naijababe: OP, I empathise o, really do, but you'll have to buckle up both mentally and emotionally if you are going to be in this marriage for the long haul. A man who treats his wife like your hubby does when she's 9 months pregnant either has a heart of stone or is outright wicked. It does appear like you already knew but you made excuses for him, you have some serious thinking to do post birth.

Godspeed and best-wishes for your safe and sound delivery.

Jonwesley: I think you are just lazy, perhaps naive too and living in ur past. Ur first pregnancy, and the heavens must fall becos u claim ur husband isn't caring enough. The ladies wld obviously support ur naivety, but that won't help u anyway. Ur husband may not do all u said, becos he is what he is while u are a melancholy, who prods for trouble where non exists. Do u think it is better to be single? Do u not know what is is to be a wife? This is common among underaged or inmature ladies who expects their husbands to praise sing for them becos they don carry belle. Who sai, na u be the first or wetin? Abegi. There are more things u ve not said but only painted the facts that u want us to hear. I advise u brace up to ur marriage and avoid anything that cld create bad feelings and crack to ur marriage. Marriage is not a bed of roses, if u hear other pple's stories u will come and praise ur husband. Keep quiet.

Jonwesley: I think you are just lazy, perhaps naive too and living in ur past. Ur first pregnancy, and the heavens must fall becos u claim ur husband isn't caring enough. The ladies wld obviously support ur naivety, but that won't help u anyway. Ur husband may not do all u said, becos he is what he is while u are a melancholy, who prods for trouble where non exists. Do u think it is better to be single? Do u not know what is is to be a wife? This is common among underaged or inmature ladies who expects their husbands to praise sing for them becos they don carry belle. Who sai, na u be the first or wetin? Abegi. There are more things u ve not said but only painted the facts that u want us to hear. I advise u brace up to ur marriage and avoid anything that cld create bad feelings and crack to ur marriage. Marriage is not a bed of roses, if u hear other pple's stories u will come and praise ur husband. Keep quiet.

Sisi_Kill: ^^^^ OP's husband. . .is that you?

preciouso: Your story is so much like mine. I will tell you seriously, dont stress yourself! i learned the hard way, i lost my baby at d end of pregnancy and all the time i cant help ask myself o maybe the stress cause it. My hubby is no better now, even after the death of our own child he still acts d same. Cant get any compassion from him, he still wants me up cooking, cleaning, working, seeing to his every need without even considering my heartache. Its hard dear but you must pull through it, when your baby is born that baby will brighten your days. Divorce is not an option so dont mind them that advise you to leave, just learn to love yourself and your baby first and foremost. Takia sweetheart, pls go put your feet up today and rest for the 2 weeks. Wishing you safe delivery xx

fantababy: @Chaircover,

Yes he is same person. Fiance turned husband now.

@2mch, I can confidently say I have learnt how to handle my mood swings. I am a very learned person and read books to help make me a better person. Directing him to this page is no good, he never admits wrong. He is ever right! Catch him red handed with another lady, and he would turn the tables at you. And you would end up being the one crawling and begging.

Jonwesley: I think you are just lazy, perhaps naive too and living in ur past. Ur first pregnancy, and the heavens must fall becos u claim ur husband isn't caring enough. The ladies wld obviously support ur naivety, but that won't help u anyway. Ur husband may not do all u said, becos he is what he is while u are a melancholy, who prods for trouble where non exists. Do u think it is better to be single? Do u not know what is is to be a wife? This is common among underaged or inmature ladies who expects their husbands to praise sing for them becos they don carry belle. Who sai, na u be the first or wetin? Abegi. There are more things u ve not said but only painted the facts that u want us to hear. I advise u brace up to ur marriage and avoid anything that cld create bad feelings and crack to ur marriage. Marriage is not a bed of roses, if u hear other pple's stories u will come and praise ur husband. Keep quiet.

uyogabie: My dear,you are not alone!sounds exactly like like what ive been going Through.The only difference is that I have three kids now and went through same and even worse.I got used to it after the first one and learnt alot.I have God as my sole companion as no one will understant exactly how it feels.Do things that will bring you joy and try as much as you can to ignore his attitude,just overlook it and focus more on your baby.That will be your prize.My last babies,i had twins,was it fun?hell no!I did all my chores,drove myself,cook for him and his friends.At the end,i had a very high BP.he didnt even give a hoot.His Sisters came around to help with the kids and my!did she give me hell!i was so depressed and heartbroken it's a wonder i didnt loose my mind.I guess some of us arent so lucky.You'll pull through my dear.the Lord is your strenght!

Enoquin: @fantababy everyone has harped on everything, so mine is an aside. Kindly PM me, if you like reading. I would send you some of my very short stories...at least anything to take your mind off things.
Take care and Godspeed

Mod All these pictures are distractions. My dear OP look at yourself again. The guy is right, you are not the first to get pregnant. remember this guy is marrying for the first time, you are also being a wife for the first time. You are the first babe he is living with in such strange mood swings. He is seeing your disfigured shape for the first time. He is trying to cope with his new experience, but you are not letting him. your man may not be the best of men, certainly he is not the worst. YOU NAG A LOT. The pictures you paint here brings my MADAM RIGHT WIFE to the fore. Your man gets moody too.

Pregnancy is challenging, no doubt. Being loved is different from being pampered. If he cooks for you today, any day he fails to cook, NTA will read it. In between your lines, I can read that he loves you. Only play boys pamper. Real men love and care. Drop that pampering demand please. the chase is long over. You are now husband and wife, not boyfriend and girlfriend. We have three kids, I can't remember ever boiling water for my wife; though we had a helper. Good, you often apologize after accusing him falsely that he is into extra marital game. Those who play about don't show the babes to their wives. Wake up. Melancholy or whatever is an academic path for sympathy. My grand mother who equally was, knew no such, yet coped.

Please may this be the only side advise you are seeking about your marriage. Never bring any third party into your home else prepare in time to join the long list of divorced babes. Start the pampering, may be he will learn. Any how, think of a helper and do not run your mouth. Good luck.

preciouso: Your story is so much like mine. I will tell you seriously, dont stress yourself! i learned the hard way, i lost my baby at d end of pregnancy and all the time i cant help ask myself o maybe the stress cause it. My hubby is no better now, even after the death of our own child he still acts d same. Cant get any compassion from him, he still wants me up cooking, cleaning, working, seeing to his every need without even considering my heartache. Its hard dear but you must pull through it, when your baby is born that baby will brighten your days. Divorce is not an option so dont mind them that advise you to leave, just learn to love yourself and your baby first and foremost. Takia sweetheart, pls go put your feet up today and rest for the 2 weeks. Wishing you safe delivery xx

Ujujoan: @ Poster

Please STOP playing the perfect wife!

Your concerns now should be the health of your child and not trying to ensure your husband goes to work with a lunch box! Isn't there any mama put close to his office? Why do you keep complicating things for yourself.

Listen, a man will only remain stubborn and strong headed if you let him.

Once in a while go all cr[i]az[/i]y on him so he'll know you can also be stubborn.

Dont, I repeat DONT, let a man get away with treating you badly, no matter what!

If he refuses to give you a pillow, snatch it from him and hit his head with it.

If he refuses to put off the ac, switch it off yourself and break the controls to pieces.

Yes you are tempramental, it's your right as a 9-month old pregnant wife!

Stubborn men only respect you when you show them your own strenght. Trust me, I'm talking from experience.

I belive that any woman can make her man into who/what she wants him to be. If you try the gentle way and it's not working, then get violent.

Remember this is only the beginning. When you have your child things will get tougher. You CANNOT cope with your husband if you keep letting him get away with all that.

Just my 2 cents!

naijababe:

You mean you are content and will continue to hope he sees the light? This one na self-hate o.



I don't know about this advice o, madman pass madman! Dude might actually beat her and claim she made him do it.

Ujujoan:

He's already beating her EMOTIONALLY. The bad thing about that is that there's no evidence. How do you tell your mother-in-law that her son doesn't cook for you. She may hardly relate with that. But show her a bruise and he's in big trouble.

Beleive me, men know these things. Sometimes you beat them at their onw game.

The idea is making them see you less as the weaker sex. If they see strength in you, they'll think twice before they treat you badly.

naijababe:

Agree that she being abused emotionally but why risk adding physical abuse to it especially when she's pregnant ? And how can you be sure the MIL will not takes sides with her son? She should just take care of no 1 (herself)first and avoid confrontation(s) with him until she delivers.

Ujujoan: @ Poster
If he refuses to give you a pillow, snatch it from him and hit his head with it.

If he refuses to put off the ac, switch it off yourself and break the controls to pieces.

Yes you are tempramental, it's your right as a 9-month old pregnant wife!

Stubborn men only respect you when you show them your own strenght. Trust me, I'm talking from experience.
Just my 2 cents!

kay9:

This might just work. I know it'll work with me. The pillow part got me laffing though.

I'm a lil stiff-headed myself; i'd want my wife bold enough to show me that i've offended her.
But make she no try am if i didnt do nothing o!!

gboss4sure: Your story is very touching and I feel very angry eith your hobby, I advise that you take up the advices of the first commenter (ifyalways). Also if your mother inlaw is a nice woman as you said then get her to be with you, you need her more than before now. I understand how first pregnancy are to some women but that does not in anyway call for the way your husband is treating you. Just get your mother inlaw as she is a woman and can understand everything.

Also don't bury your problem, share it with your mother inlaw and trusted family members who your husband respect so that they will call him to order.