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abisolaarshow: I just got an invite frm NIMC by sms. D interview would hold 8am 7th of May. Pls who else got ds?

Pls what position did you apply for and if rnrolment is it state or lg

some Nigerians graduates forget interview is just another selection process,
people forget that those in the first interview were been scored for be selection and maybe they do not have up to the required no.

There is no way in Nigeria where a large group of people go for interview and all were taken when an organization spend time and resources to do interview

We should apply reasoning to our expectations,experience and not just anxiety for this nimc matter

so if they are still calling enrolment and registration officers , that means that the one they did earlier was not enough for thier work or the outcome of the interview means that they have eliminated some people that came for the interview base on their level of performance or other reasons that may be credential base.
Others so also react to this because no one has said that they called other positions except enrolment and registration officer

shiloh: LATEST INFO: I called a friend of mine who works with NIMC,saw him on d day of interview. He said there is no news yet on when we will b called for training,bt dey r starting anoda round of interview nxt week. And I noticed some pple already have bn sent text msgs. So let's kip our fingers crossed n kip praying.

pls what did your friend tell you is the salary for entry level i.e level 8 , if not , just politely and in your conversation with him ask him and pls let the house know and know how far nimc pay range is for those that have done the interview already

alasuomowei: Whenever I tink about this Job, my heart beat increases because it has'nt been up to a year since i concluded Nysc..... I am so hungry 4d job..... Cos i no get papa or mama to dey give me money, GOD HELP ME.

Guy though you need a job , you are still fresh in the labour market,
There are still applicants with 3,4,5,6,7 years post nysc without getting their desired jobs that applied with you.

I have read others comments so far, one thing is certain , nimc has already informed all that the recruitment will be in phases and the interview trend is showing that already.

Base on the need of the agency to implement national identity management scheme.
The interview for the enrolment and registration officer and head state office is the first stage.
We all know that nimc has offices /structures in the 36 states of the federation but they currently do not have office/structures in the local govt areas.
hence maybe thier current need to kick start the scheme is in the state first before the local govt areas.
According to Newspaper report,the staff that were sacked were mostly junior staff that were redundant, not having much to do and were not ICT literate in line with the current nimc ict enrolment of Nigerians.
This is true, i serve during my siwe programme in a fed secretariat and you will discover that most of the junior and even some senior resume for work late around 10-11am ,had nothing doing except discussing and chatting about.

Another thing to note is that when we were applying for the job, in most of the positions , they listed the states that have vacancies for the positions.
What most people fail to understand is that nimc have staff in all the 36 states of the federation and they are only beefing up thier staff strength ,like the enrollment and registration officer(senior) that i applied for had only 5 states with vacancies but you see people making their own estimation base on the 36 states.
I believe that they may make some additions but not for the 36 states as given by others.
Apart from the head, state office ,and enrollment &registration officer.

The interview everywhere is another level of selection stage, many may be called and some may be selected,that was why they were scoring the applicants during the interview.

The rest of the positions for the state office include the following
State Coordination
Head of Section, State Coordination
Customer Care Corporate Customers
State Coordination
Manager Customer Care (Manager)
Head of Unit, Customer Care
Customer Care Officers (Officer)

The local govt positions may come later as follows

Head, Local Govt Offices (LG)
Enrolment & Registration Monitoring Officer(LG)
Office Admin (LG)
Local Government Coordination (Officer)

The rest of the position if you have the list is mostly for the head office in Abuja and maybe lagos.

Leave the pay package and think more and believe God to get the job first and see whether it will not be better than ur current job.

hello
Congratulation to all Enrollment and registration and head state office applicants that went for the interview
I believe that the lord will grant you guys journey mercies back home.,

The interview was just a stage and the other groups or positions will also be called.

At the end , the truth is those that did well and the favour of God is also with them will be called for AP Letters just like the saying that
Many are called but few are chosen.
The race to get a good job or a federal MDA job in Nigeria continues.
Let pray too that after the interview, people will be posted to boko haram infected states
Guys should react too.

Johnnyemy: I applied for Senior enrollement and was called. Secondly INEC gave appointment letter to everybody invited for interview. So where did you get your information?

What will happen on Tuesday and Wednesday 23/24 April, 2013 and beyond will give everyone a clearer view of things,
i will not join issues with you.

HELLO,
I THINK THAT IT IS ONLY ENROLLMENT AND REGISTRATION OFFICER ENTRY LEVEL , THAT IS CALLED HERE
I APPLIED FOR ENROLMENT AND REGISTRATION OFFICER(SENIOR) AND I HAVE NOT HEARD OF ANYONE IN THE EXPERIENCE CATEGORY BEEN CALLED .EXCEPT THE ENTRY enrollment and registration letter.
Somebody was saying that there may be no serious interview but do you also know that those that are always invited for govt jobs interviews after aptitude test are always triple the no they need or will eventually employed ie if they need 100 , about 300-400 will be invited that is even outside the on top list.
Let wait and see how things will be from Tuesday 23rd April, 2013

asuomowei AND DAFE STEVE

WHY IS IT THAT IT IS ONLY THE TWO OF YOU THAT ARE SAYING THAT YOU HAVE BEEN CALLED FOR INTERVIEW.
A TEST THAT WAS WRITTEN BY THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE AROUND THE COUNTRY IN ABOUT 6 CENTRES WILL HAVE MANY PEOPLE UPDATING ABOUT THIER INVITATION TO THE INTERVIEW
HENCE I DOUBT YOUR CLAIMS AND IF YOUR CLAIMS ARE NOT TRUTH , WHEN YOU CONSIDER THE NO OF PEOPLE INVOLVED ,IT IS BEST NOT TO PLAY GAMES WITH

OTHERS.
A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE, ASUOMOWEI AND DAFE STEVE

what are you guys talking about
Is it a private interview
As others been called too

others should also make inputs

GUYS WHAT HAVE YOU PEOPLE HEARD ABOUT NIMC ORAL INTERVIEW.WHAT IS THE SITUATION NOW.IS THERE ANY NEWS FROM ANYONE ON WHAT IS GOING ON.PLS UPDATE THE HOUSE

hello,
Guys Please did you notice anybody with slip meant for another centre writing at your centre. What i meant is that someone that was designated for minnna and the person is in lagos and went to the lagos centre and was able to write the test.
This guys are just plain wicked to send people from cross river done to Minna , Akure just for a test when they planned to have a centre at Port harcourt.
imagine that the whole of the south south does not have a centre and th core north only Minna
Pls someone should pls answer me whether they saw such possibilities because i am concerning writing at Enugu Centre instead of Akure that will cost me some much in transportation and logistics
expecting someone response
Thanks

hello,
Guys Please did you notice anybody with slip meant for another centre writing at your centre. What i meant is that someone that was designated for minnna and the person is in lagos and went to the lagos centre and was able to write the test.
This guys are just plain wicked to send people from cross river done to Minna , Akure just for a test when they planned to have a centre at Port harcourt.
imagine that the whole of the south south does not have a centre and th core north only Minna
Pls someone should pls answer me whether they saw such possibilities because i am concerning writing at Enugu Centre instead of Akure that will cost me some much in transportation and logistics
expecting someone response
Thanks

When i said it earlier that they will still do their so called screening again and pick their own 600-700 people that they need.Mostly their own.
someone was arguing as if this is not Nigeria that anything can happen.

God will intervene for Nigerian Youths
let all pursue other things while waiting for nsitf
something/offers even better may come your way self

Here are some things you need to do to spice up your marriage and relationship with your wife or spouse

Aphrodisiacs
Try the natural aphrodisiacs, they work wonders. Wondering what aphrodisiac is? They are S*x stimulants. Some of these aphrodisiacs are readily available in your kitchen. You have chili, curry, cumin, tomatoes, ginseng, lettuce, banana, etc.
Take care of your skin. Visit a spa with the woman you cherish. Spas have steam room that takes two at a time. Spend time together in the steam or sauna. You can ask for a couples massage.

Words, words, sweet words; Words sweeter than honey; Words sweeter than money; Words that can take a woman to another world where she forgets her hurts and pains. This is all a woman needs for a fulfilling life. No amount of money, no amount of wealth, no amount of success can take the place of sweet words in the life of a woman who is indeed a woman (not a woman crazy for wealth).

Please spend this week, filling your woman up with sweet words. Send her text messages and email while at work. Tell her how beautiful she is. Send surprises to her and I tell you she will go places for you. It’s not in the shouting; it’s not in the exotic cars. Guys, there is power in words. Make the world a better place by treating her like a lady.

Some important thoughts on the subject of love in relationship and marriage to make it work
Hello, for this week for your learning , we are going to look at love as one of the fundamental principle for sustainable relationship and marriage
Here are some principles that shows that love is very important in order to make any relationship to succeed.
Love is a concept, that means different things to different people
Love is the important thing in life and God expect us to love all, Mat 22V36-40,Romans 8v 13
Love is more than your feeling
love is deeper and stronger than feeling.
Love is always centre on the other person .
Love gives advantage to the other person.
Loving someone is about bettering the lot of the other person.
Love is a deliberate choice.
Real love ,the kind that sustains marriage is a deliberate choice.
Love is something that you decide to do. Your mind is involve and it is something that you have decided to do .
The fact that you are in love does not mean that you are not thinking.
love does not disengage your ability to think.
Love is action and it demonstrates love.
Love is reaching out to the other people person no matter what you real .Eccl 9v9
love is all about commitment-doing what you promise to do even when the feelings has gone.
love is a constant, the feeling may be gone. If i love this person ,what will i have done.
love is the fuel that runs our home or life.
seek for the love in the right way
You have to Marry someone that you say that you truly love and care about that person
A lover is a winner any day
love is takes hard work to build

Here are the The true pillars of successful relationship that is lacking in today relationship and even marriage
that has resulted in break up,divorce that you must avoid if your relationship must work out and succeed
1.fidelity
2.friendship
3.trust
4.love
5.co-operation: Co-operating with each other
6.Being able forgivness
7.Pateince
8.The presence of the love and fear of God in the relationship
9. Compatibility
10.Being there for each other

Others should comment and join here

hello,
it is very unfortunate that they have to call up to over 2000 people when in the previous recruitment , they have already given appointment letters to over 1400 peolple and from what i heard they only have the capacity for now to recruit only 2000 .
The proper thing would have been to call 500-600 people to cover up the numbers but they later called up thier friends and cronies for it .
And i am not exaggering you will see that when the appointment letters comes out , it is this same people of thiers that we get it.
I will Nigerian graduates think they will employ all over 2000 when 1400 has already been employ and they do not even have offices in some states and where they do have office in my state, it is just a rented flat of few rooms for few staff.
God will help all of us but people should not be too over hopeful because right from the beginning , the process was something else that what is is suppose to be.

God help Nigeria graduates and youths that spend time and money moving to abuja.
Like we see What the outcome will be , we will all see it.

1. When you are still behaving immaturely like a boy or girl and not grow up to take up responsibility as a man or woman

2.Lack of effective communication between partner: This is very important for a successful relationship or marriage

3. lengthy Relationship: when you relationship is too lengthy without a plan for marriage may wear out the partners in it . Have a plan to move your relationship to marriage or let someone be if you do not want to marry the person in reality and let they know about it.

4.Causing jealously and creating the impression that you are going out with someone else , kills the love the person may have for you.

5. Intolerance: When you do not tolerate and regard your partner again, this could lead to break up.

6. Lack of respect for each other: When both parties in a relationship do not respect each other again , it could lead to break up.
7.When you are impatience: when you are always impatience with your partner when they go wrong or you want a thing to get done by them. That can overtime put your partner off and it could lead to signs of break up.

8.Inconsistency: when you are inconsistent in your actions and words with your partner

9.Pride; When you are two proud of yourself and you do not respect your partner before your friends and family members.

10.Lack of money : This is very important because it takes money to express love in a relationship and you need to have a source of income or business that will help you build and express love in a relationship through gifts to your partner and providing for basic things.
These are some of the things that can break your relationship , for more you can check the link below.

In this particular article series, we are going to look at how to save a relationship and stop an unnecessary break up.
Every relationship at a certain point, usually pass through one challenge or the other and one needs have the wisdom, knowledge and issues of how to save any challenging situation in order to avoid any break up in the relationship

You need to first of all do an x-ray of the current situation that you and your partner have found yourselves , do you people cheat on your selves , either you or your partner was the fault in the strains in your relationship , are you people having character or compatibility challenges .You need to ponder on all this deeply , so that it will certainly help you to save your relationship and avoid any break up.

The starting point is for you to know that this is not the time to put blames on your partner or yourself but a period where you and your partner will be making genuine efforts to save your relationship and avoid a break up.
In order to save any relationship from break up , either one or both of the parties must be willing to make the necessary sacrifices and compromises in order to bring back the love you both had into your life as far as you both deeply know that you cannot really do without each other .

what ever has been the cause of the strain in your relationship , it can be saved whether you or your partner is at fault , what is important now is that your relationship can be save .Here are some of the steps that you need to use in saving your relationship and build back a great relationship.

You have to be the person that your partner first met, got attracted to you and you people became friends and eventually got married. Ponder with yourself, what must have been the triggers that attracted your partner to you in the first place that is trying to fade away with time now. Was it your looks or beauty, intelligence or diligence that attracted the both of you to each other.

Women are generally known to appear beautiful and look after their looks in the early stages of their relationships but with time as they got married, they fail to take care of their looks or body like before. Women need to understand that men are generally first attracted by what they see and they expect their women to remain the same way for a long time in appearance, just the same way the first mate them. So maintain your looks, beauty or character may be the first thing that you need to do in order to save your relationship.

In your relationship with your partner must have an agreement that this is a no sex relationship till marriage and must always strive not to put the two of you in situations that may expose the two of you to sexual sins such as staying together or living together, staying for long period or hours in your partner home alone together, dressing provocatively that may lure your partner into sexual sins.

Mostly to women, every sexual encounter brings about wears and tear to them and every pre- marital sex generally , is the quickest and fastest way to destroy yourself as pre-marital sex exposes you to a lot of problems before marriage.

The Bible confirms that in Proverbs 6v32 where is says that anyone that commit adultery lacks understanding and destroys his own soul. I Corinthian states that 6v18 states flee fornication, every sin a man commits is outside the body but whoever commits fornication destroys his own soul.

Proverbs 31v3 states that do not give your strength to women and to the ways that destroys kings .In the listed passage above , the word of God has confirm that and when one does not get involve in sexual sin before marriage , it is expected that about 60% of the problems in marriage is already solved.

Just look at the six possible things that will happen to any one that get involve in pre-marital sex include
1. The partners when they eventually get married will never respect each other.
2. The marriage will be made up of constant strife
3. They will not trust each other
4. They may certainly be room for unfaithfulness
5. With time, they will lose sexual desire for each other.
6. They may also suffer delays in child bearing due to other problems in their health or reproductive system.
Other problems that pre-marital sex brings include the issues of sexually transmitted diseases, infertility due to wrong abortions, block tubes ,HIV/AID, remember that condom usage is not completely safe when not used properly used or there may be a tear some where along the line hence the best options is to avoid pre-marital sex before marriage, a word they say is enough for the wise.

When you are married or about doing your wedding, the best thing that you should do in order to spice up your marriage and sexual knowledge in order to have a long lasting relationships. To have a pleasurable sexual relationship in marriage that is long lasting is to get a the recommended quality e-guide that aids one to having great pleasurable sex in your marriage.

1. HOT TEMPER/ANGER : Always displaying a high degree of anger in your relationship is one of the relationship killers in any relationship. You need to learn how to control your anger and how to show that you are ignore on certain th
gs witho ut necessarily turning it into hot anger that affect your spouse or partner negatively.

2. BEING TOO SPIRITUAL: It is very good to put God first in your relationship but it is not the best to allow over spirituality to affect your relationship with your partner like always praying all the time, fasting and going on night prayers without having time to spend with your suppose partner on certain issues that will affect your relationship or marriage now or in the near future. Remember that marriage or relationship is an earthly thing and it is 90% physical.


3. LACK OF TRUST : Where there is no trust , both parties may be hiding very important things about their lives from each other such as things that has to do with money , health ,fidelity to each other, paternity of children and that will definitely kills love in the relationship and the two parties will be doubting and suspecting each other.

4. DRESSING: This is very important to the ladies, to get your partner to stay with you and be happy , you need to always dress well , not necessarily dressing expensive.. You have to put on well clean and ironed clothes that is appealing and attractive to anyone. Do not say that I am married to Jesus that nobody is looking at you when at the same time you are praying to God for a marriage partner. You need to know that men are first attracted to you, firstly by your physical appearance, that is the true and then they will move on to getting to know your character, your spirituality, personal attributes ,background and values before they want to build a relationship with you.

So it all starts with your dressing first. Please I am not referring here to naked ,half naked, offensive, seductive and immoral dressing that is seen in our society today, Just Dress well as a Christian and as a discipline person. Men also need to know that women value and appreciate men that dress well, as it is more appealing to their emotions, their perception of yourself worth etc.

5. BEING IN THE HABITS OF COMPARING YOUR PARTNER WITH OTHERS: It is very wrong to be comparing your partner with some other persons because no two persons are the same. Every person has their own uniqueness and purpose in life and every one is passing through different phases in life that may not be the same with the next person. So to avoid killing your relationship, stop the habit of comparing your partner with someone else whether in terms of character, money , financial standing and career progress rather think on how to work on your relationship to make it better etc.

6. PRE –MARITAL SEX ; Having pre- marital sex is one of the major killers of relationship even though it is common in our society today. This is just deception from the pit of hell. Pre marital sex kills trust in a relationship as if you can do it outside marriage disobeying God command then your partner may be suspecting you that you are equally cheating on him or her ,others include exposure to STD Diseases, HIV/AIDS , pre marital pregnancy , lack of respects and regard for each other mostly the woman ,abortion that could lead to barrenness or childlessness in the future.

A word they say is enough for the wise. Be wise now, to keep your relationship and grow it into a long lasting blissful marriage.

How to maintain God standards in Relationship before and after Marriage for long lasting marriages

There are basic ways of maintaining God expected standards in our relationships leading to marriage and the marriage itself in order to have a long lasting relationship and marriage that is pleasing to God and God will bless your union and sustain it. Here are the various ways to maintain God standards for long lasting marriage and relationships listed below

In your relationship with your partner must have an agreement that this is a no sex relationship till marriage and must always strive not to put the two of you in situations that may expose the two of you to sexual sins such as staying together or living together, staying for long period or hours in your partner home alone together, dressing provocatively that may lure your partner into sexual sins.

Mostly to women, every sexual encounter brings about wears and tear to them and every pre- marital sex generally , is the quickest and fastest way to destroy yourself as pre-marital sex exposes you to a lot of problems before marriage.

The Bible confirms that in Proverbs 6v32 where is says that anyone that commit adultery lacks understanding and destroys his own soul. I Corinthian states that 6v18 states flee fornication, every sin a man commits is outside the body but whoever commits fornication destroys his own soul.

Proverbs 31v3 states that do not give your strength to women and to the ways that destroys kings .In the listed passage above , the word of God has confirm that and when one does not get involve in sexual sin before marriage , it is expected that about 60% of the problems in marriage is already solved.

Just look at the six possible things that will happen to any one that get involve in pre-marital sex include
1. The partners when they eventually get married will never respect each other.
2. The marriage will be made up of constant strife
3. They will not trust each other
4. They may certainly be room for unfaithfulness
5. With time, they will lose sexual desire for each other.
6. They may also suffer delays in child bearing due to other problems in their health or reproductive system.
Other problems that pre-marital sex brings include the issues of sexually transmitted diseases, infertility due to wrong abortions, block tubes ,HIV/AID, remember that condom usage is not completely safe when not used properly used or there may be a tear some where along the line hence the best options is to avoid pre-marital sex before marriage, a word they say is enough for the wise.

Have you just experience break up recently and you are now thinking of how you will get your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back . You are not alone in this as almost every one has been in one break up or the other in certain times of their lives .What really matter is how you are going to handle the whole issue itself.

It is better to try to deal with who you know than rather than looking for a way to get an ex back. But if you are over playing the victim and want to put some work in to get an ex back, then there are option. You can get your ex back if you follow a simple steps and give yourself sometime,

The fact is, 90 percent of the time there is no reason why you cannot get an ex back after a break up, providing that you know what steps are necessary to win your ex back. The first step in you know exactly what really led to the break up in the first place so that you will be able to learn from the mistakes of the past and be able to know how to handle the situation in future and gradually you will be able to get your ex back.

The break up may have been because of a certain event or what they two of you could not handle again .No matter what cause the break up ,the mistakes need to be figured out and you should attempt on how you are going to handle it or deal with the situation ,in order not for the same situation or circumstances that lead to your back up with your ex to surface again. It is after you have really asses these mistakes and taken a decision on how to handle them in the future, then is the right time and moments towards working to get your ex back to you.

After seeing how to solve the mistakes , you step towards getting back your ex show be a gradual process and you should not present yourself before your ex as a needy person or desperate to get the relationship back as if you can not live by yourself even without the relationship , this may only situation.

What you will need to do is to address the issues that led to the break up with your ex and promise that you have made plans of correcting it in the future when you people get back together .let your ex see reason with you and you will also need to get the commitment of your ex in the area of his/her fault. This may take time ,it is best to give enough time to sort these things out with your ex before getting back into any relationship.

After the issues has been resolve and agreement made towards each party and there is a sincerely willingness from both parties to build a great relationship, gradually you will easily get your ex back without any serious stress on your back or your ex part.

The break up may have occurred because of a single event, or it may have occurred from behaviors that your ex could not deal with anymore. No matter what the reason was that led to the breakup, you need to get the specifics figured out so that you can deal with the situation if it should never come up again. You can get an ex back if you know how, but if you want to make it work on a long term basis, you need to figure out what went wrong in the first place.

The next step in the process is to ensure that you are not coming off as a needy person. Everyone will feel like they cannot live without their ex, but there is no point in making this obvious. Instead, you should stay strong, and let your ex see that you are doing just fine by yourself. If you let everyone around you see your comfort and self confidence, then you will have a better chance of getting back together with your ex.

Trying to get back at your ex, or trying to make your ex jealous is not a good way to operate. In fact, these are some of the worst things that you can possibly do, because it will show your ex that he or she should simply move on because you already have. While you do want your ex to see that you're doing ok, you do not want it to inspire him or her to completely move on if your ideal scenario is to get back together. Let your ex see how strong and self confident you are, and they will feel inspired to get back together with you.

Having a long lasting relationship entails the application of the principle of compromise and sacrifice by the both parties involve in the relationship
Sacrifice involve going out of your way to meet the need of the other person or give the needed attention your partner needs even when it is not ok for you. Sacrifice involves places the need of the other person above your own need. The word compromise or sacrifice can be used interchangeable in a relationship, as it means giving up our self wishes and desires in order to accommodate the need of the other person. The principles of sacrifice helps us to have a balance in a relationship when the two parties in a relationship are willing to make little sacrifices and compromises here and there, denying self in order to make their relationship to work.

Sacrifice helps to build up long lasting relationships as far as your efforts are not taken for granted by your partner but they are always well seen and appreciated. Sacrifice and compromise helps to build trust and commitments in a relationships. This also builds up the bond over time between the two people involve in the relationship.

For sacrifice and compromise to work well in a relationship, there has to be a balance between the two parties involve in a relationship. In a situation where one person is the giver of sacrifice, commitment and compromise for their relationship to work and the other party is not doing the same, the other party my feel cheated and disappointed.

We are all humans and effort should be make by all parties in a relationship to make it to work. Strive to create a balance in your relationship by being willing to give at all times when need arises to build a balance relationship. Do not expect so much from your partner when you are not also giving much. This is a law of life that to whom much is given, much is also expected.

For long lasting relationship, there should be an understanding between the two parties concerning when either of the parties should be willing to make a little sacrifice or compromise for the relationship to work. This involve both parties in a relationship being sensitive to the needs of their partner per time and be willing and able to make sacrifices where needed to build up the commitment and trust in the relationship.

Also remember that at the initial stage of commencing your relationship, both of you were always motivated about the relationship and where willing to make each other happy and at the same time make the relationship to work. The same things that you did at the beginning of your relationship to make it to work should be sustained throughout the life of any relationship in order to make it to work and last long.

When you are willing to make sacrifices for your relationship to last longer, it is always interpreted as signs of commitment from your partner and this will serve as a level of serious trust between you and your partner and it will also encourage your partner to make similar sacrifices and compromises when the need arises as far as the person is a positive thinking person that is ready and committed to building long lasting relationship.

Hello all,
In this article , we are going to look at the various ways that will help you to fix , save or build back your relationship.
Have you been thinking of the various ways of getting back your ex partner or how to fix your relationship with your ex partner.

Some people have said that they have tried everything in order to get their love one back to them but it seem it is not working .What bring about success is having the right knowledge and information that will help you to succeed in getting your ex partner back to you.

You might say that , you have done a lot and your ex partner is not making enough efforts to reconsider coming back to you commensurate with your efforts , there is still some things that you are yet to do.

No matter the reason for the break up, you need to know that it can be sorted out as far as you can contain the pain of the break up and think of ways of getting back your love one to yourself .When you allow your reasoning and emotions to be stable in life no matter the problems or challenges in life, you can always bring out solutions to problems.
But in an unstable conditions like complaining, crying, grieving and begging solutions are hardly gotten.
I want to let you know that no matter the situation or circumstances that you have found yourself , every relationship can be saved.

You need to learn how to do it the right way in order to get your ex partner back to you. . Most of the mistakes, we make will cause even our ex partner not to reconsider getting back with us and our efforts will lead to futility and we will lose a good partner.
Some of the efforts we put into getting our ex partner back to us is just wrong. Here are the various ways of avoiding such mistakes to fix back your relationship

If you truly love your ex partner , the time , they left you ,what you need to do at the initial stage is not to disturb yourself, crying , begging , blaming yourself , your ex partner or others for the break up in the relationship rather you need to just be yourself and allow your ex partner for the time being to be .

This allows you to respect their decision of separating from you and sometimes it could be very emotional but you need to summon the courage to do the right time at the right time .

This will gradually affect your ex partner if they truly love you too, they will over time miss you and they will get to understand that you can move on with your live with or without them . They bond of love ,time, things and experiences that the two of you might have had in the past might be the trigger that will work the miracle that will make your ex partner start thinking of coming back to you.

Also do not be afraid that your ex partner in a relationship or marriage will start going out with someone else and even f they do , one major challenge in life is that it is easier to work out a relationship with the person you know better than with a totally new person .if they get involve in another relationship , they will with time, discover that it is not that rosy starting out with a new person they may not love but just get attracted to or want to cool off the effect of their last relationship .

You will get to discover that with time, you ex partner will be craving for every opportunity to get your attention and make efforts towards getting back with you. The major benefits of using this method is that you do not need to be defensive ,complaining or begging , things will just start working out between the two of you .

When eventually , you ex partner approaches you , you just need to apologize to each other , not blaming each other for anything anymore , make amends and take decisions immediately on how the two of you are going to make compromise and sacrifice to build a better and blissful relationship.

I believe you have learn a lot from this guides, you should start making efforts at implementing them and see amusing results .

The things that you must know before going into the God kind of Christian marriage or relationships in order to have long lasting relationships.
For one to succeed in any relationship leading to marriage in the God kind of way for long lasting relationship, there are certain things that you must learn to do or keep away from that God will naturally bless your relationship or marriage because God has conditions for various blessings in our lives.

One of the things to know in order to have a long lasting relationship is that as a Christian, you are expected to avoid all act of pre-marital sex in your relationship with your partner. Never , you give in to the devils deception that you will need to have pre-marital sex to know how great your partner is.

This is a total lie from the pit of hell, in the world today, everyone was created without any school or university of sex or even some people due to our culture and environment, have never been given any sex education by their parents or teachers, hence everyone just grows up learning various kinds of things in career and business without learning much formally as it pertains to the act of sex or sexual education.

Hence this make people i.e young people to go into it by experiencing it doing it in the wrong time and ways. Sex was created by God for the marriage institution for the pleasure and enjoyment of couples in marriage and never outside marriage, as when it is done outside marriage is a deception from the pit of hell and for procreation in the world.

As a Christian youth, building a relationship leading to marriage, you must ask God for the grace to help you stay out of sexual immorality and make sure that you never put yourself in situations that exposes you to commit sexual immorality.

Also remember that God is more interested in your purpose for your creation before you think of getting married. It is when you have found your purpose that you are then ready for marriage. it is the purpose of your creation that will help bring your partner and sustains the marriage in the long run for long lasting marriage relationships.

We are going to discus on the various mistakes that leads people to a divorce or break up in their relationship .We discus about the mistakes of trying to impose change on another person , promising or speaking change without seeing it and when not to used the word I love you.

In this guide, we are going to looking at the other mistakes that one needs to avoid in order to save your relationship or marriage from an impending breakup or divorce due to increasing break up and divorce rate today . Let look at more of it now .
You can decide to leave your ex partner alone for some time without disturbing or worrying them about the break up or the strain in your relationship with them and with time , they themselves will feel insecure too if they genuine love you when the relationship was all rosy and they will try to create time and opportunity to meet you in order to reconcile things with you.

Keeping your cool sometimes help and it creates desire in your partner to want you back and they themselves will start making the efforts to get you to reconcile with them.

Another mistake, that people usually make in a relationship is resorting to arguing and causing problems always claiming that the other party in the relationship or some other people around them are the cause of the problems in the relationship.

The truth of the matter, in almost all relationships that lead to breakups , the two parties usually have their own share of the blame for the strain in the relationship but this is not the right time to apportion blames to anybody but this is the right time to ponder over what you and your partner did wrong and how you could create opportunities once again to amend situations with your partner.

The truth is that they more you argue and want to amend your stand , the more you are going to be defensive and when you are defensive , you are not helping to save or build back the relationship in any way .

Your partners will also want to be defensive too in such situations , meaning that arguing and been defensive at the long run does not solve any problem in a relationship and it is a relationship mistake that you must try as much as possible to avoid .

The best things in a situation that may lead to an argument where you know that both of you have your fair share of fault is to apologize to your partner or ex partner.

This seriously helps to amend your relationship as your partner later will be thinking that sincerely both of you may have your faults but for your to make the extra effort to apologize on time is a good indicator of a positive relationship in the future.

One single effort of apologizing , can sometimes be the trigger that you need to initiate a reconciliation effort in your relationship or marriage that works towards fixing or saving your marriage from a break up or impending divorce.

To succeed in your relationship you have to be ready to work on your relationship, making sacrifices where appropriate and been there in order to build a sustainable relationship. You also need to be ready to compromise your time and resources sometimes to make sure that you attend to the need of your partner and vice versa .All this efforts, sacrifices, compromises , understanding ,communications helps to build serious trust and confidence in your relationship and makes it to last long.

All these principles are applicable to both partners in a relationship for a relationship to succeed , ie for both the man and the woman and where one is trying all his or her best to work or build a relationship and the other party is not forth coming, one may feel cheated and it may affect the outcome of the relationship , hence all partners must always be ready to make efforts at ensuring that their relationships works by sorting out issues and differences at the communication , compatibility and understanding stages
You need all this virtues, principle and keys to be in long lasting relationship, in order to make it work and last long .

You are expected to love everyone around you with this same God kind of love , which is unconditional expecting nothing and you need to extend this kind of love to everyone that comes your way ,in that way when you enter into a relationship , you will be in a better position to give the god kind of love to the person that you are courting for greater relationship and marriage.

Before you get yourself involve into any relationship, you need to ensure that before you court or date anyone , it should be someone that you could consider marrying tomorrow , which is one of your major essence of going into the relationship in the first place believing God that if everything works out well , you will definitely marry the person.

Anyone that is not ready to encourage you in the Christian faith and in the things of the lord, you should have a second thought about your relationship with the person as nothing in the world should make you to compromise your Christian faith for whatever reason or person.