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Open Letter To Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu By General Adeyinka Adebayo Iyin-Ekiti My dear Asiwaju, I am compelled to write this open letter to you because of the state of affairs of the Yoruba nation. Firstly, I wish to acknowledge that fate has put you in a prime position to determine to a large extent the direction that the Yoruba people will go. The indisputable truth is that one may quarrel with your politics but your sagacity is never in doubt. Even those who don't see eye to eye with you agree that you are imbued with unusual native intelligence, uncommon people skills and unrivaled foresight. You, more than any other person, has been the game changer since the advent of democracy in 1999. It is for these reasons that I have chosen to direct this letter to you. My singular purpose is to tug at the strings of your heart. I am not writing to appeal to partisan considerations but to see, if per chance, I can pour out my heart to you in a manner of speaking. God has blessed you even beyond your wildest imagination. You have installed Senators and Governors. You have removed Governors and even a President. You have also installed a President. There is nothing you have wished for or desired that you didn't get. Fortune has smiled on you. Goodwill follows you everywhere you go. You have done very well- more than most men ever will. However, there is one area that is begging for your urgent attention. This area may well define you and all you have ever achieved. This matter, in my opinion, is the only difference between you and the late sage, Chief Obafemi Awolowo. Let me restate for the purpose of emphasis that this is the area in which the late sage and Leader of the Yorubas stand head and shoulders above you. It is the reason his name has been a constant denominator in our regional and national politics. It is the reason politicians, friends and foes invoke his name for political advantage and personal glory. It is also the reason why we can't stop talking about him almost thirty years after his death. What will anyone say about you thirty years after you have transited? Asiwaju Sir, you may be wondering what I'm talking about? It is the issue of legacy. According to Peter Strople, 'Legacy is not leaving something for people, it is leaving something in people'. Legacy is building something that outlives you. Legacy is greater than currency. In the words of Leonard Sweet, ' What you do is your history. What you set in motion is your legacy'. You can't live forever, Sir. No one can. But you can create something that will. Enough of speaking in parables- I shall now speak plainly. When destiny brought you on the scene, we were enamoured because you championed the case for true federalism. It was your belief then that the Yoruba nation will fare better under a restructured arrangement than under the type of unitary government we run while pretending by calling it a federal government. Everyone knows that there is nothing federal about our government at all. If truth must be told, the Yoruba nation has fared very badly since the advent of our new democracy. And this is not about holding power at the centre. Let me bring this home: someone passed a comment recently that he would want Biafra to become a reality because he knows the Igbo nation will survive. That comment led me to deeper introspection as I wondered if the Yorubas can truly survive. Let me cite my first example. From Oyo to Osun, Ogun to Ondo, Ekiti to Kwara and Lagos, hardly will one see any serious industry or manufacturing concern owned by a Yoruba person. I am not talking about portfolio businesses or one-man business concerns. Most industries in Oyo State are owned by the Lebanese. The native business and industry gurus who dominated the landscape- Nathaniel Idowu, Amos Adegoke, Lekan Salami, Alao Arisekola, Adeola Odutola, Jimoh Odutola, Chief Theophilus Adediran Oni and others- are all gone with no credible replacements. I'm sure you remember the tyre factory of the Odutolas and how Jimoh Odutola was even asked by the Governments of Kenya and Ghana to set up a similar factory in their countries. Chief Theophilus Adediran Oni, popularly called T.A Oni & Sons started the first indigenous construction company in Nigeria. He willed his residence- Goodwill House, to the Oyo/ Western state government, to be used as a Paediatric Hospital, which is now known as T.A Oni Memorial Children Hospital at Ring Road in Ibadan. This sprawling family Estate and residence was cited on a 15acre piece of land, 65 rooms, with modern conveniences, Olympic Swimming Pool and stable for Horses, etc. People like Chief Bode Akindele started companies like Standard Breweries and Dr Pepper Soft drink factory at Alomaja in Ibadan. Broking House built by the late Femi Johnson, an insurance magnate, still stands glittering in the mid-day sun as an epitome to a rich history that Ibadan has. The most serious and only notable Yoruba entrepreneur we have now is Michael Adenuga. I say this quite consciously because most of the other names are oil and gas barons. Most of what stood as testaments of industry in Oyo State are gone- Exide Batteries, Leyland Autos and many others. In its place are shopping malls and road side markets but no nation develops through buying and selling alone- especially when you're not actually producing what you're selling. Hypermarkets and supermarkets have taken over because of the need to feed our insatiable consumer-appetite and foreign tastes. In one instance, an ancient landmark in the form of a hotel was demolished to pave way for a mall. That is how low we have sunk. If our past is better than our present- if we always look back with nostalgia frequently, then there is a problem. The case of other states is not different. Osun's case is pathetic. Ditto for Ondo and Ekiti. Ogun State can boast of some factories at Sango-Otta and Agbara axis but most of them are not owned by the Yorubas. There is no significant pharmaceutical company owned by any Yoruba except for Bond Chemicals in Awe, Oyo State- and its wallet share is very insignificant. For Lagos State, more than 70% of the manufacturing concerns and major industries in the State are owned by the Igbos. If the Igbos were to stop paying tax in Lagos State, the IGR of Lagos State will reduce by over 60%. In contrast, Sir, go to the South East and look at the manufacturing concerns in Onitsha, Aba and Nnewi. Please don't forget those were areas ravaged by civil war a mere forty something years ago. The Igbos have certainly made tremendous progress but the Yoruba nation has regressed. I wish to state that this letter is not meant to whip up primordial considerations or ethnic sentiments but just to put things in proper perspective. Asiwaju, I will like to also talk about the state of education in the Yoruba nation. Our education has gone to the dogs. We have a bunch of mis- educated and ill-educated young men and women roaming the streets. Ibadan, for instance, had the first University in Nigeria and the first set of research centres in Nigeria ( The Forestry Research Institute, the Cocoa Research Institute (CRIN), The Nigerian Cereal Research Institute Moor Plantation (NCRI), the NIHORT (Nigerian Institute of Horticultural Research), the NISER (Nigerian Institute of Social and Economic Research), IAR&T (Institute of Agriculture, Research and Training), amongst several others). Ibadan was the bastion of scholarship with people like Wole Soyinka, JP Clark, D.O Fagunwa and Amos Tutuola as residents. In the May/June 2015 West African Senior Secondary Certificate Examination, Abia came tops. Anambra came 2nd while Edo was 3rd. Lagos placed 6th while Osun and Oyo was 29th and 26th. Ekiti was 11th, Ondo State was 13th and Ogun State was 19th. In 2013 WASSCE, only Lagos and Ogun States were the Yoruba States above the national average. If we do an analysis of how Lagos placed 6th in 2015, you will discover that it was substantially because of other nationalities resident in Lagos. For proof, please look no further than the winners of the Spelling Bee competition which has produced One-Day Governors in Lagos State. Since inception in 2001, other nationalities have won the competition six times (Ebuka Anisiobi in 2001, Ovuwhore Etiti in 2002, Abundance Ikechukwu in 2006, Daniel Osunbor in 2008, Akpakpan Iniodu Jones in 2011 and Lilian Ogbuefi in 2012). Sir, there is something seriously wrong about our state of education. From the vintage times of Obafemi Awolowo who initiated 'free education', we have regressed into a most parlous state. Let me talk about roads, housing and infrastructure . The first dualized road in Nigeria, the Queen Elizabeth road from Mokola to Agodi in Ibadan was formally commissioned by Queen Elizabeth in 1956. The first Housing Estate in Nigeria is Bodija Housing Estate (also in Ibadan) which was built in 1958. The state of roads in the Yoruba nation has become pathetic. Our hinterland are still largely rural. Even some state capitals like Osogbo and Ado-Ekiti are big villages when you compare them to towns in the South East. How many new estates have been built over the last decade? Even Ajoda New Town lies in ruins. We have abandoned the farm settlement strategy of the Western Region and only pay lip service to agriculture. Instead of feeding others like we once did, others now feed us. We plant no tomatoes, no pepper and the basic food that we require. The Indians have bought the large expanse of water body that we have in Onigambari village. The water body in Oke Ogun of Oyo State can provide enough fish to feed the whole of the South West. From being a major cocoa exporter many years ago, one can point to just a few vestiges of factories that still deal with Cocoa in the Yoruba nation. 80% of Cocoa processing industries in the South West have been shut down. The Chinese have taken over the cashew belt at Ogbomoso in Oyo State. They have even edged out the indigenes as brokers. They now come to the cashew belt to buy from the local farmers, sell on the spot to other Chinese exporters who now process the cashew nuts and import them back into Nigeria at a premium. Sir, there are only 7 major cashew processing plants in Nigeria and you can check out the ownership. The glory has departed from the Yoruba nation. Apart from Asejire, Ede, Ikere Gorge and Oyan dams built ages ago, where are the new dams to cater for increased population and water capacity for the Yoruba nation? How have we improved on what our heroes past left us? Maybe apart from certain areas in Lagos State, others can't even supply their citizens with pipe-borne water. Our youth which we used to take pride in are largely a mass of unemployed and unemployable people. Have you noticed the abundance of street urchins, area boys, touts and 'agberos' that we now have all across the Yoruba nation? Have you noticed the swell in the ranks of NURTW (I mean no disrespect to an otherwise noble union)? Have you noticed the increase in the number of Yoruba beggars? There was a time that it was taboo for a Yoruba man to beg- but no more. The spirit of apprenticeship is dead. There was a time that people who learn vocational skills celebrate what we referred to as 'freedom'. While that is largely moribund now in the Yoruba nation, the Igbos still practice it with great success. The only thing we can boldly say the Yoruba nation controls is the information machinery- the press. We own largely the newspapers- the Nation, Punch, Nigerian Tribune, TV Continental and a few others. It is because of our control of this information machinery that we have rewritten the narrative in the country with the misguided self-belief that things are normal and we are making progress. A look beyond the surface will prove that this is so untrue. We are largely divided. For the first time in the history of the Yoruba nation, religion is about to divide us further- and it is starting from Osun State. You are married to a Christian. My own father-in-law is an Alhaji. That is how we have peacefully do-existed but the fabrics are about to be torn to shreds because of poor management of issues. Afenifere has been reduced to a shadow of itself. OPC that once defended Yoruba interests has gone into oblivion. Yoruba elders have been vilified in the name of politics and partisanship. It is no longer news to see teenagers throwing stones at their elders because of their political indoctrination. Even under the late sage, Chief Obafemi Awolowo, the Yorubas never belonged to just a single party- yet our unity was without blemish. Now, our values have gone down the drain. Asiwaju, I believe I have said enough. The task is Herculean but I believe Providence has brought you here for such a time like this. It is time for the Yoruba nation to clean up its acts. What do we really want? How can we quickly right the wrongs? The Yoruba nation is in a state of arrested development. The Yoruba nation is gasping for breath and crying for help. Will you rise up to the occasion? I am aware you understand that all politics is local and charity begins at home. Our fathers gave us a proverb: 'Bi o'ode o dun, bi igbe ni'gboro ri'. I know there are no quick fixes but I also know that if there is anyone who has the capacity to do something about our current situation, that person is you. This should be the legacy you should think of. Your legacy is our future. Yours Very Sincerely, Adebayo Adeyinka Iyin-Ekiti Yoruba Ronu oooooooo.

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Muafrika2:
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Then Facebook will soon introduce a Whatsapp like feature to try and take its market.

That may be tru. But Facebook used a huge chunk of its stock to pay for whatapp. They paid only $8bln cash or thereabout and the balance with about $11bln worth fb stock. can Zuckerberg throw $19bln away to kill competition?

Saraki will simply buy d cct like wike bought d supreme court. Is it not Nigeria?

It seem one of the cadet guys recorded the "beating up" based on d voice behind d camera. How did the guy get the video recording or who leaked the recording to the public? Just wondering.....

ican2020:
The BD refers.
I ve' been using glo line for more than 6 years now and I enjoy full bars, okay
but whenever I subscribe to their data plan, i get the worst service anyone can ever dream of.
Do you know that Airtel that has just 2 bars in my bed room works 10x better than glo with full bar.
Glo in Dutse, Abuja is a complete scam

God bless you. That is just the point am trying to make but everyone seem to be too technically schooled and wont accept simple network inadequacy. Glo is a fraud when it comes to data services and they know it themselves. Thats why they provide a paid customer care line for data services problems. By the time you realize you have spent more than the value of subscription in calling customer care, you will decide to let them be. They like to use the word "ESCALATE" when they know they cant solve your problem.

BUILDING AN AFFAIR-PROOF MARRIAGE

Like we always say, marriage does not work by itself; couples have to make it work. Everywhere you turn, there is mostly an all-too-familiar story about how this marriage or that marriage had started to drift on autopilot, and whatever passion, whatever communication and even the friendship that existed within those marriages had somehow faltered. While this shift persists through a period of relational drift, the husband might have started a “friendship” with a woman client, and because of the cracks at home, the relationship quickly progressed and crossed undesirable lines.

The brokenhearted wife had discovered the evidence when she read some text messages on her husband’s phone and now they are faced with rude shock trying to figure out how this had happened and what they were supposed to do next.

While healing is possible after adultery, affairs usually cause unimaginable pain and relational wreckage and couples should do everything inconveniently possible to proactively avoid infidelity. Prevention they say is better than cure.

Below are a few guidelines that have the power to safeguard your marriage from the pain of infidelity by building an “Affair-Proof” marriage.

Each of the principles below starts with showing continued respect, honesty and love towards your spouse. Don’t keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. Make a commitment to be faithful at all times and in all ways out of love and respect for your husband or wife!

PRINCIPLE 1.
Make communication with our spouse a priority.

Communication is the status gauge of any marriage. What communication does for a marriage is directly comparable to what oxygen does for your lungs! A marriage devoid of communication is going into cardiac arrest. Stay connected with daily, uninterrupted conversation. Talk about everything including your sex life. Tell yourselves what you like in the bedroom and how your spouse can help you achieve it. Talk about your future dreams to enable robust discussion and fine-tuning. Whatever you do, keep your communication life active.

PRINCIPLE 2.
Keep all your flirting focused on your spouse.

If you’re always trying to get attention of the opposite sex, you’re eventually going to get the kind of attention that can wreck your marriage. This is not to say you should be unfriendly with or intolerant toward the opposite sex. However, if your marriage was important to you and it is your desire to avoid damaging cracks, after normal greetings and pleasantries, there should be nothing more. Anything else should be directed towards your spouse. Flirt with your spouse often, but never flirt with anyone else!

PRINCIPLE 3.
Stay away from conversation your spouse must not hear or see.

The moment you’re talking with someone and you think, “I hope my husband/wife doesn’t find out about this,” you are WAY out of line already. Whether or not your spouse is physically present, show him/her respect. When you engage in intimate discussion with anyone else other than your spouse, it becomes suggestive to that other person and he/she can misread your contributions. Even if you plan to counsel someone in that line, do it in the company of your spouse.

PRINCIPLE 4.
Make sex a priority in your marriage.

This cannot be over emphasized. Sex is the emotional food of marriage to be consumed only with your spouse. When your spouse is not satisfied with your cooking, he visits restaurants. It is worse when you deliberately starve him/her because he/she is going to get hungry and find food to eat somewhere else. If the deal outside is better, you may lose him/her for life. Certainly, there is more to an affair than just sex, but having a healthy sex life within marriage is still one of the best ways to build a strong marriage while simultaneously safeguarding against the temptations of infidelity. Unsatisfactory sex-life brings cracks into a marriage faster than any other factor.

PRINCIPLE 5.
Talk openly and positively about your spouse.

Be proud of your spouse and your “married status”. Don’t be an “Undercover Married Person.” Your co-workers and associates should know that you’re married and that you love your spouse. Keep his or her picture on your desk. Always wear your wedding ring. Enjoy saying “am going home to my husband/wife” at the close of work every day. Let people see your spouse as the center of your universe.

PRINCIPLE 6.
Socialize together.

Attend social events together always. Let your wife always be your “plus one” at any occasion. Work towards being inseparable. Before you RSVP any social invitation, tell whoever is inviting you to allow you check with your spouse. Whenever your spouse comes with a social invitation, except you are unavoidably indisposed, always go together. If a spouse is genuinely indisposed and the event cannot take any toll on your career, don’t go.

PRINCIPLE 7.
Visit your children in school together.

Young children have “open day”. Older ones may be in the boarding house (visiting day) or on a campus. Whatever their level, visit them together. There is nothing like making new discoveries about your children together. No matter how busy one spouse is, it is not an excuse to make it the duty of the less busy spouse to do the visitations alone. Doing such breeds cracks.

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Abraham221:
Glo edge has not been browsing for a while now, only browse on 3g

Na glo sabi jare

Lawalmd:
Glo of all network for data connection is a no no for me, the last 4.5gb data I did was a pure waste of money because even with 3g signal on the phone the network can't even achieve 2kb/s so since then I don't do data subscription on glo even if its free seff I won't use it. Etisalat and Airtel rocks

My brother, after my airtel finished, I decided to try etisalat. I can tell you for free that its the best. Though slightly priced, you get value for your money.

Thanks for the hint.

Some Biblical Wisdom For Blissful And Enduring Marriage

https://www.nairaland.com/2890489/some-biblical-wisdom-blissful-enduring

SOME WISDOM FOR BLISSFUL AND ENDURING MARRIAGE

"Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her. She shall give to thine head an ornament of grace: a crown of glory shall she deliver to thee"……. Proverbs 4:7-9(KJV)


Married people from all around the world are looking for ways to improve their marriages. Marriages are being extensively challenged on a daily basis if we are to be realistic with ourselves. However, there are powerful biblical nuggets which have been widely acclaimed to have continually been of tremendous help in saving many marriages.

Yes, from the Bible! That timeless collection of books is the richest WISDOM BANK for a most fulfilling marriage on earth. In ignorance, many couples look everywhere else but the Bible for wisdom to manage their marriage especially when in deep crisis. You must know that the best mechanic to service your automobile is the manufacturer. God created the marriage institution and so he has everything you need to enjoy your marriage in his kitty.

Fortunately for mankind, the guide to his kitty is the Bible which is readily available to all, irrespective of race, colour, citizenship or location. The Bible is the wisdom of God (Luke 11:49, 1Cor 2:7, Eph 3:10) for mankind and have solutions for every aspect of life and living INCLUDING MARRIAGE. Even if you don’t share the faith being promoted by the Bible, these time tested principles from it can revolutionize your marriage. Just give them a consistent try!

Wisdom1.
Take your mind away from the possibility of divorce.

By God’s standard, once married, you must accept that it’s too late to walk out except your partner dies.

“The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will……….” ---- 1Cor 9:39


As long as your partner is alive, you will be out of God’s will to divorce him or her. God set this standard for our good. No one divorces his spouse and remain the same.

God is full of love and He scarcely uses the word “HATE” but that’s what he feels for divorce and he expressed that in the Bible without mincing words.

“For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”----- Malachi 2:16


So Wives, you cannot leave your husband to marry someone else except he dies and you Husbands, you cannot divorce your wife because God hates divorce.

When you refuse to entertain in your mind, the possibility of leaving your marriage under any pretext, it helps you to be a better person and goes a long way to improve your marriage. You simply want to make it work because there is no way out. Marriage does not work by itself, you make it work.

If you are in a second marriage or you are “single again”, this is not written to judge you. Neither is the contents designed to make you feel ashamed. The Bible is clear about our access to grace, and the examples of all the great patriarchs in the Bible who fell quite short of God’s principles and commandments. God gave them second chances and new beginnings.

All God want now is for you to repent and change your ways because though he frowns at your days of ignorance, He’s willing to let go.

“And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men everywhere to repent” -------Acts 17:30

"Who was before a blasphemer, and a persecutor, and injurious: but I obtained mercy, because I did it ignorantly in unbelief".----- 1Timothy 1:13


Once the grace of God have drawn you to receive salvation and you have repented, mercy is available to you because you did all that was done ignorantly

Wisdom 2.
Treat your wife very nicely always

God operates only in a joyful atmosphere. And because he loves the institution of marriage, he wants to be a part of it all the time. He is aware of all that is going on with you and your spouse as a witness. This one particularly is talking to men who treat their wives with disdain and malicious dispositions and sometimes violence in other to subject them to cower when they appear. God says you are committing treachery by making life difficult for your wife.

“And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant”.------ Malachi 2:15-16


You cannot be violent towards your wife and expect to enjoy your marriage. If your spouse cowers when you appear, you don’t have a spouse but a slave, a servant who will always be afraid of you like her wicked boss and the only thing that will occupy her mind always is how best to get away from you.

Wisdom 3.
Take Sex serious.

God is the inventor of sex and he alone knows all the good reasons why he did so. He said a lot about it and how much, as a married person, you should pay attention to it to enable you enjoy it and by extension enjoy your marriage. Sex should be observed regularly in marriage with both spouses submitting to each other’s needs and desires.

“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.” --- 1 Corinthians 7:3-4


Another version says:

“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife”------- 1 Corinthians 7:3-4


Benevolence means generosity. Couples must be consistently generous towards each other in the act and matter of sex. Both partners must avoid giving what is called DUTIFUL or CADAVERIC sex but PLEASURABLE sex to the other all the time (a CADAVER is a corpse). Pleasurable sex is what satisfies while dutiful sex is meant to put it on record that a partner did not refuse the sexual advances of the other. However, you might not have refused but at the same time, your partner might have derived little or no pleasure from what you gave in the act of marital sex. When you give dutiful or cadaveric sex, it means you are unwilling or uninterested which your partner can interpret to mean just about anything. Such incidences are quick and probably the fastest to bring deep cracks into marital relationships which fallouts have led to the breakup of many promising marriages. The bible calls it “sexual fraud” but we “call it sexual laxity”.

“Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”----- –1 Corinthians 7:5


God is saying you should have pleasurable sex consistently for your own marital good. What you are unwilling to give to your spouses sexually, people outside are willing to give them for free and consistently too. Be wise

Wisdom 4.

Avoid mental polygamy.

Mostly, we believe as long as we don’t commit a sexual act outside the marriage, then we are “monogamous,” but the Bible’s standard for monogamy covers not only what happens in the bedroom, but what happens in the mind.

“You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28


Polygamy of the mind begins from pornographic addiction, graphic romance novels, “lusting after” other people, etc. This is a high standard, but it’s because marriage is a high priority. God knows the effect of these things ever before they happen. He knows they breed lusts and lusts breed temptation and temptation breads sin:

"But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death"-------- James 1:14-15


Your marriage shall not die in Jesus Christ’s name.

Wisdom 5.
Love is not a picky feeling.

Western and westernized couples, after different timings in marriage, do talk about “falling out of love”. This is because they don’t really have a good understanding of what love actually means. Love, by its core nature, isn’t a fairy tale sensitivity or emotion but a commitment that is absolutely permanent. Love in marriage isn’t a story with a happy ending; but a story with no ending.

“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Corinthians 13:7


When you fall the first time into something, you cannot fall the second time into same thing or another thing for that matter, except you first rise up from where you have fallen. What these kinds of couples meant was that they rose out of love but that is not possible if truly they were in love. Love is not temporary neither does it change. God is love and he never changes. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. Heb 13:8, 1 John 4:8, 16. Therefore, it’s ungodly to “fall out of love”. Despite all that mankind did to offend God, He didn’t give up on us but send Jesus to be the sacrificial lamb for the remission of our sins so we can be reconciled back to Him.

He never gave up on us because he loved us but made compromises instead. Be willing to reach a compromise in your marriage on all reasonable issues and you will have peace like a river.

Wisdom 6.
Every wife needs love and every husband needs respect.

One of the toughest parts of matrimony is loving your spouse even when his/her actions or attitude is far from lovable or giving respect when they’re actually acting disrespectful, but it’s so important to do it. God gives us His best when we’re at our worst, and He calls us to do that for each other in marriage. People usually need love most when they “deserve” love least.

“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us”.----Romans 5:8

God did not wait until we love him. He did not even wait nor ask us to repent first but for the love he has for mankind, he compelled Jesus to die for us. So husbands must love their wives as themselves because no one hates himself even when he knows he had done wrongly. Wives also must respect their husbands unconditionally and dutifully.

“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33

Wisdom 7.
Your spouse’s needs have to come before your own.

In our selfish human nature, we tend to look at every relationship (including marriage) as a way to get our own needs met, but marriage means laying down your own rights for the sake of another. This requires mutual submission and serving your spouse even when they’re not reciprocating. This is modeled by how Jesus served us and even died for us when we were undeserving.

“And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her”..... Ephesians 5:21-25


Wisdom 8.
Be united in everything.

There can’t be “his” and “hers” when it comes to money, hopes, dreams or struggles. Marriage means sharing everything. It means keeping no secrets from each other. This means your disagreements won’t have a “winner” and a “loser” because you’ll either win together or lose together every time. It means remembering that you should never let your spouse walk alone, because you’re unified in everything.

“This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” Genesis 2:24

Wisdom 9.
A marriage takes three.

Knowing quite well that no marriage minister will preach in favour of polygamy, people often wonder who the third member will be whenever this sub-topic is introduced. We are not talking about polygamy here.

“……………… Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth,.......”. Malachi 2:14

The third member of a marriage is God Himself. Marriage is so important to God that He Himself chose to be the witness of everything going on in every marriage. He created marriage not just to be a man and a woman, but rather, a man and a woman in a growing relationship with each other and with God. The more you love God, the more capacity you will have to love each other.

Your marriage is blessed today and always.

Jesus is Lord!

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[quote author=engineergifto post=41237973][/quote]Thanks man.

AFOLSNETWORKS:
I've stopped using their data plans. The best things u can do is to go to their nearby office.

Thanks but i wont go anywhere to help them do their job. i have spent extra N1k to call them on this issue. if i go to them again i will waste fuel. i rather buy plans fro airtel

Elxandre:
When I did my 1.2gb sub last month too, the same thing happened. It lasted about four days. No Edge or 3G
My saving grace was the airtel plan I still had.

Airtel is what i am using right now. they are quite dependable. glo is a cheat. very unreliable. till now, i still cannot use it. its already 7 days. 4.5G going down d drain. wicked insensitive network.

citydove:
The salary sef na high alert scam,who pays such in this oil glut season

And to tranees for that matter.

parrotibaba:
The plan is not a scam cos that's what I'm using. Yes Glo network can be pure fuckery sometimes but at least they don't double bill like air - thieves tel. Op maybe your problem stems from the fact that the network connectivity is poor in your area.

Try out areas that have decent coverage and see if it works, you can also get in touch with their customer care service on Twitter, your problem will be solved easier there than those tech noobs in the call center.

You make a lot of sense my brother. I am doubly sure that the data signal node of the mast supplying my location, that transmit 2G or 3G must be faulty. It was working when I was using my credit without data plan subscription. Right now, to even browse with credit directly is also impossible. I told them but they dont care. A diplomatic CCR would have agree to call the office closest to send someone to check it out. Instead, they were suggesting manual setting and arguing and wasting my money and time.

whats their twitter handle please? Let me try that again. Am using airtel now in the same area using hotspot to connect my laptop to the phone access But I have only 80MB on it.

donbenie:
It's your duty to make sure the network you're subscribing to has a decent coverage in your area,don't blame anyone if it's messed up and you still went ahead and subscribe just because it's cheap,am using glo and am enjoying it,nothin evil about them..

When i was browsing without subscription, d coverage was decent, but now that glo swallow my N2500 once, d coverage have suddenly fallen short? tell me something else

2kurupt:
What exactly is the challenge you're facing in using up your data plan? Is it that you don't have 3g signals in your area or what?

If you had been specific with ur issues, I bet you can get a solution on this thread. Most customer care agents are naive on tech issues, all they know is how to subscribe to one useless service or the other on their network.

I subscribed and it simply refused to browse. i thought it was d phone playing games, so i put airtel, it works, mtn, it works, etisalat, they all work. i put glo, back, no 3G not even 2G. I called them, they said i should delete all existing APN settings and change it to manual setting. i did. it didnt work. meanwhile, i was paying to call d idiots.

I was really pissed because i needed to make some application for my client that were time based.

femi4:
Is something wrong with you?

Is BIS not different from normal data plan. Infact, if you are using the plan on another platform other than bb, its illegitimate.

Something is definitely wrong with people who cant differentiate left from right but believes they know it all.

Emmagenius:
BRUS,it just happened to you doesn't mean they are 'EVIL'. My Glo 3GB for 1k rocks. I love Glo

Your own is working doesnt mean everyone is enjoying glow. beside your own is 3G. I hate glo with a passion.

I have a nasty experience after i subscribed to this Glo offer. I used glo to browse whenever I have emergency situation and the data money fizzles out very fast. Thats why I dont go near glo for internet. However, they brought this new package and I was lured and enticed and decided to subscribe, The moment I did, Glo internet service went dead on my phone. I did everything but it never work.

I have called their customer care line 121 like twenty times and they kept tossing me about. At a time, they gave me another number 444 as the data helpline for Glo, I called the line but its never working. I called 121 back they insist i must called 444 as thats where my problem can be solved. when 444 did not worked after 4 days, I called 121 again and they gave me a line that will charge me to complain. 08070140444 is a helpline set up by Globacom for subscribed customers with browsing challenge but they are to pay for using the line. Its the first time am going to hear that customer pay a telecom company, not a FMCG company, to lodge complain. Its so disappointing and after the money spent to make those calls, problem remain unsolved and Globacom does not care.

After I have spent over N500 talking to them and they wont move a muscle and the bundle is not working, I gave up with the conclusion that its a scam and that Glo is a very insensitive, wicked and fraudulent network that uses juicy offers that are lies to attract Nigerians in order to defraud them of their hard earned income.

If you have had a similar experience, kindly state it here.

Peace.

H2Ossss:
I thought conoco phillips is no longer in nigeria, they sold all their properties to Oando. did u apply and/or attend any aptitude test or interview? if not, its probably a scam.

No test or interview also but people help me submit cv allover the Oil and Gas industry. I had to post it here to be sure am not paranoid about Nigerians' propensity to scam through any means.

Below was what I got in my email this morning.

Dis anyone get similar?

Dear Candidate,


Conocophillips Oil and Natural Gas Limited is pleased to remind you that we are yet to receive any of the requested documents as required in the previous email we sent to you.
Since you have been selected as one of the TRAINEE for the 2015/2016 Training program you are required to send us the below requirement as to meet up with our documentation process.

As we explained during application you will be working in our Abuja regional office, where our Training departments are located. You will report directly to the Personnel Manager and be a member of our Graduate training Team.
After finishing orientation for new trainees, your initial task will be to undergo our graduate training for 2 months so as to prepare you to work with our organization.

You will be classified as an exempt Trainee-level employee. Your initial compensation package includes a Monthly salary of N320,000 (payable Monthly), full medical and Accommodation coverage through our company's employee benefit plan.

To complete our documentation process, you are required to do the following

1. Send us the signed copy of this letter.
2. Reference letter from your referee.
3. Nebosh IGC certificate / Online cover slip.
4. Proof of your Academic Certificate.

All the above requirements must be submitted to us either in person or through email on or before the 22nd of December,2015 .
Also understand that failure to submit on the mentioned date signifies rejection of offer and your employment status will be cancelled.


ADDRESS: Conocophillips Oil and Natural Gas Limited
Plot 88 Awolowo Road,
Utako Abuja, Abuja, Nigeria.
Telephone numbers: 08169522227.
Email: info@conocophillipsng.com
Website: www.conocophillips.com


We look forward to getting a response from you and are confident that you will play a key role in our company's expansion. Please let us know if you have any questions .


Sincerely,



SIGN: ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
EMPLOYEE ACCEPTANCE





Dr, Johnson Effiok
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Personnel Manager,
Conocophillips Oil and Natural Gas Limited
Plot 88 Awolowo Road,
Utako Abuja, Abuja, Nigeria.
Telephone numbers: 08169522227.
Email: info@conocophilipsng.com
Website: www.conocophilips.com

vivianaku:
Ushering Job for an International Brand Launch from Monday To Saturday N5,000 per day Plus Some Gift from the Company NeoLife Int'l. Want to Promote Their New cosmetics and weight loss product. The international officials and C.E.O is also coming from U.S.A. venue: Odukoya Event Centre, 41 Shasha Akowonjo road. Dopemu Lagos. Call if you are interested or refer it to someone. Eniola 07032085108

Vivian, you and your co-travellers at GNLD are very wicked and God will punish your entire generation. You are cursed forever. You are using Ushering job that does not exist to lure people into your deception. People who are looking for regular job will go and borrow money for transport to get a job but when they get there you introduce something else to them. You ask them to make a financial commitment to the sham you introduced to them and you never talk again about the ushering job. it will not be well with you and everyone who taught you to be deceiving people.

Nairalanders, pls don't fall for anyone who invite you to brimstone at Allen Avenue or GNLD at Millennium Estate/westex B/S area in Gbagada. They are worst than armed robbers. They will waste your time and money by promising to give you a job. Be Wise.

ASHTAROTH:
Hello fellow Nairalanders,

I need your advice on this issue. I am about to take a very important and life altering decision in my life, but I am kind of confused as to what to do. I am very sure, that we have mature people here, and I would definitely be given best of advice. This issue cuts across my entire life, please matured advice are kindly welcomed.

I am a guy in my early 20s (would be clocking 21 by December). I have a Diploma in Engineering, and I currently work with a company in Southwest Nigeria. I graduated as the best student of my Department, and that was in early 2012. I did my internship in one of the big names in Nigeria.

Ever since 2012 that I finished the first phase of my polytechnic education, I was unable to satisfactorily secure admission into the schools and course of my choice. Nonetheless I vowed never to settle for HND. Although My Dad pushed against my own will to apply for HND and I was admitted but I refused and turned the offer down. For the University admission application, it’s either I was given the course I have no interest in or not admitted at all. I applied through direct entry, UTME and several many others. One of the many trials even journeyed me to meet the Vice Chancellor of a State University in a supposed southwestern state. The Vice Chancellor questioned me, accusing me of probably cheating in CBT because I scored the highest (story for another day).

I kept on trying but, this year I made a resolution to have a taste/peep into another field. Although I have passion for engineering, but I fell in love with Medicine after I saw two American Television series (Grey’s Anatomy and Night Shift, please don’t think of me weird). I humbled myself and did another UTME exam. I did excellently well, and my performance in Post UTME was good, though below my set standard. I was pressed to change from Medicine and Surgery to Nursing when the admission officer told me of my slim chance of being admitted for MBBS (Indigeneship stuffs). Fortunately I was admitted for Nursing.

In my quest not to put my eggs in one basket I obtained another DE form. Using the DE application I picked two schools in southwestern states. But, I didn’t stop there; I applied as an unsolicited candidate to another school in one of the Northern States. Fortunately I was admitted for my long desired course in Engineering Field in the Northern University. Though I am still awaiting the two Southwestern Universities and the Northern University resumes in 3 months; I don’t want to give these all away. I want to make the best decision base on good career advice.

I have so prayed and it seems God is giving me a blank cheque to write on. At this point, I can't afford to make the wrong decision.

The issues I have now are:

1. The school that admitted me for Nursing has opened portal for Acceptance fee payment which closes in a week. Of which the tradition is if I couldn’t pay on or before the said deadline; my admission would be invalid. Of course this calls for professional and tactical deliberation and decision. Of which I am to accept the admission now (school resumes presumably January), I would be forced to quit my full time job, thus I won't be able to safe enough for my expenses of even 2 years in college.

2. I am so in love with the Northern University, I love the environ, the distance and of course the solitary of my personality I would enjoy (considering my personality), but we all know the security issue in the north though it’s not rampant in this particular state.

3. The living expenses in Nursing admitted school is on the high side. Looking at it my entire savings would be out in less than two years. Speaking of which my Dad is of no financial support since I disobeyed and turned him down. So I have myself to think about Feeding, Tution Fee, Hostel Fee, Hand outs, Internet data and Transportation. However, my savings would see me through four years of the Northern University.

4. BNsc is a 5-year course and ELectrical Engineering (DE) is a 4-year course, considering the age factor.

5. I am torn between my fantasy and passion, but I want to make the right and best decision. It’s a pity I would be forced to make decision this early despite the unpreparedness of the rest two schools to release DE admission lists.

I am sorry for the long write up. Please advice me from experience; career-wise and future-wise.

Thank you very much.

Ashtaroth 'Owo

Just go for nursing. end of story

FarnTarhCoal:
WoW!!!!

A very big congratulations to them.

May the good Lord bless and uphold this child. Make her great in her generation and make a befitting impact to the world at large. AMEN


I believe members of their church will start to name their new babies after this girl, just as they did before with the founders name when you hear the name David given to their sons.
Now it will be Rejoice, Ibukun or Lydia.

Beauttiful Names


Note: I was second to comment

I shall get there to ftc

on my way there...

Rejoice has been a common name in winners for years.