narite: …If this was the purpose of school all from the start, no parent would have wasted mental, physical efforts and even taking some risks to send their children to school, things some parents still do today. Education can be gotten from home, church etc
The idea of school started during the industrial revolution, when industrialists needed a form of specialized labour to work in their factories, in exchange for a piece of money.
It all about money, life has always been all about money. It a biological design. Over many centuries, this human desire has not changed, it is how we obtained it that continues to change; the means, the technology, the philosophy we use that changes.
From being a warrior, to farmer, to trader, to scholar, to builder and now to this new age we are currently witnessing….
In every Ages, Those who quickly see the trends and jump on it, either by jumping on it themselves or sending their children along that part while they themselves clings to old ways of doing things usually go on to become the tycoon of that Age, they stay at the apex due to their early advantage.
It either one adapt or one die, this goes on forever. It is the painful process of evolution.
Don’t allow poverty deceive you. The whole concept of money is just a social construct. If you’re sending your child to school for majorly landing big jobs and making money, you’re behind. Creating value, thinking cognitively and independently, adaptability in a changing world are things you must learn from a wide range of experienced tutors to grow into a formidable character.
Toolegit123: Daddy freezy just confirmed that las las school is a scam, especially the Nigerian higher institutions. . And I kinda agree with him on that. Coz you can't expect someone like peller who's already doing well in his field to come and join you in your universities where majority of your lecturers would be milking him
School wasn’t designed to make you money. You go to school for knowledge. It is a must for everyone to be educated. If I’m being honest, I’ve only met a handful of people that needs to be educated more than the Peller dude.
ottersberger: If a woman is continually intimidated, denied the opportunity to express her opinions, and bullied by misogynistic attitudes, which unfortunately many Nigerian men still display, then she has every right to become assertive in demanding to be treated with respect and to be heard. And if that requires speaking up forcefully or engaging in an argument, so be it.
No one is intimidating her. Imagine if your mother is always arguing with people in the church for her right to speak every time, won’t you be ashamed. Even if she has something sensible to say, do it professionally. That man holding the hammer and shutting her up means he’s the leader in that delegation. Can’t she respect him, then find other amicable ways to air her views. This woman eh!🤦♀️
Kobojunkie: Islam is definitely known as the religion that subjugates and humiliates women, stripping them completely of choice and freedom, all because they were born in a body different from yours and from Mohammed's. That's all!🥱🥱
I knew you were somewhere lucking. So being a virtuous woman is humiliating 🤷🏽♂️💁🏻♀️ This is about everything a good woman should be and more, but you would certainly disagree. You need help o.
dominique: Imagine if the mother had not died and one of these children become a famous celebrity and wants nothing to do with him. He will go and start granting interviews and crying to the cameras that his children are avoiding him. How can you be alive and chose not to be actively involved in your children's lives?
All this talk about their mother blocking him from seeing them are bloody lies and utter balderdash. Did she lock them up in a vacuum chamber and made them inaccessible? You're in the same country for goodness sakes, why not take her to court if truly she was preventing you from seeing them?
She's dead now, you know she can't defend herself, you now want to use the same lame excuse men have been using for decades for refusing to be in their children's lives. Kolewerk!
We know all this manipulative tact. No man would abandon his biological children if they ain’t frustrated to doing so. There’s this woman in my neighborhood, she has poisoned the mind of a 6year old to express hate when her father comes anywhere near her. It is disgusting to see. If the future, this f**lish child would claim the father abandoned her.
Kobojunkie: I am 74. Five years ago, at 69, I left my husband after 42 years of marriage. It was the hardest and best decision I ever made. I know what you are thinking. 69...is that not too late to start over? Why would anyone leave a marriage after more than four decades? She must be unstable. She must be selfish. She must be having some kind of crisis.
Maybe it looks that way from the outside, but inside, I could finally breathe. If you're in an unhappy marriage, worried about wasted time or age, hear me. I believed those lies, too. Before I share why I left, let me explain why I stayed so long, the untold part.
Everyone wants to know what finally made you leave. They never ask about the invisible chains that keep you there year after year. I got married at 27. It was 1979. We were living just outside Cleveland, Ohio. I thought I was doing everything right. My husband Thomas was dependable. He had a steady job. He came from a good family. My parents approved. My friends said I was lucky. I wore a white dress and believed in forever.
The problems did not arrive loudly. They arrived quietly. There was no violence, no obvious betrayal, nothing you could easily point to and say, "This is wrong." He simply did not see me. did not really hear me. Did not ask what I wanted or needed. Every major decision was his, where we lived, how money was spent, what our weekends looked like. When I suggested something different, he brushed it aside. That is impractical. That does not make sense. Why would we do that?
Eventually, I stopped suggesting anything at all. I remember one night, maybe six years into the marriage, I told him I wanted to go back to school. I had always wanted to finish my degree in English literature. He smiled and laughed, not cruelly, just dismissively, like I had said something naive. "What would you even do with that?" he asked. "We cannot afford that right now." There was always something more important. His career, the house, the car payments, everything except me.
I told myself this was marriage, compromise, sacrifice, and being realistic. My mother had stayed in a quiet, unhappy marriage. So had my grandmother. This was just what women did. Then we had children, two daughters, and suddenly staying felt noble. “I am doing this for them,” I told myself. They need stability. They need both parents. I poured everything into being a mother. If I could not be seen as a woman, at least I could be needed as a mother.
For a while, that was enough. The girls kept me busy. They distracted me from how lonely I felt lying next to someone who felt more like a roommate than a partner. Thomas and I became polite strangers. We attended school events together, went to church, and hosted holiday dinners. From the outside, we looked fine, respectable, stable. But inside the house, we barely spoke. Whole weekends passed, where we moved around each other like ghosts, sharing space, never connecting.
I remember our 25th anniversary. our daughters through a party. Friends raised glasses and spoke about our beautiful marriage and lasting love. I smiled. I thanked everyone. And that night, I went home with a man I no longer loved. Lay on my side of the bed and cried silently into my pillow.
The years kept going. The girls grew up, moved out, and built lives of their own. And suddenly my reason for staying was gone. They did not need me to stay anymore. But by then, I had a new reason. What would people think? I was 56, then 61, then 66. We shared our history, friends, and family. How do you untangle over 40 years? How do you tell your children their childhood was built on quiet unhappiness? And practically, how does a woman in her late 60s start over? I had not worked full-time in decades. I did not have my own income. So, I stayed year after year, telling myself it was too late, too complicated, too frightening, until the call from my doctor.
I was 68. It was a routine mammogram. I had done dozens before. This one was not routine. He said the word no one is prepared to hear. Cancer, breast cancer, stage two, caught early, but serious surgery, possibly radiation. I sat there listening to treatment plans and statistics, and all I could think was I am going to die having never really lived. Not because the prognosis was bad. It was not. But because I suddenly realized something unbearable. I had been slowly disappearing for decades.
The surgery was scheduled three weeks later. And in those three weeks, something shifted inside me. fear, clarity, and the awareness of time. All the reasons I had stayed, reputation, comfort, and fear, suddenly felt meaningless. Because if I died tomorrow, the last 40 years of my life would have been a performance.
I survived the surgery. The cancer was removed. Recovery was quiet. I remember lying in that hospital bed while my husband sat nearby scrolling through his phone, not holding my hand, not speaking, just present in body. And I knew at 69 years old, I made a decision. If I were lucky, I might have 10 or 15 years left. And I refused to spend them slowly disappearing.
Two months later, I told Thomas I wanted a divorce. He did not get angry. He looked confused. We have been married over 40 years, he said. Exactly, I replied. And I have been lonely for almost all of them.
The divorce took nearly a year. It was painful, expensive, and uncomfortable. Some friends disappeared. My sister told me I was selfish. "You are throwing everything away," she said. But I was not throwing anything away. I was finally choosing myself.
Telling my daughters was the hardest part. They were grown by then in their late 30s. They were shocked. But you and Dad always seemed fine, one of them said. That broke my heart because it meant I had hidden my unhappiness so well that even my children believed it was normal. Eventually, they understood. One of them even thanked me. She said watching me choose myself gave her permission to question her own life.
At 70, I moved into my own apartment alonefor the first time in my life. I was terrified. I woke up at night wondering if I had ruined everything. But I did not fall apart. I learned. I adjusted. And slowly I remembered who I was. The woman who loved books, who had opinions, who had dreams. I even went on a date. It did not last, but it reminded me that it is never too late to feel seen.
I am 74 now. My life is not perfect. My apartment is small. My income is modest. Sometimes I am lonely, but I am free. And that freedom is worth more than anything I lost.
Here is the truth. No one tells you the regret is not about leaving. The regret is about not leaving sooner. If you are watching this and quietly unhappy at any age, hear this. You are not too old. It is not too late. And you have not invested too much time. The life you are waiting for is waiting for you to choose it.
If this story touched something in you, I want to ask you one thing. What is one fear that has kept you stuck longer than it should have? You do not have to explain everything. Just one word is enough. Sometimes writing it down is the first step to letting it go.
If being without a husband is this appealing, why are you spending so much effort in trying to convince your fellow women. You have now resorted to using Ai🤦♀️ Congratulations! You have taken this your goal of making every woman single to another level.
You genuinely believe this is all a husband needs to do to be a 'good husband'?
It is well.
No. He should be like Davido🤦♀️ So introverts cannot be a husband too. If it’s such a hard work, then what’s the point💁. She can go and look for Davido or Burna boy to marry her. Take your fantasies with you, the door is always wide open.
IronCondemned: Little thing now, you don yakata and open legs for another man bed.
That's why I still said in another thread that married women are the easiest to take to bed
She has already envisaged marrying someone as fun as Davido, only to end up with an introvert in real world. That’s the problem with most of these Gen Z wives. If you check well, the husband is doing his best to provide for the family, but she’s looking for a social guy. Man doesn’t beat you, doesn’t insult you, doesn’t cheat, provides basic needs in the home and she’s still lonely. I’ve heard it before.
You can’t blame your loneliness on another person. I have a feeling that your spouse is an introvert, but you have envisaged being with someone as fun as Davido. If you cannot create fun for yourself, please leave the innocent man out of your fantasy.
With the look of things,Osun will likely go to APC. .. they want to have at least one left from SW to reduce one party allegations and to,........
If he's serious let him go to ADC.
A vote for PDP in 2027 is a vote for APC!
When we told you people in 2023 that a vote for LP is a vote for APC, did you agree. LP and Obi are the reason we have this fraudulent government today. If Atiku doesn’t win the ticket, we are going back to PDP.
And there's this comparison culture that we practice...
Create two threads..
1. ISHOWSPEED hangs out with Jarvis.
2. Peller barred from meeting ISHOWSPEED.
Must we always pit two groups of people against each other?
Wizkid Vs Davido Wizkid vs Fela Davido vs Burna Boy Lagos vs Anambra Yoruba vs Igbo Jarvis vs Peller University vs Polytechnics Private University vs Public University This vs That etc
After all the unnecessary debates and insults online, we still don't have tap water and uninterrupted power.
This is the reality of life bro. Arsenal vs Manchester United Barca vs Real Madrid. Competition is the spice of life. Embrace it, or 👻
RemoteNaija: .It is funny how people immediately jump to 'Runs' or 'Men' whenever they see women renting decent apartments. We need to wake up; the economy has changed.
We are in the gig economy era. A lot of Nigerian ladies are quietly earning legitimate dollars remotely as Virtual Assistants, Content Writers, and UI/UX designers. Financial independence has no gender anymore. If they are earning in foreign currency, renting a flat in Lagos is easy for them. Let’s stop discrediting their hustle.
Big lie. I’m a remote worker and have been since 2019. For every female remote worker you’d see, there are 50 male or even more. Most women, especially those in urban settlements, are into prostitution and online nude shows. That’s why they’re going for fine apartments, for the nude model shows. They have these fancy bed frames, background lightings and POP ceiling. Very common in my area.
EponObi: When you lack discipline, you will put your family in embarrassing situations. Imagine Adeleke that doesn't like media spotlight, a noble man who minds his business, having to come out, sit under ring light to defend his irresponsible son.
Na the same you that was captured on camera crying and begging "for the tip". Imagine that kind embarrassment to the father among his business friends. But na rich man matter. If na one pako family like that, the father would have disown him 🤣.
The father is eternally proud of his son’s achievements and won’t exchange him for anyone else. The glory hunting lady is the embarrassment to her family and womanhood. Her daughter is already showing signs of being like her. Women and gold digging 🤲 You will never see them level this type of allegation on a nobody.
edoman2016: One of the major disadvantages of being single.
How’s it a disadvantage🤷🏽♂️ The dead doesn’t experience anything. Don’t let people fool you to hunt for company. If it doesn’t happen naturally and feels right, it’s still much better to stay alone.
Winterhaven: As long as blacks keep reacting and giving these racists attention, then racism will never end...
Completely ignore such racists and give them zero attention and watch how racism due to skin colour will gradual fade away.
I thought I was the only one seeing it this way. It’s so annoying, the attention black people pay to racism. You are literally admitting that your color is inferior. I always prefer the black race. I don’t even look at a white naked girl twice, not because of hate, it’s just my preference. Imagine a white person coming to tell me otherwise. I’d just be having a big laugh.
Some people can never see anything good in this government even if it’s glaring to them, just because their preferred candidate did not win the last election.
As Nigeria is getting better, may those not happy with the the improvement continue to suffer heart breaks and sadness.
Nigeria shall be great!
You are a good man. May your life continue to show the progress that Nigeria has shown from 2023 to 2026. Amen 🙏.
brain54: The many rants of emeka ike: season 15, episode 335...
He for just tell jaruma to remove his name from her page.
I understand the disappointment but the boy is an adult and has chosen his path in life.
Small thing he done talk plenty even include the mother with stray bullets.
He should be calming down and talk less. He is a man. Ranting and whining makes him look like a sissy.
And before I forget that son is a disappointment maybe not. No manual to life. Only the end justifies the means.
The boy is an adult and he’s also his son. He is a father and tough statements like this are allowed. Everything he said means he cares a great deal. I’m sorry, you will never get this until you become a father.
My Cousin is into Film effect in lagos Major film industry no longer use pyrotech They use CGI 3D explosion and Fire To protect their highly paid actors like Tom cruise from incidents like this
My cousin does CGI explosion And it looks so real, Instead of using real fire to injure your actors Hire a CGI artist and you can explode anything without actually exploding it.
We have CGI artist in Nigeria But producers don't want to spend money for quality effect. They rather burn their actors with real fire and real explosion.
While Hollywood use 3D Visual effect for dangerous things like explosion.
That explosion you see is 3D CGI effect It is what Hollywood use instead of real explosion 👇
This your explosion is a stock footage, not 3D CGI rendered. No offense, but pyrotech is even better. No offense bro, only a few people in Nigeria can actually afford a complete computer set that would render a 3D CGI explosion scene. It’s not as simple as you make it sound.
Chikarata2020: They for give am to an Egyptian ref, incompetent CAF
A West African was selected to ref the Semi finals, una say na ojoro. Now a North African is selected to ref this one, na still ojoro 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️. Nigerians with ‘Us against the world’ mentality.
Wallade: Can Davido be more polite in his conversations with the young lady. His responses are so xrated and full of swear words. He is addressing a younger generation, someone he could actually father.
I am so uncomfortable with his choice of words, even if he feels strongly that he isn't the father.
Wait till someone falsely accuse you, then come back to apologize.
ElSudani: This is really strange. Why wouldn't he just do the test and move on with his life?
What is the matter with you? He said he has done the test 5 times. If you can’t see that the mother of this child is desperately glory hunting, the women in your life will be having a laugh every 2 seconds.
Amotolongbo: A whole 5 DNA tests tan, kilode? But Davido, please try to always patronise condom warehouses, we won’t have to be dealing with this kind of thing every year. January is too young fa.
If this is true, I would advise the mum to look elsewhere for the paternity of her daughter. Perhaps the father isn’t doing well, father na father.
This your advice for the mum sounds somehow to me. Do you advise someone to stop being st***d🤷🏻♀️🤦♀️ It is highly insensitive to claim someone is the father of a child when you clearly know that he isn’t. This just explains how desperate women can be for glory hunting. I mean, lying to your child that their father is a celebrity is just a whole new level.
BondRiv: Don't. Rather, the governor and his deputy should resign. Fubara said his spirit has left Government House, so why is he still there? Only there to be breaking our laws.
Fubara is a despot - The Supreme Court A joke taken too far - The Court of Appeal A tyrant - The Federal High Court
The thing I don’t understand is APC supporters. You have a good man now in your party and you’re still taking sides with a rogue expelled from the PDP. Did they swear for you people with supporting bad leaders💁
THERE WAS ZERO RESISTANCE TO THE AMERICANS BY THE VENEZUELAN MILITARY.
NIGERIA'S MILITARY WILL NOT FALL TO TRUMP LIKE THAT.
BUT YOU ARE WELCOME TO DREAM, TRAITOR.
Trust me, the Venezuelan resistance will be more stern than Nigeria’s. Maduro’s military recognized a powerful opponent. They are not stupid. I don’t think any military force in Nigeria is foolish enough to sacrifice their lives for a failed president though.
This is America threatening Nigeria as a whole. The Bxxtds want to keep us enslaved to the US dollar system and unending poverty / perpetual borrowing from imf and world bank.
And they hate that we are refining our own oil and no longer bleeding 10s millions of dollars everyday as we did for 40 years without a refinery!
Look at our markets, do you see any made in America products there?
Trump should leave all this bombing alone and come take our President for questioning, just like he did the Venezuelan President. They both have a lot of things in common; Drug peddling, election corruption, you name it.
helinues: Abeg in which category do you want to place both Kwankwanso and Peter Obi that Kwankwanso won't dwarf Peter Obi
Is it in terms of educational background? In terms of governance? In terms of empowerment? In terms of generosity?
It's an insult for the Obidients to be deluding that Kwankwanso will vice Peter Obi. Infact, it's disrespectful to have such thought
Who’s more popular between them two? One didn’t get upto 2million votes, the other got more than 6million. One won 12 States in Nigeria, the other won only 1 state. I think they both know who pulls more weight. Try not to spill your fo.ol.ishness all over the place.
symbianDON: Something she's going to regret doing VERY VERY soon. The ex is a guyman who is simply using her as a launch pad....when he's got what he wants from her, he'll dump her like he did in the past cos he already knows she ain't loyal. Sometimes, women think men are fo.ols.
Unfortunately some men are. This particular man is a big fo.ol
Celebrities › Re: Daddy Freeze Defends Peller, Cites Ishowspeed’s $800,000 Monthly Earnings by Zackattack: 4:56pm On Feb 12
. And I kinda agree with him on that. Coz you can't expect someone like peller who's already doing well in his field to come and join you in your universities where majority of your lecturers would be milking him 