I am in a serious relationship with a lady, we have both decided it's going to be a premarital sex free relationship. Nevertheless, I still feel we could kiss each other once in a while but she feels otherwise.
I seriously am sure it wont lead to sex cause I have serious control over my manhood, so I want to be properly sure if it's a sin to even kiss first.

I think its better to forego it. If you really want to court in purity, do it to the end.
Besides, you sound matured. If you can do without intimacy till the wedding night, while not leave everything romance till wedding night. Last time i checked, kissing is not food.
And to add, most couples who were intimate during courtship never intended to do so. It began with all this tiny things. And one kiss might not lead immediately to intimacy, but it will spark up the hormones of intimacy and the build up begins. Soon, from kiss, it goes to groping and like that and like that till it leads to the bed.
Something a relationship counsellor told me is still fresh in my mind. He said, "What you will not eat, dont smell because the distance from the nose to the mouth is not far."
Dont try to peep. Let the whole package be. It shall bring you greater joy, fulfillment and pride on the wedding night.
Thats what i have to say.

I have the feeling this would hit front page... Might be wrong though. But OP dont let false counsel deceive you.

mental slavery.....
do you think the Almighty God concern(s) Himself with such mundane things::::::::::::::

Dzany: mental slavery.....
do you think the Almighty God concern(s) Himself with such mundane things::::::::::::::

Oh yeah? He doesnt?

idnoble135: I have the feeling this would hit front page... Might be wrong though. But OP dont let false counsel deceive you.

Thanks Idnoble, we discuss a lot and yesterday during our discussions she asked me one funny question she said, "What nutrients would kissing add to my life ". I actually wanted to get angry but I laughed over it.
I won't mind bible verses either in Favour or against

Dzany: mental slavery.....
do you think the Almighty God concern(s) Himself with such mundane things::::::::::::::

I disagree with you on this. I don't think anything is mundane with God, if our hairs are counted by him then little things matter.

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Cool...

Erm... Biblical quotes or biblical verses ?

teeo have dairy sections na you come here come dey form holy hmmm wettin we no go see after all your.NYSC things you tink say we no dey follow you...No problem sha i dey observe.

shol: teeo have dairy sections na you come here come dey form holy hmmm wettin we no go see after all your.NYSC things you tink say we no dey follow you...No problem sha i dey observe.

if you truly follow my diary you would know what am talking about. Thanks for following my diary sha.

shol: teeo have dairy sections na you come here come dey form holy hmmm wettin we no go see after all your.NYSC things you tink say we no dey follow you...No problem sha i dey observe.

with what he wrote up there, it seems its the gal that is holding back.
Teeo, should cool down joor

teeo:

Brow! am seriously in concurrence to the comment the other dude made...."about nose not smelling what the mouth will not taste".

am so guilty of that and i think its berra you guyz just see your sex free arrangement to the last moment. i can assure you it'll be worth it...#esp when una no be JJC for okoso...

i really admire your sense of wanting to commit to such.....e no easy...i swear....but remember say Pr.ick no dey hear inglish so even as you sabi book reach, even if you jack pass professor, just leave that guy inside boxers abeg, no find im trouble other wise....*lips sealed*

^
Lwtmb. I laughed till i started coughing. Abeg, no kill me with laugh. Lolz

Teeo, you know i'll come here for you .
Ok, back to the topic, you admitted that this is a serious relationship and you sound like you really want this to work. Here's my candid advice, try not to bring the issue of kissing her up for a while. Maybe she is scared that if she kisses you, she may not be able to maintain her boundaries and i think as her man, you can respect that. I know its hard not to kiss a girl you have deep feelings for, but if its something you both can do without and won't in any way affect what you feel for each other, i'll advise you not to do it, at least for her sake. I know lots of people may have a contrary opinion, but the truth is that not everyone is indulging in it. God is your muscle

idnoble135: I think its better to forego it. If you really want to court in purity, do it to the end.
Besides, you sound matured. If you can do without intimacy till the wedding night, while not leave everything romance till wedding night. Last time i checked, kissing is not food.
And to add, most couples who were intimate during courtship never intended to do so. It began with all this tiny things. And one kiss might not lead immediately to intimacy, but it will spark up the hormones of intimacy and the build up begins. Soon, from kiss, it goes to groping and like that and like that till it leads to the bed.
Something a relationship counsellor told me is still fresh in my mind. He said, "What you will not eat, dont smell because the distance from the nose to the mouth is not far."
Dont try to peep. Let the whole package be. It shall bring you greater joy, fulfillment and pride on the wedding night.
Thats what i have to say.

well said.

@OP,
Kudos. Maintain this as much as possible. There is no how you will kiss her that you will not feel any sexual urges and since she is not yet your wife, abeg hold body. When you get wedded, you will have all the liberty to enjoy the whole package. It is worth it.
So enjoy the fast now.

alleviate2002us:

Brow! am seriously in concurrence to the comment the other dude made...."about nose not smelling what the mouth will not taste".

am so guilty of that and i think its berra you guyz just see your sex free arrangement to the last moment. i can assure you it'll be worth it...#esp when una no be JJC for okoso...

i really admire your sense of wanting to commit to such.....e no easy...i swear....but remember say Pr.ick no dey hear inglish so even as you sabi book reach, even if you jack pass professor, just leave that guy inside boxers abeg, no find im trouble other wise....*lips sealed*

Very true talk.


@idnoble135,
You have said it. What you cannot eat yet, try to avoid perceiving it for now.

teeo:

I won't mind bible verses either in Favour or against

There is no bible verse that says 'do not kiss your fiancee'. But you will get enough to tell you that sin looks for every opportunity so do not give occasion for it. The bible says flee every appearance of evil. As I said earlier, the desire to kiss her is also borne out of the bottled passion. Do not give it opportunity to erupt. And the bible said this:

I Timothy 5:1-2
1 Never speak harshly to an older man, but appeal to him respectfully as you would to your own father. Talk to younger men as you would to your own brothers
2 Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters

This was an exhortation to an unmarried Timothy. As long as she is not (yet) your wife, I pray you receive the grace and strength to treat her as your sister in all purity(as I am sure you will not clamour to want to kiss your sister) but you are entitled to all in marriage. I really appreciate men who are willing to stand like this and I pray you will remain steadfast not only on this matter but other good things as well.

alleviate2002us:

Brow! am seriously in concurrence to the comment the other dude made...."about nose not smelling what the mouth will not taste".

am so guilty of that and i think its berra you guyz just see your sex free arrangement to the last moment. i can assure you it'll be worth it...#esp when una no be JJC for okoso...

i really admire your sense of wanting to commit to such.....e no easy...i swear....but remember say Pr.ick no dey hear inglish so even as you sabi book reach, even if you jack pass professor, just leave that guy inside boxers abeg, no find im trouble other wise....*lips sealed*

True sha.

Alwaystrue:
There is no bible verse that says 'do not kiss your fiancee'. But you will get enough to tell you that sin looks for every opportunity so do not give occasion for it. The bible says flee every appearance of evil. As I said earlier, the desire to kiss her is also borne out of the bottled passion. Do not give it opportunity to erupt. And the bible said this:

I Timothy 5:1-2
1 Never speak harshly to an older man, but appeal to him respectfully as you would to your own father. Talk to younger men as you would to your own brothers
2 Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters

This was an exhortation to an unmarried Timothy. As long as she is not (yet) your wife, I pray you receive the grace and strength to treat her as your sister in all purity(as I am sure you will not clamour to want to kiss your sister) but you are entitled to all in marriage. I really appreciate men who are willing to stand like this and I pray you will remain steadfast not only on this matter but other good things as well.

Well said...........

Tgirl4real:



True sha.

Iya what is true ooo

teeo:

Iya what is true ooo

What Alleviate said.

Tgirl4real:


What Alleviate said.

i have heeded his advice sha, no need smelling what you won't eat. But it hasn't been funny, his strength is sufficient

@ op u want 2 knw if kissin ur fiancee is a sin ? Understand dat a little leaven leaveneth d whole lump. Can a man put fire in his bossom nd nt b burnt ? Can a man walk ön hot coals nd his leg nt get burnt? Ur anser 2 dis question will tell u if it is gud or bad.

idnoble135: I think its better to forego it. If you really want to court in purity, do it to the end.
Besides, you sound matured. If you can do without intimacy till the wedding night, while not leave everything romance till wedding night. Last time i checked, kissing is not food.
And to add, most couples who were intimate during courtship never intended to do so. It began with all this tiny things. And one kiss might not lead immediately to intimacy, but it will spark up the hormones of intimacy and the build up begins. Soon, from kiss, it goes to groping and like that and like that till it leads to the bed.
Something a relationship counsellor told me is still fresh in my mind. He said, "What you will not eat, dont smell because the distance from the nose to the mouth is not far."
Dont try to peep. Let the whole package be. It shall bring you greater joy, fulfillment and pride on the wedding night.
Thats what i have to say.

i dnt have anything more to say. U just said it all. No more no less.

Alwaystrue:
There is no bible verse that says 'do not kiss your fiancee'. But you will get enough to tell you that sin looks for every opportunity so do not give occasion for it. The bible says flee every appearance of evil. As I said earlier, the desire to kiss her is also borne out of the bottled passion. Do not give it opportunity to erupt. And the bible said this:

I Timothy 5:1-2
1 Never speak harshly to an older man, but appeal to him respectfully as you would to your own father. Talk to younger men as you would to your own brothers
2 Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters

This was an exhortation to an unmarried Timothy. As long as she is not (yet) your wife, I pray you receive the grace and strength to treat her as your sister in all purity(as I am sure you will not clamour to want to kiss your sister) but you are entitled to all in marriage. I really appreciate men who are willing to stand like this and I pray you will remain steadfast not only on this matter but other good things as well.

u are always true.