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Wuhan, China the epicenter of where the ongoing pandemic originated from has returned back to normal while the rest of the world enters the second wave of national lockdowns.

"After experiencing the first wave of epidemic in Wuhan and then the liberation, I feel like I'm living a second life," says Zhang, 29, who works in a textiles shop in the central Chinese city that was the original epicenter of COVID-19.

Outside, maskless partygoers spill onto the streets, smoking and playing street games with toy machine guns and balloons.

Nightlife in Wuhan is back in full swing almost seven months after the city lifted its stringent lockdown and the city's young partygoers are embracing the catharsis.

Source: Reuters
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ImaIma1:
This same probing and wanting to hear from the other side...I hope you will also investigate when it is a man that posts a similar story.

I won't coz men are always right!

Na una dey lie pass.

Just take that Queeny girl for example, crying and accusing a guy of rape only for us to find out that she's a cheap prosttii who over-priced her used up psleeve

Zzor:
You see what I'm talking about,maybe you were forming independent woman for him during courtship, see where it has landed you,its never a good thing to make a man feel you can be financially responsible in a home,they will abuse that privilege like the one you are facing now. I will never take up any major financial responsibilities when I get married, I can assist in very little little things sha like buying things for my kids that's all.

Who go marry you put for house in the first place

ImaIma1:
You seem to be the one wailing up and down on different mentions. Your open hatred for women cannot allow you think and comment objectively. Even if the man comes and tells you what she says is true, you will still find a way to blame it on women.

Oshey.
Wail your wail. make I wail my wail

You ilks will always see the truth as 'hate'.

Whether you like it or not, my contribution is the only reasonable one so far on this page.. take it or leave it

Did you say the Nation newspaper ( owned by Tinubu) ?? - why won't Sanwo olu win such award, when he's been a faithful side chick to his slave master

AtikuNetwork:
In my opinion, he deserves it. He handles tough situations with calm and not hastiness.

Yup, exactly like a coy, and manipulative rattlesnake would.

notoracism:
Yes, he has other responsibilities and we are in it together. We have a project, he tends to put all his money there and leave me to also contribute to the project and do other things at home too. For like a year now I earn more, atimes depending on the contract, far more. But before this time I do it myself and now same.

This year I have not bought anything tangible at home because we wanted to complete a project, in the course of the whole stuff he got some extra cash and we needed bedsheets and also reminded him of TV, that's after buying sofa, I thought he'd joyfully buy them but no way, he was giving excuses. I bought bedsheets cos I can't stand sleeping on old and bad looking bedsheets or not having extra to change to.

Jumia black Friday came and he asked me to order for TV without making the cash transfer first, now he said he is not buying if I don't buy it. Am not a TV person cos I get busy always so that living room can stay as long as I don't care. My kids have theirs. So shameful but he careless.

You're not a TV person yet you're forcing him to buy another one even though the kids have a TV to themselves. Lol.

You still haven't mentioned who pays the rent - because he probably does!

Cut your cloth according to your size madam. This ain't the 50s ma, marriage is a partnership. He is not obligated to do anything for you that he doesn't want to.

If you were a single mother won't you buy bedsheet on your bed, feed your kids and pay rent?

Marriage is not by force, if you're not happy, you can always walk away.

ImaIma1:
In marriage, "they" say "don't start what you can't finish".

Maybe you have shown him that you can afford to handle the things in the house and so he doesn't need to spend his money.

You need to start demanding money from him. If you need to buy things for the kids, give him a list. Let him get involved. Share the expenses and push to make sure he fulfils his own part.

From the way you have described him, the best thing might be to tell him that you got a pay cut. But you said you cannot lie. Ask yourself...what is he using his money for?

He is your husband. There must be a way you can get through to him. That mentality he has about a woman handling things is a convenient one for him and needs to be changed

poshestmina:
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So what does he do with his money aside paying his children school fees?

Does he have project(s) he's working on?
How about feeding allowance for his kids?

Rent?
Electricity bills?
Fuelling the car?
Helping his own external family members the same way she helps hers? Or maybe her own family members and even dependent on him.

I would like to hear his side of the story, because all this "i bought tv, I bought bed sheet, I paid for bus fare" are all petty expenses tbh.

Coloredsg:
Madam, Love is not blind in Marriage o. You need to shine your eye. The first mistake you made was telling him how much you earn. You should have slashed your salary into 2.
He feels very comfortable because he knows you can afford it. If he doesn't buy it, you will surely buy it.
Madam, its time to be smart.
Tell him something happened in your company and your salary was slashed. Forge an official letter from your company to back it up with evidence.
The new song you should be singing everyday is I DONT HAVE MONEY.
Tell him you have a grandma you will he sending money to every month, tell him your parents need your help too.
Don't buy anything in the house. Close your eyes and be hard hearted cos if you continue like this, you won't have any savings for the rainy day.
If your husband gets too comfortable, he will have excess money to spend on side chicks so pls be smart.

Imagine if men also gave each other this advice.. hmm - we would achieve great things in our personal lives, have good savings and actually have enough to help our family members while she faces hers squarely

Sixfeetbelle:
Evidence ke? For your information, I was "trolling" men way before that incident.

The major cause for me that period was the state of this country. It was like bad news and lying Buhari government filled the front page daily and I got tired of being optimistic in a better Nigeria.

Eyah. Pele.

Depression often lingers in the background for a long time before the patient even realizes.

Your trolling men before could've been the subtle clues to tell you something is wrong somewhere.. and the fact that you resumed after your fully 'actualized' depressed state, means that you've not fully recovered yet.

It's only a matter of time before a trigger point sets you back into the same depression you think you've suppressed.

See them wailing

Because a woman bought TV in the house we no go hear word again.
Millions of men globally are sole providers for their households, most are even unknowingly paying school fees for kids from other men. Men have been providing quietly for centuries and nobody complained.

Then women woke up one fateful morning and decided they are tired of sitting at home and being taken care of by men, so they decided to fight for the wonderful thing called equality - unless now, she still wants the man to provide and also share in domestic responsibilities?

Jokers.

OP, shebi you and your ilks wanted to be equal to men? This looks like a 50/50 situation to me so why you complaining?
If you can't take it anymore, leave him (although I doubt you can afford to) Ms Independent.

Also noticed how you conveniently ommitted who pays the rent.

CHoccolaTE:
This is the kind of life many men want to live when they keep demanding that wives must provide whether they like it or not meanwhile God gave different decree ooo


Anyway Op it seems you are a very nice lady, if na me I will only spend on myself and the kids, let him say I am wicked I no send, you are chief home keeper (according to your husbands beliefs) you are the one looking after kids personal needs, I bet you are also the one in charge of cooking and cleaning and shopping for kitchen stuff, and after everything yourself and the kids all answer your husbands name and live under his authority when the only thing he does is pay school fees.
Tell him you are sending money to your relatives who need it, maybe your mom or cousins for schoolfees, pocket money etc and keep your money to yourself and your kids, invest it for their future.

Men these days dont want to do anything in marriage

This was sef wan marry
If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.

OP, you are lucky she didn't wish you death like she did to the lady who owns this thread:

Ingriid:
Sincere, I have lost interest in humanity. These days I just stay on my own. The height of wickedness in this world especially this Nigeria is way too alarming. Something happened in my church today , I almost cried. We go to church/ mosque yet so full of evil.

If u are a wicked person, pls stop ur wicked and evil ways as this year comes to an end. Try to live right and do right. The world is too messed up! Sigh!

Nigerian churches are full of househelp killers and child abusers.
No wonder people are backsliding at an alarming rate.
The wickedness and hypocrisy is just too much - this is why Nigeria will remain in a perpetual state of decay for decades to come.

Bojack:
I think i've actually lost interest in watching movies, especially with the recent explosion of woke movies.

Almost every movie/series on Netflix must include some homos3xual shiit.. I'm sick of it.

Sixfeetbelle:
There was a period this year I lost interest in a lot of things. For like 2 months, I was in a perpetual sad state. Couldn't watch a movie past 20 minutes, couldn't read a book past the first 3 pages, got tired of my online classes, lost interest in a skill I was learning. At some point, nairaland got boring for me as well (energy to debate with redpillers left me. Lol). I would sneak off to Instagram to go and binge watch comedy skits. Spent lots of data/money in the process.

One night, I just broke down and cried. Was literally begging God to not let me sink. I didn't want to think/accept that it might be depression.

But in November, I decided to retry a few things I had put on hold and somehow, picked up on doing more things. I haven't exactly gotten back to how I was before but it's way better than it was in those bleak days.

This is evidence that most females that troll men on this platform are actually depressed souls. Una go dey alright

crackhaus:
The matter sef off me...

I just tire - as if she hasn't embarrassed herself enough on this forum

JovialJune:
There are also cases of men leaving ladies that brought them over, these ladies nurse their heartbreak and moved on, cos such is life, but no, you males must cry and cry when it is a woman, una no dey tire?

Every post I see from you is either based on baseless assumptions or just outright lies!

In what universe do Nigerian women take men abroad?

Hathor5:
You're welcome.

Hathor5:
In order for it to be evidence, you would have to prove that she is actually indeed quoting herself.

You are so dumb. Even dumb people are ashamed of you.

Hahahhahahhahahahahahahahahahha. Keep exposing yourself oDe.

Mywd:
They say u be hoelosho

O boy you wikked o

Hathor5:
Ok, I am Pocohantas. Pocohantas, come deny or confirm.

Private detective for poor people.

Thanks for confirming! Lonely hag

Kuns84:
By quoting your own alternate

Pocohantas AKA LadySarah AKA AntiBrutus AKA Hathor5 AKA Breaststroke

She's not smart at all. Lol.

THEY DESPERATELY

johnmartus:
I hope she's not going to use this to gain Instagram followers? If a 21 years old girl that supposed face her education can be thinking how to get marry early, Then she lacked parental care.

And her parents has failed in all ramifications.

I get your point but you've spoken at an insensitive time! Pay respect to the dead.

Denique:
My regards to the females in your lineage

..and mine to yours

Denique:
Don't you (men) wanna be The Head Of The Family no more

We're just being submissive

How it all started:

We were in the background and you lot said we were a liability
We tried to be the 21st century women and you lot said we were placing our career above the home. You said our career was in the kitchen...then, we said, okay...we will let you take charge as of the old times, in order not to turn evening newspapers, thereby ending up in every SHILOH.

Now you complaining we letting you be THE MAN?!

We earn more than you, we become haughty;
We let you earn more, we are leeches...

OP, either you tell us the colour of (most) you guys problem or you allow us stay in the background o.

Go to The Abroad and coman carry us; we are your liability. E dakun.

Superb!

Behold, today's woman!
Gentlemen, I present to you your selection of the pitiable breed of dullards we call the 'Nigerian woman of today':

0% functioning brain.
0% sense of accountability.
0% anything to offer.
50% laziness (except for when it's time to fvck).
50% entitlement mentality.

Any man that reads this comment and goes ahead to marry a Nigerian chick (of which 99.99% are whores), then travels abroad and still tries to bring over that demonically possessed entity he calls a wife to where he is, must have been cursed in his ancestral lineage.