Bad things about my immediate family

Dad is perverted i.e. looking at my butt when he thought I was not looking. He is also an OCD, anxiety ridden freak who says cruel things to me i.e. I am "ruined" and my mother. My mum weak jealous, competitive (of/with me) weak minded person who is no role model to me what so ever, and almost ruined my life with her bad advice. There used to be issues of domestic violence, family problems in my house. My brothers are fair weathered friends.

Good points
Excellent financial support, good emotional support sometimes i.e. advice, home work help etc

They are not bad people / bad parents / bad family.. BUT my spirit doesn't testify and I don't feel 100% comfortable, I am not happy around them and when I am away from them I feel happier... and I can't trust them, I have forgiven them and I am not angry at them - I just don't want them anymore.

but i have emotional ties there

Hmmm. So sad. But what kind of advice do you need? What's on your mind? What step do you want to take?

thanks for caring, i just wanted to know what is a "normal" family supposed to be like, especially a normal igbo family.. i grew up in london so i dont know, im just so confused...just want to know what a normal family should be like and how i can acheive that

We all have issues...either minor or major. However, i am not Igbo. Let others comment. I wish you the best. Stay strong. Let go of the past and draw strength from within. You can be happy if you choose to. Cheers

They are your parents.You can't change that.You can't change them.Learn to love and accept them the way they are.
About your dad being perverted,are you sure you are not the one seeing what is not?
If that actually happens..the checking out your bum thing,I assume you are an adult so you should have nothing to worry about.
All families have their own issues and there is no stereotype or formular for "normal families"
If you don't feel happy around them,spend more time away.
You say you don't want them anymore as if they are some kind of toy you can change, throw away or donate at will..
They are humans like you with faults.Accept those faults as a part of them and learn to live with or manage it.
All the best!

@ OP. You need to develop interests that will divert your attention from the negatives in the family. You can look for a hobby, a job, a new skill to learn. You also need someone you can be close enough to confide in....Preferably an older female. All the best.