my assistance is disturbing the peace in my home.my hubby took a loan to start a business for me, i observed that once the monthly loan deduction is made, we r left wit very little coupled wit my meagre salary of 15k, i started typing projects to make xtra cash to support d house since d business has not kicked off yet, but my hubby does not appreciate it, all he complains about is that i am neglecting d kids which is nt true, i love and care for them as i have always done. Note that i do d typing in the house so i can put an eye on d kids and do other house chores.pls i will like to knw if i ve gone wrong cos i am confused and funny enuf we both spend d money together.pls advice me cos i am so confused and feeling so unappreciated.thanks

Does this really need a thread on NL? What about just sitting down and talking about it? He took out a loan to start a business for you, so it's not like he's an uncaring man. So what's hard about simply having a discussion about how to balance things in your home?

@ OP, the judges and lawyers of the Supreme Court of Nairaland will handle your case soon. Just wait a while.

ileobatojo: Does this really need a thread on NL? What about just sitting down and talking about it? He took out a loan to start a business for you, so it's not like he's an uncaring man. So what's hard about simply having a discussion about how to balance things in your home?

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ileobatojo: Does this really need a thread on NL? What about just sitting down and talking about it? He took out a loan to start a business for you, so it's not like he's an uncaring man. So what's hard about simply having a discussion about how to balance things in your home?

i never said he is uncaring, infact he is the most caring man a woman wld want, i just dnt understand why he does not key into the idea, or was what i did wrong?just wondering, that is all.maybe i should just stop helpin out.

ileobatojo: Does this really need a thread on NL? What about just sitting down and talking about it? He took out a loan to start a business for you, so it's not like he's an uncaring man. So what's hard about simply having a discussion about how to balance things in your home?

Ewomab: i never said he is uncaring, infact he is the most caring man a woman wld want, i just dnt understand why he does not key into the idea, or was what i did wrong?just wondering, that is all.maybe i should just stop helpin out.

Do the bolded first before you seek for help. Communication helps a lot, its marriage friendly.

Ewomab: i never said he is uncaring, infact he is the most caring man a woman wld want, i just dnt understand why he does not key into the idea, or was what i did wrong?just wondering, that is all.maybe i should just stop helpin out.

Since he's the most caring man a woman would want, why should you stop helping out? It sounds like his concern is that the children are not getting enough attention because everyone is hustling. So you guys sit down and discuss the financial and caregiving situation together and work out ways to make it work. Like you can do most of your typing when he's home to watch the kids, things like that.

Ewomab: my assistance is disturbing the peace in my home.my hubby took a loan to start a business for me, i observed that once the monthly loan deduction is made, we r left wit very little coupled wit my meagre salary of 15k, i started typing projects to make xtra cash to support d house since d business has not kicked off yet, but my hubby does not appreciate it, all he complains about is that i am neglecting d kids which is nt true, i love and care for them as i have always done. Note that i do d typing in the house so i can put an eye on d kids and do other house chores.pls i will like to knw if i ve gone wrong cos i am confused and funny enuf we both spend d money together.pls advice me cos i am so confused and feeling so unappreciated.thanks

How many kids do you have and how old are they?

What did your hubby mean by the statement "You're neglecting the kids"? Do you have a baby / toddler in your care? Did your hubby come home to find the baby covered in faeces? Unwashed and crying from hunger? Left alone to tamper with potentially hazardous materials in the home?

What?

Assistance?? You're not doing anybody no favor Abeg, it's your duty to pitch in and provide for your family too,

abi your husband is your acquaintance and those kids of yours your cousins??

Do your part and let him appreciate your effort naturally instead of drumming how helpful you are into his ears every-time.

It is your JOB.

^^ Lol!

You harsh o! Easy on her now, Jide

^^ abi now... Who's she doing a favor, Me or You?

jidegirl12: ^^ abi now... Who's she doing a favor, Me or You?

Her community?

^^ LOL

By the way how are you and yours jare?