I have applied countless number of times and yet no job. In fact I'm tired of applying. The Nigerian government is not trying for graduates in this country. And many more. While chatting with some of my job seeker contacts on BBM, these are some of the comments I get from them.

Let me explain why you've found yourself in that situation. First, to make you understand better, I'll take a typical scenario which I believe most of us are conversant with; Boy-Girl relationships.

Imagine your a lonely guy who insists that women won't come near you despite the fact that he is the nicest guy in the world. I can explain what is wrong with this mindset. "Nice guy? Who gives a shit?

"What, so am I saying that you can't get girls unless you have a nice job and make lots of money?"
No, your brain jumps to that conclusion so you have an excuse to write off everyone who rejects you by thinking that they're just being shallow, materialistic and selfish.

I'm asking, what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Rich? Talented? Ambitious? Creative?
Don't say that you're a nice guy -- that's the barest minimum. Pretty girls have guys being nice to them 36 times a day. Saying that you're a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn't make you sick.

Does that break your heart? I'm sorry.
OK, so now what? Are you going to droop your big head in shame and mope about it, or are you going to do something about it? It's up to you, but don't complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer.
You say: "But I'm a great listener!" Because you're willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there's another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and guess what again? He can play the guitar!
Can you?

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