JOHN MASON: Hello nairalanders, please I need your matured advice on my marriage that is collapsing day by day,I dated a girl for good four years and during the years we were very happy building our future together with plans to have a great family in the future, but immediately after our wedding my wife became a different person, infact I can't believe what I began to experience.we weeded january and our problem started February and because I am a very patient person I called her to know why she has suddenly change and I couldn't get any good reason. She use to go and stay with my family but since after our wedding she has abandoned. My family even to call on fone, the worst of all is that she doesn't cook for me any longer nor wash my cloths as she use to do before our wedding but while dating her I started a business for her and the business has grown so big that she doesn't come back home on time sometimes 10pm or some minutes to 11 and I can't continue with this rubbish, I have tried to talk to her family but because of little money they use to get from her they refuse to confront her with the truth so please my people what will I do?, this is the fourth year of our marriage no child whenever I tell her about that she complain that the stress will be too much for her to carrying a baby up and down for now that I should wait. What have I done wrong to this sadist. I have made up my mind to divorce but I think I ve been fooled seriously. I want to revenge before we call it a day. Thanks for your matured advice in advance.

a1solution: First use a friend to introduce a fake business idea to her and be close to her so she would ask for your advice then support the idea, from there you can make her kobo less. She and her family will now be under your control since they would like u to start her up again, from there you begin to bring laws she have to abide with. Though I know the problem started from your wrong timing of the marriage spiritualy but you may not know, you can correct it if you so desire. Enjoy yourself

bebe2: Hmmmm, life hard o! Don't think about divorce yet, u havent explored other options.

U need to get ur parents involved. Get the most senior member of ur family e.g ur dad to call her dad, set a date and invite the elders of both families and lay ur complaint. Make it known that u give her 1 month to behave herself or u will be out of the marriage. See wat happens, if that fail..........

Have an affair let her know u r cheating on her, dat has a way of waking most women up if that doesnt work, then she don't love u no more. Cut ur losses n move on

efosanice:

[size=30pt]This advise is from the pit of Hell.[/size]

Beware men like this are every where,here is a list of them
http://wwww.elijahforce..com/2013/01/8-men-you-should-never-marry.html

byvan:


Are you serious with that last paragraph??You are bad adviser madam.

bebe2:

Ok Oga gud adviser, talk ur own now. This is a tried and tested method, the moment she feels she is losing him, all that shakara will stop. Or pretend to have an affair then

Rocktation: I've never had the displeasure to meet anyone or even read a true story of one, who wants to stay married and yet, hold off on having babies for a career or so. I only see such in my zebra fictions and movies. Which just makes this sadder, cos typical Africans are groomed in the knowledge that children are much more than optional offshoots of intimacy and are the actual reason for intimacy and marriage. Else, you'll only be marrying an intimate partner, that you became used to.

However Sir, I really don't think there's the need to discuss divorce or revenge, yet. Please give her the benefit of doubt this last time, given that she might actually be swamped with her marvelous biz, to notice that you've finally ceased to be that unbelievably understanding husband, that she must have been bragging about to her friends. Engage her in a dialogue. Let her know that you've been trying to reach her and through her family, as well. Give her your reasonable terms and make it clear that you'll leave, if she does not want to act right. And see how it goes from there.

All this talk of divorce here and there, gets us, young couples, really scared. If I read half the things I read these days, I seriously doubt that I would've gotten hitched! Everything seems to annoy people, following the exchange of vows. If you work; problem. Remain a full housewife; problem. To cook for your partner; problem. Carry belle...problem!
I knee down de beg una oooo.

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