valid explanation to that.
I pray you don’t get to understand the hard way. You are being ignored now my friend 🤝

BraniacX:
you can love your wife after marriage, I'm not disagreeing with that, I'm only saying the decision of who to marry as a man shouldn't be based purely on love as it leads to choosing the wrong partner for marriage most of the time, matter of fact you're better of with a woman who loves you more than you love her, unless you are one of those unlucky men who only had one choice of partner

Leave the kids. Make them dey chase woman wey no love them up and down.
I pity this generation of young men. When you chase a woman who doesn't love you and she eventually settles for you, always know that she's only tolerating you and wouldn't fail to remind you every now and then and anytime you quarrel; you are only buying her love and I still remember what the holy books say about he who buys love; them no dey ever pay finish.

This is the problem we are facing in our society today with the spike in paternity fraud cases. This paternity fraud comes as a result of the fact that women now marry who are available due to biological time and financial circumstances most times and not who they truly love. They later cheat on these their simple, pseudo-husbands with the true love of their lives.
She would get serviced by the one she loves resulting in unwanted pregnancies that are then pinned on the innocent Mr lover man at home.
Nobody is saying you should marry a woman you don't love at all because I would never do that. I must first find you attractive before even deciding to woo you and it’s pertinent on me as a man to use my masculine charms and prowess on you before deciding to take you to marriage level.
A real alpha male makes a woman love him to the point that the woman would get so drenched in love more than how he loves her initially. I love my wife but definitely not as much as she does love me. She's married to my family members and everything that concerns me and of course, this love didn’t start the day I wooed her or the day we started doing it nor the day she put to bed.
Just make her love you more and live longer without having to constantly worry about BUYING her love or doing endless subscriptions to make her love you and I don't know why this seems so difficult to grasp for many of these kids.
The most laughable of them all is the one that said the woman who didn't love you initially would start loving you the moment you start "knacking" her and she starts bearing kids for you and that statement gave him out as kindergarten kid that he is because in real life, love wanes off with children and only adults can relate but my brother thinks it’s the opposite😂. I laugh in dutch
A very dangerous mentality.
Statistically and realistically speaking, relationships where women have the higher emotional investments tend to last longer.
Make them prepare enough money for DNA because paternity fraud go too surplus with these crop of weak men littering our society these days

Jman06:
Ladies don't really need to marry whom they "love" but who loves them more (that is for ladies who are smart)! Our mothers were married off to men who are interested in them, not necessarily whom they "love" and they enjoyed marriage that way! More women have learnt to love their husbands in the course of the marriage than before it.

This right here is the reason why paternity fraud is now the order of the day They marry available simple men only to end up being cheated on with the men they truly love and those who don’t even have their time. This mentality of thinking a woman would love you more once she starts birthing for you is laughable . You will understand soon with time, the older you get.

DoctorStanley:
You talk as if we live in a vacuum. In REAL LIFE men constantly woo (they WOO) and marry women they find appealing regardless of how the woman feels INITIALLY. And usually, with time, the woman's affection towards them increases and they raise their children and "live happily everafter"!

Bro, this is exactly the point. When you woo a lady, it becomes pertinent that you use your manly prowess to make her love you. You use your masculine charm to make her see you as her final bus stop and the only man who has the keys to her heart. You make her see you as someone she has no choice but to love before making that grace mistake of marrying her and hoping she will start loving you once she starts birthing My bro, I dey shake head for you. It’s fine, you will soon understand by the time you marry. Firstly, I wouldn’t marry a woman I’m not attracted to or the one I don’t find appealing. The only thing we are educating you about is the fact that aside the fact that you love her and find her appealing, make sure you make her love you more and finds you appealing even more than you do toward her before taking her to the final stage, with that, you are rest assured that she loves you and you don’t have to convince her to love you with “dicking” and child birth. Childbirth doesn’t make a woman love you more especially for a woman who didnt love you as much as you loved her before marrying her. Convincing a woman to love you is a sure recipe for disaster and a life where you will perpetually fight to have her because even the holy books say: “pesin wey use money buy love no dey pay finish”
I have nothing else to say at this point, with time, you will gain better understanding. Enjoy your weekend.

DoctorStanley:
Oga, what I wrote is short. Here it is below. Where did I say if a woman loves you she'd be sleeping around??
Part of the reason you love a woman is because she respects herself and because of that self-respect doesn't sleep around. Get it now?

Oh wow, so I’m now lying on you?

“A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.? In real life the more you sex her, as she has children with you, as she gets older and her options narrow, the more she "loves" you. That's why in the old days arranged marriages usually turn into "love" on the woman's part while the man married more wives”

Those are your exact words, read them again and I’m sure you wouldn’t be able to make any sense out of it either because I couldn’t after I read it.
Also, my bro like I said earlier, it’s your life and you at 100 percent liberty to do whatever you want with it. Please go ahead and marry a woman that you love more than she loves you, one thing is certain, she will pin a child/children she gets from the other man she truly loves, her heartthrob and sweetheart, the one that doesn’t love her more than she does love him, on you and you will happily train them as the available caretaker man that you are. Again, this is the problem bedeviling our society today. Many Ladies now end up marrying the men that are chasing after them and not the ones they truly love and then end up cheating on these men with the ones they truly love but can’t have.
It’s your life bro and I don’t understand why I’m stressing on your behalf😂 Enjoy yourself and have a good life. You are being ignored now.

DoctorStanley:
Funny guy. The word "more" has been part of this discussion from the start. How can you love her MORE if she doesn't love you at all? How can you even love somebody who shows no affection for you at all?? So clearly what we're discussing is this: the woman has affection for you but you love her more.

Now, we don't have to be theoretical about any of this because we have real life to reference. If you love a woman, what I'm telling you is the only way she can "love" you MORE in real life (I know because due to my circumstances and profession I've been target of such "love" severally). What you want is a woman who has affection for you but doesn't love you more than you love her (at least initially) because that extra "love" comes with too much headache

We can also reference the past when they practically had no divorces. Men picked women they liked and the women ended up loving the men who picked them. Not vise versa. Jacob worked seven years to marry Rachel but Leah loved him. How fulfilled do you think he'd have felt if he had only married Leah?

Bro, it’s your life and as such, you are free to do whatever you want with it. From your comment that I quoted, you explicitly claimed that the one who’s obsessed with you would be monitoring your every move while the other one would respect herself and wouldn’t be sleeping around. Like how does that even make sense? You just declared that a woman loving a man too much would lead her to be sleeping around.😂 That statement was based on what exactly? Hearsay or imagination?. Like wtf is going on bro?
My point is: when choosing the right woman to marry, choose the one who loves you more and she won’t force another person’s child on you to train.
This is the problem with many of you these days and the reason for the recent spike in paternity fraud causes we witness nowadays. These ladies now get married to you AVAILABLE men and not their hearttrobs and you wonder why you available men end up training another man’s children.
Bro, at this very point, I’ve tried enough for you and of course, it’s your life and you’re free to do whatever you so wish. Go ahead and marry a woman you love more than she loves you especially the one that has another man she’s dying over with the hope that she will love you more when you start having sex with her and she starts birthing kids for you😂 I sincerely hope and wish you don’t learn the hard way. I sincerely want to know how old you are and if you are married or not and I’m not meaning to sound condescending but your comments are troubling me. Frankly speaking, I’m worried for you.

DoctorStanley:
Ok, let's analyze what actually happens in real life (also bearing in mind men are polygamous by nature).
A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.? In real life the more you sex her, as she has children with you, as she gets older and her options narrow, the more she "loves" you. That's why in the old days arranged marriages usually turn into "love" on the woman's part while the man married more wives. With the first woman you dare not think of another woman talkless of dating one. The second woman knows any possible outside woman is nothing. She knows you value her and the children more than anything in the world.

Bro makes me laugh. I had to quote you again. Bro thinks “dicking” a woman and impregnating her would force her to start loving him and that it would make a woman who doesn’t love him initially to start respecting herself to the point of not disrespecting him or sleeping around. Just LOL
Please my brother, I’m saying this to you bro to bro and with utmost seriousness and sincerity, please don’t make this mistake. A woman who doesn’t love you won’t respect or have affection for you when she starts bearing kids for you as you erroneously think and wrote up there. Please don’t make that mistake (I’m assuming you aren’t married yet). A woman who doesn’t love you will see marrying you as her way of doing you a massive favor hence, don’t expect respect from such arrangement because she knows you have no other choice than her; she knows you are obsessed and that she will get away with whatever nonsense she does.
Lastly and most importantly, a woman who doesn’t love you will surely bear for you kids from another man; another man who is the true love of her life. A woman who loves you will never imagine holding hands with another man let alone, sleeping with him to the point of having kids for him. A woman who loves you would surely find other persons sexually irritating. I care for you and that’s why I’m stressing about this.
Marrying a woman that doesn’t love you is a recipe for disaster; you are sure to train another man’s child! At this point, even God knows I’ve tried! Have a good life.

Jman06:
And I'm trying to let you know that a woman's so called love is not enough to marry her because it is short-lived compared to a man's love. Men's love come with responsibilities and this is what keeps the marriage going.

Personally, I can't marry a lady I don't love. I must be deeply in love with her because it'll help me carry the family with my full chest. All I expect from her is to respect and be submissive to me. Also, there has to be some level of mutual attraction between us to even come together in the first place. Over the years, marriages and societies had been built on men's love for their wives and that has ensured stability in our families.

Nobody is saying you should marry a lady you don’t love all at (emphasis on this) but please, make sure she loves you more. Men can cope with women they don’t love really but trust me, women can’t cope with men they don’t love because they aren’t polygamous in nature. When a woman starts cheating, you will surely see the signs if you are the observant type because they aren’t built for it unlike men. A man can be cheating and still not joke with his housewife; a man can see someone who’s better than his wife outside but still remain in the marriage with her and not try to marry the other lady but trust me, once your woman starts seeing another man as being better than you and this man talks to her, you are gone my brother and she will start showing it in the ways and manners she talks to you. She will starts becoming “naggy” and disrespectful. Again, nobody is saying you should marry a lady you don’t love AT ALL but please marry the one that loves you more. The one who thinks marrying you is her way of doing you a favor will SURELY NEVER RESPECT YOU because she knows you don’t want to lose her and that whatever she does, you dare not complain because she’s the prize. She will constantly remind you of how you aren’t in her class and how she married you out of pity. I pray you don’t realize all these things too late in life. If you marry a woman who doesn’t love you as much as you love her, one thing is certain, you are sure to train children that are not yours; children from the true love of her life; children from the man she truly loves

DoctorStanley:
Ok, let's analyze what actually happens in real life (also bearing in mind men are polygamous by nature).
A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.? In real life the more you sex her, as she has children with you, as she gets older and her options narrow, the more she "loves" you. That's why in the old days arranged marriages usually turn into "love" on the woman's part while the man married more wives. With the first woman you dare not think of another woman talkless of dating one. The second woman knows any possible outside woman is nothing. She knows you value her and the children more than anything in the world.

Bro, I don’t want to sound condescending but this is honestly not how to argue properly. At first, you said women don’t love unconditionally which is not even what the argument was all about and now you’re talking about woman loving you intensely to the point that she monitors your every move 😂 No sir, that’s not love, that’s obsession and that’s not my point because I never said you should marry a woman who is so obsessed with you that she CONTROLS YOU. And no, such a woman is not in love but is in control of you. Secondly, your second point about the more you sex her, the more she loves you is wrong and the right statement should rather be “the more you sex her and the more time you spend with her the more you start loving her and that would validate my earlier point that men don’t love, we start loving women with time and that’s the proper way it should be. When you marry the woman who loves you and even when you don’t love her up to the way she loves you, the marriage would surely last because nothing and nobody outside will be able to tempt or deceive her and with time, your love for her would grow even fonder.
How old are you bro, I’m not asking to bemean you, I’m sincerely curious because you should naturally understand this if you are married.
What you described there is not a woman who is in love, it’s a woman who is in control; a woman who is controlling your every move and not the one that loves you.
In real life, the one who loves you would be so careful that she wouldn’t want to do things that could force you to leave her especially when she knows you are not obsessed with her. She wouldn’t want to be doing things that you could hold as excuse to leave her. She would be so careful that she dares not control you because she has MORE TO LOSE. Like I said earlier, this is not how to argue properly because you are constantly digressing to something else. Please let’s stick to the point of the conversation. The scope of the argument is “marry the woman who loves you and not the one that thinks marrying you is her way of doing you a big favor”


“A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.?”

I just quoted your exact words and this is why I said this is not how to argue properly. With the quoted words above, you just hastily concluded that the one who “intensely” loves you would SLEEP AROUND WHILE MONITORING YOUR EVERY MOVE WHILE THE ONE YOU LOVE MORE WOULD HAVE “AFFECTION” FOR YOU AND WOULDN’T SLEEP AROUND BECAUSE SHE RESPECTS HERSELF😂
Bro, wasn’t the argument about a woman who loves you and the one who doesn’t love you? So where exactly is that “affection” coming from? How does the one that doesn’t love you suddenly starts having affection for you to the point that she respects herself and isn’t sleeping around?
So you want to marry a woman who doesn’t really love you with the hope that she would start loving you with time; with the more you have sex with her and the more she bares children for you? Just lol, you will soon understand.
Like what’s going on bro? I said marry the woman who loves you and not the one you love more and you are here talking about affection. How will a woman who doesn’t love you have an affection for you to the point of not sleeping around? Read what you wrote again.

kedeojo:
forget about the noise from our noisy neighbors. Yorubas are the most recognized billionaires. They don't just make noise and hyping is not thier calling.They owned most of the biggest investment in Lagos.They dominated almost the sector of the economy.

This!
Just imagine the likes of Adenuga, Otedola, the Adelekes, Ogunlesi, Awotana, Alakija and a host of others were all ibos 😂 By now, this country for no contain us with the daily barrage of noise and chest-beatings.

DoctorStanley:
The problem with your thesis is that women never love for nothing. Men do but women don't. A woman's love is always conditional, always because of one thing or another (could be potential they can clearly see). Hence the saying below.
But more importantly she'd be extremely jealous and insecure Plus you're more likely to see other women because she doesn't have what you really want

Ok, let’s be clear and stop being ambiguous. I don’t know where you stand exactly because I never argued or opposed most of the things you stated here. Where exactly do you stand?
My point is: Never marry a woman who doesn’t love you more than you love her. My stance is clear and simple. Are you saying it’s wrong or not because I never said a woman’s love for a man is not conditional as that’s another argument entirely. Again, my point is that as a man, nature doesn’t permit you to love a woman more than she loves you, you will regret marrying her because she will constantly tell you that you aren’t in her class and that she’s only managing you. When a woman loves you more, she will do everything to make the marriage work. She will marry your family members and everything that concerns you. I’m not saying you should marry a woman you don’t love at all but be sure the bearing leans toward her side more because if you are the more emotionally attached person in the relationship/marriage, you will regret it and the marriage will surely crumble as it is a simple logic and I don’t know why you still don’t get it. Men hardly leave their marriages due to cheating but same can’t be said of women. A cheating man doesn’t necessarily love you more than his housewife because he’s only using you as a mere object of sxual satisfaction but once a woman who makes it clear she doesn’t love you and you still proceed to marry her, she won’t only cheat but will constantly remind you that you aren’t her level and will eventually leave you for the person she loves.
Again, nobody is saying a woman’s love for you is unconditional.

DoctorStanley:
I guess you guys have never had the experience of many women wanting you. Why do you think kings, prncesses, princes end up marrying who never knew who they were before they met and got to know each other??

Seems you quoted the wrong comment. Check again sir because no correlation whatsoever between what I said and what you’re saying. Also, women chasing you because of what you have is different from women loving you even when you have nothing tangible to offer and yes, that’s the kind of woman you keep even if you don’t love her as much as she does because with time, you will start loving her because you will start seeing your mother in her. Men are grown babies, we want to feel loved and often time, we aren’t built to show love. So it’s very natural and healthy when your woman loves you more. You will understand this better with time.

Wizmj4real:
Omo that will be too much on her oh
Kai it will seem like a heartbreak
God I beg oh

Don’t tell her you don’t feel the same way because women generally don’t know how to handle rejection because they aren’t cut out for it. Away from that, please whenever you decide to settle down (marriage) please don’t hesitate to go for a woman like this particular one as they are much more better than the ones you love. Trust me, you will start loving her the longer you stay together and this is because men don’t love as much as women do. Never should you marry a woman you love more than she loves you. If you end up with a woman you love more, she will forever think and treat you like she’s doing you a massive favor by choosing (managing) you.

WorldRichest:
You well so? So secondary school girls are supposed to be sleeping with the boys in their class, abi? That is what you call exploration. You see how you missed Heaven? Na me go dey for Gate on Judgement Day, come enter Heaven make I dey see you

Integrating and moving with the society/opposite sex doesn’t mean they should be sleeping around with the boys. C’mon, these are adults and no, you don’t go to the university to gain only formal education, you go there to learn how to live and interact with other people from different sexes, backgrounds, religions and cultures. This isn’t just right