Bootylicious: She has a spiritual problem and needs deliverance

Every_LadY: I brought this question to the family section because of the maturity of most of its handlers.
I have this friend,she is very mature,in her 30's.She seem not to know how to sustain relationships. She had dated good marriageable men, yet non has transformed into marriage. Her problem is that when a man approaches her for friendship,she will like or even love the person,but once the man want to take the relationship further for marriage,she will lose every interest in that man.This friend is a good christian. when we (ie her friends)tried to make her see this as a serious issue,she will tell us that every man she looses interest in is not God's will for her marriage.
Please house how do we help this friend of mine? We have even suggested she go see Ms.Funmi Akingbade. Anybody with any known solution please?

2goodbobo: She needs spiritual bath.

Every_LadY: I love that finally I got some responses on this issue. Thanks to all contributions. Most of the things I wrote are actually her personal concern, not mine. She keep asking me "Why am I interested in a man today,I will even be wishing he propose and the very moment the proposal comes,my interest begins to wane and I will not even want to see the person again".

Ms.Funmi Akingbade is Psychology/marriage counselor in Lagos. Me think she is kind of balanced in her approach to marriage issues.

@yellowpawpow, she has had her own share of psychological issues while growing up.Molested by uncles,suffered the death of 1st fiance while they were preparing for marriage,had another marriage preparation called off at the last minute.
So all these have compounded her case.
I will have her come here to read ur posts since she is not a nairalander.

greatgod2012:


she has all these problems, especially, being molested by uncles and here you are asking why shes afraid to love or marry anyone, the problem is that, she will believe all men are the same. She is suffering from the fear of the past and fear of the future. She need to see a psychologist/a certified marriage counsellor as soon as possible. It is not her fault at all. For now, if she is based in Nigeria, Funmi Akingbade is who comes to my mind. But tell her to not allow what happened in the past to ruin her future joy. It is well with her and may God give her the healing she really need.

Bootylicious: She has a spiritual problem and needs deliverance

Bootylicious: She has a spiritual problem and needs deliverance

yellowpawpaw: Oh no! I just pity her. Pls tell her it is well.
Nothing lasts forever. She will heal.
I had a psychological problems too during my own time and was aversive to men. I will give all manner of reason not to consider a man's proposal. I was running from d inevitable but I cried to God one day that I need help.
When hubby came my way, even though that other part of me was saying no,I just couldn't help but fall for him cos he was very understanding of d situation on ground.

She should pls accept d fact that everything is not ok.(I'm going this deep cos u said she will read this)
Its not her fault that she experienced tragedy(part of life). I can't even start with my own shares of them.
Has she ever let it out or she just bottled the whole thing up? Can she cry, throw something,yell? By all means she should indulge herself whenever d feeling is too strong for her(part of healin process)
Is she a christian? Jer29:11 should be always on her lips( positive confession).this will make her start thinkin differently about life generally.
When her man comes around, he will break d remaing barrier if there is any. But she has to be open to d guy.

I so much feel for her. Pls dear, God will bring a man that will make u feel lv again and believe u me, u will not feel d past again.
I wish u well dear,I hope and pray u share ur testimony with us.

Poster,u guys should not pressurize her.let her heal from within.
As for d randy uncle,pls try and forgive him so u can heal properly.

God's blessing and guidance.