[b] Once in everyone's life , we would
have dealt with situations involving
toddlers before. And it's common
knowledge to us that toddlers bring it
on in equal measures. They are sweet
and cuddly now , the next minute,
they are raising our b.p with their lack
of comprehension of how things work
in their new world.
With that picture
above, we can understand the
meaning and trickery of senility. In a
lay man's language, that's the period
an elderly citizen starts to loose his
adulthood.
Going back-mentally , to
being a kid again. The brain stops
assimilation and comprehension of
basic daily skills. An adult that
reaches the senility age often needs
to depend on the people around him/her to survive.
But we are all aware of
the perseverance involved in dealing
with an aged family member.
At least
I can say that much about myself.
My knowledge of how it could be difficult
to care for an adult who once had
control of things around him/her ,
makes me wary not to judge the
Western society that keep their aged ones in a confined home ( looks that
way to me ).
In your opinion, how far
can you go to change a diaper, feed ,bath and clean up after your old
ones?

Bear in mind it's most certain it
is your parents who once carried you
on their backs and made you a useful
person to yourself and the society.
Share you views and experience, if
any.[/b]

People viewing and waka passing lol

This is a very sensitive topic which brings an issue that few like to deal with - Impending death
It brings into stark light the realisation that some of our pursuits inlife are futile

Back to topic... for my grand pa before he died, he had a carer who worked part tikme that the fathers got for him
Some of his sons did same cleaning for him too and my old man did same once in a while

I will not be ashamed to do same for my old man when he gets there

biolabee: People viewing and waka passing lol

This is a very sensitive topic which brings an issue that few like to deal with - Impending death
It brings into stark light the realisation that some of our pursuits inlife are futile

Back to topic... for my grand pa before he died, he had a carer who worked part tikme that the fathers got for him
Some of his sons did same cleaning for him too and my old man did same once in a while

I will not be ashamed to do same for my old man when he gets there

I think the way he wrote the write-up is not encouraging. He should put it in full paragraphs...makes it easier to read.

Back to topic, when my grandma was dying, i saw the way my mum took care of her, it wasn't easy for her but she did it out of love for her mother. As far as my parents are concerned, when the time comes, i'll do anything for them that needs to be done. I can't say for other people sha oo, cos the only propelling force to do that kind of thing is deep-rooted love and care.

alutacontinua:

I think the way he wrote the write-up is not encouraging. He should put it in full paragraphs...makes it easier to read.

Back to topic, when my grandma was dying, i saw the way my mum took care of her, it wasn't easy for her but she did it out of love for her mother. As far as my parents are concerned, when the time comes, i'll do anything for them that needs to be done. I can't say for other people sha oo, cos the only propelling force to do that kind of thing is deep-rooted love and care.

Nice post aluta.. The key word being love and care

@aluta, point noted. Thanks.

I know most people are not ready to face reality that tends towards mortality. Not really a Nigerian thing.
From my own experience, which is completely similar to aluta's, my mum went all the way to cater for her own mother's needs when she got to that stage.
I had my fair share of helping out too.
It was simply amazing to change roles. I remember my grandma feeding me when i was in my K.G days,telling me stories among all other things. The role interchanged and i had to help out in feeding and cleaning her up sometimes.
When she passed on, we all knew she departed feeling loved.

As a matter of fact, i lived with my maternal grandma in my primary school days, and then, sometimes, when she put up some attitudes, i wondered if she was actually an adult or a toddler, but, all the same, we related quite well, just like two kids living together, i mean we were just like friends, because, she used to talk and behave like my age mate then, and the bond was so close between us, that we could hardly do without each other. As time went on, old-age related sicknesses became more rampant, and my mum moved us to the town, she really took care of her, but, because of the bond btwn me and my grandma, she always wanted me around her, and she even preferred me to other people attending to her, we maintained this until her departure, and i was actually the last person she talked to before she gave up the ghost, and what she said........................"omo a toju e, omo a duro ti e lojo ogbo, ma sukun ti mba ku o, asiko mi ti to, mo nife re, sugbon ko si nkan ti mo le se si ki nma lo" , i was in J. S 2 then, and i understod all what she said, immediately, i rushed to my mum's shop to call her attention to what she told me, and alas!, before we both came to the house, she was gone, i cried alot, but, one thing i was certain of is that, she was adequately tolerated and taken care of, even, when she was behaving like a toddler.

I still miss her till date, but one thing im grateful for is that, i gained alot from her, as an adult full of experiece.

We shall all grow old, but it is what we sow that we shall reap, some people accuse their older people of witchcraft, whereas, it is tolerance that they really need, when it is their time, they also will be accused of the same.
"eni to sin iya e nihoho, to mu omo e dani, nso fun omo e bo se ma sin oun"(anyone that buries his/her mother nakedly, with the knowledge of his child is indirectly telling the child how he too will be buried).
May God help us all.

^Amin

And may He grant all our prayers