Ok, so basically this is a little weird, but I really feel like this is the only place I can share my problem as everyone else around me are bunch of selfish prycks. Long story short, I come from a broken home, from my understanding my parents started having problems because of money, my dad lost of of his two jobs. So he couldn't provide as much as before. My parents still live together, I know WTF, and its funny, they haven't said a word to each other since 2007, WTF IKR. I have caught both my father and mother cheating on each other, I know its funny and I won't play the betrayal blah blah role and report them to each other because they probably already know. And they are both adults, selfish excuse of grown ups. I have a brother, we are only 2 kids, he is 23 I am 20. He lives alone, but we rarely talk, maybe once in a month. We are like total strangers to each other because of the situation. Now I am depressed, can't eat, started throwing up blood recently and I am considering suicide as it will put an end to all my problems and shame. Pheww got that off my chest. I know I need help, just don't have anyone to talk to, I don't know what to do.

People have seen worse in this life even at younger Ages.I don't know how to console people that are too weak.You are at the right pLace,the good words will trip in soon.

All I can say is that life is beautiful,don't be life's victim.Fight and win,be your own hero.

Suicide for other peoples wahala? I know it affects u greatly buh I think while trying ur best to re-unite ur family, its high time u realised n start knowing that this air u breath, this life u live, u were not born with anyone so u have to live for urself now. Decide to have a change n b happy cos u r on ur own. U could start by travelling away from home n visiting ppl in other locations. Meet ppl n b happy so u don't end up like ur family cos its ur life n u r responsible for ur joy or sadness.

kuzzieOtiz: Ok, so basically this is a little weird, but I really feel like this is the only place I can share my problem as everyone else around me are bunch of selfish prycks. Long story short, I come from a broken home, from my understanding my parents started having problems because of money, my dad lost of of his two jobs. So he couldn't provide as much as before. My parents still live together, I know WTF, and its funny, they haven't said a word to each other since 2007, WTF IKR. I have caught both my father and mother cheating on each other, I know its funny and I won't play the betrayal blah blah role and report them to each other because they probably already know. And they are both adults, selfish excuse of grown ups. I have a brother, we are only 2 kids, he is 23 I am 20. He lives alone, but we rarely talk, maybe once in a month. We are like total strangers to each other because of the situation. Now I am depressed, can't eat, started throwing up blood recently and I am considering suicide as it will put an end to all my problems and shame. Pheww got that off my chest. I know I need help, just don't have anyone to talk to, I don't know what to do.

I think that the major problem with Africans is that you believe, just because you are blood relations, you HAVE to be family with that blood relation even when it is obviously NOT in your best interest. NO. You better go out there and create your own family. Find "friends, be part of social groups...... live your life. No one else is going to live it for you. Life is short. Even if you kill yourself, these people you killed yourself for, will NOT give a hoot about you.

Homeboy, go to church, mosque, go to school,. join social clubs - create your own happiness and your own family. Goodluck.

You need to discuss how you feel with your brother. And then both of you should call a family meeting and talk to your parent. That this strange arrangement/agreement is having negative consequences on you guys. Your relationships and health. Even to the point that you are contemplating suicide because of this lifestyle. You guys are no longer kids, so they don't have to stay together or under one roof for your sakes. It is not helping you all at all. Especially you. Don't feel bad, you are the sensitive and emotional one of the two kids. Your brother may be stronger on the outside, but he keeping his distance shows he is also battling with the situation. Reach out to your brother, talk to him, spend time with him, and build on a strong relationship. Right now, you guys only have each other. The selfish adults are only deceiving themselves. Don't let them bother you that much, but tell them exactly how you feel and how what they do makes you feel too.

Committing suicide means accepting defeat. Am sure you already know the mantra that says "winners never quit and quitters never win". I understand how you feel right now considering what you are going through.

You might think your problem is the greatest of all, but I can assure you that is not because you will be amazed if almost everybody in this forum, decides to pour out their problems here and you will be appalled at what you will read. If only everybody's predicament is written on their forehead, you will notice that yours is better.

What I know in this life is that everything problem in this life surely have a solution. This is the time for you to get closer to God and throw every of your worries at his feet because he never fails.

Have you tried talking to them? Have you seek the intervention of people your parents hold with high esteem? Eg Pastor, imam, elders, their parents and inter alia. Am sure their are people they can listen to.

Conclusively, don't give up, keep hope alive and hope for the best. I wish you peace in your life and I hope things gets better soon.

Its true you are passing thru difficult times as a result of what is happening in your family, but have you ever asked yourself, what the purpose of God is for your life, believe it or not, your parents are only the channel thru which you find yourself on this earth, and there is a special purpose for you existence here on earth, which as a result, you are only responsible for your happiness or otherwise, so , sit up and take responsibility for your life.
As for your parents, you met them here on earth, they are adults, they are either living their lives the way they want it or they dont know the purpse of their existence and they are not sensitive enough to know that their actions are affecting you, so, since they dont care about how you guys feeling, then dont care about their feelings too, live your life, and believe that one day, they will wake up to their senses and start acting right.
However, get these clues to get yourself out of depression,


1. Set goals for yourself........something special happens when we take pen and write down our goals, our brain chemistry changes, neurons fire, hormones are developed and we start thinking about how we can achieve our goals, thereby forgetting about depression.

2. Forgiveness......forgive your parents and your brother, when you forgive, you remove the weight of unhappiness from off your shoulders and you put yourself in a position to be happier. Forgiveness heals.

3. Gratitude.....many times when we complain, we can cause ourselves to be sad. Complaining is just a factor of not taking into account what we are grateful for. Thank your parents for bringing you into this world to fulfil your purpose, and make additional 50 things you are grateful for right now and see if you will not have reasons to be happy.

5. Make friendships.........your life force,support system and everything that matters. Its not hard to make frieds, if you put the time in. Everyone wants to be heard, appreciated and loved, start off by listening, appreciating and loving and it will come back your way, i.e make meaningful and positive-oriented friends, as you are touching their lives positively, they will also do the same back to you, and depression will be nowhere to be found.

Do not committ suicide, or think negative, if you look around and you are sensitive enough, you will discover that EVERBODY has his/her own CROSS to carry and your attitude towards the cross determines whether it will be heavy or light for you to carry and always remember that, there is something to thank God for.
May God help us all.

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commitin suicide is nt d best option,talk to ur broda so u guys can av a family meetin wit ur parents.den try nd associate wit reasonable pple dat wil gv u gud advice nd support,cos ur too younger to be tinkin of suicide.my last talk is dat u shud put God first,talk to him in prayers i bliv he wil gv u an answer.wish u d best

kuzzieOtiz: Ok, so basically this is a little weird, but I really feel like this is the only place I can share my problem as everyone else around me are bunch of selfish prycks. Long story short, I come from a broken home, from my understanding my parents started having problems because of money, my dad lost of of his two jobs. So he couldn't provide as much as before. My parents still live together, I know WTF, and its funny, they haven't said a word to each other since 2007, WTF IKR. I have caught both my father and mother cheating on each other, I know its funny and I won't play the betrayal blah blah role and report them to each other because they probably already know. And they are both adults, selfish excuse of grown ups. I have a brother, we are only 2 kids, he is 23 I am 20. He lives alone, but we rarely talk, maybe once in a month. We are like total strangers to each other because of the situation. Now I am depressed, can't eat, started throwing up blood recently and I am considering suicide as it will put an end to all my problems and shame. Pheww got that off my chest. I know I need help, just don't have anyone to talk to, I don't know what to do.

i couldn`t wait to read other people`s contribution,i just want to tell u that u are an over pampered kid at your age,don`t u have plans as a man at ur age and u are writing rubbish u expect people to start crying for u,and begging u not to kill urself,,,bro u haven`t seen anything in life thats why u have the chance to write nonsense,,,,,the issue of ur parents situation,let them live their live,u cannot change them,let them change theirselves,if they want to,but remember, whenever cheating becomes an issue between two people especially at their age,no coming back,,,,,inconclussion,,please grow up am so angry on u,get a girl friend,get a job,steal,or sell drugs,survive,make some girl pregnant move in with her,just do some thing,go to boxing training or football,check out the escort line,call them,have S,e,x,,,go to church,pray,or sleep there if u can,,,come on nigga

^^^^the issue is not that he is overpampered. It's that he believes he has to forcefully become family with someone who doesn't want to be family with you. You should ask orphans how they do it? you better go out there and create your own family. Family is not only limited to blood relations .