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I use the camry and I have a friend/neigbour that uses the babyboy. I cover 50miles of driving everyday and he covers less than 40miles. I use just N4,500 fuel throughout a 5 working day week while he uses N6,500-7000 fuel for the same period.

For fuel economy and easier maintenance, go for the camry. Though, I think the Babyboy seems stronger and classier.

I have been using my Toyota 1997 Toyota Camry for some months now until I met someone who informed me that I better change my radiator from single to double cell if I want to enjoy the engine of the car and not end up with overheating issues. Is this true? The car's engine never show any sign of trouble o and I learnt that overheating issues will come sooner or later if you frequently spend a time in slow/static traffic (which happens to me more often because I work on the island and live in Ikeja).

Abeg, I need advice cuz I don't want to end up in the middle of the bridge sometime soon looking for water to cool a boiling radiator.

You should be talking to a lawyer or Estate Surveyor in respect perfecting your title to land in Ogun State. You may contact me at kehinde.a@aol.com me if you have any instructions.

I still do not see clearly what wrong she has done here? Is she not entitled to appropriate accomodstion thst is conducive to her job? I don't know what makes it for her to have approved SEC's renting of d house for her but is it not better than having her steal the money while abdicating her responsibilities that she has so diligently paid attention to?

They accuse her of spending so much money on feeding on certain days,I think that is ridiculous. It is not out of place to spend like that to lunch and dine once in a while. My boss is not a spendthrift but he has spent about 100k right in my presence to get several of us lunch at a restuarant because he had some visiting guests to impress.

I think the legislators are just out to witchunt and blackmail people here cause they don't even seem to have the required the least required level of expertise to audit SECas they are attempting to do

OP, U need to change your old man lawyer. I guess you probably "inherited" his services from your late mum because he is the lawyer handling her estate. Just get a young counsel that has something to prove and a reputation to build. He'll flow with you.

Your next step after the expiration of the 7days notice is to file actions for Recovery of Premises preferably at a Court of Summary Jurisdiction i.e. Magistrate Court/Rent tribunal. Thankfully, their jurisdiction have been expanded to catch up with the times. The High Court is to be avoided as much as possible. Where is the location of the property sef? The whole thing from issuance of Court processes to judgement execution shouldn't last more than 3-5 months under the new regime of Court rules. And you should go after your outstanding rent too (Hopefully, we won't find trouble fetching the necessary evidence in this regard- cuz its not enough to just say it!). And trust me, by the time they find themselves answering Court summons repeatedly, they will approach you for settlement or just leave.

Lets talk man. k.ayinde@adenijikazeem.com.

Ok o, Make I chillax small. After, I go come talk my own about "Muslim relationships"

I hope this gets me somewhere cuz I'm seriously single oh! And eligible

Just managed to go through some pages in the thread,

Mukina, I thought we was here to hook up now as in single and available bruvs and sisters?! ha, nawa oh. only about 3 girls dey talk since!

And really, what is th point of the talk so far sef, where is it supposed to lead us to?

Who is passing judgement here that google+ is a failure

It is a failure to only Nigerians here at home (and Africans I guess).

All my peeps in the offshore naija have relocated their online social networkings to Google+- It was only a matter of course for them to migrate cuz google was not a mere search engine or mail provider to them,

, O yea, what have we here; singles and available? Gosh where have I been all these while

So whats cookn here sisters and bruvs

M'Lord, we are seeking a declaration that the thread is officially derailed.

Gbam! ORDERED AS PRAYED!!

Iice is right I believe.

You know, the Prophet of Islam was reported to have taught that "men are made of gold, silver, bronze & etc; the best of them in ignorance remains of them in enlightenment."

Everyman has core predilections that shape what their attitudes in every circumstance, enjoyment or adversity. Those core predilections are what we really look out for when we are looking for who to share our love with.

You know when a person tells his/her object of love that he'd die for her, what he means essentially, unwittingly is that:

"I love that core personality of yours. And I want it to endure as long as humanity survives cuz it is what makes the human beautiful. I am perfectly okay exiting this world knowing that it'll stay if I pay for it with my exit."

Now it remains inherently one of our greatest challenges as humans to know how to identify those core values,
who is made of gold

Dear Op, like getting a professional around you to come and fix something for you such as maybe your car or your property development, getting a good lawyer who will serve your family needs is usually on recommendation i.e, you meet someone who has known a good lawyer for a while and he introduces that lawyer to you. However, this doesn't mean that this is the only way by which you can find a lawyer. It is just the most common way people do so around here and the reason is basically because the relationship between a lawyer and his client is essentially one of trust in which the lawyer acts in the place of the client to achieve the client's goal.

Other ways of finding a lawyer could be you doing a search for one in the business districts of our cities or just googleing the word. You however run the risk of falling for the many con-artists and scammers out there. Also finding a good lawyer who has the wherewithal (i.e the professional competence and the structure) to pay attention to your needs as a client depends very much on your location. If you are in Lagosor Abuja or Ogun or Oyo, it may be easier. Otherwise you may have to find one in those states because legal practice development in each state varies and the level of practice affects the level of competence of a lawyer.

At this juncture, may i introduce myself to you as a lawyer by the way. My name is kehinde and you can contact me on k.ayinde@adenijikazeem.com or kehinde.a@aol.com for more. Take care.

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kokoye:
@ OP

Can you at least have some decency and show where and who you copied this article from??

Does the messenger really matter?

I no knw wetin u wan use tha 1 do. Na u sabi sha

You are not married not because there is no man ready for marriage as a good number of men are looking for life partners. The major reason Nigerian men are now scared of marriage is waywardness. Men are now afraid because they don’t know who to trust and also not sure if that beautiful girl they are interested in still has her womb intact.

They are also afraid because of the high mountain ladies have suddenly placed themselves on as no woman wants to date a poor man any longer but are all interested in those with good cars and houses.
A man recently told me why he does not allow his girlfriends to come to his house. According to him, he doesn’t want a case where a girl enters his house only for her to refuse leaving because of the beauty of the house and cars she will see.

Isn’t it surprising how single ladies now out-dress married women with good jobs whose husbands are very rich? You are not married because the single men around you are wondering if they will be able to meet up with your ever-demanding lifestyle. Even when they know they can afford it, what makes them believe you won’t take a walk tomorrow if anything goes wrong?


Another reason is that with your good job and salary, they are even afraid to come near you as they wouldn’t want to be turned down.

I have a female colleague, a very pretty girl who lives in her own house and drives a posh car. She also has different businesses to show for it. Recently, I advised her to calm down a bit as friends I introduce her to who ordinarily would have gone for her, all run away after meeting her and come back to me with the same word, “Amara, this one go send me go village.”

Another reason you are going to grow old in your father’s house is this: You want a ready-made man instead of a growing man with vision. Are you aware that if you have not obtained favour from God, the man will decrease instead of increasing when you enter his house? Work on your character, the words that come from your mouth, your lifestyle, the way you carry yourself, the way you dress, the places you visit and then spend time trying to find favour before God because it’s only favour that can make your husband increase the moment you step into his life.

In fact, the moment a man proposes to you, there must be some positive movements in his finance if at all you have obtained favour.

It is never your duty to find a man. While he is working trying to raise money to sustain whoever he takes home to his mother, you should get yourself busy obtaining favour from God for you to be his source of blessing. A man knows when the wife is a source of blessing and that is the only time he cherishes you.

In the previous paragraph, I said the man should take you home to his mother. I don’t understand why you get married to a man who believes it’s just between the two of you. Read the Bible; they all took their wives home to their mothers. If a man cannot take you home to his people, something is wrong. Isn’t it surprising how many of us are married without knowing our husband’s village and his mother’s bedroom? Marriage, in the African culture, is not between the man and woman alone, the two families must be involved.

Hey, you have to stop moving from one prayer house to the other in search of miracles that are not coming even after you might have emptied your pocket. Go back to your room; deal with your character and bad nature that is filled with pride and disrespect for the elderly. Cut down on frivolities and that is not all, deal with your party and aso ebi spirit. You must also deal with that thing that gets you to aimlessly move from one end of the street to the other all in search of precious souls to destroy. Change that mentality that says you use what you have to get what you want; any man you get with your ass is as filthy, unreliable and irresponsible as you are.

Common girl, go deal with yourself first before you start blaming your step mother of being the one keeping you down. Stop blaming your neighbours and friends of standing on your way to progress. I just told you the bitter truth which your Alfa, Babalawo, pastor and Imam may never tell you. Stop wasting your time chasing shadows, go and deal with yourself first before complaining.

I know of a wonderful lady who sings so well that when she comes to lead in worship, miracles take place. People love her, but this lady is unmarried till date. It is not because men don’t go to her for marriage or because she is ugly; her number one obstacle is her character. They say there are many old single ladies in our churches; I think I know the problem and not that most of them wasted their lives in frivolities only to realise the last minute that they have to run into the church where they can get a brother to marry.

I am not trying to judge anyone’s past, but the issue is that even when they join those churches, their characters don’t change. It’s really appalling how some ladies talk to men simply because they are in the same church. Some of them fight everyone in their department in church while some live their lives begging from one member to the other.

What do have to say about ladies who fight for food during church meetings? Those guys would be foolish to see the stuff you are made of and still go ahead to take you home to mama.
I always tell ladies that if by the age of 30 no man had asked to know if you are for sale, there is something wrong somewhere; its either spiritual or attitudinal, but the truth is that it is always more attitudinal than spiritual.

You have been fasting and praying and going for all levels of deliverance but it seems nothing is working. What is your character like after all the prayers and religious devotions? It is sad when I see a single girl walk up to a married woman sitting with her husband and telling the woman to get up because she was there before her. You attend functions with extra bags to pack food and drinks and when it’s time to hit the dancing floor, you do that as if there is no tomorrow. What do you expect from life when you are the source of all quarrels in your neighbourhood, church and office?

This is the moment of truth and if at all you want to be delivered, your decision to deliver yourself is the first step to your breakthrough.
*The end*

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-10-signs-shes-a-high-maintenance-girlfriend/P1/

Even though, its American, it is also veritably applicable overhere in Naija. That's why I have chosen to share it with my Nairaland guys, So we can keep away from undeserved punishments

BigMount:
A joke with respect to perfect man and perfect woman for you to learn from.

Once upon a time, a perfect man and a perfect woman met. After a perfect courtship, they had a perfect wedding. Their life together was, of course, perfect. One snowy, stormy Christmas Eve, this perfect couple was driving their perfect car along a winding road, when they noticed someone at the side of the road in distress.

Being the perfect couple, they stopped to help. There stood Santa Claus with a huge bundle of toys. Not wanting to disappoint any children on the eve of Christmas, the perfect couple loaded Santa and his toys into their vehicle.

Soon they were driving along delivering the toys. Unfortunately, the driving conditions deteriorated and the perfect couple and Santa Claus had an accident. Only one of them survived the accident.
Question: Who was the survivor?
Answer: The perfect woman survived. She's the only one who really existed in the first place. Everyone knows there is no Santa Claus and there is no such thing as a perfect man.

So, if there is no perfect man and no Santa Claus, the woman must have been driving. This explains why there was a car accident.

==== +++ So, good luck as you continue your search for perfect man +++ ==== we don't set out to marry because of love, but to satisfy our wants; to get official sex mate, companionship, helper, (financial support), (kitchen hand), someone to make us satisfy societal expectations, to have children as others do, etc, therefore look for someone to make you satisfy your expectations.

Word!

I used to be with a girl. she was gang-raped and got pregnant from the incident. Who you have advised her to keep the baby, and thereby keep the memory of the incident too?

Think she was justified to have aborted it.

, hmmm, they stopped giving me stipend when I left for NYSC and believe you me, I was soo effn puzzled like "what the f**k cuz I had a monthly allawee that I always planned everything on. Anyways, it didn't make me fight them. Rather it fired me up to "grow up" and here I am today , I'm loving my independence 2 years on

hmmm,  I'm single cuz I've not found a girl that'll love me as I am; a girl that'll love me inspite of myself; a girl that'll love me with no agenda at the back of her mind.

Girls dz dayz simply love to chase their fantansies. In delusion,   

andromida:
Pls move on if she wants to get back with you let her work for it. If she works for it then she knows your worth and will stay with you if you go back after this txt she will lose all respect for you. I think she wants you back but i am not sure if its for real or just so her pet wnt escape. Dont bother trying to decipher the code let her unlock it herself meaning i repeat if she wants you back let her work for it and spell it out.

Thanx 4 d advice guys. She sure has to work for it, whether she's out to play me or is for real .Andromida,

Hmmm, Harakiri tanx for that.

My gut feeling however is that she wants to check if i have moved on or if I'm still interested in her, and I should "please come back and beg".

^^^ yes, I'm curious whether she is just trying to make peace or trying to get back. Which one?

Hmmm, tanx guys. but may I had that I actually saw her in a dream last week in which she was trying to get back to me. , So I'd ve let this message go but for the dream.(I have had and believe in true and ominous dreams in my life by the way. So no jokes about this please)

Nairalanders,

This girl and I broke up about 2-3 months ago after we had one of our disagreements even though we really liked each other and had it settled that we were gonna make it work and get married as soon as she got a job (she's an unemployed graduate while I am vice versa). Whenever we had the fights like that, I'd be the one to play the fool and beg her to come back and after so much ball--and--chain, we'd settle.

But after that last fight, I decided to stop playing the fool on the advice of several friends (many of them female) who felt that I was being used and manipulated in the relationship because I am being clingy and a "wussy". They advised that the relationshipn was too one-sided and that I should stop playing the fool all the time; that afterall, she is gonna want me and would come to her senses whether I play the fool or not. So I decided not to beg her after that last fight during which she called off the relationship (2nd/3rd time she'd do that) and that time, I simply told her to ''go 4uk urself & kiss my a**, b*t*h". But after the fight, a mutual friend tried to intervene and on his considered advice, I sent her apology texts for my use of hate words on her but I told her I will never beg to be with her again. I even called her. she never picked up my calls nor responded to my text. She just totally shut down on me.

I have since licked my wounds and I'm already moving on

But last night, a short while after midnight, she sent me a text (after shuttn down on me for 2.5months) as follows:

"I thut to reply your all ur msgs since and sincerely I don't want a reply. Thank u 4 all d job search info you ve been sharing with me, God bless you.
I want u to know that I av 4given u for whatever u said or did and I pray u 4give me too in like manner.
I wish u all d best in ur life pursuit. It was nice knowing you. learnt a lot from you. & also realized somethings about myself too- great discovery.

thanks 4 everything and my regards to ur family.

Cheers!"

I have moved on though not in any serious relationship yet but I'm already talking with other people in that direction. But I'm curious with this text which I don't intend to reply to:

Could she be trying to get back and hopes that I'd reply the text (as I'd normally do- which she knows) and we get talking again?

Shy-one,

Thank you for your comment. There are a very few select people I always look forward to reading their words and I must tell you now that you are one of them. You sound like an "old soul in a lady's dress" who's been thru it all and is just back here as a compassionate gaurdian angel. Wish I could meet and talk to you away from this forum.

I have since moved on with my palava and left the gal to walk with her own and I am gradually healing from the wounds. The major thing I am considering now however is the "x-effect" that happens. I mean, when you break up with someone that abruptly, still wishing inside of you that it had worked out as you hoped and that the person'd come back to her senses, you carry it along with you into the future and it wraps itself up somewhere waiting to threaten your subsequent relationship if the person shows up again.

It was actually one of the issues between this girl and I that I didn't mention. I found out during the cause of the relationship that she was still in contact with her ex. How? Briefly, we had an altercation oneday during which she flaunted it at me that her ex was trying to come back to her; I also later saw that she was emailing him for whatever. That day, she apologized profusely to me for that indiscreet action. Anyway, since then, I never really felt secure in the relationship again even though she kept reassuring me thereafter.

I am wondering how its gonna be in the future if this lady shows up again and starts to beg me like sexkillz advised.

MrbrownJAY, I too gbadun you joo

^^^ Mukina2, I'd just simply say that I like your mask, whatever its color is.

I don't know why u are using a name that is not exactly what you ve ever written on an exam answer script and why your email is hidden on your profile but I assume you'd want to be real with me and anyone else on this forum without the fear of being judged and hanged as soon as you step out away from your computer into the street, get it?

We are in this world to learn, grow and attain maturity in every sense and ramification and too many of us are still toddlers. And until I get to such a circle of souls, I'm afraid I'll always be afraid to be me without any of my many masks in this world.

Remember that man's greatest fear in this world is to be himself and very few have learnt to conquer that fear. People'd rather die than let you learn who they truly are,

I'd have loved to be there to fellowship with brvs & Sistas in deen but :
The very thing that drew me to this forum and makes it my favorite is the anonymity it affords you  to help you express yourself and share uninhibited unlike any other forum I know of.

I like the idea , buh, ain't ready to blow my cover here.

But hey, great idea that would have been better launched elsewhere where we are not faceless and are fake (fb )

@OP, yes for the bank to have informed 3rd Parties(without u doing anything wrong in respect of d contract in d 1st place, i suppose) u have a right of action in damages for breach of contract. If you intend to pursue this right against them, contact me on info@adenijikazeem.com by amailing me a full gist of d issue and we will proceed from there.