maybe some of you remember me posting sometime back about my pregnant girlfriend.
well maybe i shud start by saying that we finally decided to get married and settle down.
well all seems to be going well really except for the fact that her mother wants a very elaborate wedding , which i am against one becuase of the cost and also the fact that wen we made this arrangement we decided it was just gonnna be us and our friends as witness at the registry.
well when i put this forward to the mother at first she disagreed, and wen she finally came to terms with it, she put a condition.
that she has to be present and there must be an after party.
my mum has already not to be a there if thats my wish, and dats the same thing i spoke with my wife.
now she seems bent on having her way, unfortunately am not one to bulge easily.
wat do you think is wise.
follow my original idea, or simply pacify the mother for the daughters sake?

stand your grounds!

else after the marriage, they gonnna push u around and don't be surprise when she brings her whole family to live with u guys . . . including her mother

the excuse her mums uses is the fact that she is her fav. which i do understand but i ant displease myself to please her.
afterall my folks aiant coming.

Are u marrying the girl or her mum?
besides, what's ur girl saying bout this?


do not let ursef be pushed around!

Busta:

stand your grounds!

else after the marriage, they gonnna push u around and don't be surprise when she brings her whole family to live with u guys . . . including her mother

Supported. Once u start conceeding, u cant stop half way. stand ur grounds bro

Busta:

stand your grounds!

else after the marriage, they gonnna push u around and don't be surprise when she brings her whole family to live with u guys . . . including her mother

Poster, take note of this.

You are very sselfish. How can yousay that the mother should not attend the wedding? I don't get it. Was she a bad mother? Did she abuse you? Why would you exclude any parents but invite friends? I guess it your life. Live it any way you like.

no vex outstrip but wetin i dey wicked get to do with this aniways.
its my life and decision. moreso we was gonna do something big by next year
were dem all can come.

@izeek

if d mom comes, den yur life is ruined, why u ask?

she will boss u around slowly and surely and poison her daughters mind toward u, into controlling u, so since yur folks aint coming no one except yur original plan should be there

@Izeek

Have you ever seen the movie called "throw mama down from the train"?

Da Junta:

Supported. Once u start conceeding, u can't stop half way. stand your grounds bro

I think you 've haerd it.
BETTER STAND ON YOUR DECISION.

i understand the part of no big party but u want to deny her family of this important day in your wife's life. You can deny the mum of not having her way with the party but i don't think you should not allow her attend the wedding in general. Also, your mum should attend it too or are u ashamed?

izeek i tink its basically what u both want.
afterall u will be the one marrying yher and not her mum.
unless u want to have a broken home, then u can actually take the risk.
but believe me am speaking from experience ( divorcee) its gonna be hard to manage.
do what you think is right.

Talk about pushy moms and MILs. . .

@poster
If you value your life, sanity and future happiness, just let this woman do her thing as long as she is paying for it.  This must be very important to her.  Just bite your tongue for peace sake. You are only buying peace. The whole event is stressful in itself. . .let the woman dance her wallet away. . . just sit there for one day and it will be over.

Goodluck!

stand ur ground

Simply suggest the fussy mother-in-law to contribute her quota to the 'big wedding'.
Some stupid desires simply need a flat answer.

Or no answer at all
You can go ahead to do the wedding and if it is too low in standard for her, she can stay at home!

Should everything in this world be headache?!

Poster,

everyone has spoken, so if u have ears make u listen
but if u dont well, take anytin u see

party na by force? tell the woman to do woteva she wants. U and ur wife dnt ve to be present. As far as she is footing the bill

janami:

party na by force? tell the woman to do woteva she wants. You and your wife dnt ve to be present. As far as she is footing the bill

d mother no go dey budget 4 gbedu with another person pepper. na wa ooo

@ topic
Please permit me to ask what the issue really is here
To have ur mother-in-law come for the registry??
Or to have a party after the registry??

If later is d case, guy,stand ur ground if u don't have the money to throw for party yet
My prayer has always been not to get a miserable mother in-laws cus they will make ur life also miserable
Once allowed,be rest assured they will want to rule ur life for the rest of ur marriages
A good mother inlaw will take matters and situations of the son-inlaw into cognizance at all times and not the best way it suits her and the daughter

In all i respect men who are never woman wrapper,dancing here and there just to please people even when it doesn't go well with them
It does not go so well with my brother and his mother-inlaw because he did not allow her play the piper and dectects the tune 4 him

But if the issue here is attending the registry,guy u have no reason to deprive her of that,it should be her Joy

Sweet T:

@Izeek

Have you ever seen the movie called "throw mama down from the train"?

I can only imagine so @ Izeek go get urs nowwwwwww  . bsides stand your grounds bro otherwise,your prospective mother-in-law will make your marriage a living hell. come oh! jus out of curiousity,who's side is your wife on? 

well y;all tanx and odnt worry she will def be around for the more serious occassion in august. my wife will be having our son then.

but for the reg tin, i don talk and dats dat.