Who is she trying to impress? I ask because obviously men will admire them and being married, one would think she understands that she shouldn't do anything that will make other men who are not her husband well... "hit on her". What are your thoughts?

I think I know whom you're referring to.

Well, like you say, she IS married so that's for her & her hubby to worry about - not you. To each, their own.

In the meantime you can help yourself, by resisting the temptation to look at her pics. That way, you won't be "hitting" on her unconsciously.

maclatunji: Who is she trying to impress? I ask because obviously men will admire them and being married, one would think she understands that she shouldn't do anything that will make other men who are not her husband well... "hit on her". What are your thoughts?

Do people post pictures of themselves so that they can get 'hit on'

Maybe they are just doing something as simple as sharing moments of their lives with family and friends who are far away!

Ujujoan:

Do people post pictures of themselves so that they can get 'hit on'

This is one of the reasons I started this thread. I want to know if married woman consciously prevent themselves from posting photos that for all intent and purposes may be deemed "sexy". The reason I ask is they would then get comments like, "looking good", "fine girl", "fine mama", "looking cute and sexy". It does make me wonder if a married woman should be doing such? Personally, I believe it opens doors that should be closed especially as a married woman.

If it is a single lady, you could probably say she is being exuberant, seeking attention, looking for a husband etc. But for a married woman, these things shouldn't apply or come into play at all.

I am sure most husbands wouldn't appreciate such.

Efemena_xy: I think I know whom you're referring to.

I seriously doubt that.

maclatunji:

This is one of the reasons I started this thread. I want to know if married woman consciously prevent themselves from posting photos that for all intent and purposes may be deemed "sexy". The reason I ask is they would then get comments like, "looking good", "fine girl", "fine mama", "looking cute and sexy". It does make me wonder if a married woman should be doing such? Personally, I believe it opens doors that should be closed especially as a married woman.

If it is a single lady, you could probably say she is being exuberant, seeking attention, looking for a husband etc. But for a married woman, these things shouldn't apply or come into play at all.

I am sure most husbands wouldn't appreciate such.

Doors that should be closed

As in married women don't deserve to be complimented on their looks

You make marriage sound like the end of the world. For most women, it's only the beginning.

Take me for example, I'm not really the make-up or dressing-up type. But ever since I got married, my husband insists I dress sexy, make up, wear flasy colours e.t.c! Of course I get more compliments now than I did in my single days. Does that mean I'm fishing for these compliments

As for posting pictures on the internet, I beleive people should be free to express themselves anyhow they want, with or without being married. As far as it doesn't exceed decent boundaries, there's no need to limit a woman in the the name of marriage. Simple!

Ujujoan:

Doors that should be closed

As in married women don't deserve to be complimented on their looks

You make marriage sound like the end of the world. For most women, it's only the beginning.

Take me for example, I'm not really the make-up or dressing-up type. But ever since I got married, my husband insists I dress sexy, make up, wear flasy colours e.t.c! Of course I get more compliments now than I did in my single days. Does that mean I'm fishing for these compliments

As for posting pictures on the internet, I beleive people should be free to express themselves anyhow they want, with or without being married. As far as it doesn't exceed decent boundaries, there's no need to limit a woman in the the name of marriage. Simple!

So in effect, there is hardly any difference in the way you engage with the public from your time as spinster and now as a wife?

I appreciate your insights.

maclatunji:

So in effect, there is hardly any difference in the way you engage with the public from your time as spinster and now as a wife?

I appreciate your insights.

True! But then I've never been one to 'splash' pictures on social media!

BTW Why are talking of women only? Men also 'splash' their pictures online. I once saw a shirtless picture of a married man online and I was like WTF! My disgust wasn't from the fact that he was married though, I mean why would any decent man upload a picture of himself bare chested

But I have to admit that him being married made it even worse!

My mother was asking me what exactly my problem with Nigerian men is, I responded with 'even if he is the nicest guy, he seems perfect, handles all his issues right, is open, is honest blah blah- there isn't a day he won't come out with bulshit that will make me divorce him in a split second'

This topic is a prime example- the op may be the most innocent, polite nicest man or whatever, but his mentality and his views are 1st world sickening. Does marriage=bondage?

is putting your photos on a website simply a means to attract attention? You never heard of sharing? I guess you also believe your wife shouldnt have male or unmarried friends and if they are they should be ugly and or crippled.

Nigerian men are inherently insecure, the insecurity is translated into all sorts of nonsense standards to be upheld. Its nothing but hogwash and bulsh*t

queensmith: My mother was asking me what exactly my problem with Nigerian men is, I responded with 'even if he is the nicest guy, he seems perfect, handles all his issues right, is open, is honest blah blah- there isn't a day he won't come out with bulshit that will make me divorce him in a split second'

This topic is a prime example- the op may be the most innocent, polite nicest man or whatever, but his mentality and his views are 1st world sickening. Does marriage=bondage?

is putting your photos on a website simply a means to attract attention? You never heard of sharing? I guess you also believe your wife shouldnt have male or unmarried friends and if they are they should be ugly and or crippled.

Nigerian men are inherently insecure, the insecurity is translated into all sorts of nonsense standards to be upheld. Its nothing but hogwash and bulsh*t

This babe is on fire! Lol

I really don't blame them dou. This mentality was handed down to them by their fathers and their fathers' fathers!

It won't change over night. Doesn't make them bad men and is not enough grounds for divorce either.

Take am easy my sister!

queensmith: My mother was asking me what exactly my problem with Nigerian men is, I responded with 'even if he is the nicest guy, he seems perfect, handles all his issues right, is open, is honest blah blah- there isn't a day he won't come out with bulshit that will make me divorce him in a split second'

This topic is a prime example- the op may be the most innocent, polite nicest man or whatever, but his mentality and his views are 1st world sickening. Does marriage=bondage?

is putting your photos on a website simply a means to attract attention? You never heard of sharing? I guess you also believe your wife shouldnt have male or unmarried friends and if they are they should be ugly and or crippled.

Nigerian men are inherently insecure, the insecurity is translated into all sorts of nonsense standards to be upheld. Its nothing but hogwash and bulsh*t

Good luck with your marriage to a non-typical "Nigerian" man.

I dont think I will ever post my pic on the net. A few years ago some nairalanders asked me to and all I did was post the pic of a friends younger sister still in uni then to shut them up.

A size 2 girl she was. A few people that wanted to know what I looked like got that same pic both offline and online and with the girls permission of course.

Sorry but I just couldn't risk posting my sexy pic online not because I look too good and too hawt to handle but because I owe nobody nothing. My pic is for me and my family

^^ GBAM!!

I tink it is a warnin to d husband that they are stil marketable .hence,he shud learn to appreciate her.

Efemena_xy: ^^ GBAM!!

Ahn Ahn them no let me rest. Jenny we wanno see you everyday naim dem dey beg. So all I Did was use a friends sisters pic(kenyan girl) light in complexion and me I am pure charcoal, to confuse them. Why will I post a pic of my hot and sexy self on NLD like I owe them anything? Please I am a married woman and the reason why some of us post freely here is because our identities are not known. Me, I will even give you fake name join if you no let me rest

I am too sexy to prove to anyone but my husband abeg. Beyonce gat nothing on me

Only a few naralanders have seen me physically and mehnnn did they blush for my mind o

jennykadry:

Ahn Ahn them no let me rest. Jenny we wanno see you everyday naim dem dey beg. So all I Did was use a friends sisters pic(kenyan girl) light in complexion and me I am pure charcoal, to confuse them. Why will I post a pic of my hot and sexy self on NLD like I owe them anything? Please I am a married woman and the reason why some of us post freely here is because our identities are not known. Me, I will even give you fake name join if you no let me rest

I am too sexy to prove to anyone but my husband abeg. Beyonce gat nothing on me

Only a few naralanders have seen me physically and mehnnn did they blush for my mind o

LOL!

Seriously they were asking you to post a pic? Why na? Where was I sef when all this was happening ?

engrtee: I tink it is a warnin to d husband that they are stil marketable .hence,he shud learn to appreciate her.

Wow! If a woman has to act in such a manner to "get appreciated" or "feel appreciated" by her husband, then there is something wrong with that marriage.

Ujujoan:

LOL!

Seriously they were asking you to post a pic? Why na? Where was I sef when all this was happening ?

My popularity did not start now, it happened in the romance section in 08-09. Even osisi had to post her own pic just to convince me to post mine I remember osisi's pic "hawt mama". Trust my Igbo sister to post a Pi of herself and IMO state ex governor then

jennykadry:

My popularity did not start now, it happened in the romance section in 08-09. Even osisi had to post her own pic just to convince me to post mine I remember osisi's pic "hawt mama". Trust my Igbo sister to post a Pi of herself and IMO state ex governor then

You wan try, una must respect na . . .

Ndi NL a sef!

OP, mind ya biz. You asked for my thoughts?there, you've got it.Your opinion, no matter how right or noble it may sound to your ears does NOT count in another mans house and when you try so hard to shove it down anyones throat, you appear highly silllly.
Wait, na e-jelousy dey worry you sef?all ye dorty okoro- ngbatic ugly things.all h-enemies must quench.
Now,I miss AJ
And to hit home, I'm splashing my pictures all over this thread, hit your head for wall.
Rofl.

Lol. The picture was rejected oh. My face wan crash Seun server.
Mac, on a Monday?welldone .

ifyalways: Lol. The picture was rejected oh. My face wan crash Seun server.
Mac, on a Monday?welldone .

Hardly slept last night. My brain has to step-down.

Backward Nigerian men, next we will hear is , IS IT OKAY TO TRAIN MY GIRL CHILD? SINCE SHE WILL BE OWNED BY ANOTHER MAN ONE DAY.
Don't let your wife take photos, don't let her leave the house(Even though you go about fucking small girls everyday) don't let her go anywhere o. Cos your prick is her master.
Habba woman cannot eat carrot or cucumber woman should stop wearing bra, woman should not be educated, woman should kneel down and present food and water, woman should wait in room and make sure she greets oga first cos its a crime for oga to wake up go to the kitchen hug his darling from behind and say good mornning dear how was your night? Its taboo for Nigerian men. Woman should not use makeup , woman should then be bought and locked in ya papa's house nau while goats and cows roam free.

hannydarl: Backward Nigerian men, next we will hear is , IS IT OKAY TO TRAIN MY GIRL CHILD? SINCE SHE WILL BE OWNED BY ANOTHER MAN ONE DAY.
Don't let your wife take photos, don't let her leave the house(Even though you go about fucking small girls everyday) don't let her go anywhere o. Cos your prick is her master.
Habba woman cannot eat carrot or cucumber woman should stop wearing bra, woman should not be educated, woman should kneel down and present food and water, woman should wait in room and make sure she greets oga first cos its a crime for oga to wake up go to the kitchen hug his darling from behind and say good mornning dear how was your night? Its taboo for Nigerian men. Woman should not use makeup , woman should then be bought and locked in ya papa's house nau while goats and cows roam free.

Are you done or is there more to come?

maclatunji:

Are you done or is there more to come?

Lol . . . Who send you go buy market

maclatunji:

Are you done or is there more to come?

Go ask the person that gave you the message of not allowing women post photo if there is more don't dos for us to come. So we women can prepare.
Insecure man using woman to show power. I pity your wife. Inshort sef its your type that women cook and eat on their heads. Come to nairaland and ask crazy question. Unrepantant adulterer looking at womens photos all over the internet and in true fashion of a cave man blames the woman for glueing his eyes to her photo.

jennykadry:

Ahn Ahn them no let me rest. Jenny we wanno see you everyday naim dem dey beg. So all I Did was use a friends sisters pic(kenyan girl) light in complexion and me I am pure charcoal, to confuse them. Why will I post a pic of my hot and sexy self on NLD like I owe them anything? Please I am a married woman and the reason why some of us post freely here is because our identities are not known. Me, I will even give you fake name join if you no let me rest

I am too sexy to prove to anyone but my husband abeg. Beyonce gat nothing on me

Only a few naralanders have seen me physically and mehnnn did they blush for my mind o

Can you post your sexy picture to my blackberry messenger bold 4 pls

ifyalways: OP, mind ya biz. You asked for my thoughts?there, you've got it.
And to hit home, I'm splashing my pictures all over this thread, hit your head for wall.
Rofl.

Waiting

Ujujoan:

Lol . . . Who send you go buy market

my baby mama

we get talk o

maclatunji: Who is she trying to impress? I ask because obviously men will admire them and being married, one would think she understands that she shouldn't do anything that will make other men who are not her husband well... "hit on her". What are your thoughts?

Is she nakid?

hannydarl:

Go ask the person that gave you the message of not allowing women post photo if there is more don't dos for us to come. So we women can prepare.
Insecure man using woman to show power. I pity your wife. Inshort sef its your type that women cook and eat on their heads. Come to nairaland and ask crazy question. Unrepantant adulterer looking at womens photos all over the internet and in true fashion of a cave man blames the woman for glueing his eyes to her photo.

LMFSO! Tell me what happened to you that made you like this?

Sisi_Kill:
Is she nakid?

No.

hannydarl:

Go ask the person that gave you the message of not allowing women post photo if there is more don't dos for us to come. So we women can prepare.
Insecure man using woman to show power. I pity your wife. Inshort sef its your type that women cook and eat on their heads. Come to nairaland and ask crazy question. Unrepantant adulterer looking at womens photos all over the internet and in true fashion of a cave man blames the woman for glueing his eyes to her photo.

Ahan now . . . stop attacking Mac like that. He's just asking a question!

r231:

Waiting




my baby mama

we get talk o

Oya let's meet under that our mango tree