harkindele: Firstly, I'm not sure where to post this topic, maybe religion section or romance. So I'm sorry if I'm posting in the wrong section.

I have been in this relationship since June 2012. I'm a 22 year old undergraduate dating this girl (18) Unilag student 100L. I'm from a Christian home, both parents holding one post or the other in the Church. My girlfriend is a Muslim...a devoted one (wears hijab). She floods her facebook/twitter timeline with various islamic stuffs. + observes 5X prayer.

We started d relationship knowing fully well that we do not share d same faith, we are so much into each other now that we know everything about each other, I knw her friends & siblings and she knows mine too. Infact, d only thing we haven't done is to introduce ourselves to both parents.

Our relationship is so sweet that it even makes her friends jealous, one thing I can boast of is d love she has for me. She will do almost anything to please me.

The sad part is that I told her that I can't marry a muslim n dat I want her to convert. She said no...dat she can't convert. We broke up for 2days n we continued our thing. (Problem not solved yet). She told me dat I can hav the kids (as xtians) after marriage dat I should let her continue as a muslim.

I'm confused now, I don't knw wat to do, I don't wanna loose her. D option of me breaking up with her is a no go area cos she might kill herself. The love is too much, she is one of those girls that wears emotion in the head like head tie...she can do n undo if I try breaking up again.


Do u guys think inter religion marriage is possible? We are so much in love that we even forgot that the church/mosque preaches against this kind of relationship. I think about this everyday n night, really really confused.

harkindele: Firstly, I'm not sure where to post this topic, maybe religion section or romance. So I'm sorry if I'm posting in the wrong section.

I have been in this relationship since June 2012. I'm a 22 year old undergraduate dating this girl (18) Unilag student 100L. I'm from a Christian home, both parents holding one post or the other in the Church. My girlfriend is a Muslim...a devoted one (wears hijab). She floods her facebook/twitter timeline with various islamic stuffs. + observes 5X prayer.

We started d relationship knowing fully well that we do not share d same faith, we are so much into each other now that we know everything about each other, I knw her friends & siblings and she knows mine too. Infact, d only thing we haven't done is to introduce ourselves to both parents.

Our relationship is so sweet that it even makes her friends jealous, one thing I can boast of is d love she has for me. She will do almost anything to please me.

The sad part is that I told her that I can't marry a muslim n dat I want her to convert. She said no...dat she can't convert. We broke up for 2days n we continued our thing. (Problem not solved yet). She told me dat I can hav the kids (as xtians) after marriage dat I should let her continue as a muslim.

I'm confused now, I don't knw wat to do, I don't wanna loose her. D option of me breaking up with her is a no go area cos she might kill herself. The love is too much, she is one of those girls that wears emotion in the head like head tie...she can do n undo if I try breaking up again.


Do u guys think inter religion marriage is possible? We are so much in love that we even forgot that the church/mosque preaches against this kind of relationship. I think about this everyday n night, really really confused.

dareabiola98: I guess in both religion.its not allowed to marry a disbeliever.I like you as u have shared that wc is bothering u,I guess u want pple to be blunt. 1.Seeing a girl without the concent of one's parent in islam in unlawful,I guess it is in christianity too 2. Marrying a non-believer is also unlawful as our christian brethren have stated above 3. The consequences of these kind of union are so much that,it'll kill the love.trust me...if both of u are really religious pple,working for heaven,u wouldn't even be able to.If u r sure about ur faith,u'll try to change her,if she's sure abt hers she'll try to change u 4.islam is not just a religion but a way of life,r u ready to spend ur whole life with a woman that lives islam...there are so many things u have to do to be a muslim.I would have staed them but I guess u could know from her 5.think about ur children.u'll definitely cause segregation between them. The only way that this could work is that both of u are not in any way religious at all.

Evil Brain: Marry the Girl if you like. If your relationship is the way you've described, then you're not likely going to have any problems with her.

On the other hand, you'll definitely have problems with your extended families. Religious fanatics are experts at sowing discord and there is guaranteed to be at more than one on each.side.

My advice to you is marry the girl after the two of you discuss and agree on how you're going to live and what you're going to teach your children. Then afterwards, keep your extended families at arms length. Be polite to them and attend occasions when you cant avoid it, but do all you can to minimize contact with them. Don't ever involve them in any decision regarding your children or marriage. Never ever (ever) allow one of them to stay in your house no matter what.

As long as both of you remember that its you against the world, you should be okay.

Ijawboi: 18, 22, 100Level and let me guess yours 300Level...
You are in love and your relationship is less than six months( just guessing) and you wanna get married??
Really? You're thinking about marriage, Like seriously??
Go sidon joor, when time reach nobody go tel yu.

robosky02: helo are the beatiful sisters finished in church that u want muslim
:ohelo are the beatiful sisters finished in church that u want muslim

harkindele:
Love is not beauty, beauty is not love!

mcfynest: i had to like your post @alfa cos of some level of truth in it....




@op...2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

i think this is all you need...

texanomaly: There is much good advice here. Something you need to think about though is this; Why have you and your girlfriend not told your families about each other?

I am not Nigerian, but I have seen and heard enough to know that family is important. It is easy for someone to say, "forget about your family, and go for it." You need to seriously consider why you hesitate to tell your families. Don't think for a moment that your "love" will see you through.

It may not mater now, because you are blinded by the wonderful, exciting feeling you are both having. One day it WILL mater. Make no mistake. More than likely when the children are born.

Pretending that your family doesn't mater, won't make it so. The opinion of your family obviously maters, or you wouldn't be here.

mcfynest: i had to like your post @alfa cos of some level of truth in it....




@op...2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

i think this is all you need...

hisableplc:

hMN I was waiting for this 2corin tinz but we fail to address d real issue and mistake made, well i agree wit dat verse but when God told the prophet in the old testament to marry a prostitute it was for a reason, Moses married an alien it was God`s will Jesus dinned with zacheus and many more. one thing you dont understand is that you can see a light or know the worth of a light in a broad day light, its worth can only be found in the dark. so understand the scriptures n apply it with wisdom emphasis should be made on having a relationship with God first so that our steps could be ordered by him.

omotayokay: @OP, there is nothing wrong in a Christian marrying a Muslim...infact, it will turn out to be blessing to you because you'll get to increase your knowledge about God and the forms in which He exists! But, the extended family tinzz could be frustrating!

omotayokay: @OP, there is nothing wrong in a Christian marrying a Muslim...infact, it will turn out to be blessing to you because you'll get to increase your knowledge about God and the forms in which He exists! But, the extended family tinzz could be frustrating!

omotayokay: @OP, there is nothing wrong in a Christian marrying a Muslim...infact, it will turn out to be blessing to you because you'll get to increase your knowledge about God and the forms in which He exists! But, the extended family tinzz could be frustrating!

mcfynest:


AH!!!!!