No man should ever
hit a woman. Of
course, physical abuse
isn’t the only kind of
abuse, but people in
love typically don’t
abuse one another.
For most people,
getting married is
a forever kind of thing. No one ever vows “’till death do us
part” with the intention of only being together for a short
while. But the reality is, sometimes life intrudes and
things happen and 50 percent of marriages end in
divorce.
We read a lot about dating dealbreakers and reasons a
person might break up with a boyfriend, but there are
very few marriage dealbreakers. After all, one person
might be willing to put up with something that had caused
another person to leave months before. Debt is one of
those things. But there are others, too.
Here are 7 marriage dealbreakers that have caused many
a divorce for all the right reasons:


Drinking: There is drinking and then there is DRINKING.
Having spent a fair amount of my early adulthood with a
man who drank too much, I know what it’s like to watch
one beer turn into eight and not know when he was going
to stop. I know what it’s like to constantly hear he’s done
drinking only to watch him get drunk again that night. At
a certain point, I would never blame anyone for throwing
in the towel on this kind of marriage.


Smoking: Cigarettes may be a compromise, though
honestly, I can’t imagine wanting to kiss someone who
smelled like butts. But there are other things that people
smoke and pot heads don’t always make the best hubbies.
What was cute at 21 isn’t so adorable at 35.


Gambling: This is an addiction like any other. If a person
doesn’t want to get help, then sometimes it may be best to
end it before debt, fighting, and financial ruin take it down
anyway.


Overspending: This is a big one. No one wants to be with
someone who can’t stop shopping. Finances are the
number one cause of divorce for many people and who
can blame them? His credit could ruin yours.
Cheating More Than Once: This one is obvious. Maybe it
could be forgiven in certain circumstances, but not more
than once.


Abuse: This one is obvious too, but a lot of people miss it.
If he hits you one time, leave. Period. End of story. No
man should ever hit a woman. Of course, physical abuse
isn’t the only kind of abuse, but people in love typically
don’t abuse one another. If they do, it’s not love.
Unwillingness to Work on Things: The reality is, most of
these things CAN be fixed, assuming both sides admit
there is a problem. Barring that, marriages will fail.
There has to be a willingness to work on what needs to be
worked on.