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kettykin:
I hope these urchins don't escalate situation to a point where Aba and Onitsha will reply like the did early 2000 that tamed kaduna and kano riots.

Rather than allow fragile peace to reign, the bigotry has left street renaming and has gone into the markets. I pray igbos don't retaliate.

It was this same mouth and chest-beating that led some over 3 million people to their earlier grave. Well done ehn and please, don’t stop the chest-beating, suya and manure are in short supply

tuoyoojo:
For Iran all is fair in love and war

They are the masters of indirect warfare

Apt definition of cowardice. Only cowards employ indirect warfare, real men face their fears without hiding.

If you like, cut off your head for these people, it won’t stop them from hurting you. Again and for the umpteenth time, t e r r o r i s t s are not humans!! Stop wasting your time defending them because they will easily kpai you without wasting time if given the chance. I pity all these countries forming woke; countries like South Africa and Australia.

jmoore:
All these bots that keep posting wetin no make sense.

Make una employ someone that is creative na.

Na that laptop Amaechi give una I blame.

Only the wise understand that statement. So, you not understanding it is perfectly normal sir. Bola Ahmed Tinubu was the biggest beneficiary of every single vote gotten by Peter Obi but most of you were so beclouded by hate that you didn’t notice. 2023 was Atiku’s golden chance at the presidency but all thanks to Obi, Tinubu won.

Zionmdde:
You mean people like you who will rejoice at deaths of others because they are from another tribe who they have also seen people like them rejoicing at the death of others. sanity indeed. Lost humanity

Yes, I was referring to sane people like me; people who treat diseases from the root rather than facing only the symptoms and no, I only rejoice over the deaths of a n i m a l s because they are the ones that would say horrible things like "who did their parents vote for" when innocent children were killed in an accident
People who aren't bias would either blame both parties equally or at least, castigate those who started it. If you are looking for those who rejoice at the death of others, look for those who gloated over the death of poor, innocent kids in Ibadan a few months back just because their parents allegedly didn't vote for Peter Obi.
We all see how they gloat over the death of others and say things like "who did they vote for" and "Ebi n pawa o" each time someone dies in the states where their candidate lost woefully.
I said I wasn't referring to you because sane people wouldn't be attacking those who are only reacting to these vile and shameful behavior while leaving those who started the ugly trend untouched and ONKR for playing on our sensibilities and for feigning ignorance. Next time, channel your admonitions to the right quarters or admonish both parties involved equally. You are now being ignored.

jogojogo:
If this had happened in the Southwest, the comments would have been more aggressively offensive than what we are even seeing here. Thos guys planted this seed. Now we talked of humanity as if it was not on this platform that those heartless mofos were celebrating the stampede that kill some kids in the Southwest few months ago and while at that, the same fate befell the mockers.

Imagine the stinking double standards. He’s now pretending like he doesn’t know how chaotic this thread would have been if this had happened in places like Lagos, Ogun, Ekiti or Benue.

jogojogo:
You just put it very right.
Its only them that mocked others misfortune. Whatever is seen today is a reaction.
These are people that will celebrate the killings in Benue and Plateau and attribute as God fighting for them because of the civil war.

The most annoying part is how they start playing with people’s sensibilities by acting like the victims. The most painful of it all was the death of those innocent kids who knew nothing about politics, can’t we just learn when to draw the lines and be humane? Kids died in an accident and all that could come to the minds of a certain people who are predominantly catholic Christians was that it was God fighting for them since the parents of the dead kids didn’t vote for an ibo man and one w a r e e e y is now here forming Mr admonisher and preaching about love.
As fate would have it, exactly the same tragic event happened in the heart of their land claiming the lives of hungry adult billionaires this time and just a few hours apart . We serve a living God truly
I had never gloated over anyone’s death before but you see that particular one? I knew God existed and now quick to anger and revenge unlike before.
Why should anyone even think that death is his God’s way of fighting for him all because of an electoral loss? Once someone dies in middle belt or the SW, you hear things like “who did they vote for” “God is fighting for us” “Ebi n pawa o” and all sorts of senseless Comments but they are now here preaching about humanity. ENKR

Zionmdde:
Unfortunately I don't care tribes people who are bereft of certain cells of the brains come from. A Person who is heartless is heartless irrespective of whether you are starting the song or you are singing because someone sang.

I wasn’t talking to you then. I was referring to sane people; people who have integrity to judge without prejudice. People who don’t leave the root cause of a disease while treating only the symptoms. Have a blessed day ahead, I wasn’t referring to you🤝

givedemwotowoto:
What's more concerning is the comment is the most liked so far

Jjc, pause and read the room and you’ll know why it’s the most liked comment so far.
May God have mercy on the soul of the deceased billionaire if he wasn’t among those who derived joy or used to gloat over the deaths of other people all in the name of tribal politics.🙏

Zionmdde:
Comments up there show how heartless politics and tribalism have turned people into

It's sad that a man have to kill himself, he must have suffered for long that life itself no longer held meaning. It's so sad.

Start your admonition with those who started the ugly trend. Those who never failed to shout “ebi n pawa” at any slight chance any time there’s a tragic event in one particular region. Were you sleeping under the rock when so called humans were gloating over the deaths of innocent children who were killed in a stampede in Ibadan some years back? Then, we were hearing things like “who did their parents vote for?” Those were the heartless songs coming from the ibos. Next time, channel your admonition to the right quarters and the real aggressors who started the whole trend since these ones are only helping them to perfect the silly act. You don’t start something only to cry victim later.

hegelian:
see what we have reduced ourselves to..our humanity is gone and all we have left is dick measurement..yourba this, igbo that..we dont even care again.our thieving leaders have suceeded..god save us all

As bad and silly as his comments sound, let’s assume this said man who committed suicide was a westerner from a place like Ibadan, what do you think our igbo brothers would be saying by now? How chaotic do you think this thread would’ve been? Why don’t we tell ourselves the truth? I’m not making things up, we all know what we are doing. I can never forget how silly, low and petty these easterners could be when it comes to politics. They just don’t know when to stop.
More than a dozen innocent children were killed in a stampede in Ibadan and we were all here seeing the horrible comments coming from the igbos but since we serve a living God Who is now very quick to anger and judgment, the same very thing happened just a few hours later in Anambra and scores of billionaires were killed while struggling to get one-one derika of rice. Next time, face and admonish those who are the aggressors and not those who are only being reactionary. That’s how those who have integrity judge.

gidgiddy:
Im not entirely sure what multi dimensional poverty means but some people are lucky that the British decided to make Lagos capital of Nigeria, a status it enjoyed for over 80 years

If it had not been for that.........

Yes my friend, the Ondo people are also very lucky and should be thankful to the British colonizers for making Lagos capital of Nigeria. Had it not been for that, Ondo wouldn’t be recording the least multidimensional poverty to population ratio in the whole of Nigeria. Una never know wetin dey worry una.

omooba969:
You're wrong, and your comment shows how out of touch you are. Have you ever tried to exhaustively explore why people may switch off completely from an Ex? Why would you refer to those who choose to switch off completely as 'defeated and pained? Maybe they're pained, yes, but there might have been elements of betrayal, emotional damage, material loss or even trauma.

Therefore, switching off completely is not 'malice' (as you posited) but a way of managing the effects of the break-up, a way of dealing with stress, and above all, a coping strategy.

You need to understand what we refer to as 'lived experience', as this would help you to probably fully understand their story. Everyone's story provides us with insight, and with insight comes empathy.

Take care.

Yes you are right and that’s why I said it depends on the circumstances surrounding the breakup. I wouldn’t want to be in touch with an ex who dumped me and obviously doesn’t want to see my face. Of course, that would be me sending her the wrong signal that I want her back. No, I wouldn’t do that. If a lady left me for someone else or because I was broke, why would I want to continue being friends with her? Ours wasn’t due to financial reasons and not because we both found someone else at that time, so it’s normal to not want to become enemies just because it didn’t work as planned.
Let’s now even assume the circumstances were different and I was wronged by her, I wouldn’t resort to ghosting and competing with her as my best way to get my revenge. If she talked to me, I would answer back like she’s a nobody but I wouldn’t resort to keeping malice. If one party is trying to talk but the other is being vengeful, it’s a sign of defeat and a big win for the other party. Trust me, you feeling that way is what they want to see. Often times, your Ex hates seeing that you can live happily without them and of course, they know that you being malicious is your only way of concealing your pains but when you act (not pretending to) nonchalant, they become defeated and disarmed once you take it like a real man. Talk to her casually like she’s a man like you. Talk to her like she’s a log of wood and that’s if she wants to talk. Blocking them on all social media shows you’re pained. Malice and vengefulness is a sign of defeat and weakness, not manly at all.

bigpicture001:
U never see anything, ex never show u something.....This will work for exes you dumped.... What about exes who dumped u...


Believe me, total cut off is the best till u heal... Healing is just about time passing away with her in her heart or activity...
. everyone has a weakness, u specifically focus ur mind on her weakness so that she doesn't appear special any more


But after u av got a nu person... Not necessarily because u want to find a replacement, and time passes with that person... U will b cool with your ex.. ND not feel anything for her anymore...

If you read my first paragraph well, you would easily see where I specifically said what works for everyone differs and secondly, biko why would I be feeling restless about someone who dumped me? Why should I be forcing communication with someone who obviously doesn’t want to talk to me? That is why I clearly stated that it depends and also depends on the circumstances surrounding your breakup. The person I mentioned earlier isn’t my first, second or third Ex but the circumstances under which the relationship collapsed and the kind of person she was to me while in the relationship didn’t allow for enmity hence the reason I was feeling restless. Also, I made it clear that you need to set boundaries, no too much closeness and again, if you still have the urge to replace your ex with someone else or the urge to compete with them that you are now better or that they have lost a gem or that you’ve found someone better, then you still love them. Malice is a pointer to the fact that you are either pained as a sour loser or you just find it difficult to move on and more often than not, it leads to making mistakes upon mistakes because you aren’t at peace while trying to compete with them. Once you start seeing your ex as a mere friend and the thoughts of sleeping with them don’t cross your mind again, you are fully and finally at peace with yourself and with them. Blocking people and keeping malice is a sign that you are defeated, pained and they still live rent-free in your head.

Fiscus105:
If you are to be in her shoe, will you settle for the poor/rich, weakest/baddest? The question is straight forward and nobody ask you to start complaining and attacking.

That commenter was right. If my only life problem is having to deal with being bombarded with a plethora of choices to pick from and a host of people who want to make me their responsibility, then I won’t say I have any problem. Whether a woman is beautiful or not, rich or poor, working or jobless, old or young, made grave mistakes in the past or not, a street dog or a woman of virtue, suitors will always come for her. There’s always that man who wants her either for ‘chops’ or as a soulmate. Men on the other hand are made to believe that they don’t deserve to live or enjoy the good things that come with life if they aren’t willing to sacrifice something in return. There’s this common street saying that it’s only dogs, children and women that are loved unconditionally. As a man, your mother is the only woman who loves you somewhat unconditionally. Yes, I said somewhat because it’s never truly unconditional because you are her child and that’s the condition that made her love you😂; she’s the only one who loves you even when you are financially useless to her. When a girl is being bombarded by suitors, her only challenge is knowing and making the right choice for herself but trust me, she gains from whatever choices she makes as she’s not expected to shoulder the responsibilities of the person she so chooses. While women choose who will take care of them, men choose who to take care of. Read that again and tell me whose life is more complicated.

bigpicture001:
U are on point .. and same page as me... If u dnt cut them off initially, u will never move on...

There will still remain this jealousy thing ..

See all our celebrity and there exes ... Non ones to move on... U can imagine that up till now , Sophia of davido has refused to share pix of a nu boifriend since about 13 years later..

Because sh doesn't want to move on... Sophia of Israel bmw still snoops into her ex to know latest


I HV tried so many ways...and I realized..that the best way to handle it emotions after break up is complete blockage of ur mind from the ex..then physically, through all contact blockage..


After u get a nu patner and u guyz have gone done with time ND love..u can unblock...as the ex will now look ordinary to u

I love this but we also need to realize that what works for everyone is different. There’s this ex of mine whom I couldn’t get off my chest until I started communicating with her (platonic friendship) and of course, not frequently.
I started finding my peace back the day we started talking not because any feeling was reignited but because ceasing contacts with her took away my peace and made things look like we were enemies and as a result, competition started creeping in. Yes, the urge to quickly find someone else to replace her and the urge to make more money and a change of status (though finances was not the reason for the breakup) and I believe this is the most common chain of actions and thoughts that follow breakups. Trust me, all these will take away your peace and put the two of you in a perpetual state of competition. The moment you play the bigger person and start talking to them again (though not constantly) without showing any tendencies that you want them back or have any sexual desire towards them, it means they are already in the past because creating enmity with someone after a breakup is an indication that you still love them (you may not want to admit but deep down, you are still in love and the love is what’s causing you to fight back using ghosting) Once you start seeing them as a mere friend or even your own blood sister/brother, sexual desire towards them would become irritating to you.
As a lady, once I start talking to you and deep down, I have no urge to ‘knack’ you, you are gone; as in, you are now completely in the past and in fact, if you love me and I start talking to you without showing any form of sexual attraction, just move on already my sister😂
Keeping malice with someone shows they are still living rents-free in your head and heart.
But in all this, be careful and never allow your ex to be too close, not every ex moves on completely. Never let your communication be suggestive or ambiguous so they don’t start reading a different meaning.

ElevationD:
Sadly, you have forgotten to mention your state. However, I am very certain that your only claim to Lagos is “Yoruba”. Unfortunately for you, others are Lagosians, irrespective of their tribes, religion and culture. The only option for you is self immolation.

What you have failed to find out is that prosperity has no limits, and knows not boundaries. Only lazy youths like you - going by Mrs. BAT and PMB - wait for crumbs, claiming ownership of lands that you never inherited in the first place. That’s why the cement seller in Ogbomosho, Keffi, Auchi, etc can get wealthy. What has brought Nigerians together in Lagos and other areas of the country is the fact that the constitution allows everyone to move and associate freely as Nigerians. So irrespective of where you originate, you can reside, purchase properties and do your business as you wish in every corner of the country, unhindered. The constitution guarantees you that and it can be enforced constitutionally if anyone infringes on your rights.
If people say certain areas are dirty, why do you swoon? Why not ask them to join hands with government to clean up the areas and make them all very habitable? What you think will snowball into “what you might later live to regret” happened 58 years ago and you did not experience it personally. Perhaps it is time for you to personally to experience the pain.

All this foaming in the mouth is highly unnecessary😂
I didn't read all that jargons but I'll answer some of it.
As for this: "However, I am very certain that your only claim to Lagos is “Yoruba”"
One thing about the Yorubas that highlights our sophistication and sense of strong family ties is the fact that we don't discriminate among ourselves. Once you're Yoruba, where exactly you come from or the religion you practice becomes secondary because we all trace our roots to the same noble place, the great Ife Kingdom. The Yorubas are the only tribe in Nigeria where inter-state political discrimination is almost non-existent and this why a man from Oyo or the one with Oyo father or mother can vie for political posts in Osun, Ogun, Ondo or Lagos and nobody would even be bothered since he's yoruba. If a whole Bianca Ojukwu was not tolerated in Anambra, who are we non-ibos to complain about not being welcomed by these ppl? If Ndi Abakaliki are seen as outcasts and are constantly called "the abokis" of igbo tribe by you igbos, who am I to complain about not being loved by you? So my ibo friend, even though I have no roots in Lagos, I own Lagos by the virtue of tribe just the same way an Original Eko man is highly welcome in my State, Ogun as he is an important shareholder by the virtue of his 'yorubaness' and that's how we roll down here.
This is something about us that I am so proud of. No other region in Nigeria has this grace.
With the way my ibo friend is here "yarning dust", one would think Lagos is the only Yorubaland that's accomodatimg the economic refugees😂
As for this: "What you think will snowball into “what you might later live to regret” happened 58 years ago and you did not experience it personally. Perhaps it is time for you to personally to experience the pain"
Please bring it on and don't stop disrespecting us, sooner than later, you will see what y'all are looking for. Experience it personally? No, we all know the people who are constantly crying about being marginalised. We all know the people whose properties and investments are at stake and like I asked earlier, please go to the heart of Arewa land and start calling their land a no-man's land then come back here and tell us about your experience and that's if you live to tell the tale😂

ElevationD:
How can you know when you have never ventured out of your one room one window dungeon?
How can you know when you leave your own community and claim Lagos as your own?
How can you know when you are one one the millions of citizens who are bewitched by politicians?
While you practice racism and tribalism in your country, your likes busy themselves complaining that Donald Trump deports Nigerians. When that happens, you remember to call everyone “Nigerian” and not by their tribe.

Why would any sane person want to go hustle in a barren land to even start with?😂
Immigration to a land is an indicator that such a land is prosperous while the mass exodus of people from a region is the opposite.
Nobody is being tribalistic here except those who have chosen to constantly provoke their hosts for no just cause and if you think the Yorubas are being overactive, please go to Kano and start calling it a no-man’s land even as a joke and let’s see how it goes. You don’t upset a people and still dictate to them how they must react. Let’s be honest with ourselves at least for once, can an average ibo man stand seeing strangers calling his village a no-man’s land or a filthy place? Why doing unto others what you will never tolerate? Why is everyone now acting like it’s abnormal for these people (the Yorubas) to be reacting this way?
Do you think this would have been the result if it’s the Hausas that the ibos are disrespecting this way? Do you think the Fulanis would have resorted to online jabs and name-calling if it was Sokoto or Kano that’s being repeatedly called a no-man’s land? Make una dey careful o so this thing doesn’t snowball into what you might later live to regret.

LagosOrigin:
Helinues and seunmsg people
I'm happy Raye cleared the air by saying the obvious truth that most of the Uber drivers in Abuja are yoruba people.

I love that.

….and do these Yoruba Uber drivers show any form of disrespect to their hosts, the Gbagyi people? Do they call Abuja a no-man’s with their reason being the fact that it’s a federal capital?
Do they come online to tag Abuja a kidnappers’ and one-chance haven?
No, they are lawful, well-behaved, sane and are respectfully doing their hustles without rubbishing the land that’s prospering them. They are simply not animals. Why can’t you learn from these people?

Hienna1:
Do you also read that the ife kingdom also pays tithe to the Alaafin... There are other kindgom too like the Awujale of Ijebu, alake of ake, soun of ogbomoso and others too..

Just saying you know.. the one we read in history.. the Oyo controls all activities including slave trade, military control, etc..

Your child getting richer and rising to prominence than you wouldn’t make you his subject and son.
Yes, Oyo became so successful, powerful and rich that it became one of the strongest and highly influential and spread empires in Africa but it wasn’t controlling places like Ekiti, Ondo, Ilaje and the rest because these regions were never under the empire but all of them trace their origin to Ile Ife (the foremost Yoruba kingdom). No yoruba man from Ondo, Ekiti, Osun, Ijebu, Ibadan, Eko, Ghana, Benin, Cuba, Brazil or the rest would tell you his ancestors are from the Oyo kingdom just the same way no Nigerian Fulani man would claim that the sokoto caliphate is the Father of Futa Jalon and Usman Dan fodio since the later didn’t grow up to the prominence that the Sokoto caliphate had.
Every Yoruba person on earth comes from the ancestral homeland of Ile Ife. All Yoruba kings both home and abroad trace their origin to the Ife Kindgom and this makes the Ooni Orisa, the father of all Yorubas and their Obas.
The first Alaafia Oyo was the son of a prominent Ife King. Being more powerful and successful than your father wouldn’t make you his father.

IBB007:
Lol…the pictures of those smart schools that I saw really fell my hand…my expectations were up but what I saw was so disappointing…most government schools in Lagos state are way better than that

If you say a thing,they will start explaining how Lagos was once the federal capital.This country is not getting better soon with the way everyone is constantly defending their own thieves. One wayray in this thread even said "He can eat once he's working" meaning that he's free to loot the state dry provided that he'll keep giving them sub standard projects. Imagine the arrant bukum coming from those who have a penchant for condemning other regions for voting bad leaders. Also imagine this pigsty was built by one Northern or Ekiti State government? To them, their people can't do no wrong. See what the wayray Governor just termed "smart" 😭 Really long way to go

Softmirror:
You mean the Israelis? Hamas has never been crying. It is people crying on their behalf.

Did you just say this?
Well Yes, you are right, it’s people like you that are crying on their behalf

pdppower:
Israelis themselves want the war to end, but Nairaland Israel supporters don't see anything wrong in the war.

Israelis want the war to end but you are the ones crying about genecide on nairaland. Burst my brain abeg

Crucialgem:
Some of you dont want to ever hear Nigeria maintaining law and other especially when it has to come to foreigners. So what is special about nigeria deporting foreign criminals that you are saying small yansh they shake

Everything is wrong with this news. Why are these countries not deporting our own criminals to us? No, they rather jail or execute them without batting an eye but when it comes to ours, we sheepishly send them back home. Funny enough, these foreigners are not even caught scamming foreigners but Nigerians like us and what do they get as punishment? Deportations.
The Chinese government would never arrest and parade their youths for scamming Nigerians but it’s our hobby down here. Just recently, trillions of naira was stolen from our people and economy by one ponzi scammer, till date, both our efcc and the criminal’s country haven’t done anything about it but imagine the Ponzi scheme belonged to a Nigerian and was used to scam Americans or India. You know the answer

FXtrader2025:
Nothing like Luck Arsenal know what they are doing.
Thats why Mourinho always win titles with just a goal or two, the Secret of Premier league is scoring early and defending your win,
Amorim decided to Bench the Good players and see where it ended.
Arsenal defended their early Goal thats the secret of the league
He Benched Amad for Dalot Benched Sesko and Zirkzee for Mount who is a winger abeg the Man fked up today big time Fck up

No sir, scoring early and parking the bus is the surest way to end miserably. That Mourinho’s tactic is now obsolete and it’s what cost him the conference league years back. It also cost Tottenham the final played recently against PSG. Nowadays, you get too comfortable with a slight lead, you get punished severely for it. Liverpool were too complacent with their 2 goals lead and were almost punished for it. Good teams don’t stop attacking because of a silly lead. What they played against united today is definitely not going to work every time and it shows this very Arsenal squad and mentality aren’t special or feared. Imagine that hit-woodwork from Dorgu had entered? This mentality is not what’s been winning teams like City, Liverpool, Madrid, PSG and Barca their titles. Big teams don’t play like underdogs. Most times, you can only luckily win Bayern Munich but you are definitely not going to outplay them. What united played today is enough confidence booster for them and for any team that’s going to be taking on Arsenal henceforth because they were outclassed in every way. United were being unlucky today but at least, if you must get beaten, don’t get beaten as an underdog.

Demolaeby:
No sensible person will compare Akwa Ibom to Anambra because Akwa Ibom two months revenue is annual revenue in Anambra

Wow. So it’s now about comparing resources? Pls, make una dey use una head na. I will use your warped logic on you.
Ondo State is a relatively poor state compared to Anambra but did that stop their former Governor (Olusegun Mimiko) from being a performer?
A lazy farmer blames his tool for his failure. A sane person and a visionary always find a way to optimally use the resources at their disposal, they don’t make silly excuses. When asked to list Obi’s legacy achievements that are still standing tall today, you lots would rather resort to insults and curses. Akpabio is not a good man in my book but at least, man has legacies that are still alive and visible even to the blind. Mimiko, Ganduje, Fashola are all “thieves” but c’mon, these guys are performers. How Obi was able to convince you supposedly educated youths would always remain a big mystery.

carzeem1:
Make of it what you want. Kwam 1 offense was of national security proportion. He stopped an airline from moving disrupting the aviation timeline and airspace control also holding 100s of passengers hostage because he was not allowed to fly.

Not making excuses for the young lady either but the event that played out is selective justice.

The major problem with most of you is that you don’t read but love engaging in blind argument. The post clearly stated that it’s not the duty of NCAA to arraign an offender to court but that of the affected airline. They stated that while IbomAir are charging her to court, valuejet are not charging Wasiu. Their only punishment was the flight ban which is already being imposed on him. Nobody is supporting anybody but make una dey try to dey read na. Reading equips one with enough points to argue with.