rahamAllah:
Am very sure you are presently living an unhappy life.
I just want to wish you all the best ahead.
Live wise, live Islam.

martronilla: A Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian
woman, but a Christian man is not permitted
to marry a Muslim woman.
I remember hearing an interview on the
radio with a Muslim, a few years ago. As the
interview began, the host asked the Muslim
guest whether he was married. He replied
that Islam is so open and tolerant that he is
married to a Christian. Islam means equality
and no discrimination.
However, the quick-minded interviewer
asked him if Islam allows a Jewish man or a
Christian man to marry a Muslim woman.
The guest’s enthusiasm dropped a little. He
had to concede that Islam does not allow
this. The radio host pressed home the point,
saying that the guest’s first statement was a
little misleading, wasn’t it? They argued for a
moment or two. Then, if I recall correctly, the
radio host sensed his guest’s unease and
changed the subject.
A short article from a Muslim website,
representing many others, says about
religiously mixed marriages:
It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to
marry a non-Muslim man.
It is permissible for a Muslim man to marry a
Christian/Jewish woman strictly under these
two conditions:
1. She is a true Christian/Jew – not by
name and/or ancestral background.
2. She did not renegade from Islam and
become a Christian/Jew.
Why is marriage allowed in only one
direction? Maybe seventh-century Arab
culture will answer this question. Perhaps
the Quran itself does not honor women,
married or not.
What does the New Testament say on the
matter?
The Quran
For the historical and literary topical context
of this next sura (chapter), please click here.
The Quran in Sura 5:5 says:
. . . Likewise you are permitted to marry
chaste believing women [Muslims] or chaste
women among the people who were given
the Scripture [Jews and Christians] . . . .
(Maududi, vol. 1, p. 427)
This verse, as noted, says that Islam permits
Muslim men to marry non-Muslim women
who are Christians and Jews, but a Jewish
or Christian man may not marry a Muslim
woman. (In this article I will address only the
Christian community.) What is the rationale
behind the ruling?
Beyond any doubt, Islam is patriarchal, so a
Muslim man must have final control in the
relationship. For example, Sura 4:34 says
that a husband may hit his wife, but no
verse in the Quran says a wife may hit her
husband—as if domestic violence in any
form is acceptable.
It may be true that Muhammad at first
respected Judaism and Christianity, but he
turned against them later on in his life, as
seen in this article and this one. So this
means that in seventh-century Arab culture
a Muslim man may dominate his wife or
wives, but not a Christian man who would
dominate his Muslim wife.
Islam allegedly is the best and final religion
for all humankind, and the Muslim man may
convert his submissive wife. Perhaps in
Muhammad’s mind no woman could ever
convert a Muslim man, if he is a
traditionalist. Today, this is especially true if
he comes from a hard line region in an
Islamic country or a hard line Muslim family.
Therefore, Christian women must be careful
about marrying Muslim men. Islam does not
give the same rights to women as it does to
men. In fact, the Quran clearly says that
women are inferior to men.
Further, to be blunt, but also factual, Islam
generally is a cruel and harsh slave-master.
This article shows that Muslim men are
permitted to have sex with their slave-girls.
This article gives the top ten reasons why
Islam is not the religion of peace. And this
article offers the top ten reasons why
Islamic law is bloody and excessive—six
hundred years after Jesus showed us a
better way. Finally, this article gives the top
ten rules in the Quran that oppress and
insult women. Islam, as the whole world
knows by many, many reports, does not
honor women.
Therefore, Christians must not trade in the
eternal Son of God who sets people free
today and offers the love of God, for a
human and mortal messenger Muhammad
(Suras 3:144; 39:30; 41:4), who is too often
cruel and harsh and misogynistic. Islam
does not honor women.
If a Christian woman marries a Muslim, but
holds on to her beliefs, such as the Sonship
and Lordship of Christ, then ipso facto she
holds on to a false belief and may be
considered a "heretic" or an "infidel," if the
Quran and traditional Islamic theology are
followed consistently.
Also, would the children be Muslims or
Christians, or secular? The answer is clear, if
Islam is followed consistently.
What kind of marriage would this be?
Where is the spiritual connection and
agreement between husband and wife and
God?
The New Testament
The New Testament starts the soon-to-be
married couple on an equal footing in the
selection of a mate.
The New Testament in 1 Corinthians 7:39
says that a Christian woman may marry only
a Christian man (and vice-versa) (see also 2
Corinthians 6:14-18). At first glance, this
divine counsel seems too restrictive, but
looked at more deeply, it demonstrates a lot
of wisdom. If a married couple starts their
walk together with the same faith and
theology, then this takes the pressure off of
possibly converting the partner to the
other’s faith. One partner does not have to
"evangelize" the other partner. Neither
partner starts off as an "infidel" or "heretic."
In Biblical Christianity, the man and the
woman must have a deep, spiritual
relationship with Jesus Christ, individually,
through the power of the Holy Spirit before
they become one flesh in marriage. This
means their spiritual intimacy with the Lord
will be shared in the couple’s own intimacy
with each other.
Also, this true spiritual equality takes away
any patriarchy. The woman already agrees
with the husband in matters of religion, so
what need does he have to control the
relationship and lay down religious law?
In a way, Islam acknowledges this
restriction when it forbids a Muslim from
marrying a polytheist or idolater (Sura
2:221). They are too far apart theologically.
Likewise, though neither religion is
polytheistic, Islam and Christianity are too
far apart theologically and spiritually, notably
in Muhammad’s denial of the Sonship of
Jesus Christ, an essential, non-negotiable
doctrine in Christianity. Islam wrongly
demotes Jesus to a mere prophet. The New
Testament everywhere affirms the Sonship
of Christ.
On a heart-felt level, the Muslim does not
receive the Holy Spirit because he does not
receive Christ as Savior and Lord. In fact,
Islamic theology erroneously reduces the
Holy Spirit to the angel Gabriel. This means
that a marriage between a Muslim and a
Christian would be unequal. And this is risky
for the Christian, since she would be most
vulnerable to a particularly strong patriarchy
that may rear its ugly head later on in the
marriage.
Remember, the Quran gives permission to
husbands to hit their wives if the husbands
merely fear high handedness or rebellion in
their wives (Sura 4:34).
Besides this practical reason, if a Christian
understands the New Testament, then he or
she must not marry a Muslim, for spiritual
and theological reasons.
A Christian couple must keep spiritual unity.
They must raise their children in spiritual
harmony, as followers of Christ.

sakaguchi: Well, my girlfriend is a Muslim, we have eyes gazed to the future. I'm a Christian and personally, I believe that "love conquers all". People have reservations about such relationships, I hear muslim men are allowed to marry Christians or Jews and are not compel to force their wives to change faith so long as children from that patriarchal setup we invariably be muslims.
My folks a just watching now I guess, her parents don't seem to raise their eyebrow with furrowed forehead, so we just might be.
Our understanding is that I wouldn't force her to change faith which ofcourse I don't see me doing.

However, Islam doesn't allow girls to marry outside the faith and Christianity doesn't allow both male and female to be wedded with non-believers ( I think).
But at the end of the day love conquers all

ay0201: till then, I siddon dey watch!

SELFWORTH:


....I hope you have also made a decision about how you will split your earnings too when you divorce because you are simply storing up problems for the future.


How will your own'two' because one?

rahamAllah:
Am very sure you are presently living an unhappy life.
I just want to wish you all the best ahead.
Live wise, live Islam.

Joyeux: A strong fanatic christain cannot marry a strong fanatic muslim.it can only happen if one of them is not strong in his/her faith.

Lilimax: A moslem girl can get married to a Christian so long as she is ready to
drop her religion and embrace the religion of her husband

hafees: I am sure this will generate another hate spitting debates- somebody have started with calling muslims terrorists or i cannot marry a muslim low IQ statements

I am a muslim Yoruba and i married an ibo girl, she is now a muslim (a very good muslim). Its simple: you marry the man you marry into the religion.

But in all, we are all from the same Adam n Eve, let stop venting with hatred.

Kingsleyinfo:

First thing you need to realise is that Christianity is not a religion, its a 'faith' (something you believe in), just because someone goes to church doesn't exactly make them a christian, so no one can become a Christian by association. Its a personal decision.

Secondly, as far as am concerned, its wrong in all its totality, I see no reason why you would want to mix water and oil and expect them to have the same viscosity..
Granted they are both liquid, but serve very different purposes.

No matter how similar Christianity and Islam might be in terms of morals, at the end of the day, certain issues will always arise, that might become cause for concern.

Please, no one should talk about religious tolerance here, I believe marriage should be between two people who have the same fundamental beliefs, which in this case is not.

Still under the 'faith' umbrella, I believe that both side of the divide see each other as unbelievers..... So why would I want to burden myself with such issues.

Its difficult enough marrying a fellow 'so called christian' I don't wanna imagine what it would be like getting married to a 'non christian'


Had to add this after reading the quoted post again.
You can't become a christian by association, I don't know about Islam, but I know too well that being a Christian is a personal decision that not even your parents can make for you..... So getting married to a Muslim, is already against the christian faith in the first place. So to answer your question properly, no Christian would marry a Muslim, if he or she does, then he or she was never a Christian in the first place, its as simple as that. So I see no reason why the Muslim lady should not continue with her fastings and prayers, because she is definitely not married to a christian. PERIOD. She has her beliefs and should be allowed to practise them.

Chartey:
But you know your wife was never a Christian? Christianity is not by your name or birth. It's 100% un-Christian to marry a non-Christian, so someone who does that wasn't a Christian from the very beginning.

Idrismusty97: My father is a muslim,my mum a Christian. No one ever bother me for a religion so i choose Christianity. People that are taking religion too seriously are the people destroying our country.Jesus never said he came to bring a religion in the bible.This days we are fighting for our gods instead of our gods to fight for us.

heartmatters: @martronilla, I'm not going to say much but one thing I want people to pray about is not to be misled by the quran or bible or by the words of our preachers, learn to read your holy books on ur own. The bible permits a believer to marry an un believer (1 corinthian 7, 12-14), guess you've not come across that b4 gave your opinion. Okay bye

heartmatters: @martronilla, I'm not going to say much but one thing I want people to pray about is not to be misled by the quran or bible or by the words of our preachers, learn to read your holy books on ur own. The bible permits a believer to marry an un believer (1 corinthian 7, 12-14), guess you've not come across that b4 gave your opinion. Okay bye

Bello ladan: Its unacceptable because d muslms belive in Jesus
(AS ) while d xtians folk dose'nt belive with Muhammed (SAW)

anochuko01:
God bless you! I dnt knw if u're a christain or not but this is the best answer one can possibly give.
As a xtrian, i had a muslim GF bt we separatd because of religion (i gave my life to Christ, and she's also a devoted muslim). Bt i'm now praying 4 her salvatn nt because i want to marry her, BUT FOR HER TO MAKE HEAVEN JUST because I TRULLY LOVE HER. For me, dats the height of LOVE. (and God will surely reveal Himself to her IJN, AMEN)

toaspromo: IT IS UNISLAMIC EVEN THE QURAN STIPULATE THAT MUSLIM SHOULD MARRY MUSLIMA NON MUSLIM SHOULD MARRY NON MUSLIMS ADULTERER SHOULD MARRY ADULTERESS AND SO ON
ANY MUSLIMA WHO MARRIES A NON MUSLIM IS ABSOLUTELY OUT OF ISLAM EVEN IF SHE OBSERVE ISLAMIC CONDUCTS OR PRAY SOLAT SHE MAY NOT BE ACCEPTED BY ALLAH SO IT IS NOT ADVISABLE TO ATTEND THE WEDDING CEREMONY AS A MUSLIM COS ALLAH WOULD HATE THOSE WHO CONTRIBUTED TO D SUCCESS OF SUCH WEDDING
WALLAHU AALAM

tintingz: keep deceiving yourself

soul_glo:

So other Christians that sin were never Christians to begin with