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Kobojunkie:
I don't need to consider such foolishness. I only need to tailor my message to the OP without judgment and all others who might be battling the same sort of situation out there.

I don’t know what happened to you, but I can totally see through you. No one is easier to predict.
I know exactly which threads I’ll find you, and the kind of comments you’ll make. You seriously need help, even more than the people you’re trying to advise.

Kobojunkie:
Forgive yourself for choosing to spend 16 years of your life with him.
Forgive yourself for choosing him as the father to your children.
Forgive yourself for refusing to heed the many red flags and warnings over all those years with him.
Forgive yourself for choosing the opinions and validation of others over your own happiness and that of your children for so long.
Forgive yourself for making excuse after excuse to remain shackled to that which has caused you so much heartache... You are human, and we all make mistakes. 🤔

You now know that you are better off walking out of the situation. What is now important is you picking yourself up and creating a life better than you have had to endure for the past 16. Shift your focus and your mind, in full gear, in the right direction needed at this point, to distance you and the kids from the past failures. That is more important than the woes.

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Happiness is one-sided -- only the one lacking happiness can work from within to obtain the happiness that he/she seeks. The same sort of approach applies when regret is in the room. If the one who is unhappy desires happiness, he/she has to start by accepting all of one's numerous regrets, forgiving oneself of all of one's shames, guilt, and shortcomings, and then accepting that even he/she has the right to be happy, regardless of what other people say, do, or think.

This is how one goes about overcoming personal limitations, particularly of the psychological sort that OP described.

Once I started reading this, you were the first person that came to my mind. I know you’d jump on it, without even considering the possibility that the writer could be lying.

Nword22:
If this state and it's people vote for tifnubu make I bend.

How can you welcome someone who killed your family back to the fold and sleep with your two eyes closed.

The blood of this Yoruba brother is crying out loud to all who have human sympathy to vote wisely.

Have you met a Yoruba person before🤷🏽‍♂️ Tinubu will comfortably win all the Yoruba states, even if bandit behead their entire generation.

Hezzyluv:
Regardless how they attack you, NEVER be discouraged. Keep spreading this good news here. God bless you!


Condolences to her family. 🙏 🙏

So it doesn’t bother you that the best time to win a soul is when people are afraid 💁🏻‍♀️

OnionBandit:
Anyone who says the US and Israel won this war is completely far from reality., and must be put under strict monitoring, make e for no enter market go dey display him mardns

All of these conditions favour the Islamic Republic of Iran. Just negodu

The visa hunters on this forum think it's child's play

Which person leader did they kill?

emmabest2000:
If to say OBO na Igbo man he for use Nwa Eke-uke instead of Umu Bingo

But the truth is that
Reno is a small Ewu Gambia

His name is Reno Omokri.

princepee:
It's called handset for a reason ...

Don't understand why ladies like putting their phone in hand bags..

My woman will put her's in her purse and then in her hand bag.
Call her now till tomorrow she will not pick

Your what? You have a woman?🙍🏾‍♂️

Richtaiwo:
These are the opposition Tinubu sees as actual opposition, not this Peter Obi and his overgrown puppies jumping up and down like confused kangaroos.

Even though I know you’re pro Tinubu, I’ll have to agree with you on this one.
I want Obi to be President cause I think he has the compassion level required to govern this country, but he cannot get it the way he’s going. He won’t even win 2031, talk more of 2027.
He needs to team up with a formidable force from the North and unfortunately, that person is not Kwankwaso.
In 2015, Tinubu knew he cannot defeat Jonathan directly and what did he do? He teamed up with a force in the North and remained patient.
If Obi had done this in 2023, we would be singing a different song today.

TheLordofHost:
Me as a man, Rich or Poor I must continue my lineage.
There is this joy I get when I see my daughter that I created…something I can truly call my own

The problem is, your daughter may not see it like this, if you’re poor.
The percentage of children from poor homes making it in life is getting smaller and it will continue to dwindle in the foreseeable future.
Children was never meant for our amusement or entertainment. If you don’t have the capability to raise them properly, stay away from having them. You will not be committing any crime.

nairalanda1:
The guy you quoted is right. I myself have seen it happen so many times, that it is almost easy to predict.

When you have children all over the place, as you intend to do from your comment, don't lie, the time will come when they will openly make comments about you in a dark tone. And people will agree with your children, not with you.

I am not bashing polygamy, I am bashing having kids all over the place without bringing them and their mothers under one roof after you have done the martial rites. Which is how our polygamous ancestors operated. Our ancestors supported polygamy, not people sleeping around.

So he should trade places with you cause all your kids are in one roof🤷🏽‍♂️

gabbytabby:
When you meet your match and they bring wild wild community children for you to raise hope you won’t come online crying.

Unfortunately for you, that’s not going to happen🙅
Enjoy your marriage and leave people to endure their solitude.

Diamond098454:
He's not ready for marriage yet
This second wife will humble him

A true African man knows what he wants. That’s a man who’s ready. He can’t be humbled more than himself.

RollinTNDA:
I want poor people to try and understand

I get it, you lack money.
So it will feel like $200 billion will make you the happiest person alive

I'm here to tell you that you can have $2 million and still feel depressed.
I can't explain the feeling but it's crazy

That was when I understand one rich french fashion designer commit suicide.

To a thirsty man, water is everything
Until he fall inside river and drown

Don’t let this person’s quote fool you. Happiness is the goal, but no one can deny that poverty is the worse, especially after tasting wealth.

Mandem05:
It is possible to make the votes count. The problem is that Nigerians are not ready to put in the work required for it to be possible that their votes would count in 2027. When Nigerians are ready dey will fight for the change dey deserve.

Nigerias are ready. Our votes are just divided. Almost half of the registered voters voted against Tinubu, but he still won.
Atiku 6.9m
Obi 6.1m
Kwankwaso almost 3m
That’s a total of 16m.
Tinubu got a paltry 8m. What does that tell you?
Majority of Nigerians don’t want Tinubu, it will show in the score, but Tinubu will still win. When Atiku, Obi, Amaechi, Jonathan and co cannot support one candidate, Tinubu will win.
If Tinubu had contested with Buhari in 2015, they would have both lost. This isn’t even rocket science. Nigerians are rigging their selves and blaming it on INEC. Obi should have remained in ADC and support whoever wins the primaries.

LagosOrigin:
NDC is credible and the primaries processes will be the most transparent unlike the criminal activities called primaries that APC did to favour tinubu .

Over 40 school children including 2, 3 and 4 years olds were kidnapped from their school by bandits and taken to unknown destination and tinubu hadn't done anything to rescue them. Yesterday was children's day and tinubu dare wish children a happy children day?

What a useless and heartless president.

If we don't vote out tinubu in 2027, he will finish us all .

Let nobody call Jesus or blame village people , go get your PVC and vote enmass against tinubu and his APC gang of economy destroyers.

Getting more people to vote against Tinubu is not the problem. The problem is how to make the votes count as one. Why is nobody seeing this after what happened in 2023?
Tinubu won this election the moment PO left ADC.

richmond500:
so the best way to be unsentimental is to allow Atiku, who rigged the ADC structure and install his stooges, someone who his boss Obj called him a fraud, a man who does nothing but always rig every primaries he is involved.
Someone who spent his entire life in Dubai and only come during election to collect ticket?

I'd rather not have him as my president

You can waste your support on Amaechi or Peter Obi. Just don’t cry ‘us against the world’ when Tinubu wins, cause you think politics is a fantasy.

richmond500:
So u want to remove Tinubu who is a rigger and install another rigger.

What's the essence of removing Tinubu then?

Tinubu is not a rigger. He’s just poor at governance.
It will be highly insensitive to actually believe that Tinubu doesn’t have supporters.
The opposition supporters are more, but divided, as the result in the last election proved. We are gearing up for the same outcome here with a divided opposition. It’s not rocket science. We just need to be unsentimental.

richmond500:
Atiku isn't giving other coalition candidates a fair ground.

He went to ADC and dismantled their structure and forcefully exert his own structure, this lead to the current court case they are experiencing.
Now instead of him to learn his lessons and make the primaries fair, he has rigged it again, opening way to another court case.

This is how he tried to exert dominance in PDP in 2023 that lead to G5 governors

What you just explained up there is called politics. Atiku is the only one showing the characteristics of what it takes to defeat Tinubu. No one is going to hand you the seat because you’re a saint.
I can bet you, if all of them contest this election, Tinubu is going to win cause of divided opposition and Atiku will definitely get more votes than the other opposition candidates. He’s the only one that is approaching politics for what it is. He just needs a United front to defeat Tinubu.
Everything that happened in 2023 is gearing up to happen again and we may end up blaming it on INEC and rigging.

richmond500:
Atikus greed collapsed this coalition

Atiku is the most powerful person amongst all the opposition candidates. The sensible thing is to endorse him, unless you’re undermining the strength of the ruling party. I think people like Amaechi, Kwankwaso and Obi are ruining a rare opportunity to oust this useless and unproductive Tinubu and APC.

Exousiang01:
LoL
It was never about the progress of the nation but about his own selfish interest.
He doesn't understand how politics work



Young man, I am a die-hard Tinubu supporter and I don't expect a dime from the government, I support him because I see the great work he is doing.
Something you obviously don't have the capacity to comprehend.
This young man call Chief Priest lost his election to a fellow Igbo man and he still said he lost because he was Igbo. Was the winner a Nupe or a Jukun man? Was the the winner not his fellow Igbo man?

No you did not see any good work Tinubu is doing. You can’t be telling lies about something that a blind man can see. It won’t age well. You will be making yourself to look st***d
PS: Obi Cubana and Cubana Chief Priest are two different people.

Saturnalia:
Compensate him for wetin? Look at the “OVERHEAD BRIDGE” , the only Constituency Project the bastarrd did for his constituents below.

I have told people to stop voting for celebrities because all of them no get sense.

He even wear nose mask for the pic😆😆😂
Clown!🤦‍♀️

Burob:
People of Rivers State indeed, when Nyesom Wike single handedly picked that Fubara clown from the box of politically isolated puppets & made him Governor of the great Rivers State, what part did u & them play in the installation of Judas Fubara.

Had u u even heard of a puppet know as Fubara until Nyesom Wike made him Governor?

Go to YouTube & watch the video of the Judas laying face down on floor thanking his master for enthroning him as governor .

Wike was meant to choose a competent leader to serve the people, not himself. Anyone raised in a functioning society should understand that Wike didn’t do Fubara a personal favor. His responsibility was to act in the interest of the people by supporting capable leadership, not installing a puppet to control.

Kam2021:
No need wasting pity.The problem is Fubara refused to learn.He has given a long rope to prove he could be trusted.
Alas after every season of being forgiven and signing agreements he goes back to do something else.
He failed to read the handwriting 'the president is big on loyalty '.All his actions over time were an indirect insult to the president.
He should go and rest let those ready to be loyal get the ticket.

His loyalty is to the people of Rivers, not two idiots in Abuja. He should never have bowed to Tinubu or joined the APC.
Your enemies were never interested in making peace. If you don’t fight them to death, you will perish. Thank you for the lesson, Fubara.

bukatyne:
More thoughts on Hypergamy:

Marriage to a man in your tax bracket or higher eliminates some of the stress in marriage. Like it is said, a man will always drag a woman to his level; that drag might be upwards or downwards.

I am sure we have all heard stories where the wife wants to subsidise rent, school fees, food and other things (where the husband believes his manhood is tied to sole provision) and it causes a fight? The wife can afford a 3 bedroom flat; Odiegwu wants them to stay in one room so that people will not say it is his wife that is housing him. Visiting a man in one room as a lady living in 3 bed for a weekend might be a kink; moving into a one bedroom after marriage is horror. And any other lifestyle downgrade.

A colleague from service year (male) used to chuckle when I spoke about love. He said ' a rich man hates you but he gets a maid for you, buys a car for you, doesn't require you to do some chores' aka makes your life easy.

Some guys here on NL say washing machine is for lazy women. Imagine a woman above a certain tax bracket marrying such. Whilst her company expects her to use her time well for more meaningful tasks (there is a reason organizations provide certain welfare packages at certain levels), she is washing clothes by hand because her horseband thinks washing machines and blenders are lazy in 2026.

Interestingly, a woman wants to pull a man up so she is handing over contracts to him, giving him the car to drive, changing his wardrobe and packaging him as the 'man'.

Imagine a richer man wants to get a car or a cook or a bigger house or a washing man and the lower income wife says 'it is too small' or stops the purchase.

Until the dynamics of marriage changes, a woman who doesn't want to spend her life shalaying, massaging egos, or reducing herself to accommodate a man should better marry her tax bracket and higher.

God forbid she adds the stress of marrying below her tax bracket to the stress of marrying a man.

And if they are both poor, he has the capacity for growth so that when they/she blows, he is not insisting on grinding stone pepper.

This actually doesn’t make sense. So you think quality men are unaware of their scarcity and the desperate women around them🤷🏽‍♂️💁🏻‍♀️

WatchYourSix:
lol… where do yall get this kind of mentality from??
So it cannot be that the parent is violent, hot tempered, or not normal?? The only reason must be that that child deserves it….
So all those women that get sexually assaulted by their fathers they must have also deserved it??

All thise maid badly beaten by their madam, they must have deserved it?? Mayb they stole extra meat or ddnt wash pot well??

I understand u pple shaa… many of you are used to extreme discipline for your folks while growing up so u have over time assume u deserve it when you parents break leg, fracture skill, disfigure ur face, or inflict and internal injury as a way of properly disciplining you…… if its not very painful that will take u many weeks to recover then thats not proper discipline

You’re absolutely correct about the extreme discipline. That’s why you can’t find us tweaking naked on the internet.

WatchYourSix:
Lets kickstart logic and see your response…

So If them panel beat ur daughter or sister like this to correct her how will u feel??
Will this look. Kemal to you

Anyone beaten by their parent like this must have deserved it.

SadiqBabaSani:
The same Jonathan Template, Atiku should go n rest, Obi must never deputize him. The lizard of Ubima Amaechi if he wants should go Nd deputize him, that's his cup of tea

The South must complete 8yrs of leadership in Aso Rock before power returns North

Atiku cannot be using Southerners against each other, in 2014 he convived with Tinubu to remove Jonathan, in 2027 he won't find any worthy Southerner to connive with.

If it's not Obi for President, let Tinubu continue

Tribalism is making you put good men in ranks for a position that should be occupied by an experienced and competent person.
Obi cannot defeat Tinubu’s successor, talk more of Tinubu.
If you cannot support someone with the capacity to defeat Tinubu, let Tinubu continue then. Just don’t let me see you wail about it.

HacheNoire:
He should take his lecture to Anambra State University where it is more needed.

Oh! I forgot, the university does not even have a state of the art and equipped auditorium.

Anambra student need more of those messages. Letting them know the need to invest at home and grow the state, and stop believing they can only make it in West.

What a myopic statement to make. I don’t even know what to call you 🤦‍♀️

Well, on this side, we don’t really care about a failed government and their dubious politics.

MadPolitician:
We don't have anything called an "independent judiciary" any more.
What we have is a "cash and carry judiciary" whose members of the bench are populated by all sorts pro government characters selected by the corrupt bunch in power to dance to whims and caprices of the obnoxious party in power.
Simple!

The fact that an obvious blackmailer and liar like this woman has people supporting her is a proof that Nigeria deserves the quality of leaders we have.

Just imagine this lazy thing. Of all the money his father left him, can’t even do a simple due diligence to generate income. He’s here looking for easy money🤷🏽‍♂️🤦‍♀️

Omoawoke:
You think Arsenal will beat ATM?

But Arsenal beat them 4 nil this season.