Okay. I am really sorry to bring all this up AGAIN (pele o). I now fully expect a torrent of abuse and put downs from the Nairaland community, because it is what I am used to. But please, I pray, if there is any helpful people out there with an insight into the Nigerian woman's mind, please reply with some advice. What does she mean? What is she thinking? Because I do not want anyone to get hurt, particularly this amazing Nigerian woman:

This post follows on from: https://www.nairaland.com/1313544/really-liked-naija-yoruba-girl

So I had decided it was not even worth me explaining my feelings for her. That I care about her deeply. That I do not want to ruin things and risk hurting myself...but especially HER. I kind of gave up any chance in my head and thought we would stay friends.

I haven't contacted her for a couple of weeks. She phoned me during the day, I did not answer. I returned a call later in the evening. She had just returned to her family home. I THINK that there were family members near by. We had a phone call.

ME: "I saw my grandparents at the weekend"
HER: "They are still alive? You must work hard in this new job and have a family to make them proud"
ME: "Yes but I am still looking for a wife"
HER: "You must find one now, there is no time to waste, you must ask someone you know" [Context: She has said this a lot to me, along with 'return to Nigeria']
ME: "Yes I will find a good wife, what about you? You have found a husband?"
HER: "No I am still a little girl (giggles)" [Context: She is actually late 20's and a few years older than me] "You will have a Yoruba wedding in Nigeria abi?"
ME: "Yes I would like that very much! A street wedding! But I do not think I would find a oyinbo woman that would want a Yoruba wedding"
HER: "Ahhhh, so you are going to marry an oyinbo woman?"
ME: "Skin does not matter. Oyinbo or black. As long as they are good in character. What about you? I remember you said that you would marry Yoruba"
HER: "Yes, I must marry Yoruba {begins to whisper and talk very quietly} because they speak the same language, I do not want my husbands parents talking about me in a different language" [Context: She had repeatedly asked to speak to my parents on the telephone and say 'hello', I thought this a little odd from my culture's perspective and she always talks about it and repeats that she doesn't understand why she cannot talk to them]
ME: "Ahhhhh. I see. But you are very good character. Why would they talk about you?"
HER: {Still whispering} "Yes, Yoruba have very good character. They do not like to see harm to others"
ME: "Ahhhh, they are peaceful abi?"
HER: "Yes"
ME: "I remember very nice things about the Yoruba. You are very friendly and open, 'we are one' abi?"
HER: "Yes, 'we are one', you did not call me back earlier in the day. Why was that? You were busy abi?"
ME: "Yes I was out"

Conversation continues a little longer:

HER: "Do not let me waste your recharge"
ME: "Okay"

We end the conversation, but she sounds sadder and more downcast than usual when we ended the conversation.

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Am I going crazy or was she trying to tell me something? Was this just a normal conversation. I am sure we both like each other at least a little, although it has never been said. I played it very cool because I thought we were friends. She did a lot more talking than usual.

A little confused? My main concern is that she does not get hurt...but I would like to know peoples views on this conversation.

Thank you people!

Smdh!!! She was trying to say “UP NEPA”

Mr. Learner

sylvar02: Smdh!!! She was trying to say “UP NEPA”

Mr. Learner

I knew I would get mugu comments. Please translate.

P.S. I am oyinbo (UK), she is Nigerian (in Nigeria) if you didn't know. We do know each other. I stayed with her and her family.

Please. Enough with the silly, mugu comments. Yes I am a learner. I have stated the facts, WHAT DO YOU THINK SHE MEANS?