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A Wife Or The Mother Of Your Kids, Make A Choice. by kimba(m): 7:11pm On May 08, 2006 |
A Wife or the Mother of your Kids, A Husband or the Father of your kids I was on a journey, sat beside a guy in the bus, and we soon struck up a conversation. First started with Police collecting 20Naira on the road, then proceeded to the woeful state of Nigerian Academic institutions, then to the ups and downs of finding a carrer and lastly on the finding a "good wife" issue. We discussed a lot, and part/the major of what we discussed was after he put a question to me as a guy, which I answered, and I just felt I should share/put the question to NLs and see what you would say. It goes like this: As a man: The dream of every man is be successful: career and family-wise. For everything to be well-rounded, he'll want to have 2-sides of the same coin: 1)He wants a wife who is loving,caring, humble, respective, virtuous, fun to be with,, etc.who possesses all the qualities he desires in a WIFE. 2) He would love to raise up a family with his wife, and kids(beautiful girl/girls, handsome boy/boys). As a woman: The dream of every woman is be successful: career and family-wise. For everything to be well-rounded, she'll want to have 2-sides of the same coin: 1) A good husband who protects her, loves her,cares about her, is humble, respective, virtuous, someone who is all she wanted, etc. 2) He would love to raise up a family with his wife, and kids(beautiful girl/girls, handsome boy/boys). then he goes: If the "circumstances of life" are to totally prevent a man realizing #1 and #2, where (circumstances of life) could be everything that could hinder #1 and #2 to co-exist together, which would I choose of the two. I thought within myself for like 3mins, and reply, I would choose #1. My reasons: As much as #2 would bring its own fulfilment, ive always believed in a happily married man, that I coudn't imagine myself single at 60, that i would want to share my heart and life with someone really special, and that companionship comes before procreation, and that lastly, in todays world, a whole lot of ways are possible to realize #2. He told me he would choose #2,stating his own reasons: its hard to find a trustworthy woman nowadays as wife, its easy that way for finance management, no need for inlaw palavers, he would still stay hot and available for the "fun-loving girls" etc. so guys and gals, which would you choose, if you were to make a choice, between #1/#2 and not both. pls dont divert from the topic. thanks |
Re: A Wife Or The Mother Of Your Kids, Make A Choice. by Seun(m): 8:49pm On May 08, 2006 |
If the woman of my dreams is incapable of bearing children, that would not hinder the marriage. I guess that means I choose option 1. This is the 21st century for goodness' sake! You can always get a surrogate mother or sperm donor if your life partner is incapable, or adopt. Everyone should choose option 1. |
Re: A Wife Or The Mother Of Your Kids, Make A Choice. by LadyB(f): 3:58am On May 09, 2006 |
in any sucessful marriage there must first be option 1 before the proceed to option2. option 1 is the foundation. |
Re: A Wife Or The Mother Of Your Kids, Make A Choice. by kimba(m): 1:30pm On May 09, 2006 |
in any sucessful marriage there must first be option 1,good wheres everyone? |
Re: A Wife Or The Mother Of Your Kids, Make A Choice. by LadyB(f): 4:01pm On May 09, 2006 |
:d |
Re: A Wife Or The Mother Of Your Kids, Make A Choice. by kajad(m): 4:24pm On May 09, 2006 |
Option 1 is best, but in Africa option 2 is optimal! |
Re: A Wife Or The Mother Of Your Kids, Make A Choice. by Seun(m): 8:35pm On May 09, 2006 |
I must add that the probability that I'll find a woman to fit option 1 is quite low. In that case I might be stuck with option 2. Yay! |
Re: A Wife Or The Mother Of Your Kids, Make A Choice. by eveseh(f): 9:44pm On May 10, 2006 |
mother of my kids |
Re: A Wife Or The Mother Of Your Kids, Make A Choice. by mukina2: 9:47pm On May 10, 2006 |
depends cuz most mother of kids can be well if i was a man i'll choose carefully so as not to dig ma own livivg grave |
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