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Every Christian single needs a mate in order to build relationships that will lead to marriage. You will need to understand that we were all brought up in our churches, congregation and chapels to believe that we need to wait on the lord to bring our mate to us. God created us to go into the world and take charge of situations and this does not need to be the norm again as a lot of things in life is tied down to marriage and whoever you finally get married to determines how far one may go in life hence marriage partner's decision is one of the most important decision that one needs to take at a certain stage in one's life and it should be given all the seriousness it deserves even after you must have first of all committed it to the lord. Single Christians need to build up every aspect of their lives including building a great relationship. When you want to get a mate, you first of all have to go the lord in prayer to guide you properly and lead the way for you so that you will not make mistakes. When the lord guides you, we will be able to meet the right mate and partner that you need at the right time and right place. Just praying alone without us taking some steps towards getting the right mate will not totally meet our needs as the lord is waiting for us to take actions and he will guide us. When you want to lord to guide you in making the right choice of mate, you do not need to made your choice of partner first before praying for the lord's guidance as that will be that you have already taken your decision before communicating with your creator. For you to get the lord's guidance in building the right relationship, you need to depend on him first with all sincerely. Build relationships that are mutually beneficial to others and not just getting into a relationship in order to fill a lonely hours. When you are also involve in activities that benefits others, the lord will bless you in the process and brings the right mate to you. The relationship dating advice here is meant to helps you to go in the direction that God wills for you in your life - one that will be beneficial to you in the long term. |
Relationship and Marriage Advice For Getting the Right person for relationship or marriage Choosing the right person that you need to build a relationship together is one of the most important decision that you will need to make at a certain period of your life. Most of the time finding that right person that really suits you can be a very uphill task for you both. If you know the way to go about it as you follow this guide, you will discover that getting the right woman for a dating relationship can be a fun filled experience for both you and your potential partners. Firstly you have to ask yourself this question whether you yourself is the right person for another person to have in a relationship, marriage in terms of your behaviour , character , giving , economically etc before you look for ho will suit for you. This means that in order to get the right person for marriage or relationship , you yourself must be work on yourself and be prepare too. You need to first of all understand that it takes commitment and work to get the right person Before choosing that special lady that will be right for you, you will need to set your goals as it regards the your decision towards choosing the right person that you need to build a great relationship. Setting relationship goals is just like setting goals in any other areas of your life and you will need to understand that the goals that you set towards getting that special woman for you is one of the most important decision that you are making and it is very important that you give it the commitment and concentration that you need in order to get the right woman for you. When setting up for goals for your relationship, you have to be frank with yourself about what your expectations and the qualities that you desires in the right woman that you are looking for will be like and you are committed to seeking out this qualities that will make you to be compatible to the right woman that you need. The whole truth is that most people are not bad in any way in a relationship but that for you to get the right woman or even man to build a great relationship together, you will need to get someone that is compatible to you by the person sharing the same qualities and attributes with you.This has to be the steps that you need to follow in order to get the right woman for you that you can build a great relationship together. There has to be both soul and romantic connections to someone before the both of you can have a great relationship. The two of them goes together and not even one starts by itself. Always keep in mind that any woman that you choose to build a relationship together must always fill your long time plan and perspectives if you are serious about getting the right woman for yourself.Have fun and make use of the online dating sites with your goals and plans in place of the right woman that you need for a better and great relationship |
Why are we having increasing rate of Marital failures? This is a tropical question that usually bothers people mind and thinking today and it even makes people to shy away from marriage and the responsibilities associated with marriage .This is largely because of the increasing divorce rates , separation , trouble relationship , break up that we are all experiencing in our modern society today. More than 50% of marriages in the United States end up in break up, separation and divorce today after 5-10 years of marriage and up to one million children in the US every year suffer the psychological and emotional trauma of breakup and broken relationship. The rate of failure in marriage is always seriously affecting here in Nigeria and Africa as a whole This statistics makes mostly young people growing up to dare marriage thinking whether it will work for them since it did not work for their parents. I just want to let you know that not withstanding the available statistics and experience that we have in our society today, you can still build up strong lasting relationship and marriage only if you are willing to give it the commitment, trust and faith that going into a marriage relationship demands of you with all your heart and faith belief that your marriage will certainly work e d for you and your spouse to be. The reason why you are scare about marriage today is because of the ugly experiences that marriage has presented to us in our present generation and most of the ugly experiences today , we see it right from our homes with our parents and you have been thinking whether you should get married because you do not want to end up with a relationship filled with great pain, worry and disappointment that could make you to become an emotional rake even though like the idea of marriage and the marriage institution comes with respect and regards for people that are in it .You also want to have someone that could love share your love with , spare time together to build a home and a family and the current challenges ,experiences is making you to be scar. You can certainly over all that and be able to build a great relationship that stand the test of time. The Bible says that if you are willing and obedience, you will eat the good of the land , so one of the good of the land that God has destine for us is the marriage institution that he created right from the beginning of the world from the time of Adam and Eve, He knew that it is not good to be able alone hence , he gave Eve to Adam. God is the creator of marriage and he will certainly help you to build a long lasting relationship and marriage if you are willing to follow the right principles and steps to building great relationship notwithstanding the ugly situation that we might have seen today in our family and society at large. |
You need to have certain keys to lasting relationship that will help you to build a better relationship in order to avoid the ugly situations that a lot of people are seeing themselves today of having broken relationship , divorce , separation etc. In the United states of America alone , it is estimated that almost 50% of marriages usually end in break up and divorces after 5-10 years of marriage . In order to avoid this increasing ugly trend, you need to imbibe these key principles with your partner in order to build a great relationship. They include 1. You need to be compatible with your spouse or anyone that you are engage to or dating . Compatibility means you being with someone that you can easily occur or live with less conflicts . It also means being with someone that they two of you can easily reason together with and respect each other’s opinion, excesses , dislikes etc. It also mean being with someone that you can make sacrifices for, be committed and someone you can trust and respect. There is no perfect person but you must make sure that you are dating or courting someone that you can easily flow with together. This is very essential for your relationship to succeed. Most of the infidelity that we experience today in our society is because of a union of two people that are not compatible with each other. Secondly, to build successful long lasting relationship, you must be ready to communicate to your partner very well. Good communication is important for building long lasting relationships. Communications helps you to express your expectation, fears , like and dislikes to your partner and your partner will also do the same to you likewise. This is very essential in order to build trust, confidence, respect and bond in any relationship. Relationships where communications flows easily have a higher tendency to last longer while those with poor communication skills may not really work well if it will not result in frustration, break up, divorce, constant conflict, fighting and infidelity. Thirdly, another principle for successful lasting relationship is that , in order to succeed in any relationship , you need to understand your partner point of views on issues that affect the two of you before you try to place value on your own point of view. This helps to build trust and respect in a relationship . Always remember that your spouse or partner may be coming from a different background with a past experience that may have a different experience emotionally and otherwise than yours . Hence you need a good display of understanding in your relationships and marriage for you to make it to work and last long. Fourthly, you need to be ready to make sacrifices at all times in order to make your relationship to work. For any successful relationship that you have seen, the true about it is that the two people involve have make up their minds and are also making sacrifices to make their relationships to works . The sacrifices, you may need to make may be in your habits, as it affect your partner , your money managements as it affect your partners, being ready to discomfort yourself in order to attend to the needs of your partner and being there with your partner even when it is very difficult to do so . Sacrifices help you to work on your relationship in order to make your relationships to succeed and last longer. Sacrifice involves giving up your time and your resources in order to help your relationship to grow and succeed. To succeed in your relationship you have to be ready to work on your relationship, making sacrifices where appropriate and been there in order to build a sustainable relationship. You also need to be ready to compromise your time and resources sometimes to make sure that you attend to the need of your partner and vice versa . All this efforts, sacrifices, compromises , understanding ,communications helps to build serious trust and confidence in your relationship and makes it to last long. All these principles are applicable to both partners in a relationship for a relationship to succeed , ie for both the man and the woman and where one is trying all his or her best to work or build a relationship and the other party is not forth coming, one may feel cheated and it may affect the outcome of the relationship , hence all partners must always be ready to make efforts at ensuring that their relationships works by sorting out issues and differences at the communication , compatibility and understanding stages Contributions are welcome here You need all this virtues, principle and keys to be in long lasting relationship, in order to make it work and last long . Finally anyone that is not ready to make adjustments and sacrifices for a relationship to work is just not ready for relationship and life challenges. Learn them here. Also I have a valuable and quality e-guide that I am going to give you access to on how to choose the right person, the right process of getting married and building a great and successful marriage. Download from the link below to have access to it now for free. |
The keys to lasting Relationship and marriage There are certain things or practices in a relationship that can be regarded as keys to lasting relationship. When two people first meet themselves for the first time or within weeks of meeting themselves, they are usually first physically attracted to each other for them to kick start a relationship but they true about the matter is that mere physical attractions does not build a relationship in the long run even though they are still important in relationship building but with time it will fade out with ease. The keys that sustain a relationship is having the ability for two people to be ready and willing to communicate well in a relationship .Two people involve in a relationship must always be ready to communicate as often and as necessary as possible .They must always be ready to communicate their expectations, fears , short coming , limitations , backgrounds ,needs, choices and almost every thing about themselves to their partner for their partner to have a better understanding of the expectations and fears of who they are dating or married to. Communication is very important in relationship and marriage as it helps to sustain and build a marriage or relationship .it is even use as a trigger for intimate love, pre-intimacy and sex in marriage. Couples or partners that are good communicators in their relationship always have a higher tendency to succeed in their relationships than does that do not possess this skill or habit. Good communications helps in easier conflict resolutions in marriage and relationships, better understanding of partners and progress in life. Communication is even necessary in every area of life. Good communication helps relationships to flow easily. It builds trust and confidence in all the parties involve in the relationship. It helps in better understanding between two people, their likes and dislikes in life. Generally intimacy between people are built with good communication. Never be in a relationship or marriage where there is no good communication as they two of you will be looking strange to each other without having much to discus or share in common. Communication opens up people, their emotions and psychological wellbeing is built up also in the same way. Contributions are welcome here. Also I have a valuable and quality e-guide that I am going to give you access to on how to choose the right person, the right process of getting married and building a great and successful marriage. Download from the link below to have access to it now for free. |
Here are some of the keys to a lasting relationship or marriage and if you practice it , it will help improve any relationship or marriage for the better. 1. God: You have to always bring God into everything that you want to do in your relationship or marriage , starting from choosing a partner , marrying well building a great marriage. Develop a good relationship with God by praying always for his guidance and reading his word for divine inspiration, direction or instruction 2. Compatibility: compatibility is being able to exist together in peace and love without fighting to much 3. Understanding: You need to be able to understand where your partner is coming from emotionally and also when they are trying to argue a point. This is very important. The key to reducing arguments within relationships is through understanding of someone else’s point of view first before you try to convince them you are right(even if you are) 4. Sacrifice: Sacrifice means giving up part of yourself and your time for someone else. Many men are not willing to give up their time for women. They stay late at night and as a result sacrifice their relationship. In order to have something great, a true meaningful relationship you are going to have to accept that personal sacrifice will add to your life. 5. Work: You have to work on your relationship for it to work for you .For anything great to happen, a little bit of work and determination has to go into it. On the whole, relationships that works involves the determination of both parties on work out their differences and be ready to be committed to their marriage, which will reduces pain and problems in the relationship, But occasionally there will be fights and misunderstandings, which is normal. This is where you need to fight for the continuation of a loving marriage. 6. Compromise: Compromise is similar to Sacrifice in that you need to compromise some of your “life direction” for a better life together. 7. Love: There must be genuine love by both parties in a relationship or marriage for it to be long lasting . The God kind of love called Agape love, which involves more of giving for the need of your spouse than your own need. Sharing in relationship, giving and be friends in a relationship or marriage helps it to be long lasting and sustainable. These are some of the keys that you need to apply in order to have long lasting relationship and marriage. Contributions are welcome here. Because of lack of space here I have a valuable and quality e-guide that I am going to give you access to on how to choose the right person, the right process of getting married and building a great and successful marriage. Download from the link below to have access to it now for free. |
for me , i see marriage as a serious responsibility that needs the commitment of both parties. marriage is a serious responsibility has it take alot to build a successful marriage. a lot of issues , it has to do with children, procreation, meeting each other emotional needs, there is also god blessing for goes that go into marriage the right way. A successful marriage ,involve two people that have the right knowledge, understanding and are ready to work out their marriage for it to success. most of this problems could be minimize , if only most people know what to do right from the onset in their relationships. The pillars of marriage include communication understanding sacrifice making compromise love for each other and other]giving and sharing Guys and ladies, one of the major problem that we are having in marriages today is because of the problems of wrong foundations, in which the current marriages was started or built up hence that is the reason why we are having a lot of break up , people moving from one relationship to another , increasing rate of divorce and broken homes which at the long run affect the society in various ways because of space here , i will give everyone a free ebook for you to download that will help you build better relationship, getting married and building a great marriage title: How to choose right, marrying right and building a Great and successful Marriage . This is my contribution to the community Download from the link below to have access to it now for free |
You know it is true that no all men that cheat, some men are discipline enough to be with their partner . What helps such people in this sex before marriage is the fear of the lord. You just need to Know that it is only God that can help someone stay above immoral sins this days couple with the fact that young ladies are making matters worst for men with their semi naked dressing by some of them and they know that men are first affected by what they see and they sometimes get unnecessarily intimate with this men and they end it will lead to cheating on their spouse or partner. Not alll men wish to cheat nowadays but it is only God they helps anyone couple with the present realities of cheating such as STD infections, lack of trust by your partner if they get to know about it and there is no relationship that will last for ever , without your spouse getting to knowing it one day, others problems include HIV, unwanted pregnancy, commitment or spouse that one my not even want. Some may say condom , with the latest discoveries, it has been proven that latex condom is not completely safe as some due to the increasing demand and production , may have pores in them that can allow for flow of fluids and even in the act if not properly used , it can also cause health challenges. I believe that cheating and putting your life, future and unborn children on a piece of rubber is not worth it. you need to be positively minded, so that you can choose the right spouse and build a great marriage or if you are already married , you can work on your marriage to make it better. Contributions are welcome There is a valuable and quality eguide that i am giving out to the forum community free on choosing right, marrying right and building a great and successful marriage Click on the link below to get your copy if you have not gotten it yet. |
It is always great to start a new relationship but what will make it work and be sustainable should be of most important to work now so that you can build your relationship into marriage itself. building a great relationship takes serious work and commitment from both parties to build the relationship. That is just the true both parties must be committed for it to work out well. making a relationship to work takes knowledge, understanding and working on the relationship by giving, sharing and sacrifice for each other . because of space here , if you have not gotten the free ebook for you to download that will help you build better relationship, getting married and building a great marriage title: How to choose right, marrying right and building a Great and successful Marriage Download from the link below to have access to it now for free. |
My friend ,you do not need to be afraid or scare about women , they are just like any human being. What you need to know,which is even more important that a relationship is knowing how to choose the right person , courtship and how to build a great marriage . Download a free ebook that will help you in your relationship by clicking on the click below with choosingright.pdf thanks .That is my contribution to you and the whole nairaland community Download a free ebook that will help you in your relationship by clicking on the click below with choosingright.pdf |
Hello, Guys and ladies, one of the major problem that we are having in marriages today is because of the problems of wrong foundations, in which the current marriages was started or built up hence that is the reason why we are having a lot of break up , people moving from one relationship to another , increasing rate of divorce and broken homes which at the long run affect the society in various ways such as Wrongly raised children with little or no home and life training , hence exposing them to become area boys and girls, prostitutes, club people, trouble makers in society without a clean cut future. The parties in the relationship or marriage when there is a break up, divorce, separation or bad marriage have problems of physiological problems, stress, depression, and lack of efficiency in their work. Are you in a troubled marriage already and you are looking for a way to save your relationship from break up, divorce or separation . Are you planning to get married and you are afraid of the all the problems that you are seeing that people are having in their marriages and you think that your own marriage will fail just like your parents ,relatives or your friends own Are you not sure of who you should even marry among all your friends and the people that propose to you or you want to propose to? Are you wondering that your current relationship or courtship is not working out the way, you want it to be and you do not know what to do? There is always a solution in the midst of problems. You may not even know what it take to be involve in a relationship, courtship or marriage successfully? Yes it may be true because there is no school of marriage or relationship like you learn in school about other professions. To choose well and build a successful marriage ,it take having knowledge and a lot of work from both parties to make it work and succeed._______ The institution of marriage is the only institution that you are given a certificate before you enter into it. There is a saying that you can choose a wrong career, course or job and can easily come out of it but when you choose and live with a wrong marriage partner, it is always very difficult to back out due to the many interests that are involve in marriage such as children, both parents and your relatives, friends and the society at large. Contributions are welcome here. Because of lack of space here I have a valuable and quality e-guide that I am going to give you access to on how to choose the right person, the right process of getting married and building a great and successful marriage. Download from the link below with choosingright.pdf link to have access to it now for free. |
hello, most of this problems could be minimize , if only most people know what to do right from the onset in thier relationships. Guys and ladies, one of the major problem that we are having in marriages today is because of the problems of wrong foundations, in which the current marriages was started or built up hence that is the reason why we are having a lot of break up , people moving from one relationship to another , increasing rate of divorce and broken homes which at the long run affect the society in various ways. making a relationship to work takes knowledge, understanding and working on the relationship by giving, sharing and sacrifice for each other . because of space here , i will give everyone a free ebook for you to download that will help you build better relationship, getting married and building a great marriage title: How to choose right, marrying right and building a Great and successful Marriage Download from the link below to have access to it now for free. |
Why do people always pretend and continue in relationship when they know that things are not working and there is not compatibility between the partners? Is it that people decide to marry the people that marry for the wrong reasons and expect it to work One of the challenging thing that we all see today and which are the results of some many broken marriages and homes today , is that two people will be in a relationship and both of them or one of them is seeing that nothing is working in the relationship and they continue to pretend about it They are not compatible in any where ? They do not share the share vision or passion or anything and they relationship is always with strife , quarrels , fighting, breakups, infidelity and still this two people will still go ahead and getting married and they marriage will eventually lead to break up and problems. Where is the missing link here , let discus about it because people always forget that marriage involves a lot of other interests apart from the partners, which include both families, innocent children and the society at large. Let just share thought here about this ugly problem and trend that is seriously affecting individuals, families and our society at large , which could even be you reading it now. Share where you or they got it right for others to learn from it. Thanks all |
god help ur children God will help us all |
my brother kuma007 thank you for saying the true the way it should be. people forget that this is a nationwide recruitment and not recruitment for abuja residents. someone that had someone inside following things up for him and notify him when he knew it was ready is not the same as a genuine release of appointment letters to successful applicants in any recruitment not to talk of govt. I believe the nsitf is now under pressure to bring the merit list out I strongly believe god will intervene for his children .Amen |
hello guys those that said that they have received thier appointment from the front door should be sincere and give info as it unfolds itself. even though every one is waiting to get it and be called but is this the proper way of handling a recruitment that involves the 36 states of the federation where if ur name is there if you are in sokoto ,you still need to travel to Abuja just for picking ur appointment when other organizations like ndic and othets posted the appointment letter to the new employee address and info the new employee the new date of orientation and come with thier acceptance letter. God will help all his children and all front door people in jesus name amen |
believe guys in abuja are out for the peaceful protest at the hq. Let us draw their attention to this injustice and those in Abuja can meet the HR GM and submit their grievances with decorum and see their reactions and action and not protest. Those that have connection with the media, should send their report on the media and even if not much is done , let the whole world know about it and they could be afraid as the nsitf mgt and board could be drawn to the media report and they act be bringing out our names in their so called 2 and 3 lists. Let us not allow them to take us for a ride like that because people paid money , travel from one part of Nigeria to write the test in the five centres , traveled to lagos and Abuja for the chat with time and money gone and they just want to keep out aside like that . Then the media reports for those with connection in the media should go on. If Nafdac that has been functioning well did the right thing , why not nsitf because even the nafdac thing could have been at least 70% merit and 30% connection. which is reasonable for nigeria Nigeria is but they just sat down in Abuja and gave appointment letters to their cronies leaving people that merited it out . |
People are talking about calling when they should be mailing to those in the list just like other organisations did like ndic and others . remember that this is a federal government recruitment and it involves the 36 states and fct and not just for a handful of people in abuja , i believe that it is only those that were sure and inform by thier sources that traveled to get the letter. We need the reasonable protest for the letters to be release and posted and they have to show those from the chat are there. Monday good for people in Abuja to start acting so that nsitf will respond and releasewhat they have for the whole world to see. jesus will definitely see us through.Our appointment is there , you must press for it to be release next week monday. Abuaj people this is time to act.This Nigeria and it wealth belongs to all of us and not just a few in jesus name . Act now |
hello, i think this protest thing need to be handle with caution and with the highest sense of maturity, i think that what those in abuja should do is to arrange themselves as the front door applicants and expected nsitf employees and go to the hq on monday 23rd during as if inquiring that they have not yet heard of the official release of appointment letters to most of those that pass through the process and attended the chat but you people are only hearing and seeing some people in their office there submitting acceptance letters. Arrange yourself maturely as say that you want to meet with the AGM or GM HR as this has to do with recruitment and with wisdom and caution present the issue the the woman highlighting the pains of the process of people from 36 states traveling to abuja and lagos for the chat and test with highest sense of responsibility and hear her response. We need to do something here in order to put a little pressure on nsitf to release the merit/front door/god favoured list appointment letters because if we continue to wait the politicians people may try to hijack more spaces for their people because even people that have them will continue running to them and more pressure on nsitf The bible says that we should always watch and pray , we have prayed , watched and need to take some actions so that we may never be left behind.from now this monday, we need to continue to pray to god that our plans for monday will work and we will find favour before this nsitf people and that by the power of the king of kings and the ruler of the universe in jesus name , they must be under pressure to release and mail our offer letter b4 the end of next week. However, knowing what Nigeria is with govt matters and jobs ,one knew politicians will always bring in some of their people but nsitf should have wisdom like others does by release both the merit/politician letters together and much of the tension will be less. don't believe and wait for 2nd or 3 list as if it is true , u know how every 2nd or 3rd list is even in those days of university admissions. Pls those in abuja should please act on this on monday 23rd april and by the power of that raise jesus for us to be free, they can never be left behind us in jesus name |
in god we trust that i will make a way for us. I need to know that the standard govt processes are changing todat, one recruitmenr then do not last for over a year like this. let us just keep waiting as things unfold |
flexi sexybone or whatever is ur id is , though you may have a point but sincerely it seem that you yourself is not an nsitf hopeful and was not part of the recruitment process. you would have just drop your point and thinking and leave but you are attacking others. Do you know people sources, someone said that it could be 23-28 orientation.You are challenging him , do you know his source. Are you naija president or nsitf md, You need to know that some people are already engage and want to change to better and more secure and paying jobs and respect people's opinion as others have a right to share their views. if you are a jobless person , i think you should rather spend time looking for jobs online or offline and not this ur distracting people and this area of the forum. look for where you can be hopeful and belong and not distract people pls. A word they say is enough for the wise . You should not attack others again. Allow people to have peace and spend time to look for what to do for your time and life . |
hello to everybody, Please we should be all mindful of what we post. i believe that god will definitely make a way where there seem to be no way for his children. I have always believe that the nsift recruitment process , god will make it different no matter the stories of political influence of men. i believe things will roll out by next week or b4 easter . let just be prayerful and god will see us through. |
Amen too,i greet everyone on this forum,i have been following this thread for long and this is my first time of posting. I want to salute all the people that have contributed in one way or the other to make sure that information about this nsitf recruitment happening is known by all following. I also want to salute all those that have praying for the right thing to be done and all of us favoured.This is the first job that i have followed that i have seen the believe in God that all things are possible. Without the contributions of others , thoe far from the centre and Abuja will not know what is going on. I believe that we should all continue to pray and believe in God for his Favoured and to put in nsitf ,people that will stand and do the right thing and i join my faith with other and believe in God that end of this month 31st march ,2012 will be pass , something or info will come forth from nsitf. For those that are saying their source said indefinite , i believe there is no need for such as every budget now approve for ministries and parastatals, you must go to work with your budget as there is budget defence now before new ones are approve. You may say that the Nigerian factor is there, but i want to believe in God nsitf own will be difference or minimal.Today in Nigeria, even the people that you think can help you get the job also have thier relatives in need of jobs .That is true today in every family or home. Even the Bible in jer 17 says that wore onto man that put his trust in man that he gave breadth but blessed is a man who believe in the lord. We need men for updated info as others are doing So let us continue to pray , fast and provide updated info as they come on this forum as the bible says that we should all watch and pray and God will certainly do it for his children. Make my post when all this is over.I rest my case for now. continue to pray and thanks God |