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Hmmmmmmmm, another update coming!

Just about 2hrs ago, Renny dropped a note on our bedroom reading table... Which reads

CONTINUE WITH HIM & FOREFIT THE FOLLOWING......

RED PASSPORT APPLICATION, which am due 2 apply for come july cos she is a citizen.

DIVORCE....

& FACE ARREST FOR NEGLECT AND ASSULT.

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I believe so many people have been looking at these as a story! But be candid, its something that beats my imagination too cos everything looks and appear like this nollywood story in nigeria.

I'm sure u people will be wondering on the issue of the mentioned RED passport. Well, may be this will give me an opportunity to tell you more about Morenike.

Right now, I don't concentrate at work again. I have told my pastor in nigeria. And he is presently praying along with me for a change.

.........Let me rest my brain and give you guyz an update later 2moro! And that will be about morenike and the new developments.

Dayo's wife just came 2 visit us with her 2kids & she pretended as if nothing happens...

Dayo's wife has given up and no issue between them...still don't know why renny is taken it so far...

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Hmmmmmmmm, another update coming!

Just about 2hrs ago, Renny dropped a note on our bedroom reading table... Which reads

CONTINUE WITH HIM & FOREFIT THE FOLLOWING......

RED PASSPORT APPLICATION, which am due 2 apply for come july cos she is a citizen.

DIVORCE....

& FACE ARREST FOR NEGLECT AND ASSULT.

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I believe so many people have been looking at these as a story! But be candid, its something that beats my imagination too cos everything looks and appear like this nollywood story in nigeria.

I'm sure u people will be wondering on the issue of the mentioned RED passport. Well, may be this will give me an opportunity to tell you more about Morenike.

Right now, I don't concentrate at work again. I have told my pastor in nigeria. And he is presently praying along with me for a change.

.........Let me rest my brain and give you guyz an update later 2moro! And that will be about morenike and the new developments.

Dayo's wife just came 2 visit us with her 2kids & she pretended as if nothing happens...

Dayo's wife has given up and no issue between them...still don't know why renny is taken it so far...

zibiah: https://www.nairaland.com/1120329/caught-finacee-ex-hotel-paid#13205180 at poster you are just a story teller, last year december u caught your fiancee cheating on you in an hotel at dubai and this year your wife is threatening to divorce you.........mscheeeew

Some people just create fun in blackmail! So, one cld just sit down & cook up a story like these! O ga o! For your information, pls go back & read d story again to really know the facts about it. The incident happened to a friend of mine & NOT me. Just go thru it from the beginning of the post till d last and also go tru my comments.

I dnt have to ague or start exchanging words with u ova that cos I believe u r just a fool! And if you felt they are just cooked up stories, y wasting ur tym 2 follow the thread!

It beats my imagination why must atyms ppl just check to find ot faults in other ppl actions.

I dnt have tym 4 u now! I continue with you later.....

Ishilove: Aha!! So this has been a nollywood script all along??

Toh, I'm outta here.

Nollywood scripts indeed!

jidegirl12: Abo oro lan so fun omoluabi toba denue adodidi! Owo ti mo ni ni mo ti ya e yen! Ję ki ori e ko pe, ko le ję ti baba ati omo ko ma ni ala! Dayo se ore fun e , so he should milk you forever, Abeg go siddon jor and stop your bogus over flogged story!



You couldn't have made yourself clearer OP, I heard you , you're not gay( not that there's anything wrong with being one) so I don't know why that is very crucial to your ego ..... I'm not tagging you , it was just an inference and not a conclusion gerrit?

I don't need to consult with anybody, I have brothers and guy cousins and sh it happens, deal with it and stop bring a cry baby for pity party poor me poor me I don't drink, womanize blah blah!




And that^^ lies your problem.... listen , we all have one korikosun ( best friend) one way or the other in our lives, mine is my Dad, in as much as I love that man to bits, there's boundary when it comes to my 'family affairs' ofcourse he butts in once a while and I put him back in his pedestal he belongs without being rude. Your immediate Family comes first! So what is it gonna be OP Renny or Dayo?



Motigbo!, everybody is well cultured, if you ask me, iwa e ku die kaato and for the umpteenth time would you drop the gay or no gay discussion and focus on yourself for a change?



You're welcome! Good thing you grabbed something,( Team work )

attack kę? o ti po to!

Phew! I'm out.... Lunch time.

E se pupo,! Ma.....

nikkykay: Sisi_Kill I am not sure what kinda advice to give OP...on one hand, his wife's need for his attention is understandable, on the other hand I would flip out too if someone gave me an ultimatum on something. So amma leave the advice giving to the more experienced in matters like this.


I do however have some concerns. . .what do people mean when they say "You should even thank God he is not out late with his friend". Why should she even thank God her husband isn't behaving like an immature frat boy?!! If she married a frat boy, knowing what he is capable of doing and he surprises her by not doing that....then I understand the need to be all grateful to God for her luck.

She married a man, who must have know what responsibilities comes with being a husband, a man who understands what you did as a single man...the late night keeping, the being gone for days on end etc will have to come to an end...he understood this and that's why he got married. So why should we suddenly start thanking God and handing out YOU ARE THE BEST badges to people for acting right?!! [/b]

So u r saying a man will stop all ds attitude immediately he gets married
You are a joker! If a woman could put up with late night crawling, hanging out with friends, talking to friend on fone for only God know how many hours etc during courtship, she shld be ready to live with it for the rest of her life. These situations can only change if the man is willing to change, God takes control or the woman performs extra ordinary wonders on the man (i mean by being superb with her character).
After all she noticed all ds before dey got married and if she needs attention, dre are better ways to get dat not to break the rship btw friend becos of her selfishness. Like some pple said, if anythg bad happened to dat guy , God forbids in dat country, do u think ds woman alone can be of help? Nothings stops her from putting her head on husband laps while he is on d fone wit his friend, from dre she moves to d next level . Nobody wil tell oga to drop d fone. Other times she may even engage in d conversation, from dre she get used to d call since she knows dey are only friends.
Abeg women too dey attach sentiments to trivial issues
If his friend ddnt help him to the UK, wuld she ever meet d man?

Please enough with statements like that....be it about male or female because we are inadvertently giving people the green card to behave badly. What? I didn't cook? You should be happy I even entered the kitchen. So what if I don't help with the children...you should even be happy I notice the kids...where does it end?!!

Gud points thanks!

nikkykay: Sisi_Kill I am not sure what kinda advice to give OP...on one hand, his wife's need for his attention is understandable, on the other hand I would flip out too if someone gave me an ultimatum on something. So amma leave the advice giving to the more experienced in matters like this.


I do however have some concerns. . .what do people mean when they say "You should even thank God he is not out late with his friend". Why should she even thank God her husband isn't behaving like an immature frat boy?!! If she married a frat boy, knowing what he is capable of doing and he surprises her by not doing that....then I understand the need to be all grateful to God for her luck.

She married a man, who must have know what responsibilities comes with being a husband, a man who understands what you did as a single man...the late night keeping, the being gone for days on end etc will have to come to an end...he understood this and that's why he got married. So why should we suddenly start thanking God and handing out YOU ARE THE BEST badges to people for acting right?!! [/b]

So u r saying a man will stop all ds attitude immediately he gets married
You are a joker! If a woman could put up with late night crawling, hanging out with friends, talking to friend on fone for only God know how many hours etc during courtship, she shld be ready to live with it for the rest of her life. These situations can only change if the man is willing to change, God takes control or the woman performs extra ordinary wonders on the man (i mean by being superb with her character).
After all she noticed all ds before dey got married and if she needs attention, dre are better ways to get dat not to break the rship btw friend becos of her selfishness. Like some pple said, if anythg bad happened to dat guy , God forbids in dat country, do u think ds woman alone can be of help? Nothings stops her from putting her head on husband laps while he is on d fone wit his friend, from dre she moves to d next level . Nobody wil tell oga to drop d fone. Other times she may even engage in d conversation, from dre she get used to d call since she knows dey are only friends.
Abeg women too dey attach sentiments to trivial issues
If his friend ddnt help him to the UK, wuld she ever meet d man?

Please enough with statements like that....be it about male or female because we are inadvertently giving people the green card to behave badly. What? I didn't cook? You should be happy I even entered the kitchen. So what if I don't help with the children...you should even be happy I notice the kids...where does it end?!!

Gud points thank!

jidegirl12: *Sighs* baby love yes I've had fracas with him earlier but so was with other posters here that tried to convince him about the ridiculous amount of time he converses with his friend everyday!

That being said, OP knows he's the bullseye on this thread and that's why he's shifting focus from himself. He's one smart dude.

Once again, Baby steps..... Rome wasn't built in a day, he already caused his problems , he should have a heart to heart talk with his wife and they should both make promises to keep those people ( MIL & Dayo) on their sides in check simple!

Marriage is about sacrifices most times.



About the gay thingy, well don't you think 2 hrs a day buddy talk ritual is awkward? Not that there's anything wrong with being gay? I love em !

Eni ti ani ko kani leyi, toun fi egun si owo! I dnt kw y ppu jst adopt the method of seeing somtins at d negative side of it. I still wonder y u cnt just tink st8t instead of an isotonic approach from you on this thrend.

I need to make myself clear again that, if being a guy is d last option for me 2 remain on dis earth better I go. Imaging your thinking & comments. Let me tell you somtin, if you don't know &u have never tasted it, I do advise you consult ppl with such experience.
I don't drink, visit clubs or humanize. So I wonder y u shld concluded on such nasty tag. some people are just more than a friend cos of how they contributed to your success in life.

Dayo is a friend like a brother. Someone who understands and detest envy. He is there to share from your problesm & provide a lasting solution if possible.

I am a well cultured Yoruba Man with a fear of God on my mind. And for your information, assuming I am what you are insinuating, I dnt tink putting up this story here would have been a gud idea & getting married won't have been on my agenda in d first place.

Well, thank you for your contributions. Atleast I was able 2 extract from your comments on how to go about somethings. And please don't see this as an attack on ur comments

baby_123: Being that your wife is from a broken home. Did you guys discuss about that aspect of her life and how she hopes to avert it in the future before getting married? What is her stance on divorce and a broken home? If she doesnt mind it, then the divorce is inevitable. Whether today or tomorrow. Now and in the future. Just come straight out and tell her to choose between her family and her mother. That you are willing to work things out in a reasonable manner, as long as the mum stays out of your business as a couple. I think you should also let the mother know in a respectful way that you know what she is doing, and you will appreaciate if she doesnt interfere in your family business.

We didn't discuss that! Yes from a broken home.
Whatever the case may be, I will try and see how to handle my inlaws case on the issue of interference.

The whole issue is actually getting tough. But I still hope & pray God will sort us out. Right now am facing 3 challenges which if care is not taken on the final decision, it might end up being a genesis of a life time in my family.

Here they are;
1. The Friendship between dayo & I
2. Divorce saga btw us
3. My mother inlaw as a new driving force.

Renny was trained by a single mother in the city of Kent. They are just TWO from her mother, being the first with a younger brother, I noticed even while we were dating that she always like to know everything going on between us. And moreover, they are so close even more than the way I see myself & dayo but I never for one day complained about it.

They are like sisters because they discuss virtually everything.....
I believe people will be able 2 see reason why I said things are getting critical. I can't be a dummy, and som1 a mother inlaw from no where wld now have total control in my house without my own stand as a man in the house.

Even if I decided to reduce this so called calls, would that stop my mother inlaw from still pushing in more things to make her daughter get a free control over my own home.

Renny is 3months pregnant yet she insisted on d threat for divorce couple up with her mum influence in the case. Well, I still have up to 3weeks 2 sort this out! Bt the BIG question is how to handle it against future challenges.

O ti fe ma su mi o!

The whole issue is actually getting tough. But I still hope & pray God will sort us out. Right now am facing 3 challenges which if care is not taken on the final decision, it might end up being a genesis of a life time in my family.

Here they are;
1. The Friendship between dayo & I
2. Divorce saga btw us
3. My mother inlaw as a new driving force.

Renny was trained by a single mother in the city of Kent. They are just TWO from her mother, being the first with a younger brother, I noticed even while we were dating that she always like to know everything going on between us. And moreover, they are so close even more than the way I see myself & dayo but I never for one day complained about it.

They are like sisters because they discuss virtually everything.....
I believe people will be able 2 see reason why I said things are getting critical. I can't be a dummy, and som1 a mother inlaw from no where wld now have total control in my house without my own stand as a man in the house.

Even if I decided to reduce this so called calls, would that stop my mother inlaw from still pushing in more things to make her daughter get a free control over my own home.

Renny is 3months pregnant yet she insisted on d threat for divorce couple up with her mum influence in the case. Well, I still have up to 3weeks 2 sort this out! Bt the BIG question is how to handle it against future challenges.

O ti fe ma su mi o!

The meeting scheduled for the families couldn't hold cos Morenike denied being in a round table with dayo's family to resolve the matter. She insisted and gave me 3weeks to decide between her & dayo. She is a worker in the church we attend here,So I was thinking of calling our pastor about the issue before my mother inlaw call came in.

With all she told me on phone. I got to realize Morenike was acting on the advice from her mum.

Now the situation is getting out of hand! One, I hate the attitude of mother inlaws poke nosing in2 my. Own family affairs. I got to know that, she has been giving her mum an updates on the relationship between dayo & I. But instead of her mum 2 atleast advise her to sort it with me. She also insist her daughter would leave if I fail to sort out that undue bond with my friend.

As I said earlier, things are really heating up cos Morenike's mum isn't helping matters. I still don't understand why some mother inlaw create fun in the affairs of their daughter after marriage.

Morenike has given me a 3 weeks ultimatum to either be with her or face the consequence. I haven't given dayo the reason for the meeting cancellation. Right now, am still on a look out of the possible ways to go about the whole situation.

Now even if I finally decided to follow Morenike's wish, I still have other problem ahead, which will be that of Morenike's mum. I know if I allowed it now, it might result in2 a problem I might not be able to fix again for life.

Please what do I do to resolve this double crisis! Now, I have Morenike's mother backing her up, and even saying it with boldness that her daughter would leave......

I have not told dayo about the new development, but right now things are not really going good at all...I feel like given up!

Things are heating up ooO! The whole stuff is actually getting out of hand. I can't really type now but will give the house the update soon. So many people will find this unbelievable BUT its just to real to believe......hmmmmmmmmm! Still tinkn oooO!

coogar: this is a hard one to call but.......

talking 2 hours everyday with your friend is excessive but if this is the way it has always been even durint the courtship with your wife then she's got no excuses to complain. i get particularly peeved with women who just think they can walk in and change the status quo. if she was not happy about the bond between you and your friend, where was her voice before she married you?

the fact that she's threatened divorce also says a lot about her than the bond between you and your friend. if she wants to go, let her go. don't let anyone use any cheap emotional blackmail to destroy you. women? if the going gets rough tomorrow, she would be the first person to pack her bags and leave you. don't let any woman come between you and your friend. if my woman does not like my closeness to any of my friends from the onset, then she should not marry me!

It has been like that even before we got married. I met her here &
Our courtship lasted for like 8months before we finally got married.
What baffles me is the fact that during our courtship, she never mentioned or complain about us. But I noticed sometimes, she jokingly challenged me of it but later dropped it. But I didn't bother about that then not until she made her intention known now.
Well, I op 2 play maturity on this & if she can't bend her rules, then...

I am so happy with individual comments and contributions. Its nice seeing peoples personal view on this issue & sincerely, I have been able 2 pick out useful ideas which would be of a good step 2 handle the situation.

However, I have concluded in holding a meeting tomorrow after church service, which would bring both families together for a reasonable solution.

I hinted my wife about the meeting but shows no sign of interest. So am still doubting if she would make herself available for reconciliation.

@lovemejeje. Thanks so much for all the blunders, I don't have to exchange words with u. U even made mention of how stupid I was 2 have open up my personal affairs on an open forum.

What you don't know is that, a forum like this help individuals to know & understand the happenings around us. I don't see talking on my personal issue here as an act of stupidity. We learn everyday & I feel the best idea for me is 2 open up & seek peoples opinion so as 2 see how 2 correct things I see as being right which is wrong.

In conclusion, I must declare am so glad to read all comments & I hope this serve as a turning point to a change in all the areas that seems cloudy for a stability in my marriage.

Please, expect an update tomorrow by 7pm naija time cos we plan 2 hold the meeting after church service tomorrow.

Thanks a lot.

jidegirl12: OP and his 'best inseparable weird friend' are fvcking each other's behind <==========there I said it!

Poor woman ...AIDS is real

U must be a FOOL, omo iran kiran ni e! Am a well cultured man & tagging me with such means you are equally romancing in such a nasty act.

I wonder y somppu won't just keep quiet if they have notin gud 2 sa. Idiota!
Pls, I dnt av your tym now. Abo wa ba ni oro e! Off I go!

Nextworldnx: @OP, Don't mind the ladies here. While I was reading all along, I knew they were going to turn the whole issue into u and ur friend screwing each other. Be rest assured that there are some guys here who understand what u are talking about and can profer a solution to it.

Let me relate with u.
I currently have a very close friend from way back. We went dsame Secondary Sch., dsame university, tho he did Chemical Eng and I studied Mechanical. We use to live in dsame town until he got a Job with an Oil Coy in another state. Though, we are not married(Yet we manage our relationships well).

Now, we talk and hang-out all day long. Even when we are both separated by distance, we talk on phone all night long(including Nite calls). We talk about life,our business, our daily activities, our dreams, hopes and future. We help each other greatly every day(Funny enough, he is not the only one,I have about 3 others like that. We usually for hours on phone. But am too closely tied to dis my particular brother from another mother).

And when most of our girlfriends couldn't separate us, they called us GAYs! Well, it didn't bother us 'cos its all cheap black-mail(U must know that we detest anything homo all forms).

U might ask how we succeeded in keeping the girls at bay!
-We did exactly ur friend did, "warn the girls sternly". That this guy brought me to this level and I did same for him, and there is no way in Hell we are gonna drop each other for anybody. If she doesn't like it, she can kiss d dust.

Women will always be women, once they enter ur life, they chase away everything that u hold dear. People and things that were there for u when things was down, people and things that molded, built and shaped u into what and who u are right now and made u fit for them to befriend or marry. Those same people they want u to chase away so that when u come crashing down,they will pack their bag and baggages and leave u to wallow in misery and regrets.

My girlfriend knows it, she can't try that nonsense with me. My main guys first before her. Infact, she's got no choice now, she has made most of my pals her friends.

So OP, its ur choice,u married her she didn't marry u. Calling a Family or district meeting is not gonna solve a thing. Its about time u man up and stamp ur feet on the ground. If not, u are in for a long and rough ride if u continue to use logic and wisdom as u have been doing.

Just imaging, because ur friend stamp his authority and warned his wife to stay off ur friendship, NL girls are already concluding that u are gays. U see d blackmail I spoke about concerning these daughters of Eve.
My friend compromise/bulge on this issue and risk compromising/bulging on any other issue that concerns ur Sibblings/Parents in the nearest future.

I dey laff

Yh, I can feel u & am so so api you are in d film. Imagining what they are thinking. Wonder shall never end my brother. Just as you said, am standing on my feet as a Man. I married her & I have the right as a man 2 decide on what I want in my home.

Its not really funny at all. Am so happy reading ur comment. Cos dos words of yours just energized me.




Let all haters ladies in d house kiss the dust on the floor. That one na their cup of wahala
Thanks man!

Rocktation: Yes, as I've also noticed that you haven't exactly accepted any advice from anybody on this thread - both ladies and men together, that asks you to weaken the not-so-natural cohesion that's between you and your buddy, and thus, give more attentiveness to your wife's wishes. Which begs the question- is there more to this brotherhood, than you're letting on? Like a blood covenant or forgive my bluntness, twisted sexual orientation?
I mean, it's not like my right to demand the complete truth, BUT inquisitive minds cannot help, but wanna know!

Blood covenant cos of what? R we clued on rituals secrecy! That must b a joke of the century.

Twisted sexual orientation indeed! Well, am not sure u r making a good point on ur contributions. In as much as I seek ppls opinion on what to do, that doesn't make me a fool to ridicule inform of som1 willing to help or advice me on a critical issue that concerns me & my home.

If y need 2 ask Qs, Pls do me a favour of being diplomatic & flawless in d kind of words to use.

I kw am bound to receive so many sarcastic response on this thread but at d sametime, ppl shld mind what to sa in the cause of given advise.

Non of ur Qs deserves an answer cos they r notin but craps from a processing plant.

I read all comments from ppl including u. I have taken note of everything & I op 2 call the meeting if possible to allow her open up & state her grievances so as to see how 2 work on it to close up d headache.

@luvmijeje, I don't know what kind of reply to give to you personally, all I will say 4 now is thank u 4 following up with d thread. Atleast u showed concern thatz y u r here to comment. E se pupo. Thanks a lot.

bukatyne: I want to believe my eyes are deceiving me @ the bolded.

Your friend warned his wife NOT to poke nose into your friendship?
Your wife is strong headed because she doesn't feel comfortable with your friendship with Dayo?
You are willing to let your wife go for your friendship?

Mbok, tell us what is really going on so we can advise you.

Could you please make what you saw known to people so that they also would align it with yours for a solid solution. I noticed comments from ladies seems to be partially in support of her attitude instead of bringing a balance to it.


Besides, I don't know other information you need me to provide that I have not stated on my post! If you have an exceptional questions that would make things better for me & my family, please go ahead. @least I have time now 2 reply! Just closed from work.

luvmijeje: Eeeeehn,so she should be grateful that her husband come home everyday to spend time with his friend instead of her? To be grateful that his husband considered his friendship more important than his marriage? He even has to report his wife to his friend.! One chance!
I'm not saying he should not spend time with his friend but his wife happiness should also matter to him.

Report my wife to my friend? Nope! He hates coming in2 our issues, and always tell me 2 handle my family affair myself without a third party. How I wish you people have the feelings of the kind of person Dayo is! He made it clear to me that our wives are friends especially here where you have no other families apart from the one's around us.

I still don't understand her problems & promise 2 get back here to you guyz on our conclusion.

Carius: Inasmuch as we try to disprove this or ridicule it,the fact still remains that IT IS TRUE!some people are a fragrance while some are an odour.

Abi oooO! Thumb up 4 u man!

tsmith: What marks a man from a boy is how he is able to adequately manage his relationships. It's okay to talk for hours when you are single, but as a married person, one needs to learn to repioritise and realign one's requirements. Your top obligations now is to your immediate family.

Your wife threatening you is nothing but a cry for your attention, read in between the lines and salvage your marriage now before its too late. And to anyone saying the wife needs to get a life or occupied, that's only wedging a bridge that is destined for destruction.

I'm only speaking from someone who has toiled similar lines and hubby now crying over split milk.

Tx tsmith.

Rocktation: But seriously, what d'you discuss with a man for two hours everyday, over the phone? Surely you resolve some of the issues you discuss on each day, without having to relive the discussions, on another day naaaa! Or is it that you just got married and away from each other? It is absurd, walahi.

Wife and husband alike, crave attention, for mental stimulation if nothing else. Denying her for reasons not so tangible as "gisting with my guy", is even having no concept of respect for her. You have a life and need your space, but so does she and yet she makes time for both of you. Imagine if she digs up a friend now and begins to call her everyday, for two hours before bedtime...after your own call session. Hmmn.

Being truly committed to your marriage, means that you are willing to take sacrifices to keep it alive. The challenge is that the commitment to taking active steps to maintain the union, means that you may not get your way in certain areas. Reduce all those calls oga, or call him in your free time at work. Don't use another's reggae to spoil your own blues abeg.

I don advice you my own be dat oo.

Well, I don't kw what to say as per your comment. I feel she is just getting jealous unnecessarily. As regards your suggestion, if she decided to pick up calls from any of her female friends too. Franklyspeaking, I won't mind if that will make her happy.
The person in question help her get the materials for her PLAB exams & other stuffz. This person is not just a friend but a brother from another woman ready to do anything for us as a family.

My dear, I can't be given u details of my family on NL. But he has done a lot for her too especially when she was pregnant. His wife don't really complain cos he told me he has warned her never to pokenose into our affair.

But my own wife seems to be strong headed that won't just listen or understand but all she intend to do is 2 dish out the threat of a divorce.

As I said, I will call both party to a meeting on sunday, then I will give the house details on our conclusion. I pray it works, but if things go wrong, I have no choice than to let her go. I respect her a lot & I love her and I don't expect such from a woman that care & love her husband.

Besides, am so grateful for all your advise & suggestions.

Yield: You're contradicting yourself.

Well, thanks for your contribution. Ur comments are well noted.

jnr prof: I don't see anything wrong with the closeness you have with your friend. I'm sure she knew how tight u guys were before the marriage. I'll just ask you and your friend to check closely and ensure that you're not neglecting your wives in any way. As long as you give her attention when she needs it, or respond to her when she calls u, there's no problem. She's just jealous, let her get over it. Thankfully your best friend isn't female so there can't be any allegations of infidelity. I've been that close to a friend before and pple began to say all sorts, so i understand how it is. It takes someone having such a close friend that you can call a brother and would stand by you no matter what happens that'll understand. Maybe u should do as you have suggested: bring both families together for a meeting.

Thx a lot jr prof. Really app8t

alutacontinua: Maybe u shld move dis to the family section. But then, seems lyk she might av her reasons. You come back from work, let's assume by 6.00pm and spend 2 hours with ur friend on phone. Let's assume u call ur parents and oda pple too for about about 1 hour too. Dt leaves about an hour or two with ur wife and children before u go to bed. Don't u think u might actually be putting ur friendship before ur family


Also, let's even assume u're ready to give up ut marriage for ur friendship, are u ready to sacrifice ur friend's fanily too since he said his wyf is complaining

I think u know u av a bit of fault, u just don't want to be told what to do bu ur wyf.

If u face ur wyf and give her attention, i doubt she actually would want to come in between u and ur best friend. U're both married now and dt means ur friendship has become secondary.

What kind of attention again? Cos most times when we don't go to work we are always together

Kgdavid: grown men shuld not spend so much time talkin to each other on the phone, your wife probably feels ignored and neglected during that period!

I agreed with your comment. But the truth is that we talk about so many things that will better our life. He helped me with the HSMP program I used 2 enter uk. We don't talk about girls or anything nasty. We talk about his projects, his challenges and I share mine with him. He always advise me even when my wife misbehaves. He is such a good friend and a brother.

mentorken05: From what I read...I can say that he is more than a brother to you.let ur wife get dat into her head.Ask her why she hates him around and if there is no good reason from her,den don't listen to her.am sorry but as for me,I can't loose my brother from another mother special thanks to unmeaningless request from my wife... Meanwhile 1st to comment...dancing azonto

Abi oooO, its really crazy. Thanks so much jare

Yield: Another way for people to start blaming others for their misfortunes.

This is never a way of blaming people for any misfortune. Its real life scenario. May be you should raise the issue in the presence of your mother or grandmother and feed me back on their own opinion on it. Its REAL & No one is tagging any misfortune of anybody against eachother.

Yield: Another way for people to start blaming others for their misfortunes.

This is never a way of blaming people for any misfortune. Its real life thing. May be you should raise the issue in the presence of your mother or grandmother ans see what they would have to say about it. Its REAL & No one is tagging any misfortune of anybody against eachother.

I don't really know how to handle this case cos its becoming a huge problem between me & my wife. I have tried to play it to the best of my knowledge but the situation is not getting in anyway better.

I & dayo have been friends for more than 15yrs. We grew up together those days in Ibadan and fortunately, we attended the same university to study different courses. We were in the same faculty of Engineering but different department.

The university I attended is without school accommodation, so we got an apartment close to eachother & sometimes he comes to my place & I go there too.

He loves Beans a lot back then and he happens 2 b a good cook. So most times, I visited him cos of the beans, laced up with Gari egba @ night.

However, we graduated & I was posted to delta state while he went to IMo state. Even at that, he comes to my place. I served in an oil & Gas company and we had enough money to spend.

I used to give him enough money those days cos he was given just a small allawe which cnt take care of all his needs.

After our youth service, I was retained & he moved to the uk for his masters courtesy of the little money I made during my service year.

After 3yrs, I moved too curtesy of him & he helped with part of the bills cos he was working and studying then.

He got married and after about a year I got to uk and I did mine too almost immediately.

But lately, I have been having issues with my wife over the closeness between me & dayo. we have a free calls to ourselves on O2 network. So we talk virtually everyday for more than two hour after work. And weekends,like saturdays, we move from weekend free landline to landline call to skype.

Just yesterday my wife warned me to desist from such altitude or face divorce.

Please, I need decent people in the house to advise me. I can't ask him to stop calling me or visiting me. He once told me about his wife having similar problem with our friendship too. We are just normal friends with no string attached.

Do I call both families together to resolve it or ignore the threat from my wife.

Thanks so much for taken your time to read.

redcliff: [size=14pt]really dint get the covering face with one finger part. wonder what that has to do with Grades on your cv[/size]

Don't mind the HIM jare! Iregbe!