It is conventional wisdom that we’re
our own worst enemies and despite
the cliche, the idea rings true. We
often drive ourselves insane striving
for perfection in our experiences,
relationships and selves, and honestly
it just becomes exhausting. So here Women we’re issuing a
challenge to ourselves -- and other
women -- to stop doing these 23
things. (Of course it’s all easier said
than done, but to employ another
cliche, if at first you don’t succeed, try,
try again.)
1. Apologizing all the time. Research
has shown that women actually do say
“sorry” more often than men. We’re all
for taking responsibility when you
make a mistake -- but constantly
apologizing for having your waiter split
the check or asking a date to hang out
on a different night or telling a friend
about your problems, does more harm
than good. There’s no need to qualify
everything you do. Own your
preferences and decisions.

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2. Saying “yes” to everyone else. Yes, I
will meet you for coffee even though
I’m exhausted and just want to go
home and crawl into bed. Yes, I will edit
your resume even though I’m
swamped with my own work. Yes, I will
go on a double date with you, your
almost-boyfriend and his awful friend
who’s in town. Stop saying “yes” when
you don’t truly mean it. People
actually respect you more when you
set boundaries.
3. Saying “no” to yourself. A lot of
women spend a whole lot of time
deciding what we can’t do or shouldn’t
do or aren’t good enough to do. Don’t
allow your insecurities and anxieties to
make your decisions for you -- you’ll
only end up missing out on worthwhile
experiences. So go talk to that group of
people you think you won’t fit in with,
stay out late against your better
judgment every once in awhile and
treat yourself to that blowout even if
you don’t really need it.

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4. Viewing food as the enemy. Women
often receive the message that our
ultimate worth lies in our looks. Our
hair should be smoothed or perfectly
curled, our makeup on at all times --
but natural-looking -- and our bodies
bangin’ (read: thin). In the quest to
achieve these impossible standards,
it’s easy to see food as something to
contend with rather than to enjoy. Be
cognizant of what you put in your body
-- after all, it’s the only one you have
-- but try to do away with the guilt. Food should not come with
regrets. A lady wrote, “I have
made a lot of mistakes falling in love,
and regretted most of them, but never
the potatoes that went with them.”
5. Body-snarking -- out loud or in your
own head. Stop putting your looks
down, period. Nothing good will ever
come of it, unless you’re working
through body issues with your
therapist.
6. Feeling like an impostor when you
accomplish something professionally.
Women are more likely than men to
feel like “impostors” at work, often
doubting whether we deserve the
successes we achieve. Start taking
your accomplishments at face value.
You got that new job or promotion or
grade or public recognition because
you were worthy of it.

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7. Obsessively untagging every
“unflattering” photo of you that ever
existed online. While it makes sense
that you don’t want that photo of you
blinking showing up all over your
Facebook profile, we probably cause
ourselves more anxiety than
necessary making sure every image
that doesn’t show us in perfect
lighting doing something totally
amazing goes away. It’s not only just
one more way for us to obsess about
our looks -- after all, people will post
what they’ll post and we have little
control -- but online photo albums
have largely replaced physical ones.
You may not want to remember the
unflattering face you made at your
brother’s graduation party now, but
down the line you might want to
conjure the moment.
8. Comparing your real life to someone
else’s virtual one. Spending a ton of
time obsessing over your own online
life can be anxiety-provoking -- but so
can obsessing over other peoples’
virtual personas. Research has shown
that Facebook addiction is correlated
with lower self-esteem
. And who wouldn’t feel bad sitting in
bed on a Monday night scrolling
through your ex’s vacation photo
album or the enthusiastic statuses
your friend in the fashion industry
posted during a celeb-filled party?
Instead of playing a constant game of
comparison, which studies have shown
can actually magnify feelings of
depression, just close your laptop and
enjoy the present. At least it’s real.

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9. Holding on to regrets and guilt.Guilt
and regret are two emotions that
usually serve to torture the person
feeling them. Acknowledge your
regrets and guilts, and then move on
to the best of your ability.
10. Wearing heels every day. Look at
this terrifying infographic and then tell
me why it’s a good idea to force your
poor feet into stilettos on a daily basis.
We love a gorgeous pair of pumps, but
embracing comfort (most of the time)
will not only make your commute a
whole lot more pleasant, but your feet
a whole lot happier for years to come.
Plus, flat shoes can be super stylish.
11. Judging other women’s sex lives. No
woman deserves to be put down for
who she sleeps with, how many people
she sleeps with or how she chooses to
express her sexuality. Next time you’re
about to call another woman a “prude”
or a “slut” just zip your lips. Even Miley
Cyrus and her twerking shouldn’t be
slut-shamed.
12. Judging your own sex life. No one
needs to know your “number.” And
honestly, you probably care a whole
lot more about what the sex you’re
having (or not having) supposedly
says about you than anyone else does.
13. Trying to be “chill.” Maybe you
truly are the “cool girl” who loves
nothing more than kicking back with a
six-pack and a movie. But for those of
us who don’t possess the “chill” gene,
let’s stop trying. Striving to be the
mellow girl at all times keeps us from
expressing our needs, desires and
opinions.

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14. Fearing the label “crazy.” There is
no easier way to discredit a woman’s
opinion or feelings than to accuse her
of being overly emotional. “I don't
think this idea that women are ‘crazy,’
is based in some sort of massive
conspiracy,” wrote author Yashar Ali in
a blog for The Huffington Post in 2011.
“Rather, I believe it's connected to the
slow and steady drumbeat of women
being undermined and dismissed, on a
daily basis.” Being scared of the label
only encourages women to silence
themselves. Plus, everyone has a little
bit of crazy inside of them --
regardless of gender.
15. WebMD-ing everything. Your
glands may have been swollen for a
week but it does not automatically
mean that you have a massive tumor
in your neck. Step away from the
Internet doctor and go see a real one if
you’re truly worried.
16. Worrying that your life doesn’t look
like Pinterest. You are not Martha
Stewart. You will probably never make
that DIY floating bookshelf. And your
Eggocado will never look as delicious
as this one does.
17. Fearing being alone. There are
certain things you have control over --
like trying to go on dates, and actively
meeting new people -- and others
which you simply don’t. Finding a life
partner (or even a temporary one) is
one of those things. You can’t pinpoint
when or where or how you’ll meet
someone to spend your life with, so
stop freaking yourself out over the
idea that you never will. And there are
far worse things than being alone.
“The most profound relationship we'll
ever have is the one with ourselves,”
Shirley MacLaine once said. Preach.

18. Being in relationships for the sake
of having a relationship. If you’re
terrified of being alone, the worst
thing you can do is jump into a
relationship you don’t really want.
Nothing good comes from tying
yourself to a person who isn’t right for
you simply because you feel the need
to couple up. As Nora Ephron wrote
when she launched HuffPost Divorce:
“Marriages come and go, but divorce is
forever.”
19. Not taking advantage of your
vacation days. More Americans than
ever are forgoing their (already
meager) paid vacation days
-- despite the fact that we know that
people who take time off are more
likely to be healthy, happy and
productive workers. We swear, no one
will die if you turn off your cell phone
and head to the mountains for a long
weekend.
20. Holding on to toxic friendships.
Banish any Regina George-like
frenemies from your life ASAP. Life is
too short to waste time with people
who make you feel like crap.
21. Spending time with people out of
obligation. Just because you spent
every waking moment of your
elementary school days with someone
doesn’t mean you have anything in
common with her now. There’s no
need to see every old friend and third
cousin who passes through your city.
Be intentional about who you spend
your time with and allow yourself to
let some relationships fade away
naturally.

22. Being embarrassed about your
interests. “I want to be a f**king
feminist and wear a f**king Peter Pan
collar. So f**king what?,” said Zooey
Deschanel in Glamour magazine’s
February 2013 issue. Take a cue from
the actress and stop caring what you
“should” look like/care about/talk
about. If you love girly things, love
girly things. If you don’t, don’t.
Embrace your lack of knowledge about
music, your hockey obsession and your
weakness for both “Breaking Bad” and
“The Real Housewives of Beverly
Hills.” And if there’s a particular
subject area you don’t know about but
you encounter someone who does?
Take the opportunity to ask questions.
23. Setting deadlines for major life
events. Don’t try to meticulously plan
out when you should find love or have
babies or get that dream job or buy
that amazing brownstone. Enjoy the
uncertainty of life and allow yourself
to be overjoyed when you hit those
milestones or pleasantly surprised
when you realize you want to skip out
on some of them altogether.

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qualified: very good points.
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You can never stop doing all these if it is in your nature to do so.
With a healthy self-esteem, you will not need to be told when to start and stop things.
AVOID DYSFUNCTIONAL AND NEGATIVE PEOPLE. . .and the rest is easy! Period!

Kanwulia: You can never stop doing all these if it is in your nature to do so.
With a healthy self-esteem, you will not need to be told when to start and stop things.
AVOID DYSFUNCTIONAL AND NEGATIVE PEOPLE. . .and the rest is easy! Period!

Opinion cherished..

Nice points...I'm not sure ladies can do all of em..

Elli-dude:
Nice points...I'm not sure ladies can do all of em..

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deols: The list is PA fect.

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