In some marriage, I have seen good number of couples who don’t quarrel nor fight with each other as well as contradict each other, but despite how peaceful they are leaving, They are still missing something between them: LOVE.

Marriages are always at its best  when husband and wife  make some compromises. In some context, it is a fact that most of the marriage are not by love but arranged and some just married because they think is the right time- The both spouse are ignorant of each other  and have to compromise in some way to make the relationship viable. But these compromises shouldn’t be confused with love.

Yes is true that  love develops in a matter of time. Company becomes a habit. While Habit will  lead to feeling good and a kind of tolerance in its company. It might  happen that one of the pair may compromise till death. But staying together because it is habit is still not love and can never be love.

Togetherness, compromise and  habituation is not love. Love is a mistry, something extra;a divine notion, an ambrosial experience, a celestial feeling and totally unconditional. Love is above trust, above and higher than the earthly attraction and above all, love is logic. The barriers to love are ego, a taken for granted attitude and insecurity. They block the true path that  leads to you, expressing your feelings.

Examples:

In some relationships, Due to insecurity a husband will start behaving abnormal. For example a husband looking at how  pretty, young and beautiful wife is and may one day elope with  other fellow. Which will lead him to insecurity that will always provokes him to behave in a abnormal way. This insecurity will make him spy, guard and constraint all her financial activities and that that gives her joy with a preconceived notion. Which at the end sense of suspicion will occupied his love and family love.

Both partners will always  try their best to adapt  to each other or try to appease themselves. Which at a point in time, the couples will start blaming each other for not understanding their sacrifice, this happen because  love is being suppressed by sacrifice and sacrifice can only go for limited time.

In some situation either the husband/wife always fear that their love might be seen as weakness, making the other to overpower him/her, so the two try their best to hide their emotions, which by the time he/she realizes what has happened, it is almost over.

Mourn your partner or crying  before a picture means nothing. when he/she was alive, always ignored.. Some people only  realize how value your partner is, long after him. These barriers is a silent killer of love and marriage,  just like using carbon monoxide to replace oxygen from hemoglobin; the victim succumbs to death.

This is very simple,  discuss your problems, shed your ego, be frank to each other. That you are not  quarreling with your partner  does not mean you have no issues in your marriage, rather it is a sort of compromise. Note that in your love world, When compromise intrudes, Your relationship/marriage becomes conditional. This upsets equilibrium of love.

Grab the opportunity by putting 100% into that relationship. You both should Start enjoying each other’s company without any kind of expectation and you will see how you will be reciprocated and appreciated by your partner. Love seems to mature and grow bigger when it is reciprocated.