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poshestmina:
Mamas ,please which soap and cream can i use ? my body looks toooo dark especially my bumbum and belly ,dh say i 'stain his hands' anytime he touches me (i don suffer ) i've been using only shea butter and my crusader soap .i look like a roasted cow .Mamas ,pls epp me .

since your pregnant nothing u can do to change it.

nicoleswizzi:
Lol...u knw wat happens wen a wound start healing? It starts scratching u...that's how mine is too...its alrdy having this healing look(white skin..with a stitched look with thread, lol)the feeling to scratch is alwys dre...I dnt even where comfort again sef bcs d bleeding have reduced .... Just brownish discharge sumtyms...I just pray to see my menses soon so i cn monitor ovulation nd knw wen to do d do..

na WA oooo. U never even rest finish u done dey plan another journey. Careful ooo

Giddyperson:
Formula nko, how often is she expected to poo? Also ideally, how often should a one week old be fed, or is it just feeder's discretion. [s]i know I should move to the newborn thread but I like this place[/s]

formula fed poos more often than breastmilk. Every 2hrs if she is on breastmilk, 3hrs if its formula cos formula takes more time to digest

Freshnessbabies:
its yellow

worry less she is fine

Freshnessbabies:
no ma.EBF

what colour is it? Since it's ebf, d colour should be mustard yellow and paste like.if it's like droplets then u need to take more fluid

Giddyperson:
Lol pele mine actually feels a lot better, just that I'd pay anything to put my hand in there and give it a good scratch

it's healing..That's y it's itchy, but no try am, scratchers discretion is advised. Rather use cotton wool and savlon to clean

Freshnessbabies:
Team march.hope we all av do d deal.well I ported o april.n had a cute princess.d BS ws worth it.will drop it later.pls will b off n on as my fone is missing.so will login wen eva I lay my hands on any fone.pls my babys poop is hard n she as to poop only wen she bath n dy do d hot water tin 4 ha(dat is puting water iin ha anus)n she poop every oda day.dat is one day on,one day out.pls help a FTM.am geting worried cos she push hardd b4 d poop comes out.

is she on formula?

Giddyperson:
Omg, how was it and what did you even do that made your stitches break down

lol. D pain was worse than the first. All this people that will give nonsense advice. My neighbor came and said use hot towel and press there. Lobatan

Giddyperson:
This is true sha, one would think with all the time they spend down there they would be more familiar
I'd try the mirror thing today and see what's up? What later happened with yours, did you get restitched?

yea, I did

bolaalimat:
Good morning mama's, my 3weeks old dd Is finding it hard to poo could dis be as a result of colic. She also seems to be having catarrh please what can I do nd he can I cure d colic. Please help a ftm.

I doubt if it's catarrh cos she is too young for that. My DD has something like that, as if she has mucus in her nostril,she grunts while taking d bottle. Read up on baby enter and was told it's normal. How long is the poo difficulty? It's also normal for them to stay some days without pooing. To ease your fear use cotton bud and put Vaseline, then insert in the anus.
Hope this helps.

Giddyperson, although I never see u am already in love with u. Read ur DIARY and was just laughing 2days ago. Weldon

nicoleswizzi:
Lol...am sure its healing... My husband checks mine all d time that's after giving him d "u knw u are d one that's meant to be checking for me" sermon...he mks a short video for me to see it well...

u are d only one who knows how it's meant to look. Hubby no go understand, when mine broke down my oga was preaching to m that it's new flesh growing not knowing all wasn't well. I put mirror underneath to check.

AlphaHandMaiden:
Yesitsme

Both your sister and mother are adults are they not?

If she wants to get married, that is frankly her decision . if your mum decides to support her it is her decision as well.

there is only so much you can do. i understand your concern that she appears to be going to a marriage to someone that no one knows totally unprepared. you may not support her decision but you also cannot stop her from doing what she wants to do.

some people like to carry man on top their head like jackie-work and will fight with anyone who speaks against the relationship in any way even if it is totally justified. from what you have said your sister seems to be one of such people. unfortunately those type of people will only learn when they get badly burnt!

i do not know where you are from oh but generally it is the father's side that gives out the list, and recieves the gifts and gives out the bride traditionally. I take it your dad is not really involved however are they even considering speaking to his side of the family? or who will be representing the father of the bride on the day?

if your mum will not listen to your concerns, perhaps call another respected and trusted elderly family member or two to mediate on the matter and also so that you have witnesses to the issues that have been going on.

Then wash your hands off the matter and wish your sister well on her on-coming nuptials and marriage. tell them to send you invitation when the wedding plans has been concluded, since they have decided not to include you. sometimes things like this happen for your own benefit,
if you have a baby and your own issues to deal with, adding another persons drama on top may not ideal for your own physical and metal well-being.

Finally put it to prayer that whatever decisions they make will be the right one for your sister.

On the day of the wedding, wear your party best and dance like there is no tomorrow.

You can only force a horse to the water, you cannot force it to drink.

my uncle will stand in..We haven't spoken since the whole issue started

olamitie:
Mbok my nairaland sisters don't know if i should be worried
My dd has not slept well at all today, she will sleep but when i put her down she will wake up 5-15 mins later, we have been on the matter since morning, she doesn't do like this before!! once she baths she can sleep for 2/3 hours at a stretch.
Wondering what could be wrong
Is not colic either

my DD does that if she is not well fed

Pls du not Quote or SHARE
Since this thread has become my abide even while breastfeeding....I can share something with u all.

So I need godly and candid advice here

Found out my younger sister whom am 5yrs older than is planning her wedding ( I have no idea and dunno d guy) with my mum . I am the first, so I do most of the advicing and encouragement, got tired after I found out they had plans of the kind of life they wanna live. I backed out as it was leading to insult. My papa no get money and he doesn't care abt anyone, in my lil way I try to bring everyone together. She initially wanted to get married last two years and everyone kicked against it except my mama cos she was young and had nothing tangible doing ( no school,no handiwork) so that tomorrow them no go say she be liability. We wanted her to wait more, get mature probably enter school. My hubby never liked involving himself in our matter, but the marriage thing didn't go well with him, so he spoke to my mum and d lady and she said she had made up her mind and d answer my mum gave him wasn't nice, so he backed out.
Now two yrs later, I hear say she still wan marry but someone else who is abt 15yrs older than her so I heard. She finally called a day to the day they were coming to collect list to inform me abt it. I just congratulated her and wished her well, although I had already heard it frm MIL ( my mum told her and she in turn told me) so I wasn't surprised.my MIL knew I was angry and calmed m down and adviced I speak with my mum abt it when she comes for omugwo, if she brings up the matter( the list collection made her come a week after delivered) which made m more angry.
True to my suspicion she never brought up the matter till after a month I personally brought it up and she said it wasn't yet time for me to know abt the marriage. Fortunately, the list collection didn't hold cos no one knew abt the guy and his people including my mum although they speak on phone.
I blatantly told her she was wrong to have accepted to collect list for the guy when u know nothing abt him. Now, I hear the girl is making full plans to marry. And the way everything is, I do not want to get involved in the marriage thing as she herself doesn't want m involved.
What would u do if u were in my shoes?

olamitie:
kk ma,.so when she wants to eat will they put her bottle inside hot waterj?

@ yesitsme. My hubby drives the car but i have also have a phobia for driving, since 2yrs ago that i almost knocked down a boy haven't been able to muster the courage to drive, the boy just dashed across the road,the scenario keeps coming to my mind.Wat if!!!

Dont worry your dd will pick up

me too am afraid ooo. And dh keeps complaining that o don't want to learn, I fear it's difficult as the clutch alone I match scared the hell out of me. Amen and thanks

rofemiguwa:
Is because u r a woman of God hehehehehe.i have being in the hospital for two weeks now.down with malaria,typhoid and bacteria infection.i havent seen my daughter in two weeks.but my sis is taking care of her.am still admitted but am much better.
Hopefully am discharged before the week runs out.

Thank you for checking up on me.
Godbless

get well soon maama

olamitie:
i never even kpekus in like 3months though dh is always in and out of town plus i was bleeding when i stressed myself with chores so we have to chill(who knows if bros they help himself outside?.men cant be trusted but na him sabi, cant kill myself

my Dd is EBF but she sucks alot, always hungry.just not happy will resume work next month wont be able to monitor her feeding , my breast overflows that if i do not wear bra the whole bed will be wet, try and feed from time to time not on schedule
Watery pap with milk helps

Moving around with a child without car isnt easy,i don't find it so convenient using a baby carrier abi i no wear am well , was.sweating seriously when i went to the market with her today

I take pap and one tin milk at once, drink water like fish...But dnno y mine isnt flowing very well. I feed her almost every 30mins that my neighbor says I want to spoil her with food. E concern meAs for d wrk na car sure pass but if u don't have my dear u can't kill yourself

olamitie:
i never even kpekus in like 3months though dh is always in and out of town plus i was bleeding when i stressed myself with chores so we have to chill(who knows if bros they help himself outside?.men cant be trusted but na him sabi, cant kill myself

my Dd is EBF but she sucks alot, always hungry.just not happy will resume work next month wont be able to monitor her feeding , my breast overflows that if i do not wear bra the whole bed will be wet, try and feed from time to time not on schedule
Watery pap with milk helps

Moving around with a child without car isnt easy,i don't find it so convenient using a baby carrier abi i no wear am well , was.sweating seriously when i went to the market with her today

I take pap and one tin milk at once...But dnno y mine isnt flowing very well. I feed her almost every 30mins that my neighbor says I want to spoil her with food. E concern meAs for d wrk na car sure pass but if u don't have my dear u can't kill yourself

iomoge2:
Eat well
Take plenty water or thick tea.
Sleep
B4 trying again.
Wen tryinh be well relaxed and drink water as u express.

Hugs

thanks highly appreciated

Mums keep the tips coming...I need to lactate like a vow to do this, don't want my daughter to become a formula fed baby

feddy27:
Ok mamas, let's have a discussion!!!!

RETURNING TO WORK AFTER MATERNITY LEAVE

It's always a period of mixed feeling returning to work and leaving you lil one under the care of home nannies or crèches.

I would like us to discuss how we managed it, share tips that will be helpful for other mamas here.

So I will go first: For both babies, I resumed when they were 2 months + cos I took my maternity leave earlier to aid my travel plans. I normally leave my babies with a nanny at my gran's house so she supervises them.

Some things I did that helped me:

1. I resume on a Friday ! Yes, so that once the pressure starts coming, next is weekend to cool my head. Also, it helps to reduce separation anxiety

2. I breast feed in the morning before going out, baby takes formula till lunch break when I get back home to feed, she continues with formula till I'm back home by 4. From 4pm till daybreak, we do only breast milk.

3. Have a discussion with your boss to either resume 1hour late or close 1hour early. This will really be helpful. I chose to resume by 8am and close by 4 while my colleague chose to resume at 7am and close by 3pm

4. When you get back home, try spend some time bonding with your baby. Forget plates that have not been washed etc

5. Weekends is for I and the children.. I try to make up for my absence during the week. I take them out or stay all day at home with them

6. Try and take each day as it comes. Don't over stress yourself or feel like a bad mom! NO!!! You are doing a good job

7. I don't take work home for any reason! This is a personal rule I put for myself since I started having babies. Wateva I can't achieve between 8am - 4pm remains till the next day. As I shut down my system, I also shut down my "work mind"


I will add more as I remember.

Other mamas should please share their experiences we can all learn and help others

exactly what I need now as am applying for a new job

sugah:
Just keep pumping, keep taking lots of fluids and don't​stress yourself over it cos that affects supply too and you would be fine.

but how long will I keep expressing as am hopeful getting a job soon? How do I handle it?

babyboom:
it might take some time, but it will increase over time.
the B.milk, is based on demand and supply basis.

I just did and got 70ml frm both breasts after squeezing life out of them .,.Will try again after an hour. Tanks

babyboom:
i see, but why did you stop?
my dear, u dont stop at all,
i didnt stop until, i was sure he was almost near his age- birth weight.
when my husband told me to stop stressing myself, i thought he was okay until i noticed that when i expressed i dint get the much i used to get,
so i stopped direct b.feeding again.
i started expressing to build the supply.

so my sister, if u cant get up too what u got previously, it means she is not sucking well.
if it was my ped, u were working with.
he will just admit u again, cos when we were discharged, he said if there was no weight gain, he will admit me and the nurses will take over.
that spurred me into action.

please dont get tired friend, if i have ur number will speak to u directly.

so if I start expressing again it will rush?

iomoge2 I couldn't stop laughing reading this....It made me remember one day hubby was doing touching body, na so I hear my madam grunt from her bed which was ontop of our own, I tell DH say him pikin dey see us ooo, he said leave the girl jare face here . Since I born DH no dey waka upandan naked again. Him done repent....Babies can change alot of things for person eh chai...Abeg oooo no quote oooo...Make all these mods no carry my matter go elders for FB mbok


About last night...I dey room ooo as I wanted to sleep but e no come to prep for vigil with my madam. I send oga WhatsApp msg say make him come, in less than 3sec bros done land . Instead of him to understand and act, him just carry phone dey check nairaland dey ask m yeye quesion..I vex for am, as him too like to press phone,that I need his attention, him still no answer. O leave am go parlour e run follow m, I waka comot again go room. This morning ooooo hmmm na so him start to apologise abt last night ( obvious reason--- he needs something from my body) as me dey tired from the vigil I tell am say e no go work lie lie. NXT time when I call u hanza.
So no body food this morning.

reniduke:
Get oga to do baby night duty too once, see if he will have energy for morning.

he has to work na

brownsugars:
Don't be depressed ok, I know how hard it can be. Just pray and do what you can, there'll be great improvement by God's grace.

What you can do is instead of just putting her to the breast alone, why not try pumping constantly say every 2-3hours if you can (even if nothing much comes out), to establish a very good flow first.
Then try feeding her more often say every 1-2hours because of the weight issue. You can present bottle (expressed BM or formula) with a bit reduced qty of food every 1 or 2 hours and see if she'll accept. If she finishes and seems to want more, you give.
You mustn't stick to the conventional every 3hours feeding schedule. She might just have a very quick metabolic rate and needs to feed sooner.
Also some babies will eat more food when presented with bottle than breast. My Lo is a typical example. He's ready to spend 2hours on my breast but at the end of the day he's only sucked say 2oz and my breast will still be heavy with milk. I had to start expressing and giving him from bottle in between breast feedings and it made a whole lot of difference. Also remember failure to empty your breasts frequently will make your system readjust and reduce the rate of production.

You can put her to breast intermittently between bottlefeedings. Ie if you bottle feed now, try putting to breast in the next 1 to 1.5hrs and see if she's going to suck. If she doesn't, wait a while and try again or bottle feed. Keep doing it till you guys establish a perfect and working feeding routine.

Because of the weight too, you might have to also continue with the formula until things stabilize unless you have very sufficient BM.
Pls be practical about it, things will improve hopefully.

that's what I have been doing that brought us this far.... Thanks a million

AlphaHandMaiden:
my motto na "help me to help you". if you are stressed out, maybe you can find away that he can assist you so you can get a bit more rest.

Try Switch roles a few weekends.... let hubby handle the baby at night, you move to another room to get a good nights uninterrupted sleep in preparation for early morning activities . I will assure you that he will appreciate you better when next you say you are tired.

he helps most times he wakes up by 1am to 2am got m to sleep...He works Monday to Saturday so no gree weekend

babyboom:
i replied you the last time, what worked for me.
let me explain again,
try and express the milk at day, to guage what she is eating.you can let her suck at night if u don't have strength to express
you can even feed with cup and spoon.
you might think she is sucking and she is not even latching well.
so Ma, the ball is in your court.

she is latching very well now .. That's exactly what I did that increased her weight, she takes 120ml at a stretch every 3hrs. Now I can't express lil or nothing comes out. Although when she finish sucking her mouth is very wet. I browsed and saw its normal. All I want is for her to suck directly and only breastmilk

olamitie:
how you dey dear, so have you gone to see the paediatric?
My baby was 2,2kg at birth but at her 6weeks immunization she weighed 4kg.
As for kpekus i never even make attempt ,where is the time or strength im all alone with no helper

PED didnt really have much to say sef. As at last Monday she was 3.1kg. the Dr said I should keep doing what I was doing to make her put on weight...H said w should do FBC not like she isn't eating. Am actually depressed right now the feeding thing is weighing m down . She is sucking now but I don't know if she is getting enough milk as she can stay on it for hours non stop and still collect formula .. Not encouraging. Although she looks bigger.
As for kpekus, if hubby run tub from back I no answer,the guy go climb do him thing while am sleeping.its that bad

Abeg ooo. How do u kpekus after delivery. Am always tired after the day's wahala. My lo won't sleep frm 8pm till 3am. In the morning hubby is active for action me and am always tired after keeping awake. Wetin I go do? I just pity d man