Christians generally don't marry more than a wife.In fact,I haven't seen a regular church goer who has wives.As a muslim,I've asked several christian friends of mine why this is so and so far none of them have been able to quote a biblical verse to justify their claim.I therefore bring this question to my fellow Nairalanders-Why is polygamy not allowed in christianity? Thank you.

Saint paris: Polygamy is for lustful men.

why do you think so?

Abd'Hafeez:

why do you think so?

it is for "weak" people who easily succumb to temptations and desires and have no control over it.

In christainity, marriage involves a man and a woman coming together to become one. The holy book never instructed christains to marry beyond one wife. It never said, 'and for this reason a man wil leave his family...and join his 'wifes' . A people live their lifes based on the faith that defines them....
You may ask why . This is because no man can rise above been partial in the exhibition of love to multiple wifes. The idea is to help the husband rise above hate, along with maintaining the Edenic tradition. Above all, the bible instructed us to marry only one wife.

PAGAN 9JA:


it is for "weak" people who easily succumb to temptations and desires and have no control over it.

is that why its forbidden?

Abd'Hafeez:

is that why its forbidden?

i dont know. you monotheists forbid everything. this was my personal view.

there is no forbidding in Pagan religions. only a sense of what is right and what is wrong. we dont care whether it is for good or for bad.


*forbiddng or not, that is the duty of the Kingship/ruler/chiefship/govt.

PAGAN 9JA:


it is for "weak" people who easily succumb to temptations and desires and have no control over it.

This is perfect. In other words, it discourages lust and serve as a test for self-control.

Reyginus: In christainity, marriage involves a man and a woman coming together to become one. The holy book never instructed christains to marry beyond one wife. It never said, 'and for this reason a man wil leave his family...and join his 'wifes' . A people live their lifes based on the faith that defines them....
You may ask why . This is because no man can rise above been partial in the exhibition of love to multiple wifes. The idea is to help the husband rise above hate, along with maintaining the Edenic tradition. Above all, the bible instructed us to marry only one wife.

Of course but neither did it say that no man should marry more than one wife.my point is that both is allowed.If you can only have a wife,thats good but if you want to have more than one,well,thats fine.that's how it is in the bible.

Abd'Hafeez:

Of course but neither did it say that no man should marry more than one wife.my point is that both is allowed.If you can only have a wife,thats good but if you want to have more than one,well,thats fine.

how about a woman having more than one husband what is your take on that? or are you telling me that your religion is gender-biased

PAGAN 9JA:


i dont know. you monotheists forbid everything. this was my personal view.

there is no forbidding in Pagan religions. only a sense of what is right and what is wrong. we dont care whether it is for good or for bad.


*forbiddng or not, that is the duty of the Kingship/ruler/chiefship/govt.

Its not wrong either to be polygamous.I think its by choice,if a man feels he's capable of marrying more than one,why not?

Abd'Hafeez:

Its not wrong either to be polygamous.I think its by choice,if a man feels he's capable of marrying more than one,why not?

answer this:

PAGAN 9JA:



how about a woman having more than one husband what is your take on that? or are you telling me that your religion is gender-biased

Why doesn't Islam allow women to have more than a husband? Why doesn't it allow men to have husbands, or women to have wives?

wiegraf: Why doesn't it allow men to have husbands, or women to have wives?

that is against the law of nature. those are rare abnormal cases. lets keep it to normal relationships.

PAGAN 9JA:


answer this:

Polyandry creates a lot of problem.
One of them is the Identity of the child,though that can be solved through DNA test,its still not the best option.
Also,a woman married to many husbands won't be able to attend to their various needs at the same time.there's bound to be a clash.

PAGAN 9JA:


answer this:

Polyandry creates a lot of problem.
One of them is the Identity of the child,though that can be solved through DNA test,its still not the best option.
Also,a woman married to many husbands won't be able to attend to their various needs at the same time.there's bound to be a clash.

Abd'Hafeez:

Polyandry creates a lot of problem.
One of them is the Identity of the child,though that can be solved through DNA test,its still not the best option.

does it matter, as long as the child is well looked after by the mother?

Also,a woman married to many husbands won't be able to attend to their various needs at the same time.there's bound to be a clash.

same vice versa.it is the womans choice just as it is the mans choice.



anyways the point i am trying to make is that both, Polygamy and Polyandry create problems. in polygamy, there is lot of rivalry between women and jealousy and ill-treatment many-a-times.

There's Nothing like gender inequality,the male has his functions and the female has hers.

PAGAN 9JA:


does it matter, as long as the child is well looked after by the mother?



same vice versa.it is the womans choice just as it is the mans choice.



anyways the point i am trying to make is that both, Polygamy and Polyandry create problems. in polygamy, there is lot of rivalry between women and jealousy and ill-treatment many-a-times.

Jealousy arises when there's inequality in treating them,and thats why Islam attached that condition before its allowed.

PAGAN 9JA:


that is against the law of nature. those are rare abnormal cases. lets keep it to normal relationships.

I'm confused, what laws of natures do you speak of? Or homosexuality is not observed in other species?
You ignore gay rights, you're being a hypocrite. Simple.

Edit: really, how in the world are you an expert on 'normal' relationships?

Abd'Hafeez:
There's Nothing like gender inequality,the male has his functions and the female has hers.

who are you to decide on these social functions and roles. do you know women go for work these days and dont just look after kids just saying. .

Abd'Hafeez:

Jealousy arises when there's inequality in treating them,and thats why Islam attached that condition before its allowed.

then why didnt they attach some kind of law for polyandry as well. such as (for example) a woman can marry another husband only when she has given birth to all the children she could through the first one.

wiegraf:

I'm confused, what laws of natures do you speak of? Or homosexuality is not observed in other species?
You ignore gay rights, you're being a hypocrite. Simple.

Edit: really, how in the world are you an expert on 'normal' relationships?

im really confused on gays. it doesnt occur much among other creatures if at all neither among my people. i have not reserved my judgement on this yet.

PAGAN 9JA:


im really confused on gays. it doesnt occur much among other creatures if at all neither among my people. i have not reserved my judgement on this yet.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexual_behavior_in_animals

Even if it didn't occur much in nature, that's besides the point. What in the world gives you the right to tell other people how to live their lives when they aren't harming you in any way? Your opinion is completely irrelevant. I personally am sometimes uncomfortable with homosexuality, but what does that have to do with what they can and cannot do? So because I don't like it that means they can't do it? Would you appreciate it if I came in and burned all you idols and whatnot and persecuted you for your beliefs, which in now way harm me?

wiegraf:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexual_behavior_in_animals

Even if it didn't occur much in nature, that's besides the point. What in the world gives you the right to tell other people how to live[b] their lives when they aren't harming you in any way[/b]? Your opinion is completely irrelevant. I personally am sometimes uncomfortable with homosexuality, but what does that have to do with what they can and cannot do? So because I don't like it that means they can't do it? Would you appreciate it if I came in and burned all you idols and whatnot and persecuted you for your beliefs, which in now way harm me?

infact they are harming us. have you heard of how in U.S. prisons, homosexual men ra.pe other men in jail. i can understand that r.ape in any form is evil. but a man loses all his dignity and honour when someone sticks his thing into his backside. i want to be honest with you. ho.mosexuals scare me. expecially on account of personal experience of a narrow escape i had where a group of them once tried to lure me into coming with them in the UK subway. trust me , you should see the hunger in their eyes . it is disgustingly scary.

honestly i dont know what to say. i have to still research this strange phenomena. i am not saying that all gays are like tht. i am not so narrow. but i have not yet reserved my judgement on this.

Polygamy is not allowed in Christianity because Rome which set the principal doctrine of the religion does not condone polygamy. It allows for mistresses though. Meanwhile Judaism allows you to marry more than one wife as shown by Joseph, Abraham Solomon and David.

Abd'Hafeez:

Of course but neither did it say that no man should marry more than one wife.my point is that both is allowed.If you can only have a wife,thats good but if you want to have more than one,well,thats fine.that's how it is in the bible.

To start with, can you supply the verse?

PAGAN 9JA:


infact they are harming us. have you heard of how in U.S. prisons, homosexual men ra.pe other men in jail. i can understand that r.ape in any form is evil. but a man loses all his dignity and honour when someone sticks his thing into his backside. i want to be honest with you. ho.mosexuals scare me. expecially on account of personal experience of a narrow escape i had where a group of them once tried to lure me into coming with them in the UK subway. trust me , you should see the hunger in their eyes . it is disgustingly scary.

honestly i dont know what to say. i have to still research this strange phenomena. i am not saying that all gays are like tht. i am not so narrow. but i have not yet reserved my judgement on this.

Yes, pls notice how the very vast majority of rapists are heterosexual men. You also do realize that most of the rapists in prisons are hetero, yes? Your insinuation that being ra.ped is somehow worse for men than women is just....

Your opinion has didley squat to do with the issue, two or more consenting adults decide some but.t s.ex is their cup of tea, non of your business. You're uncomfortable? Nobodies forcing you to befriend them. You discriminate against them though and you're being a hypocrite and a bigot, unambiguously.

wiegraf:

Yes, pls notice how the very vast majority of rapists are heterosexual men. You also do realize that most of the rapists in prisons are hetero, yes? Your insinuation that being ra.ped is somehow worse for men than women is just....

Your opinion has didley squat to do with the issue, two or more consenting adults decide some but.t s.ex is their cup of tea, non of your business. You're uncomfortable? Nobodies forcing you to befriend them. You discriminate against them though and you're being a hypocrite and a bigot, unambiguously.

its really obvious isnt it most of the people in this world are hetero, almost ALL. so obvioulsy there will be more hetero r.apist compared to homo ones. but still if you compare with the population of each, then homo r.apists are definitely high. i was talking about non-consentious. it is still disgusting . It is anti-African culture.

PAGAN 9JA:



its really obvious isnt it most of the people in this world are hetero, almost ALL. so obvioulsy there will be more hetero r.apist compared to homo ones. but still if you compare with the population of each, then homo r.apists are definitely high. i was talking about non-consentious. it is still disgusting . It is anti-African culture.

Provide proof of the bolded, else you are making very serious accusations without any evidence. Stop spreading your bigotry, it's a lot more scary than your homophobia. Irrational hate, no good reason to support it other than you don't like it.

Enjoy this link. Make sure to read to the end. Note, it's anthropology
http://jessiegirl..com/2010_11_01_archive.html

wiegraf:

Provide proof of the bolded, else you are making very serious accusations without any evidence. Stop spreading your bigotry, it's a lot more scary than your homophobia. Irrational hate, no good reason to support it other than you don't like it.

Enjoy this link. Make sure to read to the end. Note, it's anthropology
http://jessiegirl..com/2010_11_01_archive.html

ok i will go through everything.

Abd'Hafeez:

is that why its forbidden?

its not forbidden, but discouraged in the christiandom