Hello Nairalander,
Five days to your wedding, you discover that your spouse is HIV positive. What will you do?

HELLO,

Five days to your wedding, you discover that your spouse is HIV positive. What will you do?

Call it off.

Genial:

Call it off.

I'll go ahead and marry him! for Christ sake it's all bout love!!not illness

If he dies, i die with him if he lives i live with him! thats love

but that aint going to be a very pleasant experience

if i don't marry he, who else do i expect to
if i let him down, who else do i expect him to trust his heart and love with
if i couldnt stand by his side in tymes like this, who else should he look Up to
if i called myself the 'girl who loves him'' and yet i can't see him through thick and thin, then who else can??
i will do! i will go ahead and marry him! afterall, we'll all going to die someday so why not just die for the sake of love rather than any other form of death
it's going to be tough but together we'll get through it

I do not only have myself to thing about but my kids . I cannot take that risk

@Rhodalyn

If you mean what you just wrote,

you must be a remarkable person.

How did she get the disease? And did she know about it but conceal such information from me?

I realize that there are other ways of contracting HIV/AIDS other than sexual intercourse. . .

But if, inspite of the fact that I have excercised great personal discipline - being a proponent of 'no sex before marriage' myself. . .

she contracted this infection by . . .

well. . .

I'd call it off.

@ Mamaput - there are ways to prevent Parent-to-child transmission.

@ Mamaput - there are ways to prevent Parent-to-child transmission.

I know but still i cannot risk getting it because i owe them an obligation to raise them.
When you have kids you have to try and live safe.

mamaput:

I know but still i cannot risk getting it because i owe them an obligation to raise them.
When you have kids you have to try and live safe.

Hmmm. . .

Apparently experience helps you think more with your head. . .

and less with your heart (and other parts of the anatomy).

very very very very simply! no more wedding! be on your kneel & be thanking ur god. for the news didn't get to u in the marriage.

If I find out that the guy I currently love to death is HIV positive, I don't know what I'll do. I love him A LOT and I can't currently imagine my life without him so I don't know what I'll do. I don't think I'll leave him, I don't know. I hope I never find out.

U leave the person:

The person didn't love you that much to tell you from the get-go. This is why pre-marital sex is to b discouraged. Now, if you have already done the wild and dirty dance and you find out he has HIV, chances are that you have it too. If you do, then you have nothing to lose and so its your choice whether or not you leave the person.

as always, my 2 cents

I wouyld be shocked and hurt that they didn't tell me about anything else. OBVIOUSLY lack of TRUST is the biggest issue and I couldn't marry someone who wwould keep life-changing things from me. i wouldn't discriminate against their being Positive but I would be really hurt by the fact that they didn't tell me in the first place and therefore stole my decision to say yes.

Men! I will call the wedding off, Asiko Iku Ko ma Da! If I wanted HIV I might as well slept with 300 men. God forbid bad thing o!

this one is haaaarrrrrdddd!

i dont know,

this a real though question that can't be answered easily.what of if you love him,and you find out he contacted the disease through being unfaithful to you what do you do?

what about testing yourself first . I mean someone loke me has to test the product b4 buying.

If u don't stand by him, who will. since u know hes going to die someday so u have to show him that love nd affection he needs, coz u're the only one that can make him feel nt ease nd know that he has a reason to live even if he'll die.

Then u both have to be prayerful nd hopeful in God, have faith in him, there's nothing he cannot do so long as u believe. Ur faith matters alot too nd the person with the virus.

One Love!!!!!!!!!!

Wow, this is a very hard topic and something that cannot be just answered in black and white. For me, i dont have simple answer, other than to wiegh the good and the bad. This is the utimate test to see if you really love the person. Could you leave the one you love so much that you are marrying that person, or do you stay and run the risk of contracting the disease yourself. This is something very life altering. But it is also something the two must disuss and overcome. Marriage already has its battles, so just work it out before the wedding. Again i say, tough decision!

The question just got trickier:what if you guys had been having sex before you got to know?

If i don't have it too(which i won't)i'll just calmly break up with him cos no guy is worth dying 4 abeg,plus i want 2 see my great grand children.

I would call it off. I can't handle that situation personally.

Off the wedding and investigate the matter

first things first, get yourself tested within few those days