DankemzI:


President of Nigeria Dr. G.E.J is a noble man that keeps to his words & maintains his integrity. If INEC had free hands to conduct states elections without no order from Above then Come February 14 free & fair elections, but & my family will be indoors that day.

be deceiving yourself that GEJ is a man of integrity

sincerenigerian:
This shows Buhari is a man of honor. How can politics blind us to the extent where we question the profession of our military men and women who laid their lives to make Nigeria a sovereign country? Jonathan and his gangs have politicized the Nigerian military to the extent that politics is now the order of the day. This release of result should now put everything to bed.

Lest I forgot, Buhari was a student and a graduate of prestigious military colleges in UK, India, and USA. The man (Buhari) did not even list any of these feats in his quest for the position of presidency. That shows the humility of the man. If I were Buhari, I wouldn't hesitate to list my certificate from those three oversees military colleges. From my own understanding, Buhari never took this thing seriously because from the onset, he has always believed PDP and Jonathan are only up to mischief.

The question now is: why would anyone think Buhari was admitted into these oversees prestigious military colleges without graduating from secondary school? Any right thinking person should know that it is not possible to get into those prestigious schools without graduating from secondary school. Why would anyone call our military institution into question for the admittance of Buhari into military service? It is now obvious that Jonathan and his crew are only interested in ridiculing the general when they asked the military officer who addressed press conference yesterday to go public. Only the court is vested with such power.

Buhari is more than qualify to vie for the seat of presidency. He has satisfied the academic requirement for that position. Buhari will become the president by February 15. Buhari will reposition our military again and make it a professional military force that they were known for until about ten years ago.

Sorry at sincerenigerian may be i got confused, I thot you were a Jonathanrian. Or i am confusing your moniker with someone else

@EfemenaXY you know I marvel at some peoples( like you) meaness. I shoudnt have dignified you with an answer. But I say to you that if you are god the world would have been such a terrible place since you have no single strand of forgiving spirit, even when the person involve has shown remosefulness for the deeds and actions, while trying to reconcile with his God and other people offended. Is it that you really wished it never turns out well or what. If you detested the situation so much why dont you buzz off from the tread.
I think since all sorts of comments have been raised. You raised the irritating comment here.

Pls get off my case if you want to continue as the sadist you seem to be.

@Smokescreen you can hold on to whatever thots catch your fancy. But I am moving on with my life in the right direction, that I know well

@Chaircover thanks. Many of your postulations make a lot of sense. But I am a lone ranger so level of influence on me is mild. But I just need to be more spiritual to fight temptations and fight it off whenever I have such. But thanks I cant ask for more from my wife except I want to offend God. But I think deeply about what you wrote and they are worthy of thots. I wish u well too.

@Dukenija hmmmmm. But thanks your comments was one of the ones that gave me clarity.

Thanks @ greatgod2012

Dear all here are the results, except for the herpes which will take 10 working days. You know I used to think I was smart and my being cautious could make me to always survive the pranks but I have learnt today that total abstinence is the main thing.

HIV 1& 2 negative
Hepatitis b surface antigen negative
Vdrl ( to check for syphillis) negative
Why so much noise about herpes, it makes possibility of contracting HIV higher and it can easily be passed to children. Then pains from it can be very unbearable whenever it surfaces like I am presently feeling.

Outcome of my coming clean with my wife will also be posted

Whenever the result is out I will post. Once again i thank God for giving me another opportunity which I intend to cherish till I die.
All those who kept advising even when they got irritated thanks.

God bless you. I never knew I could be refreshed like I was since I started posting my predicament monday morning. It is yet to be over but I belived that largely it will be won.

Dear all, though I should't be breaking it in piece meal. But i should give update as it is happening since for now this is the only thing occupying my mind. Well @ my regular comforters, Aisha, cococandy, Godmystrength and many more. I went into the lab to request for my result but they insisted it can only be given online, so i requested for a counselor which they provided for me. By he realised i was an emotional wreck. But he calmed me talked to me for about 30mins and asked me to go wait for my result. But i guess he must have felt so much for me that he went to check for the result himself and came to look for me in the car park. He told me to be calm that he hasnt seen other results but he specifically checked for the HIV result and it is okay.

However, i will post all other results as i get them in a short while. However, this is just part of all that we agreed on, I still need to go home to plead for forgive and also find away to finnally reconcile with my God, because I guess after this I might never get any redeemable opportunity if I erred.

I dont mind if you call it fabricated, i dont mind if you think I want to teach some people lessons, let us assume it is so for argument sake, did you all not learn from it. However, I wish it is all fabricated, that I don"t have to go through this torture, abuse even from people who I checked their profiles graduated from school when i was already a manager in a multinational company. I dont mind any of the abuse or insult but I appreciate those who abused me but still give advice. thanks I appreciate a lot. But may be after all this one day I may summon the courage to reveal my identity on nairaland since I have been guest since 2006 but got registered 2008.

@greatgod thanks also I appreciate. It is some hours to 5pm I can only wait. though my relationship is important but now of more importance is the safety of others. Whatever comes from relationship I will endure since I brought the trouble upon myself. But thanks a lot for taking time to check in on me thru the posting. Will keep you posted whatever the outcomes

Aisha2 thank you very much for ur response. It is encouraging. Your harsh words also put me in perspective. Thanks once more may God bless you and your loved once.

Gd day all. I finally took a decision to do the tests and get to know what I am dealing with before going to my wife. Like dukenija and nikky said. There in no need taking her through the pains of finding out with me. So I left location as I said earlier. So now this is what I have done so far.
Hiv screening early detection but I asked for a confirmatory test but I learnt it cant be done except I test positive. However the early detection can only be very valid if I do it again after 3months. So I can only rely on it for now to a certain extent.
Hepatitis B, VDRL for syphillis and I requested hpv but I learnt it is only for women that they do it .

And most importantly I requested for herpes test for 1 & 2. All these have been done. But the herpes will take 10 working days since it is not done in nigeria. The

If I am fortunate enough that the initial HIV come out negative I wont wait for the herpes. But if it is the other way round I will only need to reaccess how to go to to my wife but which ever way it has to be done for me not to return to my philandering ways. If I had confessed all this while I woudnt have continued in bad ways.
Now waiting till 5pm when the results will be out is a touture. I can olny stay here and be chating about it in order not to breakdown emotional while thinking about possible outcomes.

Please I deserve whatever name I am called here and abuse. Especially from the ladies I know it is borne out of pity for my wife and children and anger towards me for bringing this calamity. But I only need your emotional support now that I am waiting for todays result I am already on the floor trampling upon me now can only destroy me further. But please I need prayers.

Aisha22, chaircover, nikkykay, idowuogbo, beeevan, babyosisi dukenija havilla and many more that have contributed I can only say please help me emotinally now and come with all the criticism later when my family is out of this trouble. I can only sob as I am writing this.

@babyosisi thanks I wont involve them. Now I have murdered sleep life will not be the same. What a pain. I really wish I could wake from this dream. Even now I am battling with the physical pain and illness that comes with this.

@idowuogbo you did make a sound of hmmmmn. Pls what is on your mind. It seems you have fears like dukenija

@dukenija so what do you advise. This another dimension to it. I never thot of it this way.

@nikkykay and Godmystrenth I will like to see gynecologist first with my wife. I will come clean with her but I need to let her know I was exposed and we need to see doctor for check up. I have always wanted to come clean but keep pushing for fear of how to go about it but I pray God just want to use this avenue for me do it earlier before I run into bigger trouble assuming it isnt a bigger one yet. I need to reconcile with God but I cant do that while not clean with my wife.
Thanks for your advice. I shoud hit the road tomorrow Gods willing.

Thanks Aisha22,you and others have been very supporting. I dont need to mention names here but i have got some support like i was talking to a counselor.

@havilla I dont know if what we are dealing with is oral or genital. but I noticed it on my face last year and i went to a government hospital in which the doctors said it wasnt may be i didnt present the case well enough and by the time i got to a lab i could do it the cost was a lot higher than what I thought so my plan was to come back. But it cleared off, but this is the first time it will present in genital form may be because i performed MouthAction on my wife. though the blisters are also on her her face 1 or 2 i guess that disappeared immediately. i guess lack of adequate awareness on my part which i am responsible for could have caused this. But i don't know which of the 2 until we all get tested.

Thanks

@Aisha, thanks, we will definitely go testing and counselling for all sorts, i just pray it wont be too damaging. Did I casualised it, no, it has been eating me up for days but I couldn't share it with anybody.

@greatgod2012 thanks. it sounds very reasonable to me. I definitely know that I will never go near such again if i am giving this opportunity by my wife and my God. You asked if it was me will I forgive, HMMMMMM. I may find it had but i don't know until I get there let me be truthful. our society unfortunately is unkind to women in terms of men understanding when it comes to women (though the discrimination is wrong). But we are all humans it could happened both ways. It is only that I will be shocked coming from her and then definitely no woman will be good for me anymore, because my reasoning will be that if she can do it anybody can do it. on that basis I will rather say the devil you know is better than the one you don't.
I pray we are both strengthened enough to deal with this. I just pray she will forgive me and return to the person she has always been[i][/i], if not leaving with another side of her will be a very difficult one for me and my children, considering her role and impact in the family.
Yes I am a man on the moves most times of the year, but there is no justification whatsoever for what has happened. it is mere selfishness and senselessness. Thanks

@aisha22, idowuogbo thanks I agree with your suggestions. Will consider it.

@ Godismystrength this your statement is insightful for me.

I can't imagine my hubby cheating on me and breaking the news to me in front of my father or any other third party. More like adding salt to my injury

@Godmystrength I dont know, just a bit at my wit end. I am just considering her breakdown. Well I will be on my way by tomorrow. By then the children should be out so I will gauge her mood and see if can do it alone with her.

@greatgod2012 waiting for your comments.

@idowuogbo we have been married for 9years. We have never had any reason to get anybody involve in our family life. But on this particular case I am not sure it will remain hidden for long. My wife will be shattered emotionally and I am not sure she will be consolable. The people I mentioned are people that I know genuinely cared for us and they will be very objective. But I understand your point. I will consider it all prayerfully. But thanks for your thot and line of reasoning

I must say that in all these I havent gone to God or talk to him because I know my cup is filled long long ago. How do I go back to him to let this cup pass over me again. But that is where this must start from

@greatgod I am interested in any genuine way to resolve this. I want to involve my in law because my wife will later tell them 1, 2 they are the ones that can talk to her and if they assure her of support she will ne a bit calm. But definitely I cant be that person she will look upto at that point no matter how contrite I was or look she definitely will take my words with pinch of salt until we overcome the challenge by God grace. However in all this I have decided and I have spoken with him about coming to see him with my wife. That is my wife uncle. That is another person outside her father that can mediate. But I think I should hear you 1st. Thanks

@aisha2 hmmmmmm. I dont need you to pet me. But just be constructive in your comments. Though they are. But enough of the harshness now because it wont change anything that has happened in the past. But I definitely share your views. At least you are kind enough to even respond. This has gone a long way to make me slightly stable. I am not playing the victim. It is just that before my wife gets the brief I cant talk about it with her. She and the children are the ones I deceive laying claim to be a good that I am not. Now I can nolonger hide behing one finger. Either your harshness or any other thing they are welcome. You could have ignored the whole posting like since it doesnt directly affect you. Thanks for your comments

@beevan I may not be able to handle her alone emotionally. But come to think of it. Now that you raised this may be it is better to do it alone, because my children will be away from tomorrow on holiday at parent in law place. This will afford me and my wife time together. But I need help to appeal to her definitely I may not be able to handle this alone with her. But I cant think of anybody else outside my father in law. I am really at cross road. Like you said my father in law is old and I dont want a situation that he develop high bp over the daughter when I mention the whole complication

Thanks @aisha. But I guess you have been harsh enough on me though coming with advice. But tone down the harshness now and be a bit tender I beg you the more you talk down on me the more it kills me. But like I said I will be on my way asap to sort this out hoping that the situation is not worse than I think it medically. Regards

@efemenaxy gender war? My entire life, my wife and family is crumbling in my very eyes you are talking about gender war.

@aisha2 I am not trying to be smart. If you read my comments I dont stay with the family. And I cant be telling her on fone exact reason why this has to be stopped. It is a stop gap until we finally get to the crux over the weekend. I have made up my mind to do the right thing which I will definitely do.