If the father in this situation doesn't affirm her, love her, tell her she's pretty, put his arm around her and give her attention, she often looks for it elsewhere. The only thing she has to bargain with is her sexuality, and she thinks she'll be loved if she gives certain gifts of her sexuality. We know where that leads: he gets what he wants and dumps her, and she doesn't get what she wants, which is love.' Dad, if you've been AWOL, come back to your children, particularly your daughters.

You can't undo the past, but with God's help you can give your children the future they deserve. But it must become one of your highest priorities.

Nashville: This is a very good topic and may be there are a few things for some men to learn. Fathers should understand they are role models to their children. The first example of a husband or father your children see will be you so you need to understand whatever you do goes a lot way to influence your children's expectations of what a father or husband should be. A few tips here
1. You need to spend more time getting to know your daughters. As much as possible let them lack nothing they need. And also teach them the right principles and the right role models. You dont want Paris Hilton and Britney Spears to be their role models.
2. Find sometime to go to their schools and talk to their teachers. This is very important. Lots of parents while I was growing up did not have a clue what their children were like outside home. Speaking to their teachers is very important to know what they get upto in school.
3. Just dont give them stuff, but be there for them. They need to see you as more than just a provider but also as someone that takes interest in them and in what they do. When I buy toys for my daughters, I fix the toys in their presence. I remember when I bought them a trampoline and I got a friend to help fix it together, they were like wow, daddy is very strong and I also personally supervise them when they are playing.
4. Being there and getting to know them builds trust. They need to trust you and believe in you. Go with them to their parties when possible and get to know their friends daddies too. That also helps.
5. At the same time know when to apply discipline. Your daughters need to see you as an authority figure just like they need to see their husbands as an authority figure.

A few tips on how to act as a husband
1. Never hit your wife. You pass a message across to your daughters that it is perfectly acceptable. Some people say girls from abusive homes sometimes marry abusive guys too. It may just be because they think all men are like that because daddy is like that
2. Never cheat on your wife. Again you pass across the wrong message that it is acceptable.
3. If you do any of the two above or anything else wrong, do not blame your wife for it. Remember it is your choice. If you blame your wife again you tell your daughters it is their fault if their boyfriend cheats on them.

I know lots of fathers out there who have a good heart but they are very busy. My advice it to create the time especially to go to their schools. Even if it is once a year, take a day off and go see how your children are doing. It would not cost you too much!

Nashville: This is a very good topic and may be there are a few things for some men to learn. Fathers should understand they are role models to their children. The first example of a husband or father your children see will be you so you need to understand whatever you do goes a lot way to influence your children's expectations of what a father or husband should be. A few tips here
1. You need to spend more time getting to know your daughters. As much as possible let them lack nothing they need. And also teach them the right principles and the right role models. You dont want Paris Hilton and Britney Spears to be their role models.
2. Find sometime to go to their schools and talk to their teachers. This is very important. Lots of parents while I was growing up did not have a clue what their children were like outside home. Speaking to their teachers is very important to know what they get upto in school.
3. Just dont give them stuff, but be there for them. They need to see you as more than just a provider but also as someone that takes interest in them and in what they do. When I buy toys for my daughters, I fix the toys in their presence. I remember when I bought them a trampoline and I got a friend to help fix it together, they were like wow, daddy is very strong and I also personally supervise them when they are playing.
4. Being there and getting to know them builds trust. They need to trust you and believe in you. Go with them to their parties when possible and get to know their friends daddies too. That also helps.
5. At the same time know when to apply discipline. Your daughters need to see you as an authority figure just like they need to see their husbands as an authority figure.

A few tips on how to act as a husband
1. Never hit your wife. You pass a message across to your daughters that it is perfectly acceptable. Some people say girls from abusive homes sometimes marry abusive guys too. It may just be because they think all men are like that because daddy is like that
2. Never cheat on your wife. Again you pass across the wrong message that it is acceptable.
3. If you do any of the two above or anything else wrong, do not blame your wife for it. Remember it is your choice. If you blame your wife again you tell your daughters it is their fault if their boyfriend cheats on them.

I know lots of fathers out there who have a good heart but they are very busy. My advice it to create the time especially to go to their schools. Even if it is once a year, take a day off and go see how your children are doing. It would not cost you too much!

damiso: So so true about how a father affirms who you are.Me and my younger sis were chatting yesterday about how she kinda hates going for family functions now.This is because she keeps getting annoying innuendos about her bringing home a husband.We were both like all this people would not dare be asking all those questions if my Dad were there .People sef knew the man, he will tell you straight up my girls are first individuals who are meant to be first achievers in their own rights.If a man comes along that will match their goals fine but please NEVER ever put pressure on my girls regarding marriage.She was like I miss Daddy alot o.

Han that Man built up our self esteem.

Nashville nailed it in his post. I hope all fathers can have that mindset.

1. You need to spend more time getting to know your daughters. As much as possible let them lack nothing they need.

sholay2011: Over sense-making is worrying the posts here.

bellong: The mothers of those without fathers can do well to help their children get a male role model (mentor) who can serve as a father figure in their lives.

yellowpawpaw:
Mr Bellong,I beg to disagree with u. Anybody can be a role model irrespective of gender.
(b)I grew up w'out a dad(/b) and never had a male role model. Never needed one cos my mum made me not to feel the vacuum. I believe there r millions out there like me 2.

biolabee: Cool...it all starts with fatherhood

jidegirl12: Thanks YPP

@Bellong, I still don't trust those people ... Higher % of sexually abused young girls were mostly defiled by family member/role model/godwhatever sorry.

Let the available parent do the job , it's not cut out for any gender IMO.... Last time I checked its OUR children.