reniduke:

MS! Whew, that's a big one! Im coping pretty well, small drama last Tuesday night. Ill pm you n share my number, let's chat on whatsapp. i dont feel like airing my laundry here.

Gotcha; I just replied your pm so hopefully that connects us.

reniduke:
So im new here, im a may mommy. Didnt know about this forum or id have joined earlier. Pls explain how it works. Any mommies with lupus or any other autoimmune drama, do holla! Will like to e-meet another rare preggy mommy!

Hey dearie,
welcome on board. Congratulations and wishing you a beautiful rest of the pregnancy journey and a pain and complication free fast delivery. I do not have lupus but do have Multiple Sclerosis; the doctor said I would likely not have any attacks during the pregnancy, but the chances of a relapse after giving birth is very high; but I am still very careful now so as not to trigger any attacks. Hope you are coping well?

Olukunle5:
To the glory of God we were blessed with a very beautiful girl today.

I went from a closed cervix on Friday morning to having a baby on Saturday at 10am. Baby was born vaginally with very little tear that was closed in one stitch.

I will share birth story later. My entire family is grateful for this bundle of joy. Baby was born 4 5 days early.

We praise God; may he continue to bless you and your family members.

Congratulations to all the new mamas in town; we thank God for a safe delivery, and pray that he perfects all that he has started in your respective families. May he give you the needed strength, peace of mind, love, and joy for the days ahead.

peggygee:
Congrats to all the team April momas that have dropped.

I see big big babies delivered without tear....may all ur hoohas receive rapid healings oooo. E no easy

Happy Easter to all my e sisters, I hope say una never finish the Easter rice ?

Team Sept momas, how are we? My able cappo I can see ur gud works...weh don mah!

#Teamseptember for no loss, sharp sharp delivery and supernatural delivery without pain or tear.....

Abeg every mom to be shud read that supernatural birth book, its very helpful.

Una weldone

Alohaaaaa,
Team September in the house. I am currently in cruise mode with few discomforts here and there, but I thank God. That supernatural book has really helped me fight off all feelings of anxiety and take control of this pregnancy journey; may God continue to bless the author. And a big AMEN to no loss, and sharp painless and tearless delivery.

lotannad:
pls mamas,i dont know if i could get help here.i am 25wks already but spitting real bad.i cant even sleep without having bitter kola in my mouth.i could take 1 for 2dys but d moment i pause,d saliva rush out like anything.i never experienced ds b4 and d dr said there is nothing they can do about it.

I have this same problem in addition to bitterness in my mouth. I chew Trident spearmint gum, and that has really helped.

katchycouture:
Update on #teamseptember roll call


NAME. GENDER. EDD
(1) katchycouture Gender Not known. 15th sept

(2) jesufifunmi Gender Not known. 28th sept

(3) favouredi Gender Not known. 5th sept

(4) aghaibiam Gender xy. 7th sept

(5) MoyosBlog123 Gender Not known. 21th sept

(6) goodfortun Gender Not known. 2nd sept

(7) tushmom Gender Not known. 15th sept

( peggygee Gender Not known. 9th sept

(9) ennywealth09 Gender Not known. 17th sept

(10) YACAA Gender Not known. 9th sept.

(11) Eigmaticme FEMALE. 8th sept


We welcome Eigmaticme into our midst. ..#teamseptember #weshallnotcastouryoung#

Team September come on in and drop ur EDD and baby gender..simply quote me with ur EDD and baby sex and i will update the list immediately. ..

Happy easter to us all....may the death and resurrection of our Lord JESUS CHRIST may his hands be upon this little life as it develops in our womb. Amen

Thanks cappo
Welcome Eigmaticme
Amen @ Easter prayer
Gender update- male

Elixir123:
Good lovely mamas, pls I need your expert advice MA's. So I complained earlier about body weakness and all.I went for a test and It turns out I have malaria.
I was given parecetamol and Coartem ( the coartem is in capsule form and colour green) to be taken 1 twice daily .
Pls mamas is it safe to take this drug ? Has anyone used it.A doctor not a gynea saw me though my file showed my preggie history .
I'm 15wks gone.
Thanks mas

Hi dear,
Sorry to hear about the malaria condition. From what I know coartem is not the drug of choice for treating malaria in pregnancy;this is because it can lead to the loss of the pregnancy or other fetal defect problems. Please please please see a gynae immediately and double check for the right medication to be prescribed; he would select a drug of choice based on your trimester. Also let them check your Hb levels to ensure that they are not so low due to the malaria. Wish you a speedy recovery.

mydreams25:
I don get alert, Godwin!!!
To the glory of God my prince charming came to this beautiful world yesterday(sunday) weighing 3.8kg to grace us. Hmmm I couldn't stand labour pain ooo opted for cs straight at just 2cm after virginal examination, doctor begged me to wait a little so he can help me do sweep membrane I no hear. Didn't know labour pain is this painful, abeg cs all d way for me( I have very low threshold for pain). I wish all remaining mamas easy and stressfree delivery/according to your heart desires. Still coming with my full birth story. Make I rest small.
Cc: Giddyperson and all mamas

We thank God for a safe delivery; may he continue to perfect you and the little one to the glory of his name. xx

Topxcel:
Am in my first trimester, been having consistent brownish discharge. No pains.
Has anyone experienced this b4?
My doctor said its nothing to worry about.

Hello dear,
I had similar discharge at some point in my pregnancy; my doctor said it is common, but I should report to the hospital if it darkens, reddens, increases in quantity, or is accompanied with any pain. xx

Good morning beautiful ones,

I woke up about fifty minutes ago and decided to browse through a devotional plan on the bible app when I came across this verse in Luke 1:28, where God sent the angel Gabriel to Mary of Nazareth to tell her of her impending conception and birth of Jesus- "The angel went to her and said, "Greetings, you who are highly favoured! The Lord is with you."

It is very comforting to know that even before God blessed each and every one of us with the beautiful gift/gifts growing within us, he knew we would need him by our side each moment; thus he sent a messenger even before conception to let each of us know that we are highly favoured by him and that he finds us worthy to be with us, especially during this period of changes, discomfort, pain, uncertainty etc.

These words fill me with warmth, love, and happiness; knowing that I have a father who is on this journey with me each and every step of the way; hence I am not alone.

As we are vomiting, God is with; holding us and ensuring we do not choke on our own vomit and still nourishing the child/children we carry
As we have headaches and other body pains, God is with us; massaging those body parts and whispering comforting words into our ears
When we wake up at night and can not go back to sleep, God is with us; waiting to chat and bond and let us know the many blessings he has in store for us
When we are frightened by bad news from test results, God is with us; telling us to trust him, and that he has already given us the victory and that we should remain still and know he is God
When labour is dawning near, God is with us; holding us strongly as we huff and puff; taking control of the atmosphere in the wards, labour room etc and ensuring that all things happen according to his plan

God is always with us because each and every one of us is special and highly favoured; and he will surely be with us till the very end.

PRAYER
Our good good father; creator of all things beautiful; the one who is ever present through it all; we are so delighted to have you in our lives, and we sing praises unto your mighty name.
Lord, even though we do not deserve it, we are so grateful that by your mercy you have favoured and will be with us always; Lord this gives us so much confidence that all will be well and that you have already won the victory; it makes us feel less lonely and more comforted because the ever faithful one is ever by our side, holding our hands as we go through the various stages of pregnancy.
Lord, we ask that you remain with us till the very end; during those dark moments you will give us light and hope; and each day you will give us something to smile and laugh about and many things to be grateful for.
Continue to favour us your children oh Lord and forever remain with us in Jesus mighty name we pray. AMEN

peggygee:
Congrats to all the momas that have dropped o, may the arrival of ur lo's bring u and ur family all the blessings that you can ever pray for.

Team April una don't take over the baton abi? Pls u guys shud drop it as e dey hot oooo. Wish all team April.and May porters a safe delivery in Jesus name Amen.

In other news, yesterday was my ist yr anniversary, couldn't come online to share, I'm grateful to God for this 1yr of blissful marriage, and I pray for more bliss, fruitfulness n blessings. Mbok make una share in my joy o. There was no cake, I craved for hot dog meat prepared with plantain and scent leaves, so hubby took me to this rugged joint, mehn....I downed the combo with some chilled palmy.... . I can't trade that for chicken mbok.....hahahahahaa

Abeg has any team sept mama started feeling lo's kicks?

#Teamseptemberforsharpsharpdelivery
#Teamlikenoother, no loss, no complications, baby alive, mother alive, father with lots of money

Congratulations to you and your husband my dear, and a big thank you to God for bringing you this far.
My prayer is that he will continue to be the foundation of your marriage and will perfect it more and more each day in Jesus mighty name.
Love the way you celebrated it. xx

katchycouture:



You are most welcome.. I'm registering u right away...

Thank you cappo

Morning beautiful people,

I have been a peeping mama for a while, but decided to register my presence today. I am currently in my second trimester.
EDD is 9th Sept according to LMP and 6th September according to scan (kindly register me team September)

zaynie:



It's normal to feel all those things in pregnancy. Her body is slowed down by the whole pregnancy matter.

She can spread her food in small bits. 6 small meals rather than 3 heavy ones.
The heart burn and constipation should go.
She can snack on fruits except pineapples and unripe pawpaw. Ripe pawpaw is good for constipation and water melon too.
Tired.... Normal. She should rest whenever she feels like it.
Hungry... She should have healthy snacks ready all over the house so she doesn't eat junks. Plantain chips, groundnut, biscuits cereals will give her the fast energy she needs.

How can she be hungry and have loss of appetite at the same time?
Uncle, I yamm not understanding you o

@Zaynie, it is possible ooo and the most frustrating experience. Even though she is hungry she has no desire to eat due to the loss of appetite, which is compounding the hunger issue. During my first trimester, I had absolutely no appetite for food; in fact I DETESTED food; my tummy would be raging in hunger against me but I did not want to eat; this was made worse by the fact that I would vomit almost everything. But I had to make the effort sha.

@ Beehandz, pele to your wife. I had the same symptoms during my first trimester. As Zaynie said, she should space out her meals and eat very little portions (she really needs to be encouraged to eat, as not eating makes the symptoms worse)
I avoided oily and spicy food, as these made the heartburn and vomiting worse; so I ate more bland food (for example a piece of bread, rice with stew with no pepper, little onions and ginger, crackers too helped); I also drank a lot of coconut juice to replenish lost electrolytes from the vomiting; she should drink a lot of water to help with the constipation; I would drink a full bottle as soon as I woke up followed by some oranges to start my day and that always helped

Most importantly she should remain positive so that she can go through the days with some joy; and kindly give her all the support she needs.

athaliya:


Perfectly understood. You didn't have to make me feel less human for me to understand that.
What I'm saying is that these hypocrites insulting her and saying how they'll send her packing are liars, go nau their wife is the dictator in their homes or they are cheats themselves.

If she came out with a story of how her hubby gives out false numbers, they'll all be talking about how she should be grateful he even gives false numbers, how she should be prayerful and patient, how she should wear red pant etc.

Let's treat everyone fairly and with love.

My dear,
Sorry if that is how I made you feel; it was not my intention. With regards the hypocrites and others you speak about, I can not comment on that. Blessed day.

athaliya:


I find myself in your shoes every day, I just don't know how to say no. If I were in your shoes, I'll have done exactly what you did or even given my real number.
I guess your husband is very possessive (which is a good thing) so no vex too much.
Thanks for sharing, I never knew giving out digits is that bad, I always wonder why my bf puts on a stony face the moment I mention something similar. Well, now I know.

Sweetheart,

It is understandable if some women find it difficult to say no; but is that the best? We should all learn to say yes when we mean yes, and no when it is no; nothing in between. If you find it hard to say no to others then it means you do not have a will of your own, which makes it hard for people to trust your decisions.

No her husband is not possessive; her husband is merely unhappy that his wife can not stand up for herself in a situation that is disrespectful (there is nothing respectable about another man asking for a married woman's number; what is he going to use the number for?)

In addition, men know themselves hence her husband would be very upset that his wife could not decipher the intentions of the doctor and defend her husband and her marriage

And to add to that, it was very unprofessional of the doctor

This is how we open doors and windows for rubbish issues to enter our marriages

I could not help but comment.

My dear,

A doctor you do not know asks for your number, and you care so much about how he would feel if you were rude/disrespectful by not giving out a number or reprimanding him for being disrespectful to you and your husband (YES, he should respect the sacrament of marriage)

You found the issue funny, and thought you and your husband would laugh about it

Your husband was honest, and expressed his anger and pain regarding the issue, and even offered you a solution for next time (do not give any number at all, and let the person know you are happily married and do not appreciate the fact that he is disrespecting you, your husband and even your little one)

At this point is where you should have just said "oh baby, I did not see it from that perspective; thank you for letting me know how you truly feel about such situations; you mean the world to me, and I would never do anything to hurt you; this is a man you love and cherish and just had a baby with; instead, it looks like you care more about not offending some stranger doctor than the feelings of your husband

Madam, this is an opportunity for you to make your husband feel loved and cherished; stop acting proud and do the needful

Who cares how you perceived the situation; the issue here is your husband you love feels down and hurt and angry about what happened, and you are blessed that he even opened up to you about it; this is not a you vs. him fight; this is a you lifting up his spirits when he is down especially as your actions caused him to feel that way (whether you intentionally did so or not is not the issue)

Swallow your pride woman; love conquers all

Amiableada:
good day everyone... i have been following this thread for a while now. thanks to hotstepper and every other person that contributes and all.God bless.I need opinions please. i got my canadian visa approved last year april, was planning on going during summer but couldnt cos of ticket fares so i decided to do it around feb or march this year as advised by my friend that works with BA that fares would have gone down a bit.

[b][/b]
Anyway the gist now is that i found out i was pregnant for my 4th after 9 weeks around september and now decided to use the visa for birthing purposes so i had to join this thread. i got a doctor through my host at calgary, discussed with him(nigerian doc). so i was good to go.alreday Dh and i had contacted a friend's elder sister who accepted to accomodate me since i was coming alone and she gave us the doc's contact. i left naija jan 21st through BA, arrived london to now check in to calgary and i was informed my visa has been revoked by canadian govt.I didnt believe it. so i went to my profile and saw they sent a mail asking me to come for an interview on the 20th of dec and was given only one week to appear but honestly i didnt see it and that same period i was in uk with my family on christmas vacation. I contacted them and they said i misrepresented during my visa application. my friend's fiance that lives in canada was of the opinion that someone must have contacted them that i wanted to use the visa for birthing purposes. now no one knew i was travelling to canada, not even my siblings or hubbys people.the only person that knew was the lady i was to stay with,my kids, my hubby and myself! when we called her to ask her if she contacted the authorites her answers were not adding up and she started avoiding us. now i wrote to canadian embassy asking why they revoked my visa, they have asked me to come for another interview in lag. i am heavy, i stay at abuja and havent decided yet.thats my story oh and i have learnt

Hello there,
In your application, you are normally asked to fill in your travel dates; if your travels dates indicated that you would be travelling during the summer then the embassy would become suspicious when you don't as seen by absence at port of arrival; this could be the possible reason they said you misrepresented information hence revoking of your visa and asking you to appear for another interview in December; that way things can be clarified.

Hi there,

I understand how frustrating it could be when it seems you are giving your all, but results are not showing for all that effort. I give you kudos for caring enough about your students; do not give up. I do not know which exact primary class you teach so some of my points may be a bit off tangent, but just try to pick out what you feel is most relevant.

First off, you need to start viewing yourself not just as a primary class teacher, but as a scientist, social worker, and psychologist. This is because, as a teacher you constantly need to be gathering data about your students, helping them achieve their full potential not only academically but socio-emotionally too (as these are linked); to do this, you need to understand the reasons behind each of their actions and attitudes. So view this current circumstance as a challenge which can be overcome if you tap into all these fields.

You need to find out why there are discrepancies between your students' performance in class and at home; do they copy from each other in class? Is the take home assignment more difficult than what they are given in the classroom? Do they use the excuse of not understanding to avoid doing homework whilst at home?

Secondly, the best people to answer these questions are your students; let them give you feedback as to what makes take home assignments very difficult, and address the root cause.

I also suggest that you let the students redo their take home assignments in class to get a clearer picture of what is really on the ground; let them assess their own work based on a marking scheme you provide, then let them reflect and write out what they did wrong (with regards incorrect answers), and what they should have done to get the correct answer; this gives them the opportunity to map out their mental processes hence learn from their mistakes; this way, your students are more active in their learning process.


In general, at the beginning of every term/semester, you should have come to an agreement with your students as to what you expect from them regarding classroom and learning behaviour; they should also be able to tell you what they think you can do to make their learning process more fun for example the use of games to learn Maths. Rules and regulations should be laid out, with consequences of disrespecting these highlighted; both you and your students should agree on these that way a contract is binding all behaviour. For example, not attempting to do an assignment has its consequences (even if they do not understand questions in an assignment , they should at least scribble something down; it is not just about getting a correct answer but the willpower to try and the perseverance to keep thinking of a solution). GET YOUR PUPILS TO COMMIT.

Another trick would be to let them quickly scheme through take home assignments when you give them out, and raise any misunderstandings they have; that way there should be no excuses of not completing take home work.

Every student is unique when it comes to their learning needs and styles so you need to get to know each of your students in that regards.

There is the VAKS learning styles, which is an acronym for Visual learners (learn best through pictures, diagrams, and charts and by reading ), Auditory learners (learn best via listening and speaking), Kinesthetic learners (learn best by touching and doing); there are free tests you can print off the internet which will help you assess the learning style of your students; also you could explain the different styles to them, and let them right down the best way they learn. For each lesson, you need to ensure that you incorporate a bit of each style. In addition, ask them to give you feedback on how you can make the class more interesting, and the subject of Maths more fun.

NB: you may not be able to do all they say, but at least incorporate one or two into your lessons that way they know you truly care about their progress and are willing to bend to help them; they will reciprocate by also putting in more effort than before.


Also, students are mostly motivated to study Mathematics when they can link it to their every day interests; find out what each student is interested in; is it soccer,music, fashion, science fiction movies, dancing etc. For example, you could talk about how skilled soccer strikers are able to approximate how fast they should run before shooting the ball in a penalty stakeout ; or how individuals who own fashion businesses use addition and subtraction to calculate profit and loss. Try and give them interesting take home projects that involve the application of Maths instead of the boring old plain Maths questions- you could ask each student to make a presentation in their own way (a poem, draw a picture, build an object, dress up ) about the application of Maths in an area they are interested in. A child who loves the fun learning environment created by his or her teacher, and is motivated to learn, will learn no matter the obstacles.

You should have learning objectives for each student depending on their Maths ability; that way each child moves at their own pace; so as some are solving more complex problems, others start with much simpler ones. This could be a challenge if your school does not supported differentiated instruction


You need to be creative as a teacher, and not follow the old boring way our ancestors have been using to teach; every year, your class teaching technique should change to suit the needs of new students who have their own unique way of learning.

I wish you all the best

Hi guys,

Wonderful thread you have going on here, and I would like to contribute. This casserole was made last night for dinner with garden eggs, tomatoes, olives, yellow capsicum, shrimps, squid, plantain, and mozzarella cheese.

Great reflective question OP

God has already fulfilled all his promises towards you so he does not need help; it is up to you to activate these promises by having faith.

"Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God." Romans 10:17
"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." Hebrews 11:1

This means that-

1. You must meditate on God's word in order to know all his promises concerning any situation you find yourself.
2. You must believe those promises will and are coming to pass.
3. You must not be discouraged by circumstances that contradict those promises, but rather continue professing them.
4. You must continue to thank God for those promises concerning you.

NB: Faith is present tense not future tense so statements like "I hope one day .... will happen" is powerless; rather say "I know that.... is happening because God said so". Instead of saying "I believe one day I will be healed/delivered/rich" etc. you must say " I am healed/delivered/rich"

FAITH IS PRESENT TENSE

Claim and actively live out all the promises God has lined out for you in his word.

Hello there,
kudos on seeking help with respect to how to enhance this child's development.

There are so many possibilities to what could be different about this child and his learning behaviour, but one thing you should keep in mind is that this child is is UNIQUE just like other kids and should not be compared to others (take him as he is and compare his progress to his initial baseline)

You need to understand why the child is behaving in this manner, and the best person who can help you is the child and his parents, so kindly engage the child in a short friendly discussion and find out why he forgets easily, does not want to answer questions in class, how you can help etc. Also ensure that you have a chat with his parents.

Sometimes some children tend to be more excited about school and what is expected of them when teachers can link the importance of good learning habits to their personal interests.

For example, if the child is a soccer fan, emphasize the important of confidence, hard work, and communication skills in the life of a footballer; or in a Mathematics class for example you could ask a question like "Peter(assuming that is the child's name), if Ronaldo (child's favourite player) scored three goals this season and two goals last season, how many goals has he scored in total for both seasons?"- he would be more interested in answering that compared to " what is three plus two?"

As I said earlier, it is very important that you get to know each student personally as it will give you a better understanding of their learning needs, attitudes, strengths, and weaknesses as well as personal interests and goals. Have a one on one meeting with this child (document findings from the meeting); ask him general questions about his life, what he likes doing during his free time, his career goals (do not think he is too young for that), his best subjects (ask why), his worst subjects (ask why again), what he feels are his best and worst traits, how he plans on working on his weaknesses (you must empower him to want to change); also tell him that you want to help him become better so you are

With regards his confidence- compliment him (and others as well) for all efforts; when he is wrong say something like " that was a good attempt Peter, how about if you did it this way, what do you think the answer will be?"; that way he does not feel embarrassed but rather thinks of other ways to get the answer right. Also, give him leadership roles during class activities so that he can develop his confidence more for example "Peter, why don't you stand at the head of the line and lead your friends out" or "Peter, could you please. At the end of the day, call him and ask him how he felt when he was given such opportunities, and build the progress based on that.

You could also help him develop more confidence and interest in class by engaging him in some out of class activities; for example if he mentioned to you that he loves musical instruments, you could get him to draw his two favourite instruments, and you paste the pictures up on the class noticeboard.

With regards his slowness in writing, individuals have different learning styles; some are visual learners (learning by observing); others are auditory learners (learn more by listening); others learn more by reading and writing; yet still others are kinesthetic learners (learn more by engaging in practicals/ touching)--- try to incorporate a bit of all this in your lessons as you gradually work with him to increase his writing speed.

It could also be that he uses tablets a lot at home hence is not used to writing so you need to help him develop this skill.

Another thing to check is his eyesight; be sure that he does not have any visual impairment hence can not see the board clearly to write.

If you have a counselling or learning needs department in your school, you should invite an individual from either to sit and observe this child during lessons; it could be that he requires some specialised attention to cater to his unique learning needs; also, read more about brain development for children around that age- it could be that he is either a late bloomer or there might be some disfunction ( the earlier these things are caught, the more effective the interventions).

It might even be that he is a gifted child (highly intelligent) who is just so bored with class that he lacks interest- you can only know by finding out one-on-one.

Invite his parents in for a discussion (you do not have to wait for open day) and present all the data collected about their child; please do not be negative; start with the positive things and later address your concerns; ask them about his behaviour at home and what they think about what you have told them; let them know the plans you have in place to help their son, and ask them if they have any suggestions to help; give them take home tasks as well (for example buying their son stick-ons so he can write out things he needs to remember, or them checking to ensure that he has done all assignments and has them packed (parental involvement is an important contribution factor to positive academic outcomes of children)

Example- "good afternoon Mr.& Mrs. Peter, thank you for taking time out to have a discussion about your son; he is a very brilliant boy who has a bright future ahead of him; I want to ensure that at this early age, he develops a strong foundation to learning so that in the future he will not have many challenges; I have realised that his timid nature prevents him from answering questions even when he knows the answer; I asked him why and........; how would you describe his behaviour at home? I have put in measure during lessons to engage him more in discussions so as to build his confidence, it would be great if you could also encourage him at home by giving him little responsibilities and commending him for it; also he tends to be forgetful so it would be great if you could double check his assignments and ensure that he has packed those for school....... in order to ensure that I keep you abreast of his progress with regards these areas, I will send you weekly reports of how he is doing; I would also be glad if you could provide me some feedback of how he is doing at home.....

tired of typing, but I hope you catch my drift.

Treat him as you would your own son- with love, patience, kindness, and wisdom. All the best.

Dear Op,

Sorry about your problem.

Let me try to explain a few things to you that might help in making you understand the matter at hand better.

Once you were able to gain access to the online classroom, it means you had acknowledged your acceptance letter hence were ready to start school; it also means you were already registered for class (this can be done by you, your enrollment advisor, or your academic advisor)

Once that had happened, it means Walden had already billed you for that quarter.


According to most universitys' policies, there is a given period of time in which you are allowed to cancel any course you have been registered for; this is what you should have done when you decided you were no longer interested in studying at Walden any longer. However, it is important that it is done early enough so you don't attract a penalty(they would normally retain a certain percentage of your fees); at this point, since you did not cancel or defer any of your registered courses, the assumption is that you were still enrolled in the program; as to whether you attended class or not is not their issue.

At this point, let me say that both your academic and enrolment advisor were not entirely helpful; since you had addressed your concerns to them, they should have advised you appropriately, or acted fast to try and salvage the situation; but then again if you attended about four classes, then maybe the deadline was past for dropping the course- meaning that you forfeit cancellation of that terms fees.

Do you have evidence of all the correspondence you had with the advisors? If yes, then attach the trail of e-mails to a new email you will send them, and let them know you informed the necessary people of your plight.( The US is very big on paper work, and everything you say has to be backed with evidence).

ADVICE FOR FUTURE TRANSACTIONS ANYWHERE- Never overlook orientation programs nor policies and guiding principles of any institution- do not think you can rely on others to provide such information to you. Always do thorough background research before making a move- not knowing is not an excuse.

I really wish you all the best, and if you do plan on responding to them, please do so with the highest form of decorum- everyone of your transactions is being documented.

Hope I have been of help!

[b]Hi dear,

I can not fathom what you are going through, but I do not think you should divorce your husband; all solutions have not been exhausted yet.

Firstly, I will encourage you to read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8; it reminds us that LOVE is an action word and not a noun, that requires patience, tolerance, kindness, humility, hope, endurance etc. It will help you during these trying times.

One must always enter marriage without expectations or idealogies, because the marriage is based on what you and your husband say it should be, not what society dictates. Sit down as a couple and discuss what you want to see in the marriage and what works and doesn't work for you ( If you are Christians then the bible should be a firm foundation for this talk). The more you keep comparing your marriage to what you feel it should be, the more it will keep falling short. Create your own unique marriage with your husband.

Always try to see the positive in every situation; it might seem odd that your husband wants to escort you to a Women's convention or to the salon, but maybe it is his way of showing love (as weird as it may seem). You could turn such situations into lovely ones, for example you could tell him you know he will miss you during that period and you really appreciate his fierce devotion towards you, but he should allow you to go alone and you promise him some hot steamy sex when you get home. The way you react to such gestures is very important, as you do not want him to feel rejected (remember, you love this man).

Understand that you are two different people and this is the time you should explore each other. The first year of marriage tends to be turbulent as the parties involved are adjusting their worlds to become one. For example, my husband and I communicate all the time during work, and it is one of the things that keeps us bonded. I however, used to hate cuddling and touching and PDA, but I began to appreciate that was his way of showing his love for me and feeling loved as well( through communication, which is always best when you guys are in a great mood and after sex); I gradually changed my mindset and now I enjoy being all touchy with him.Both of you shoud read 'The Five Love Languages', and discuss your reflections; it will help you understand each other better.

Regards sex, the bible says your body is not your own, and neither is his. It is not a bad thing for him to desire sex, but it is also understandable that there are times you would not be in the mood or would be too exhausted. My dear, sex is really important to men as it makes them feel loved and respected; it also helps release stress and keeps them young and happy. Make an effort to sacrifice your energy and time (after all sometimes it wont take more than fifteen minutes) to show your husband how much you love him by engaging passionately in sex (enjoy it too). I have learnt that the bond between my husband and I gets tighter anytime we have sex, and I think of creative ways to make it interesting; it is not easy, but no one ever promised that marriage was easy.

Communication is very key in this situation, but it has to be applied with much wisdom. Words are meant to build and not destroy; if you know the feedback you will be giving your husband will bring him down, then silence is golden. You marriage is between you, your husband and God (being the ultimate); this matter should be taken to God asap, and the most important thing to ask God is to change you and your heart towards your husband. Ask God to help you appreciate the gift he blessed you with through marriage. Ask God to help you be a better wife to your husband; to understand him, appreciate him, and change your perception towards him. God is the only one who has the power to change others, and in a marriage, when the other partner sees a change in their spouse, they are more open to changing themselves. Of course, do pray for God to help your husband understand you and your needs, and how they can be catered for (I am perceiving two people who love each other but do not know how to show it in order for the other person to appreciate and feel it).

My dear, make sure you celebrate your husband always, at home and out. Do not complain about him to others except God. Anytime my husband and I have issues, I go to God first, then I speak to him; I ask him if he thinks we should discuss the issue with a trusted authority; if he says yes then we go ahead. If not, we solve the problem ourselves. Anytime an individual mocks you or your husband or your marriage ( for example comments made regarding him following you to the salon or holding your bag), you should rebuke them. Not rebuking them gives such mockery the power to break your marriage by promoting negativity. A friend who respects you, your husband and marriage will never mock your marriage or your husband, but rather help you make it more of a success. CUT ALL NEGATIVE FRIENDS AND FAMILY OFF. Your husband and some other men out there show love in this particular way;try and appreciate it, but also let him know ways in which you like to be loved. It would be wise to ask him how you could improve the way you show him love first, that way he knows you really care about him and are not just attacking him for things he is not doing right (it really brings men down).

Try to perceive yourself and your husband as a team, each of you with your own strengths and weaknesses. Where your husband is weak, be strong for him and where you are weak, he will also be strong; that way you complement each other.

My dear, I wish you all the best and remember, DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION. You can make this work.xx

The only people who can truly change the image of teachers is the teachers themselves. Work on your self-esteem, respect yourself, hold yourself high up, be willing to improve and most importantly BE GENUINE. A teacher who really cares about his or her students will always aspire to do better and trust me with time people will have no cause but to respect and award him or her accordingly.

Tayo and MamBea still winners. I pray God continues to bless us all and keep us safe till we meet again next year.one love, one blood, one Africa

Tayo says if he wins he will firstly pay his tithe then the bride price of the woman who changed his world

All the best Tayo. Love you too. Mwah

braindamage:
My mum - all the women done go ? Yes..

My mum - no 35% affirmative action ? Yes...

lol,mothers

Aaaaw kisses to MamBea. Love you. Mwah

Islie:
so prema did make a music for Luis just because of Mira...





this prema guy is talented

I love that background music men

i can't wait for Permethias to release an album.