Listen to this short true life story. I rather you decide whether it’s short or not. I can’t vividly put everything on paper, but let me try and make it short. I’m a guy trying to make a decent living in Lagos like some people. I stay alone in one room self contained apartment somewhere in the Lekki corridor plagued with unreasonably astronomical rent. One day my childhood friend called. He is Lagos with the family somewhere around Ikotun. I promptly cleared my calendar and paid them a visit.


A week or few days later he said they will be traveling back to the east on the next Saturday. But since their engagement was in Victoria Island and it demands they be in the office as early as possible on Friday, they requested to stay with me which instantly accepted without giving it a thought. Of course I dint have to. I was simply lending a helping hand to a friend. So the golden plan was to come to my place on Tuesday, do their thing in V/I on Friday and then travel back to the east on Saturday. Roughly 5 DAYS stay. Very simple you would say. The month was March. To be precise, it was MARCH 2012. The shocker is that they are still in my place. And this is MARCH 2013! A 5 days stay turned to a 365 days stay yet, the end is not in sight!


Imagine Mr. D, Mrs. A and two little niggling kids (girls) living with me in one room. That’s 5 people in one room. The last girl still wears pampers. The wife took the kid back to east sometimes in February this year. The main issue is that their lifestyle is polar opposite of mine. I’m the kinda person that can give you a clear precise direction from another galaxy in space on where to get a needle from any corner in my room. In other words I’m very organized. Very neat. It annoys me when things are scattered and untidy. I cook and clean. These people are they exact opposite.


These people turned my room upside down. They “junglefied” my room effortlessly. In one month the room has seriously aged more than it did in my 3 years stay in it. They destroy and litter everywhere every second and the usual suspects are the kids even when they are not. I keep fixing things, they will never fix a pin. They will pile the trash up like they are building a pyramid. At a point I had to clean every inch of the walls using cleaning agent and a cloth. He can’t even wash his handkerchief. The moment they open their eyes, they rush to the TV both papa, mama and kids. They watch TV with the kids till 2:00am atimes. I’m like what are you teaching these kids? Oh yeah they fought like crazy initially over really retarded reasons often orchestrated by the guy. They pack a lot of nasty dirty habits that really irritate, disgust and annoy me. I just ignore and endure. Im not saying im perfect though.


On December ending of 2012 I asked them to leave that I cannot ignore and endure anymore and to my greatest surprise, the guy challenged me on that. He challenged as if we had an agreement to live together.


Telling me “….so you want to kick us out? Me and my family will wait for you and the police or army you will call to kick us out”


I took it calmly like my usual self. I can really be calm on the surface even though its tsunami underneath. All I said to him was “…this is why people don’t do good deeds.” I initially gave them till end of January to leave and the guy threw tantrum again. Later he apologized for the tantrum that he was being a jerk. They said they are looking for an accommodation but it doesn’t look it to me. My rent expires by June, Im just watching, not talking anymore. I tried to be brief.


My uncle once said something that shocked me cuz of how true his words of wisdom was for me. This was before they even came. He said people of our family love to help people but we do it to a point that it really hurts us and we keep doing it. When I reflect on that comment I shudder. Every and anybody I tell this just wants me to kick them out by fire by force except two people.

Im asking for your opinion, what do you think I should do?

I await your responses.

http://thechronicled..com/2013/03/what-do-i-do-now-that-help-i-gave-is.html

You let the sore fester for too long and obviously,tenant don become landlord.
June is just a few months away.Start looking for an alternative accomodation and move out if you can before then.
I hope you have learnt your lesson.

I find this story hard to believe though.

This story lacks substance,how can 5ppl squat 2gether in one room without getting on each others nerves for one good year?2ndly u give him quit notice and he throws tantrums and u relent bros this is lagos and there shld be no dulling abi are u a learner in short u shld look for the nearest monastry and live there when ur rent expires methinks that's where u belong.how can u please ppl and displease urself for so long even if u were related it wld hv been a different ball game.

Sir, start now to look for a new apartment, pay 4 it, slowly pick ur tins, wen d times comes in june for ur rent expiration, go to work and go back to ur new apartment and never come back to that house again. Wat ever they and ur landlord(ex) says is mood of ur business anymore. If you get d mind, come and pick bigger stuff with a truck and make sure no one follows u. You'll say, how can i do this to my friend... Sir, not ol friends are meant to stay forever and he was never a friend since he didn't come out plain and lied to u and used you and is still using u uptill now. Such a friend is never worth having and you have even tried for them. If yo are wat i told you, consider and pay an extra one year rent for d sake of that baby wearing pampers, mbok.
Lemme tell you wat i'll do, i'll do exactly wat i told you above but i might not if he had come out plain cos amma very straight forward guy. But since they lied and used u, sir it's difficult but just closed ur eyes for ur own safety.

Im happy at your responses thus far. Im sure people go through worse situation than mine. I have indeed learnt my lesson, trust me this is how the meek became the mean. Please you can doubt if my head is correct or not but dont doubt if this story is true or not

I can easily see how this situation came to. That's why i'm reluctant sometimes to allow friends stay over for even just the weekend.
Cos I don't think i have the liver to out-rightly kick someone out. I'm just not that confrontational, lol.
@thechronicled, your best bet is to rough it out until you can get other accommodations. Don't aggravate your emotions further by debating if to kick them out. If you're not made like that, then you're just not.

TheChronicled: Im happy at your responses thus far. Im sure people go through worse situation than mine. I have indeed learnt my lesson, trust me this is how the meek became the mean. Please you can doubt if my head is correct or not but dont doubt if this story is true or not

I find this story unbelievable. However, let's assume it is true. What I would do is to wait for my rent to expire, then look for alternative accomodation.

However if I don't want to move, I will tell them that my 'wife' or my 'siblings' are coming to live with me and they should kindly find their square root because personally, I feel June is too far. Haba!

I don't understand how you could possibly let them live for a whole year in your little one room. Sometimes being too gentle can bring problems.

Don't they ever leave the house? Once they leave, call your landlord to change the locks. Package their load outside for them, and travel for a week. With specific instructions to the landlord to escort them out or arrest anyone that tries to break-in. Or call your landlord to raise hell and pretend to demand a rent increase 5times the regular price. One room ke, even I alone will feel chocked in one room.

Oga OP! U are too soft jare? Am sure your Babe must have given U notice! Either you use her as the excuse to kick them out! My babe wanna settle down! Or your Mum is coming to spend a month with you for medical reasons(if you like the crib) if they leave, change your locks. Or You seek another accomodation, and tell him plainly that he is not coming with you,(that your madam is moving in). He will get the message. If not when the time reach at least one month †☺ go pack out with your belongings. If he comes †☺ your office, don't agree, at least, give A̶̲̥̅♏ like 10k †☺ assist him sha. Next time wen person come meet you, pay for hotel accomodation!

Why do people find it hard to believe? Is it easier to believe that people live under the bridge? Anyway I have prayed that God should help them get a place of their own. I stopped praying that, now Im praying that God should help me get another place. I got other issues Im taking care of, otherwise I woulda move out long time if the money was readily available. My babe dont even visit again. Most of my friends dont come around anymore. I have told him before that my babe is moving in but he kept begging me like Im his saviour.

TheChronicled: Why do people find it hard to believe? Is it easier to believe that people live under the bridge? Anyway I have prayed that God should help them get a place of their own. I stopped praying that, now Im praying that God should help me get another place. I got other issues Im taking care of, otherwise I woulda move out long time if the money was readily available. My babe dont even visit again. Most of my friends dont come around anymore. I have told him before that my babe is moving in but he kept begging like his saviour.

I find it incredibly hard to believe that one person housed a family of 4 in a 1 room apartment for a year! With 2 young kids? Non relatives for that matter? Who were only supposed to stay a week? How did you do it? How do you guys sleep, cook, breathe even? How do you share the bathroom? What about your privacy? How do you stay sane? How have you not thrown out all their things by now? How?!! In short, how is it possible

Please for the love of God, send them away now. How can you wait till June?? Give them money for their bus tickets to the East, borrow it if you have to. It's a small price to pay for your peace of mind. Help them pack their things and escort them to the bus park. Don't even wait till tomorrow, do it today.

Still in shock!!

Just saw where You said your babe was coming aπϑ the guy no gree! The Guy wicked ooh! Every night he get wife wey go massage his back :PJust saw where You said your babe was coming aπϑ the guy no gree! The Guy wicked ooh! Every night he get wife wey go massage his back, but he no wan make u get massager? Well tell him You are packing †☺ your new crib with Madam, say na Madam pay for A̶̲̥̅♏! He will get the message

ileobatojo:
I find it incredibly hard to believe that one person housed a family of 4 in a 1 room apartment for a year! With 2 young kids? Non relatives for that matter? Who were only supposed to stay a week? How did you do it? How do you guys sleep, cook, breathe even? How do you share the bathroom? What about your privacy? How do you stay sane? How have you not thrown out all their things by now? How?!! In short, how is it possible

Please for the love of God, send them away now. How can you wait till June?? Give them money for their bus tickets to the East, borrow it if you have to. It's a small price to pay for your peace of mind. Help them pack their things and escort them to the bus park. Don't even wait till tomorrow, do it today.

Still in shock!!

Bros it was ridiculously difficult. I started staying out late so the moment I get home, I just sleep. I had two mattresses, I use one they use the other. Every second i see something that will piss me off. It wasnt all bad initially but its now bad and way out of hand.

@Poster
You willingly allowed your personal space to be invaded, now you are complaining. If you dont want these people to eventually kill you, pack there things out, lock up the room, stay away from the place for about 2wks.

@ poster
in this case you have been too generous
nothing spoil
they dont want to go, dont fight or argue over it
begin to look for another place
( thank God your rent is expiring in june) so you should have saved up quite a bit for a while
just move far far away from them
kos they know you are too soft , so they will begin to play on your intelligence and sympathy
on the other hand, plan with your land lord
when june comes,travel and let the landlord kick them out
the only snag is they might be back begging
so i would just suggest move far far away and dont let them know where you live
without you they will and have to find a way out
you have over done your bit

@OP I don't understand. What exactly are they still doing in Lagos since the purpose of their visit expired a long time ago? Is the man trying to get a job or something? And what stops him from taking his family back to the house they used to stay in the East before he came for the visit? If he plans to move out soon, how does he plan to finance that or is he just telling you stories? I don't think we have the full picture here. Maybe when we do, we can be in a position to advise you better. What exactly is the situation in his family?

when will the part two come out?

@Heavensown
You made a very good point. I tried to be brief cuz if I put every detail the length may fatigue the eye and people may not have patience to read. He met some other childhood friends who stayed in the same area. They adviced him to relocate to Lagos (center of excellent plenty opportunities) instead of east. They told me they've decided to stay in Lagos after a month but it wont be at my place, I dint quite believe them going by what I was seeing. Im not mocking their situation. They packed their things out of the rented apartment in the east, gave out some and kept some with their in-laws.

Its impossible. Lekki landlords for don throway you since,unless you stay in all those kpako-house-no-mans-land side of Lekki.
You just need traffic to your blog but make the story a bit realistic.

I've been waiting for Ify's comment on this thread cos she knows the 411 in Lagos. And my verdict? ; I believe her you're looking for traffic!

ifyalways: Its impossible. Lekki landlords for don throway you since,unless you stay in all those kpako-house-no-mans-land side of Lekki.
You just need traffic to your blog but make the story a bit realistic.

Since you are now oga@dtop who knows and sees everything, goodluck with that. Or you are a member lekki landlords association. Whether you believe its possible or not is largely irrelevant to me, God knows the truth. I did have talks with my landlord two months after they came, fortunately/unfortunately he wasnt such a kick-ass type. I dont mind when people express their opinion. However I do mind when instead of airing your opinion, you jump to a very false conclusion and try to force it down as a fact when you dont know the truth. Does this look like fun and games to you?

Speaking of blog, I started that blog mainly as a dairy. Check the DEAR DIARY section and see all the diary entries, almost all of them has reference to the situation at hand as it happens on a daily basis.
Go ahead and make some more mindless false conclusions.

One irrelevant sentence made you put up that epistle?abeg clear for my face jor.
I look like i send you?
3 adults and 2 kids in a SC in lekki?Na you mould block for the landlord?
shior

Do not run from the house.
How do they feed?
Muster enough courage and luck them out, go with your key to anywhere and spend a week or two.

TheChronicled: Listen to this short true life story. I rather you decide whether it’s short or not. I can’t vividly put everything on paper, but let me try and make it short. I’m a guy trying to make a decent living in Lagos like some people. I stay alone in one room self contained apartment somewhere in the Lekki corridor plagued with unreasonably astronomical rent. One day my childhood friend called. He is Lagos with the family somewhere around Ikotun. I promptly cleared my calendar and paid them a visit.


A week or few days later he said they will be traveling back to the east on the next Saturday. But since their engagement was in Victoria Island and it demands they be in the office as early as possible on Friday, they requested to stay with me which instantly accepted without giving it a thought. Of course I dint have to. I was simply lending a helping hand to a friend. So the golden plan was to come to my place on Tuesday, do their thing in V/I on Friday and then travel back to the east on Saturday. Roughly 5 DAYS stay. Very simple you would say. The month was March. To be precise, it was MARCH 2012. The shocker is that they are still in my place. And this is MARCH 2013! A 5 days stay turned to a 365 days stay yet, the end is not in sight!




Imagine Mr. D, Mrs. A and two little niggling kids (girls) living with me in one room. That’s 5 people in one room. The last girl still wears pampers. The wife took the kid back to east sometimes in February this year. The main issue is that their lifestyle is polar opposite of mine. I’m the kinda person that can give you a clear precise direction from another galaxy in space on where to get a needle from any corner in my room. In other words I’m very organized. Very neat. It annoys me when things are scattered and untidy. I cook and clean. These people are they exact opposite.


These people turned my room upside down. They “junglefied” my room effortlessly. In one month the room has seriously aged more than it did in my 3 years stay in it. They destroy and litter everywhere every second and the usual suspects are the kids even when they are not. I keep fixing things, they will never fix a pin. They will pile the trash up like they are building a pyramid. At a point I had to clean every inch of the walls using cleaning agent and a cloth. He can’t even wash his handkerchief. The moment they open their eyes, they rush to the TV both papa, mama and kids. They watch TV with the kids till 2:00am atimes. I’m like what are you teaching these kids? Oh yeah they fought like crazy initially over really retarded reasons often orchestrated by the guy. They pack a lot of nasty dirty habits that really irritate, disgust and annoy me. I just ignore and endure. Im not saying im perfect though.


On December ending of 2012 I asked them to leave that I cannot ignore and endure anymore and to my greatest surprise, the guy challenged me on that. He challenged as if we had an agreement to live together.


Telling me “….so you want to kick us out? Me and my family will wait for you and the police or army you will call to kick us out”


I took it calmly like my usual self. I can really be calm on the surface even though its tsunami underneath. All I said to him was “…this is why people don’t do good deeds.” I initially gave them till end of January to leave and the guy threw tantrum again. Later he apologized for the tantrum that he was being a jerk. They said they are looking for an accommodation but it doesn’t look it to me. My rent expires by June, Im just watching, not talking anymore. I tried to be brief.


My uncle once said something that shocked me cuz of how true his words of wisdom was for me. This was before they even came. He said people of our family love to help people but we do it to a point that it really hurts us and we keep doing it. When I reflect on that comment I shudder. Every and anybody I tell this just wants me to kick them out by fire by force except two people.

Im asking for your opinion, what do you think I should do?

I await your responses.

http://thechronicled..com/2013/03/what-do-i-do-now-that-help-i-gave-is.html

cock and bull!!! I don't know anyone this foolish

From the responses here one can easily conclude that most nigerian girls/women are uber-aggressive scary stuff.