smartbabe1: Hi everyone, please a friend introduced me to this inspiring site and i wish to get some good advice from you all b/c i believe that two heads are better than one and i may really get good advice from some peeps that have witness this.

i got married last 2yrs, we did only traditional wedding . we got divorced last year b/c of some incompatibility in us. and hubby changing into something else when God used me to bless him. but i'm divorced though i have a son. i got divorced last yr. since my divorced, i have been alone praying, asking God to change him but to no avail. i'm a human being i can't keep on waiting. life has to go on b/c i have lost alot of suitors even after the divorce b/c i have always wanted to have my kids from the same dad but nature doesn't want that.

i have been bored and lonely since last year b/c i didn't wanna give any guy chance though they were coming.i decided to wait to know if we will amend things but to no avail. few months ago, i decided to date someone but this time around, someone more older blc i believe that it may be my hubby's age that made him to be a mummy's boy and misbehaved, though he is not a baby. He is presently 35 while i am 25yr.

my present guy is 38yrs while i'm 25yrs. He is from Anambra, He is really a God sent to wipe away my tears. He loves me so much more than i do b/c i'm still scared of another marriage but i have to settle than b/c i'm not getting younger and he is very comfortable. we have done necessary introduction, as in showing and introducing each other to family members. By God's grace he will be paying my dowry this xmas. i told him that i don't want to do traditional wedding since i have done one before. As a lovely matured guy he is , he accepted but we will do our white wedding in Easter as we planned.

He is saying that is either my ex. takes my son or he adopts him. i have pleaded with him to allow my son grow with us for more two yrs before his dad takes him. but he says no. that he is too emotional, is it after he developed love and feeling for my son (our son) and my son will call him daddy, they will always be playing every night, one day one man like that will just come and take his boy away from him with an excuse that he is the biological father just b/c he was the one that donated sperm, that he will feel as if he has lost something and he can never get over it.

i have discussed with my ex and also my people have called him but he said he wouldn't take him now that my son must reach 6yrs before he takes him. meanwhile he is not bring money for his upkeep. my fiancee has given me so much reasons for us to adopt my son so that he will be his first child and when i give birth in future our baby will also have a brother to talk to and he must train him to any level. he knows that my son is a very great man. i have tried to let him know that this is Nigeria, his dad must come for him in future. he always say that i shouldn't panic.

please my fellow Nairalanders, should i allow my fiancee to adopt my son after our marriage this December? i'm really confused here b/c i don't want war blw me and my son's dad.

thanks.

smartbabe1: Hi everyone, please a friend introduced me to this inspiring site and i wish to get some good advice from you all b/c i believe that two heads are better than one and i may really get good advice from some peeps that have witness this.

i got married last 2yrs, we did only traditional wedding . we got divorced last year b/c of some incompatibility in us. and hubby changing into something else when God used me to bless him. but i'm divorced though i have a son. i got divorced last yr. since my divorced, i have been alone praying, asking God to change him but to no avail. i'm a human being i can't keep on waiting. life has to go on b/c i have lost alot of suitors even after the divorce b/c i have always wanted to have my kids from the same dad but nature doesn't want that.

i have been bored and lonely since last year b/c i didn't wanna give any guy chance though they were coming.i decided to wait to know if we will amend things but to no avail. few months ago, i decided to date someone but this time around, someone more older blc i believe that it may be my hubby's age that made him to be a mummy's boy and misbehaved, though he is not a baby. He is presently 35 while i am 25yr.

my present guy is 38yrs while i'm 25yrs. He is from Anambra, He is really a God sent to wipe away my tears. He loves me so much more than i do b/c i'm still scared of another marriage but i have to settle than b/c i'm not getting younger and he is very comfortable. we have done necessary introduction, as in showing and introducing each other to family members. By God's grace he will be paying my dowry this xmas. i told him that i don't want to do traditional wedding since i have done one before. As a lovely matured guy he is , he accepted but we will do our white wedding in Easter as we planned.

He is saying that is either my ex. takes my son or he adopts him. i have pleaded with him to allow my son grow with us for more two yrs before his dad takes him. but he says no. that he is too emotional, is it after he developed love and feeling for my son (our son) and my son will call him daddy, they will always be playing every night, one day one man like that will just come and take his boy away from him with an excuse that he is the biological father just b/c he was the one that donated sperm, that he will feel as if he has lost something and he can never get over it.

i have discussed with my ex and also my people have called him but he said he wouldn't take him now that my son must reach 6yrs before he takes him. meanwhile he is not bring money for his upkeep. my fiancee has given me so much reasons for us to adopt my son so that he will be his first child and when i give birth in future our baby will also have a brother to talk to and he must train him to any level. he knows that my son is a very great man. i have tried to let him know that this is Nigeria, his dad must come for him in future. he always say that i shouldn't panic.

please my fellow Nairalanders, should i allow my fiancee to adopt my son after our marriage this December? i'm really confused here b/c i don't want war blw me and my son's dad.

thanks.

Guitarlife: 38 years - 25 years = 13 years.
Interesting, seems everybody seems to be okay with this . OP at your age most gals are still praying for a serious boyfriend. E be like say you fine no be small.
I wish you the best but please make this one work o. E no easy to dey carry high turn over for number of spouse o. Regardless of how pretty you are.

safeLove:

Re-read what you wrote and compare it to the matured advice being given to the OP,then give yourself a resounding clap of shame.
Mtcheeew!!

safeLove: @Guitarlife,silly little boy.
Didn't I read somewhere you wrote that you were 24yrs old.. Pikin.
Its like arguing with my mother's last born so am not going to exchange words with you.
And how did your globacom interveiw go?

Guitarlife: Heheheee get ready for this o. How do I confirm you are not the mum's last born which makes us colleagues huh ? You need to give us ample proof and stop calling me a 24 year old I'm 25 gaddamit. As per glo, we still dey arrange noni o. Great day.

smartbabe1: thanks so much all, i really appreciate your great contributions. i discussed it with him yesterday, i told him to forget about adoption and that i wouldn't love to give out my son b/c i don't know the kind of treatment they will give to him,if he truly loves me.He said he must speak with my ex face to face. why he is after adoption is b/c he knows how he will feel after some years, one man like that that has been enjoying his life somewhere will just come and take away his joy all in the name of biological father, it sounds so easy to me but he will feel so depressed. By God's grace i know he will calm down b/c i told him unless he doesn't what us to go on with the marriage and i will love my son to be in his biological daddy's compound when he grows up. I know he loves me and will love to respect my wish. i really cherish and respect him too, he listens to me despite his wealth unlike some rich guys i know. all ,he is directing to, is that he wanna give my son the best in life. He always say that my ex wanna use my son to suffer me but he is here to wipe away my tears. i should tell my ex that the stress is over.

Everything that happened to me is God's grace and prayers. he knows that i'm really hard working and GOD fearing though. i Really thank God.

Thank you all, may God answer all your prayers and heart desires in Jesus name. Amen.

i decided to date someone but this time around, someone more older blc i believe that it may be my hubby's age that made him to be a mummy's boy and misbehaved, though he is not a baby. He is presently 35 while i am 25yr.